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As Silver Refined: Answers to Life's Disappointments

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What Can You Do When Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Planned?

How do you respond when your husband or wife tramples your emotions? When your boss fires you unexpectedly? When you lose your life’s savings? When the child you’ve loved and prayed for turns his back on you and your values?

When disappointments like these smash their way into your life, you may want to scream, “H
Paperback, 368 pages
Published July 19th 2011 by WaterBrook (first published 1998)
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Mar 20, 2008 Steve rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone hurting
Read this during my divorce and it changed my life.

My divorce hit me pretty hard, to say the least. It was completely unexpected and wiped my emotional legs out from under me. Naturally, I questioned why God would allow this to happen and then even bigger question of, "What now?"

This book (along with the Bible, of course) had the answers I needed to hear. The book takes you to the Bible to show you God's love for you when you feel so hurt and helpless. Instead of downing in despair, search and p
May 28, 2012 Tina rated it liked it
Shelves: christian, nonfiction
Life doesn’t always go as planned and as Kay Arthur acknowledges in “As Silver Refined”, we will face disappointments along the way. As Christians, we are tested throughout our lives and often do not know why. It could be to show how far we’ve come in our Christian faith and our walk with God. It could be for reasons we simply won’t know in this life.

The most important part of these trials is how we respond to them. Reacting in a godly fashion to trials can be a ministry to others. Throughout t
Michael Boling
Feb 27, 2013 Michael Boling rated it really liked it
Kay Arthur, author and co-CEO of Precept Ministries International provides the reader with a rather interesting twist on the idea of dealing with the disappointments and struggles we all face on a daily basis. While some more self-help oriented authors spend page after page in their book teaching the reader ways to think positively in order to get through trouble, Kay Arthur reminds us the Bible teaches us we will have troubles in this life. Some may think such an idea to be a "downer." Why woul ...more
Kristen Stieffel
This is one of those books I filled with Post-It notes and highlight marks. I filled a legal pad with notes. The insightful wisdom in this book helped me through a difficult time by getting my eyes off of me and my petty problems and onto God. Kay Arthur's teaching is firmly based in scripture and has been a major contributor to my maturity as a Christian.
Nina Olivos
Jul 02, 2014 Nina Olivos rated it it was amazing
Shelves: need-to-finish
When I first received this book, I picked it up and began to read, but I lost interest quickly because during that time I was not experiencing any particular disappointment in my life and had some trouble relating to the content, but I plowed through and am glad I did.

To my surprise, I have actually found myself reading and re-reading chapters and gleaning so much from Kay Arthur's wise interpretations of the scriptures, as the wisdom she imparts throughout this book covers a multitude of situat
Lori L (She Treads Softly)
Jul 12, 2011 Lori L (She Treads Softly) rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
In As Silver Refined: Learning to Embrace Life's Disappointments, Kay Arthur is instructional, compassionate, and encouraging to those who are going through some kind of crushing disappointment. The book includes the text, to page 286, and then a study guide with thirteen lessons that correspond to the text.

As you read Kay Arthur's books you can really feel that she has a heart for God and for teaching others the truths she has found in the Word of God. Her faith is uplifting and offers some rea
Sep 15, 2011 Kristi rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
This book came to me as a gift during a particular poignant time in my life. I needed God to teach me about how to deal with disappointment in my life. It is all right there in the Word. Arthur takes the reader on a wonderful, healing journey through the Word and helps us to understand the purpose for disappointment in our lives and how to deal with it in a Godly way. God loves us so much and He never leaves us. His promises are so beautiful and all we have to do is reach out and claim them for ...more
Dec 02, 2011 Melissa marked it as abandoned
****Please note, I received this book as a free Goodreads Giveaway****

Anyone who is religious SHOULD NOT read this review lest they be offended by it in some way.

I feel bad, but I only made it through about 14 pages of this book before I put it down. It's my fault for not paying closer attention when reading the blurb for the book. I thought that this was more along the lines of a self help book when I first read the blurb to enter the giveaway.

