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Boys Should Be Boys

3.89 of 5 stars 3.89  ·  rating details  ·  1,219 ratings  ·  235 reviews
In Boys Should Be Boys, one of our most trusted authorities helps parents restore the delights of boyhood and enable todayOCOs boys to become the mature, confident, and thoughtful men of tomorrow. Boys will always be boys?rambunctious, adventurous, and curious, climbing trees, building forts, playing tackle football, and pushing their growing bodies to the limit as part of ...more
Unknown Binding, 284 pages
Published May 14th 2014 by Not Avail (first published January 1st 2003)
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Brandy
I had high hopes, but it fell short. The things she had to say didn't resonate well with me and I got a very conservative undertone. She was very essentialist, meaning "Boys are essentially X. Mothers are essentially Y. Fathers are essentially Z." After 300 pgs, I had the prototypical image of ONE boy in my head; there wasn't much room for range or individual differences. It's ironic, actually, because I had been searching for books that would lead me a bit into the biological development of boy ...more
Audra
I feel like I have read parenting book after parenting book after parenting book this year, and usually end up 2/3 from the end, slogging away and hating myself, the author, and anyone else who crosses my path. Most of them - the Christian parenting ones included - tend to make me feel woefully inadequate, and introduce a spate of "do this" charges that I must needs implement immediately (!) if I am to have strong, godly, intelligent boys.

Not so here.

For the first time ever, I came out of a pare
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Sam Choi
A great book if you're a reactionary, feebleminded, conservative dolt who hasn't yet heard or intuited that you should be there for your kids, encourage them instead of criticize them, and watch out for issues of violence, porn, or destructive behavior in mass media. Holy crap, why did I think a pop psychology book would have anything interesting to say?!? This book took advantage of my neurosis about raising my son to sell me a bunch of crap about religion, the dangers of pornography, and need ...more
Michael
A good read about raising boys to be men. Yes, for all those negative reviews that stated the book had conservative undertones, I believe Dr. Meeker was obvious about her intentions. She is looking at the "men" in our society and saying that many of the changes made in raising our boys have not been for the better. She advocates a return to a strong family unit with clearly defined rolls where boys are raised to be men unapologetically.
There is very little earth shattering information in this b
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Pj
Conservative and elitist. There are some valid points here but the book is coated in such a condescending tone that it was extremely frustrating to read through. It's delusional in its nostalgia of parenting in the past as if parenting challenges began only in the 21st century. Yes, parents need to spend more time with their children, parents need to model the ideal of what a man should grow up to be, and parents need to spend less time putting their children in front of a TV, iPad, etc. All imp ...more
Renee Reynolds
As seems to be the case these days with the wealth of books, I thought this one would have been better served with a more fitting title, such as "Boys to Men," especially since the book did not outline "seven secrets to raising healthy sons." That nit-picking aside, the book was quite straightforward, easy to read, and extremely helpful about boys, their general disposition, and what they most need to mature into wise and compassionate men. Not surprisingly, their needs are simple, they need les ...more
Elizabeth
This book was quite good and I would like to give it 4.5 stars.

The reason it lost 1 star
There are a few places when I think the Author is a little heavy handed with the perils and dangers facing our sons.
also I think she puts a little too much emphasis on the differences between boys and girls. There are certainly some real and siginficant differences but really I think 90% of this book is good for parents who have daughters too.
And finally this book was very centered on Dads. She has a chapter
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K.
Jan 28, 2012 K. rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Parents, adult mentors of boys
Recommended to K. by: Ryan & Heather Moller
Shelves: parenting
Notes so long because I don’t own the book and want to remember some key points.

Great book from the same author of another important parenting book: “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters.” These are two books worth reading if you parent or plan on parenting (or grandparent, or mentor) children, boys & girls. While many of the things in these books seem like common sense, I realize that in many places this may not be so.

I find the author’s honesty and willingness to call some things by their ri
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Jonathan
A great book for any dad with boys. Everyone should at least read the last chapter, Ten tips for making sure you get it right.

