Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches
I didn't write this book because mothering little ones is easy for me. I wrote it because it isn't. I know that this is a hard job, because I am right here in the middle of it. I know you need encouragement because I do too. This is not a tender reminiscence from someone who had children so long ago that she only remembers the sweet parts. At the time of writing this, I ha...more
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-Good suggestion to set behaviors into stories. For example, if a boy is hitting a sister, “tell him about a brave knight who went out to fight the dragon but started hitting the princess instead.”
-Comparing our emotions to horses¸ “The horses are not the problem. There is nothing wrong with the emotions . . . The goal is not to cripple the horse, but equip the rider. A well-controlled personality is a powerful thing. That is what dangerous women are made of.”
The Big Con (no double mea...more
Lots of sweet nuggets and gentle calls to intentional parenting throughout, which I greatly appreciated. And as we've just seemed to slam up against the terrible twos in my house, plenty of things I need to remember going forward.
The closing p...more
It is not a heavy doctrine book or “parenting manual,” but is simply thoug...more
“Sometimes parents can discipline behaviors over and over and over like we are playing whack-a-mole. There is a sin! Get it! This can get very frustrating when it doesn’t seem to be helping anything. We think we are being so diligent! But the real problem is that the child doesn’t know what to do with it.
…Little girls need help sorting out their emotions–not so they can wallow in them,...more
The encouragement is to take heart that your labor is not in vain. Rejoicing in the task before you is possible! You can be in the trenches (and the author knows them in depth), and not be overwhelmingly frazzled and frustrated.
There were a lot of very practical points in the book. Some of the images and statements have really stuck with me. I like the concept of not being a "picky chicken" and tearing our family members down. This is a great principal for marriage too.
My two favorite points where th...more
There were parts of this book that I loved! I thought she had some great advice, and there were definitely several points that I really needed to hear. I would like to re-read this book just to help me remember those points. She had some great thoughts: about having a joyful attitude and refusing to use the word overwhelmed, about disciplining with purpose to build kids up rather than tear them down, and about how we get frustrated with our kids' misbehaviors when we ourselves are misbe...more
It was interesting to read this soon after The Happiness Project (THP) and in a weird way I found connections between the two. One of the principles from THP that I found in this book is that to be happy, you must make those around you happy and when those around you are happ...more
A certain sort of parent will not enjoy this book at all. Parents who view authority as a control mechanism rather than a means to fellowship, who prefer dispensing law rather than following it, and who expect change in their...more
The author, Rachel Jankovic, does go on about how hard it is to be a mother of five young children but doesn't give advice on how to cope in every chapter. She does give some advice, and I will highlight the chapter...more
Some great ideas and encouragement for moms. I love her candidness and cheerfulness and her ability to be really creative in parenting.
Disagreed with some of the things she said, particularly in the second half of chapter 12 about a mom's identity.
Editor could have done a better job of revising the book. Some of the ideas and sentences are hard to understand because she us...more
I didn't really understand the book until about 35 pages in, but once I realized that it's just one woman's experience and how she thought about it, then I I started to enjoy it. This is a handy book for moms to really just think practically and Biblically about raising young children. Lighthearted, joyful, and generally just a very encouraging book for moms who might be tempted to to complain about...more
A short and quick read, this book is divided into short 2-3 page chapters that are each relatively self contained. It is geared toward Christians, a...more
Author Rachel Jankovic nails it on both tone & content. Her voice is sweet and transparent, but the thoughts she shares are saturated with an uncanny wisdom that seems beyond her years.
While only a slender 100 pages, Loving the Little Years has helped shape my parenting worldview:
* Having more kids is no excuse to give p...more
Things I liked:
1. Idea of how to help little girls (although I would add ANY child) to manage their emotions by teaching them that their emotions are like a horse. Emotions are not bad, but letting them getting out of control are. That might sound weird, but the way she put it made sense.
2. Considering parenting as a stewardship from God.
3. Keeping ourselves and our children in "fellowship" with one anoth...more