Then when I actually received the book, I read fur
Alexis Neal
Aug 02, 2012 Alexis Neal rated it liked it
Well known author and speaker Kay Arthur addresses the role of hardship, suffering, and disappointment in the life of the Christian. The book is centered around what Arthur calls the "Deadly D's": distraction, deception, disappointment, discouragement, dejection, despair, and demoralization. These Deadly D's are used by the enemy and experienced by Christians on a daily basis. Arthur encourages her readers to engage the enemy in the battleground of the mind, taking every thought captive and usin ...more
Sep 20, 2013 Karen rated it did not like it
Shelves: spirit
"Are you disappointed life hasn't turned out as you planned?" Kay asks. I'm disappointed life hasn't turned out as God planned, Kay. And I couldn't read much more w/o getting a stronger anti-depressant.
Author referred to reader as "Beloved." Should've stopped reading right there. Came across wrong to me in other ways--like when she was being painfully honest about her sinful shortcomings--pouted at her husband once for not noticing she'd hung pictures in his study. Really?!! Please, get real...
Feb 28, 2013 Mary-ann rated it really liked it
What Can You Do When Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Planned?

How do you respond when your husband or wife tramples your emotions? When your boss fires you unexpectedly? When you lose your life’s savings? When the child you’ve loved and prayed for turns his back on you and your values?

When disappointments like these smash their way into your life, you may want to scream, “How could God let this happen?”

But what if God didn’t just “let it happen”? What if the things you call disappointments are re
Stephanie Wright
Apr 20, 2012 Stephanie Wright rated it it was amazing
Life. That one word brings everything from smiles and sighs to raging tirades. Life has both excitement and disappointments. Ephesians 5:20 says, "And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ." It does not say give thanks for the good only - for the great house, perfect job, and amazing spouse. It says to give thanks for EVERYTHING - the good, the bad, and even the ugly. That can be difficult. Kay Arthur talks about how to turn your disappointments in lif ...more
Nov 29, 2011 Wanda rated it it was amazing
It is so very easy at times to struggle in our faith and wonder why it seems so hard to trust God when things don’t go as we planned. In her new book, Kay discusses the five Deadly D’s: disappointment, discouragement, dejection, despair, and demoralization. Reading her descriptions of those feelings really hit home with me as I have expressed those exact feelings to God in my prayers in times past.

One of the things I found to be most interesting about this study book was Kay’s detailed discussi
Jul 08, 2012 Melissa rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Anyone struggling with life
I have to admit that As Silver Refined by Kay Arthur was a slow read for me. While I love to read all book genres, I am partial to the fast pace of mysteries and thrillers. This one took me a couple of weeks which gave me the benefit of really getting involved in her fantastic book. Arthur tells us that God puts us under fire by giving us life's trials and tribulations in order to refine us as is done with silver. He refines us to be more pure and beautiful in our commitment to Christ. Life is h ...more
Nov 20, 2011 Renee rated it it was amazing
Shelves: study
Kay Arthur’s latest book introduced me to some amazing heroes of the faith: A missionary who was captured and tortured by the people he wished to win to Christ. A man who never lost his hope while suffering through the bodily deterioration of ALS. A woman who was able to praise God in spite of a son who took his own life. A political prisoner who gave up his blanket, his only source of warmth, to the other man in his cell and won that man to Christ with his dying words . . . I read their stori ...more
This book was in-depth in scripture, I find Kay Arthur digs into the Word and this book really made me think about all the things in life we go through and how God is working the good in us through it all. Sometimes it can seem like your world is coming to an end but it's not, the struggles we go through God is more than able to bring good from them, and in so doing we are growing in character, we become more like Him!
Mar 29, 2012 Carmen rated it liked it
I usually like Kay Arthur, but to read this book took a lot of will power. I started reading it right after my husband died and I was run over by a truck. I could no longer use exercise as a way to deal with stress and cooking was out of the question, since I could hardly stand up for five minutes. It was annoying at times... Not all the trials in life are because you are being disobedient to God. Sometimes God uses trials to pull you closer and teach you something about His amazing love that yo ...more
May 22, 2014 Heather rated it it was ok
I tried to read this book several times before I ultimately gave up on reading it. Not only did it not resonate with me, but at times, it also grated on me which surprised me as I've enjoyed other studies with Kay Arthur. I know many people enjoyed this book, but it just wasn't for me.
DeeAnn Smith
May 26, 2012 DeeAnn Smith rated it it was amazing
This is an excellent book on dealing with life's disappointments by realizing they are His appointments.

