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Boys Should Be Boys

3.84 of 5 stars 3.84  ·  rating details  ·  889 ratings  ·  207 reviews
Dr. Meg Meeker has composed the perfect companion to her Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. Boys Should Be Boys delivers the message delivered so directly by its title. Meeker urges parents and teachers to recognize that boys don't share all the priorities and propensities of girls and should be treated accordingly. A solid primer for conservative parents.
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Published May 20th 2008 by Regnery Press (first published January 1st 2003)
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I had high hopes, but it fell short. The things she had to say didn't resonate well with me and I got a very conservative undertone. She was very essentialist, meaning "Boys are essentially X. Mothers are essentially Y. Fathers are essentially Z." After 300 pgs, I had the prototypical image of ONE boy in my head; there wasn't much room for range or individual differences. It's ironic, actually, because I had been searching for books that would lead me a bit into the biological development of boy...more
I feel like I have read parenting book after parenting book after parenting book this year, and usually end up 2/3 from the end, slogging away and hating myself, the author, and anyone else who crosses my path. Most of them - the Christian parenting ones included - tend to make me feel woefully inadequate, and introduce a spate of "do this" charges that I must needs implement immediately (!) if I am to have strong, godly, intelligent boys.

Not so here.

For the first time ever, I came out of a pare...more
Sam Choi
A great book if you're a reactionary, feebleminded, conservative dolt who hasn't yet heard or intuited that you should be there for your kids, encourage them instead of criticize them, and watch out for issues of violence, porn, or destructive behavior in mass media. Holy crap, why did I think a pop psychology book would have anything interesting to say?!? This book took advantage of my neurosis about raising my son to sell me a bunch of crap about religion, the dangers of pornography, and need...more
Renee Reynolds
As seems to be the case these days with the wealth of books, I thought this one would have been better served with a more fitting title, such as "Boys to Men," especially since the book did not outline "seven secrets to raising healthy sons." That nit-picking aside, the book was quite straightforward, easy to read, and extremely helpful about boys, their general disposition, and what they most need to mature into wise and compassionate men. Not surprisingly, their needs are simple, they need les...more
A good read about raising boys to be men. Yes, for all those negative reviews that stated the book had conservative undertones, I believe Dr. Meeker was obvious about her intentions. She is looking at the "men" in our society and saying that many of the changes made in raising our boys have not been for the better. She advocates a return to a strong family unit with clearly defined rolls where boys are raised to be men unapologetically.
There is very little earth shattering information in this b...more
This book was quite good and I would like to give it 4.5 stars.

The reason it lost 1 star
There are a few places when I think the Author is a little heavy handed with the perils and dangers facing our sons.
also I think she puts a little too much emphasis on the differences between boys and girls. There are certainly some real and siginficant differences but really I think 90% of this book is good for parents who have daughters too.
And finally this book was very centered on Dads. She has a chapter...more
Jan 28, 2012 K. rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Parents, adult mentors of boys
Recommended to K. by: Ryan & Heather Moller
Shelves: parenting
Notes so long because I don’t own the book and want to remember some key points.

Great book from the same author of another important parenting book: “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters.” These are two books worth reading if you parent or plan on parenting (or grandparent, or mentor) children, boys & girls. While many of the things in these books seem like common sense, I realize that in many places this may not be so.

I find the author’s honesty and willingness to call some things by their ri...more
A great book for any dad with boys. Everyone should at least read the last chapter, Ten tips for making sure you get it right.

1. Know that you change his world. - Fathers are larger than life to your boys. Parents are the number one influence in a boys life.

2. Raise him from the inside out. - Imagine the man you want him to be (with regards to character) at 25. Then spend your energy teaching him these character traits.

3. Help his masculinity explode. - Teach a boy how to be a leader and a prote...more
I thought the book had excellent insight into the minds of boys. Having two sons of my own and having grown up between two brothers, I see the action and adventure side as well as the tender loving side of my boys. This book does not try to categorize your boy into a certain pigeonhole of shoot everything you see to be a man, but instead, real stories from acrossed the spectrum to identify with the nature of boys.

