Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches
I didn't write this book because mothering little ones is easy for me. I wrote it because it isn't. I know that this is a hard job, because I am right here in the middle of it. I know you need encouragement because I do too. This is not a tender reminiscence from someone who had children so long ago that she only remembers the sweet parts. At the time of writing this, I ha
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Published
November 26th 2010
by Canon Press
(first published November 23rd 2010)
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This book was a lot shorter than I had expected...but I think that works in the end: I read it from cover to cover, but as it's a series of essays, I think it would be a good title for moms of littles to keep on the shelf and pull down on those tough days.
Lots of sweet nuggets and gentle calls to intentional parenting throughout, which I greatly appreciated. And as we've just seemed to slam up against the terrible twos in my house, plenty of things I need to remember going forward.
The closing p...more
Lots of sweet nuggets and gentle calls to intentional parenting throughout, which I greatly appreciated. And as we've just seemed to slam up against the terrible twos in my house, plenty of things I need to remember going forward.
The closing p...more
With five children five and under, Rachel Jankovic says that she didn’t write this book because mothering is easy for her; she wrote it because it isn’t! I had been looking for a book that was applicable to parents of toddlers, and this was recommended to me by several friends. This is a short book, only 102 pages, and each chapter is only a few pages long (perfect for the few moments you can snatch in the bathroom. Heh.)
It is not a heavy doctrine book or “parenting manual,” but is simply thoug...more
It is not a heavy doctrine book or “parenting manual,” but is simply thoug...more
This is one of those books that you read over and over again. It makes you laugh and moan and maybe cry too :)
“Sometimes parents can discipline behaviors over and over and over like we are playing whack-a-mole. There is a sin! Get it! This can get very frustrating when it doesn’t seem to be helping anything. We think we are being so diligent! But the real problem is that the child doesn’t know what to do with it.
…Little girls need help sorting out their emotions–not so they can wallow in them,...more
“Sometimes parents can discipline behaviors over and over and over like we are playing whack-a-mole. There is a sin! Get it! This can get very frustrating when it doesn’t seem to be helping anything. We think we are being so diligent! But the real problem is that the child doesn’t know what to do with it.
…Little girls need help sorting out their emotions–not so they can wallow in them,...more
Rachel Jankovic's Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches is a collection of short vignettes written to counsel Christian parents, and, more specifically, mothers, in the throes of raising children. Herself a young mother of five children, all under age six, Jankovic is blessed with wisdom and maturity that seems to transcend her age. Yet, despite her assertive confidence, she is humble and transparent, making her a winsome role model for young, Christian mothers seeking guidance, so...more
This is absolutely the most encouraging book I've ever read on parenting. I could have underlined about 3/4 of the book if I hadn't reigned myself in. My kids are currently three, two, and one, and I admittedly have many days when I feel defeated, exhausted, and like I'm doing unproductive work. Of course I love my kids, and I enjoy them, but three kids that little are a LOT of work. Jankovic (the mother of five children five and under) gives Biblical wisdom, practical tips, and encouragement to...more
This little book of little chapters about little people was more than a little helpful. While dishing up some juicy ones about nursing twins while the ever helpful husband sleepwalks, and the like, the author encourages and points to important principles.
The encouragement is to take heart that your labor is not in vain. Rejoicing in the task before you is possible! You can be in the trenches (and the author knows them in depth), and not be overwhelmingly frazzled and frustrated.
Principles:
The au...more
The encouragement is to take heart that your labor is not in vain. Rejoicing in the task before you is possible! You can be in the trenches (and the author knows them in depth), and not be overwhelmingly frazzled and frustrated.
Principles:
The au...more
This book left me with very mixed feelings. I didn't just "like it" - I loved parts and hated parts. If I could, I'd give it 40% one star and 60% four to five stars, but will accept that we have to communicate in averages.
There were a lot of very practical points in the book. Some of the images and statements have really stuck with me. I like the concept of not being a "picky chicken" and tearing our family members down. This is a great principal for marriage too.