"Every disappointment- even if it's tragic and evil- is His appointment. I may not like His appointment or agree with it, but God is in charge. Nothing happens apart from His permission. He is the ultimate authority, the ultimate cause, and He has the ultimate responsibility for all that goes on..... If God is not sovereign, we're in trouble. We'd better panic, because Satan, the prince of th
Jul 26, 2012 Debbie rated it really liked it
"As Silver Refined" is a Christian Living book about how God uses even the bad things in your life to further His purpose of making you more like Christ (if you'll let Him). I've read several books on this subject, like "Hearing Jesus Speak into Your Sorrow" by Nancy Guthrie, which I felt explained many of the same truths in fewer, more powerful words. However, different writing styles can sometimes speak to different people, so I'm always happy to see a book that points people to the Scriptures ...more
Nov 29, 2011 Chad rated it it was ok
Won this through the Goodreads First reads giveaway program. What a great program to get books into the hands of readers. Thank you for the interesting book.

I normally really enjoy this type of book, but I had a tough time with this particular book and feel that it was just an OK read. It probably is much better if used in an adult Sunday School class or in a church small group reading club. The study guide in the end would support either. Reading it before bed I felt that I was pushing through
Amie Billington johnson
I would give it two and a half if I could. Good stuff, but a little repetitive.
Dianne Bee
Have read this book 2 or 3 times and often come back to it. Inspiring and encouraging.
Sep 14, 2011 Connie rated it it was ok
This just wasn't a book for me. I am not a fan of "sunday school" writing. With that said, it does contain good lessons and the author has a friendly, inviting voice that sounds like the author is speaking directly to you as someone dear to her. This is a good book for anyone seeking lessons from the bible about how to handle life's disappointments. Be prepared for a sermon-like approach.
Feb 08, 2010 Anna rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: religion
I'll give a little warning with this book - there's a hint of "read the Bible enough and you won't be depressed." What a bunch of manure! No one would ever say that about diabetes or cancer. And I don't see any impressive credentials behind Mrs. Arthur's name to make her an expert in medical matters. So other than that chapter, great book.
J. Ewbank
Aug 12, 2011 J. Ewbank rated it liked it
Shelves: a-good-read, religion
This book by Kay Arthur takes as its theme the refining of silver and relates that refining to the refining that God does in and through us when we have trials, tribulations, and troubles. It is well done with a wealth of stories to back up her theme. Enjoyed it.

J. Robert Ewbank author "John Wesley, Natural Man, and the 'Isms'"
Sher❤ The Fabulous BookLover
If you're going through disappointment this is the book you need. I don't understand the bad reviews. She keeps it real and it's not easy to go through this book. It really shines light on how deep you're relationship is with God. I advise that this book only be read when the person is ready.
Ngozi Egbigwe
Oct 14, 2012 Ngozi Egbigwe rated it it was amazing
This book formed me at age 16 when i faced my first-ever heart-rending disappointment. i learnt that disappointments are His appointments. looking back i realize i didnt understand the full import of that statement.
Kathy Zimmerman
Sep 07, 2011 Kathy Zimmerman rated it really liked it
Great book! Kay Arthur does not disappoint. This book has an easy to read style and delivers the message clearly. As Silver Refined is designed as a bible study guide and would be great for that purpose.
Kristina Franken
Sep 05, 2012 Kristina Franken rated it it was amazing
I highly recommend this book for anyone

FTC: I received a free copy of this book and was not reimbursed in any other way.
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Kay Arthur (born November 11, 1933 in Jackson, Michigan) is an international Bible teacher, four-time ECPA Christian Book Award winning author, and co-CEO of Precept Ministries International. Kay has systematized studying the Bible, developing a set of steps to follow so as to "mine" the details of the given book under study. Being systematized, it is accessible to lay persons, rather than scholar ...more
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