The author deals with a perspective that can be respected taking her twenty years...more
Chris Munson
As a new father, I'm looking for ways to make sure that my son grows up to be a well-adjusted, confident, charitable and responsible (if he's still living with me when he's in his thirties I will have failed as a parent) man. Dr. Meeker's book "Boys Should Be Boys" is a great overview of how to accomplish just that. Filled with wonderful anecdotes, stories and principles based on her decades-long career as a pediatrician, it provides a great framework for raising boys. Meeker does a great job of...more
I'm of the overly-generalized opinion that if you want to be a good parent, stop reading parenting books. Generally, I find parenting books to be guilt trips that stress parents out and fill their heads with all sorts of "should-be-doings" that inhibit their natural God-given instincts about their children. I did not feel that way at all about this book. Basically, this book is void of pop psychology and full of common sense that our society has all but pushed out. Although I already knew pretty...more
I am buying a copy of this book to keep. It had so many practical things we should be doing with our boys, and specifically what dad's (or another male role model) should be doing to teach boys what being a boy and, eventually, a man, is all about. Things from courage, to standing up for what is right, self-respect, how to treat a girl, to serving others and showing compassion. It helped me as a mom, understand why boys act out certain roles in pretend play and why those roles ARE necessary for...more
"Being a Mom isn't a competition. It's a state of being." (Or something like that...I listen to it as I run so it is hard to go back and re-read a certain phrase over and over.) I really liked this book. While it is directly geared to raising strong, healthy, happy, meek, great boys, it is also applicable to my daughters as well. I highly recommend it.

Through this book I am learning more about boys and how they work. I don't know, however, if I could be comfortable with allowing boys just to run...more
This book was very enjoyable. Since I have 3 sons I occasionally like to read books about boys. I can gauge what the experts say against how I am raising my sons. Meg Meeker says there seven keys ro raising great sons. One is encouraging your son without spoiling him, and not being too harsh so you lose communication and destroy his self-esteem. second, is understanding what your son needs and it is not more stuff...its time with their parents. Third, boys need rules. Fourth, virtue is not just...more
This book is a very common-sense approach to raising a boy. Meeker has many excellent insights into the psychology of boys, even though she is a pediatrician and not a psychologist. The book is intended for both mothers and fathers, but the focus is definitely on fathers. The main message is that the best thing one can do for your son is to spend more time with him. Meeker believes that it does not matter very much what you do with him--just spend time so that he sees you, regardless of the acti...more
This book is A MUST READ for anyone who is raising boys! I think Dads should read it too!

I got so much out if it that i feel like you need to read the book to really get the important points. But I was reminded that time together is the most important (and to make sure it is happy time), that boys need time to be bored and let their imagination go wild (it reinforced my views on TV and video games and reminded me not to get caught up in comparing with others and not over scheduling), and that a...more
While I agree with the fundamental principals of the book, the author uses anecdotal evidence of particular situations she has come across to support broad theories on parenting. There are some citations in the book, but very few. Most of the principals the author is promoting (religion as a foundation for morality, spending more time with your children, being an example for your children's behavior) I agree with, but I don't need 300 pages to teach common sense parenting fundamentals.

Given the...more
loved this book. the author is just good at saying things in a down to earth, realistic way without sounding condescending or guilt tripping the reader. love her old fashion values while being realistic about today's trends, technology, etc. i'll have to reread this book occasionally over the years to keep a better perspective on what my boys need from me. i also recommend her book on motherhood and i'm planning on reading her book about strong fathers, strong daughters.
Conservative and elitist. There are some valid points here but the book is coated in such a condescending tone that it was extremely frustrating to read through. It's delusional in its nostalgia of parenting in the past as if parenting challenges began only in the 21st century. Yes, parents need to spend more time with their children, parents need to model the ideal of what a man should grow up to be, and parents need to spend less time putting their children in front of a TV, iPad, etc. All imp...more
Solid 4.5 book to me. Having only grown up with sisters, I didn't know anything really about boys. Now that I have 2 boys of my own, I thought this was a valuable resource to learn from. Like other reviewers, I wish she had said a little more things moms could do in addition to dads (because let's be honest, my husband won't be reading this book). But I enjoyed her insights and see that I have a lot of things to work on. :)