My two favorite points where th...more
There were a lot of very practical points in the book. Some of the images and statements have really stuck with me. I like the concept of not being a "picky chicken" and tearing our family members down. This is a great principal for marriage too.
My two favorite points where th...more
3.5 stars
There were parts of this book that I loved! I thought she had some great advice, and there were definitely several points that I really needed to hear. I would like to re-read this book just to help me remember those points. She had some great thoughts: about having a joyful attitude and refusing to use the word overwhelmed, about disciplining with purpose to build kids up rather than tear them down, and about how we get frustrated with our kids' misbehaviors when we ourselves are misbe...more
There were parts of this book that I loved! I thought she had some great advice, and there were definitely several points that I really needed to hear. I would like to re-read this book just to help me remember those points. She had some great thoughts: about having a joyful attitude and refusing to use the word overwhelmed, about disciplining with purpose to build kids up rather than tear them down, and about how we get frustrated with our kids' misbehaviors when we ourselves are misbe...more
This was such a wonderful, little book! It's one that I will be pulling off the shelf time and time again to remind myself to be a Godly parent. Our little people deserve all the patience, respect and love we can give them!
It was interesting to read this soon after The Happiness Project (THP) and in a weird way I found connections between the two. One of the principles from THP that I found in this book is that to be happy, you must make those around you happy and when those around you are happ...more
It was interesting to read this soon after The Happiness Project (THP) and in a weird way I found connections between the two. One of the principles from THP that I found in this book is that to be happy, you must make those around you happy and when those around you are happ...more
This is the best book on parenting I've ever read. I'll admit that I haven't read as many books on parenting as I probably should have and I'm sure I've forgotten too much of what I have read. That said, every Christian mother and father should own this book, inside and out.
A certain sort of parent will not enjoy this book at all. Parents who view authority as a control mechanism rather than a means to fellowship, who prefer dispensing law rather than following it, and who expect change in their...more
A certain sort of parent will not enjoy this book at all. Parents who view authority as a control mechanism rather than a means to fellowship, who prefer dispensing law rather than following it, and who expect change in their...more
This book is a collection of short essays on parenting young children. I think it would be most useful for parents who stay home with their children full-time. I found most of this book to be encouraging and thought-provoking. I didn't like that Jankovic referred to young children sinning. I don't believe small children can sin, but whatever. Doctrinal differences. I did take major exception to her advice on when parents are feeling drained - spend MORE time with your family. Only an extrovert c...more
I was hoping for more from this book than what I got out of it. It came so highly praised that I thought it would really give me tips and be a heartwarming advice book that would help me appreciate where I am in life. It did that a little bit but not as much as I was hoping it would.
The author, Rachel Jankovic, does go on about how hard it is to be a mother of five young children but doesn't give advice on how to cope in every chapter. She does give some advice, and I will highlight the chapter...more
The author, Rachel Jankovic, does go on about how hard it is to be a mother of five young children but doesn't give advice on how to cope in every chapter. She does give some advice, and I will highlight the chapter...more
This is a quick book; I think I read it in about an hour this evening (no skipping). Maybe it's just the stage of life/mothering I'm in, but this book felt like a tall drink of water (or maybe a splash of water in the face). It's nothing ground-breaking or literarily stunning, but the author's advice is very helpful and practical. I've known for awhile that my attitude regarding my children/my time/my life needed adjusting, and the simple admonishments in this book perfectly addressed my issues....more
Short little book, great for the short moments that you have when you're a mom and can only read in snatches here and there.
Some great ideas and encouragement for moms. I love her candidness and cheerfulness and her ability to be really creative in parenting.
Disagreed with some of the things she said, particularly in the second half of chapter 12 about a mom's identity.
Editor could have done a better job of revising the book. Some of the ideas and sentences are hard to understand because she us...more
Some great ideas and encouragement for moms. I love her candidness and cheerfulness and her ability to be really creative in parenting.