1. Know that you change his world. - Fathers are larger than life to your boys. Parents are the number one influence in a boys life.

2. Raise him from the inside out. - Imagine the man you want him to be (with regards to character) at 25. Then spend your energy teaching him these character traits.

3. Help his masculinity explode. - Teach a boy how to be a leader and a prote
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Amanda
I thought the book had excellent insight into the minds of boys. Having two sons of my own and having grown up between two brothers, I see the action and adventure side as well as the tender loving side of my boys. This book does not try to categorize your boy into a certain pigeonhole of shoot everything you see to be a man, but instead, real stories from acrossed the spectrum to identify with the nature of boys.

The author deals with a perspective that can be respected taking her twenty years
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Chris Munson
As a new father, I'm looking for ways to make sure that my son grows up to be a well-adjusted, confident, charitable and responsible (if he's still living with me when he's in his thirties I will have failed as a parent) man. Dr. Meeker's book "Boys Should Be Boys" is a great overview of how to accomplish just that. Filled with wonderful anecdotes, stories and principles based on her decades-long career as a pediatrician, it provides a great framework for raising boys. Meeker does a great job of ...more
Kelsey
I'm of the overly-generalized opinion that if you want to be a good parent, stop reading parenting books. Generally, I find parenting books to be guilt trips that stress parents out and fill their heads with all sorts of "should-be-doings" that inhibit their natural God-given instincts about their children. I did not feel that way at all about this book. Basically, this book is void of pop psychology and full of common sense that our society has all but pushed out. Although I already knew pretty ...more
Kim
I am buying a copy of this book to keep. It had so many practical things we should be doing with our boys, and specifically what dad's (or another male role model) should be doing to teach boys what being a boy and, eventually, a man, is all about. Things from courage, to standing up for what is right, self-respect, how to treat a girl, to serving others and showing compassion. It helped me as a mom, understand why boys act out certain roles in pretend play and why those roles ARE necessary for ...more
Jeff
I highly recommend this great book. Dr. Meeker's book on daughters is just as compelling.

Here are some take-aways:

"In my experience, every good parent intuitively knows what is good and not good for his sons. The problem is, we ignore our intuitions and jump on the train loaded with mothers and fathers pushing their sons to outshine the others. Get off that train.

Time, attention, affection and approval: they are what every boy needs in abundance from his parents.

Your sons don't need more act
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Leslie
"Being a Mom isn't a competition. It's a state of being." (Or something like that...I listen to it as I run so it is hard to go back and re-read a certain phrase over and over.) I really liked this book. While it is directly geared to raising strong, healthy, happy, meek, great boys, it is also applicable to my daughters as well. I highly recommend it.

Through this book I am learning more about boys and how they work. I don't know, however, if I could be comfortable with allowing boys just to run
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Shauna
This book was very enjoyable. Since I have 3 sons I occasionally like to read books about boys. I can gauge what the experts say against how I am raising my sons. Meg Meeker says there seven keys ro raising great sons. One is encouraging your son without spoiling him, and not being too harsh so you lose communication and destroy his self-esteem. second, is understanding what your son needs and it is not more stuff...its time with their parents. Third, boys need rules. Fourth, virtue is not just ...more
David
This book is a very common-sense approach to raising a boy. Meeker has many excellent insights into the psychology of boys, even though she is a pediatrician and not a psychologist. The book is intended for both mothers and fathers, but the focus is definitely on fathers. The main message is that the best thing one can do for your son is to spend more time with him. Meeker believes that it does not matter very much what you do with him--just spend time so that he sees you, regardless of the acti ...more
Maria
This book is A MUST READ for anyone who is raising boys! I think Dads should read it too!

I got so much out if it that i feel like you need to read the book to really get the important points. But I was reminded that time together is the most important (and to make sure it is happy time), that boys need time to be bored and let their imagination go wild (it reinforced my views on TV and video games and reminded me not to get caught up in comparing with others and not over scheduling), and that a
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Kyle
While I agree with the fundamental principals of the book, the author uses anecdotal evidence of particular situations she has come across to support broad theories on parenting. There are some citations in the book, but very few. Most of the principals the author is promoting (religion as a foundation for morality, spending more time with your children, being an example for your children's behavior) I agree with, but I don't need 300 pages to teach common sense parenting fundamentals.