Loved that she did a whole chapter on why God is important. Really liked...more
I have Updated my review, "I just had to let out some steam after reading previous reviews--now I can write a decent review :) "
Meg Meeker, a 30 year veteran in Pediatric medicine, combines her unique experiences as a doctor with those of being a mother to her own 3 boys and 1 daughter, and creates inspiring and uplifting dialog in raising a boy to be a man. I was instantly drawn in and captivated by her language and passion for the masculine nature of our boys. She is a champion in our society...more
This is a must read if you have boys! But caution, it may make you want to throw away your tv and go outside to play. Would make a great Father's Day gift.

PS- She has an equally wonderful book for girls, "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters."
My sister in law (mother of 4 boys too) handed me this book and told me I need to read it. I am so completely GLAD I did - she was right. It is not a light ... skim the surface and kind of help us raise our sons. It has great depth, not afraid to tackle daunting subjects, well thought out and written. I didn't always agree with everything Meeker said, but I say like most parenting books - I like to take away what will help me and my family and I feel like I almost feel like I could read it again...more
Some very helpful and hopeful stuff here! When I read it again, and I WILL read it again, I will skim over the doomy gloomy media and pornography warnings. I get it, I fear it, it may be the most alarming and dangerous plague of our day. Maybe I will read that again as a reminder of how there is no such thing as being overly vigilent in that department.

It feels like the book didn't go through an edit. There were that many grammatical errors, which became a bit annoying. Sometimes two or three t...more
I really loved Meg Meeker's "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters". Since I also have two sons, I was happy to read her new book "Boys Should Be Boys". Note that her first book had 10 secrets every father should know. This book has 7 secrets to raising healthy sons. I guess boys are simpler creatures! Meeker's book is a call to fight the good fight, to continually recommit to saving our boys from a culture that would corrupt or nullify them and sweep them away. In the process, we cannot help but cha...more
I liked the author's heavy emphasis on teaching our boys to be virtuous men. I feel like in this day in age, its not really viewed as the "norm" and she boldly states that teens that are drinking, having premarital sex, etc that this is not normal teenage behavior. Although I feel like these are things that I already knew, I liked having the reminder that boys need more of us (their parents) and less things or activities. They need a relationship with God, they need rules and they need outdoor a...more
Jun 17, 2011 Carolyn rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Carolyn by: Christina
Shelves: parenting
I started this book skeptical of Meeker's right to give me advice. How does being a pediatrician make her an expert on raising boys? Was she just going to tell me how to raise an "old-fashioned" boy (ala John Rosemand)? The early apocolyptic language about "Boyhood Under Siege" and a chapter on the importance of outdoor play didn't help. BUT, by the end, she had won me over. Here's why:
1. She does cite lots of research and surveys, using facts, stats and stories to support most of her claims.
Very good book with some great insights and advice but the author repeated herself a lot. And I never did find out what the 7 secrets were? I did find some helpful info though. For example:

"The foundation of any boy's life is built on three things: his relationships with his parents, his relationship with God, and his relationship with his siblings and close friends. If these three are strong, any boy can thrive in the midst of academic and athletic challenges, a toxic culture, and harmful peer...more
I really enjoyed this book. All of her advice was common, practical, good sense, but it was so helpful to understand how boys click. Two things I took away from this reading. 1) It was consoling to read in print the fact that we should give as much affection to our young boys (and to the older of course, but it's different) and not to hold back. But in giving all this love, the mother especially knows she has to prepare for that point when he will sever those apron strings. He NEEDS to be a man....more
Skylar Burris
Much of this book involved stating the obvious, and her heavily anecdotal style, which involves introducing every point with a long story about a particular child who may or may not have anything in common with my child, grew tedious. However, the advice seemed fairly solid. I think it would have been helpful to have more specific and detailed advice on raising boys and interesting to have more evidence along the lines of research and statistics (rather than primarily anecdotes).

Her advice seem...more
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Full name: Margaret J. Meeker.
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