Disagreed with some of the things she said, particularly in the second half of chapter 12 about a mom's identity.
Editor could have done a better job of revising the book. Some of the ideas and sentences are hard to understand because she us...more
This was simply a fantastic book! It was also quite painful to read, because I've been such a poor parent in numerous ways. One can still "do it all right," and yet get it all wrong. Rachel (our friend from college-days) brings us back to the JOY of parenting, even when life is chaotic, which it frequently is with our four little ones! Rachel has wisdom beyond her years, which is no doubt due to the faithful parenting of the two generations before her. A must-read, especially for all parents who...more
Helpful and encouraging insight to motherhood. But not just for mothers (I am not a mother at the time of reading this book), this book gives a great perspective on relationships in general (you may need to read between the lines if it's not so clear on first reading) and the beauty and importance of bearing fruit in our lives for the glory of God and the building up of the whole body of Christ (children and adults). I highly recommend this book to all, yes even to men because motherhood, relati...more
I gave this book as a Christmas gift and then a friend of mine recommended that I read it. What a refreshing book!!! So many "older" parents just remember the good times with their kids and forget how they got through the rough times, or how they did the simple, necessary things in life with children underfoot. This author is a mother who is still in the trenches and she provides such practical advice and lessons that she has learned while rearing young children. I learned many practical things...more
This book is written for moms. So to be a dad and being reading it is an interesting experience.
I didn't really understand the book until about 35 pages in, but once I realized that it's just one woman's experience and how she thought about it, then I I started to enjoy it. This is a handy book for moms to really just think practically and Biblically about raising young children. Lighthearted, joyful, and generally just a very encouraging book for moms who might be tempted to to complain about...more
I didn't really understand the book until about 35 pages in, but once I realized that it's just one woman's experience and how she thought about it, then I I started to enjoy it. This is a handy book for moms to really just think practically and Biblically about raising young children. Lighthearted, joyful, and generally just a very encouraging book for moms who might be tempted to to complain about...more
This book read sort of like a blog to me, with each chapter feeling rather disconnected from any other. Each chapter offered a story/observation about parenting, and some were more applicable to me than others. Jankovic frequently references her experience as a mother with 5 young children, which is just different from the season I find myself in. I related to much of what Jankovic shared, and did find a few useful ideas. I wish more would've been shared about integrating faith into parenting. I...more
I enjoyed the candor of Rachel's writings and her honesty in stating how things sometimes are in a busy household. While she offered encouragement and practical tips for loving your children, whatever the struggle, I found some of her advice unnecessary and unhelpful. Letting kids make messes and worrying about the clean up later isn't always the way to go. Kids can have fun and learn without creating more work. The chapters were short, making them easy to get through in one sitting. I would rec...more
As a father of 11 children I found this little book to be an absolute delight! Well written and filled with practical advice, but not in the ten things you should do kind of way. Rather this book deals with the essence of discerning parenting, with a heart to help your children grow into gracious, bold, Godly adults. In almost every experience that was shared I could whole heartily relate, saving the ones that only a mother could have, but even then I know my wife had walked those paths before.
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This book was okay. There were a few useful insights and mental imagery tools for coping with the frustrations of raising little kids. But, the author often casually mentioned spanking her kids. I chose not to discipline that way, and it made me wonder what other fundamental parenting beliefs her and I would disagree on. It made me doubt her advice.
A short and quick read, this book is divided into short 2-3 page chapters that are each relatively self contained. It is geared toward Christians, a...more
A short and quick read, this book is divided into short 2-3 page chapters that are each relatively self contained. It is geared toward Christians, a...more
First off, this is a very short, delightful book - funny, realistic, insightful, and - still more - kindly, modestly, sanely, and cheerfully written. It's mostly about heart attitudes, both your own and your children's. I'm not a mother of small children (well, one very, very small child, lol) but I'd hand this to any woman who teaches or works with children in any capacity. This is real-life stuff. Rachel Jankovic has five children under the age of five, came from a thoughtful pastor's family,...more
Just perfect. Loving the Little Years is a collection of 20 could-be-blogs. Short, deep, heart-felt, thought-provoking and genuinely funny, this book is a pleasure to read.
