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It's Not You, It's Biology.: The Science of Love, Sex, and Relationships

really liked it 4.0  ·  Rating Details ·  202 Ratings  ·  27 Reviews
At last, here's what you should've learned in high school biology! This paperback edition is an Everyman's humorous look at the real differences--biological, historical, psychological--between men and women...with fun and provocative insight into what "really" drives behavior and interactions between men and women. Men talk about women to men. Women talk about men to women ...more
ebook, 272 pages
Published May 14th 2014 by Running Press Book Publishers (first published May 19th 2008)
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Romann Weber
There is some interesting information in here for those otherwise unexposed to evolutionary psychology ... or, for that matter, stray issues of Scientific American or even Psychology Today. To his credit, Quirk has produced a quickly readable and occasionally amusing book here, but I am not sure that anything really sticks in the memory in terms of cogent support of the title's pithy thesis.

In essence, this is a dilettante's paean to science, which in itself is admirable. However, Mr. Quirk occa
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Alexander Wj
What a terrible book. As he says, he's a fiction writer exploring biology without credentials. Some parts are good but just as you're beginning to see where he's coming from, he throws in his own wild ideas. If this is intended to be humorous, bravo. Otherwise, avoid.
Yeshwanthi Ramkumar
Feb 07, 2016 Yeshwanthi Ramkumar rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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It's the best Science book I've read so far!
Yes, I call it 'Science'. The author's claims seem absolutely legitimate in spite of his hilarious script.
I think I now understand Evolution better than ever.

I could give the author 6/5 for his brilliant sense of humour.
I found myself laughing out loud multiple times while reading the book. (Mind you, I listen to George Carlin without much of a snigger. So this is huge.)

True to the Author's surname, it's a quirky book. I highly recommend it.
Elf
Oct 29, 2016 Elf rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Absolute bulls-it this book is. First of all, calling this "The SCIENCE of Love, Sex, and Relationships" is an utter disrespect to science and actual scientists. The pseudo "science" in this book is nothing but what the writer believes, bunch of flawed theories he came up with. Some of which is "supported" by some unreliable studies, as long as it fits into what the writer wants to believe. This is what the writer tells about himself in the book:

"I studied literature and minored in Development o
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Nicole
Sep 11, 2012 Nicole rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The first nonfiction book and the list and was recommended by two of my best friends (who are also sex addicts and took biology). It’s a very quick and easy read, partly because it’s written more in a novel format so that almost anyone could pick it up and understand it (also it has very short chapters), but also partly because it’s just such a fun and interesting book answering questions you’d never really ask or even Google (unless you were really curious and bored) but always wanted to know. ...more
Jenee
Jan 09, 2011 Jenee rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was given to me as a gift by my friend, Eric, whom I had once told that 'Men and women just operate differently.' I was excited to read it and once I got into it I found it just to be a tad more science-based than humor-based and not exactly aligned with my view on love, sex, and relationships. Quirk takes the stance that men are made to spread the seed to as many as possible and women are made to protect the womb from all but a select few. I found the facts about the sexual activity a ...more
Stephanie
Sticking with this book from beginning to end took some effort. Quirk comes off as an arrogant, biased and amateur (evolutionary biologist.) His humor took awhile for me to "get" because the writing seemed like an even mix of using anthropological and scientific words (to sound smart) and off-the-wall humor. I'm not sure if he eased up, or I got used to it.

As far as content, he repeats himself a lot to drive home points he's trying to make. He also goes on tangents and makes wild jumps from one
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Anita Dobs
Feb 21, 2013 Anita Dobs rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Love this book so much! I have no idea why people in general think that just because someone isn't a 'scientist' that they do not have the basic ability to research and compile scientific information and present it in an entertaining manner (as he has.) I mean, it's not like the author is making the stuff up. As usual, what certain demographics in the population 'want' to believe, is different to what is 'actually' the case.

Ah well, as they say, 'people prefer a lie they like, to the truth they
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Adrienne
I had a hard time finishing this book because the author's style was really off-putting to me. Altogether it was some questionably presented interpretations of data mixed with Quirk's bawdy, wannabe stand-up routines. Some of the information was solid and a lot of it was interesting, but a lot of it was also not very well-explained. It might have been all worth it for the last chapter, though, where a lot of the poignancy of the data was presented. I wish I could have shaken the feeling that I w ...more
hissi
May 13, 2012 hissi rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
i found this book humorous, "science-less" and a tad gross ( all this talk about sperms kinda puts you off, repelling indeed)
im not sure i would want to read a "scientific" subject that hasn't been written by a scientist. it doesn't make sense to do so anyway. i know biology is for everyone, but it doesn't mean that everyone should write about it.
some parts of this book do make sense. but between all the sarcasm and not-so-witty remarks you get impatient trying to get to the point that just wont
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sabrina
Not a waste of my time! Not usually a style/genre of book I read, but he managed to talk science and have it feel laidback and make sense and make you feel smart. I enjoyed the tangent on the Aquatic Ape.
Karol Rychwalski
May 23, 2015 Karol Rychwalski rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A really interesting book and it's definitely worth your time. If you haven't read it yet - do it. So why 4 stars, not 5, you ask? I found passages of the book too repetitive. After reading for the n-th time same thing I really felt tired.
Alex
Feb 13, 2011 Alex rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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An interesting glance into what makes up behave like we do in our love/sex/relationships. The narrative was really entertaining, quite funny at times. It's not a dead-serious scientific book, but it teaches you quite a lot of interesting stuff.
Masih
May 12, 2013 Masih rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a good beginner book for the field of evolutionary psychology. It is catchy and it explains a lot about ourselves. It explores many topics and it is not a hard scientific book. I can not say that all it says is scientific but I think this book gives you valuable biological perspectives.
Kristen
Aug 12, 2012 Kristen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An easy read with a nice spoken tone. The humor of the author shines through. Although not a scientist himself, Quirk does a good job of aggregating studies and his own observations and opinions to give you some great food for thought as well as insight.
Ram Teja
Dec 22, 2015 Ram Teja rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It is one of the best books of it's kind that explained some of the great evolutionary gender misunderstandings and mysteries for me.
Humorous, Informative, Helpful, ...AWESOME.
Thank yo Joe quirk.
Alicia  Gordon
3.5 stars. It would maybe have been a four if I'd not been forced to read this for my Anthro class. I did learn some and laughed quite often.
Jason Koppe
Corny and sometimes lame approach from Quirk attempting to explain sex from an evolutionary biologists pedestal.
Janice
Oct 13, 2012 Janice rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
HILARIOUS view on dating, love and sex.
Nizar Nashed
May 04, 2013 Nizar Nashed rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of the funniest, laugh out loud books i have ever read. The book covered everything under the sun and did so in an extremely funny way. Definitely a recommend read.
Paul Wadehra
Dec 15, 2011 Paul Wadehra rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Liked it a lot. Both funny and interesting.
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Henrik Jacobsen
Dec 22, 2013 Henrik Jacobsen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Simply the best explanatory and funny biology book ever read!
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