Given the
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Amberli
loved this book. the author is just good at saying things in a down to earth, realistic way without sounding condescending or guilt tripping the reader. love her old fashion values while being realistic about today's trends, technology, etc. i'll have to reread this book occasionally over the years to keep a better perspective on what my boys need from me. i also recommend her book on motherhood and i'm planning on reading her book about strong fathers, strong daughters.
Christen
It is a conservative book as the negative reviews state, but I can't help but agree with what is being said in this book. Boys (and kids in general) need time with their parents, some sense of spirituality and purpose, and the freedom to have adventures. I agree with this. The author says pop culture and our consumer society are harming our boys and I agree with that, too. Good, practical advice that is probably not popular opinion but there is no doubt that the youth of today is feeling pretty ...more
Kristen
Solid 4.5 book to me. Having only grown up with sisters, I didn't know anything really about boys. Now that I have 2 boys of my own, I thought this was a valuable resource to learn from. Like other reviewers, I wish she had said a little more things moms could do in addition to dads (because let's be honest, my husband won't be reading this book). But I enjoyed her insights and see that I have a lot of things to work on. :)

Loved that she did a whole chapter on why God is important. Really liked
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Laura LeAnn
Along the same lines as Raising Boys (Biddulph), this book offers similar advice about boys playing outside in nature, going camping, learning lessons through play (who is a leader? who is the follower? how to negotiate friendships, etc.), offering your son quality time (not both of you sitting in front of a screen), etc. While many of these things should be common sense, it is difficult to recognize them when you are in the trenches and day-to-day of life. Meeker offers anecdotal evidence from ...more
Teresa
I have Updated my review, "I just had to let out some steam after reading previous reviews--now I can write a decent review :) "
Meg Meeker, a 30 year veteran in Pediatric medicine, combines her unique experiences as a doctor with those of being a mother to her own 3 boys and 1 daughter, and creates inspiring and uplifting dialog in raising a boy to be a man. I was instantly drawn in and captivated by her language and passion for the masculine nature of our boys. She is a champion in our society
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Megan
This is a must read if you have boys! But caution, it may make you want to throw away your tv and go outside to play. Would make a great Father's Day gift.

PS- She has an equally wonderful book for girls, "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters."
Heidi
Contrary to the title, I don't know what the 7 secrets are after finishing the book, but it was good nonetheless and I came away from it appreciating my son even more.

It got a little tedious in the middle of the book. I took some longer breaks from reading just because I felt that in some places she repeated herself. But she affirmed what I already feel as a parent, that our sons need less screen/media time and more time being active, exploring, and building strong relationships with parents/fam
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Maria
My sister in law (mother of 4 boys too) handed me this book and told me I need to read it. I am so completely GLAD I did - she was right. It is not a light ... skim the surface and kind of help us raise our sons. It has great depth, not afraid to tackle daunting subjects, well thought out and written. I didn't always agree with everything Meeker said, but I say like most parenting books - I like to take away what will help me and my family and I feel like I almost feel like I could read it again ...more
Janene
Some very helpful and hopeful stuff here! When I read it again, and I WILL read it again, I will skim over the doomy gloomy media and pornography warnings. I get it, I fear it, it may be the most alarming and dangerous plague of our day. Maybe I will read that again as a reminder of how there is no such thing as being overly vigilent in that department.

It feels like the book didn't go through an edit. There were that many grammatical errors, which became a bit annoying. Sometimes two or three t
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Angie
I really loved Meg Meeker's "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters". Since I also have two sons, I was happy to read her new book "Boys Should Be Boys". Note that her first book had 10 secrets every father should know. This book has 7 secrets to raising healthy sons. I guess boys are simpler creatures! Meeker's book is a call to fight the good fight, to continually recommit to saving our boys from a culture that would corrupt or nullify them and sweep them away. In the process, we cannot help but cha ...more
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