Author Rachel Jankovic nails it on both tone & content. Her voice is sweet and transparent, but the thoughts she shares are saturated with an uncanny wisdom that seems beyond her years.
While only a slender 100 pages, Loving the Little Years has helped shape my parenting worldview:
* Having more kids is no excuse to give p...more
Author Rachel Jankovic nails it on both tone & content. Her voice is sweet and transparent, but the thoughts she shares are saturated with an uncanny wisdom that seems beyond her years.
While only a slender 100 pages, Loving the Little Years has helped shape my parenting worldview:
* Having more kids is no excuse to give p...more
This book is not really a "parenting self-help" book, although there were some great ideas.
Things I liked:
1. Idea of how to help little girls (although I would add ANY child) to manage their emotions by teaching them that their emotions are like a horse. Emotions are not bad, but letting them getting out of control are. That might sound weird, but the way she put it made sense.
2. Considering parenting as a stewardship from God.
3. Keeping ourselves and our children in "fellowship" with one anoth...more
Things I liked:
1. Idea of how to help little girls (although I would add ANY child) to manage their emotions by teaching them that their emotions are like a horse. Emotions are not bad, but letting them getting out of control are. That might sound weird, but the way she put it made sense.
2. Considering parenting as a stewardship from God.
3. Keeping ourselves and our children in "fellowship" with one anoth...more
Own.
I was sick this week and thought I'd pick up something quick and easy to read. I chose poorly.
Quick, yes. Short chapters, easily read in the spaces of time or for a couple minutes before turning off the light for sleep.
Easy, not so much.
Jankovic has written a book that forces the reader to consider parenting techniques, philosophy, the ends and the means. It turns parenting on its head in many ways. It has me considering, as a recent sermon, who my audience is in parenting: the children or...more
I was sick this week and thought I'd pick up something quick and easy to read. I chose poorly.
Quick, yes. Short chapters, easily read in the spaces of time or for a couple minutes before turning off the light for sleep.
Easy, not so much.
Jankovic has written a book that forces the reader to consider parenting techniques, philosophy, the ends and the means. It turns parenting on its head in many ways. It has me considering, as a recent sermon, who my audience is in parenting: the children or...more
Wow! I don't know if it was that I read this book while rocking a newborn, or that it is simply a wonderful book, but either way it was hugely beneficial to me. Practical, whimsical and funny, Rachel Jancovic speaks out of her experience of mothering 5 little ones, and the picture isn't always pretty. Is there anything more helpful than a mother being honest about motherhood, both it's picturesque moments and the ones you want to forget? She teaches from both, and in a pithy way. I LOVED this bo...more
I received this book as a gift right before my second child was born. Having two children under two was overwhelming and the authors perspective was hugely beneficial. I loved the way she was God centered first and parent centered second. Her perspective that our parenting comes out of the overflow of our own hearts was just what I need to be reminded of on a semi regular basis. I've purchased and given away 5 more copies of this book because it was so good for my own soul.
Not something I particularly enjoyed reading. While I didn't necessarily disagree with what the author was saying, I didn't really agree with it either. I felt like the book was thrown together - something I could easily write if I was so inclined. Lots of strange metaphors that didn't make any sense. Lots of jumping around. Lots of examples from her life that seemed kind of thrown in for no real reason. Just because someone has five kids five and under, it doesn't mean they are a better parent...more
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Rachel Jankovic is a wife, homemaker, and mother. She received her bachelor's degree in Liberal Arts and Culture from New Saint Andrews College, but mostly reads cookbooks now to avoid story grip (being highly susceptible). In 2003, she married her husband, Luke, and they have six children who know how to party. As of November 2012, their little posse includes Evangeline (8), Daphne (6), Chloe (5)...more
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