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My Boyfriend Wrote a Book About Me: And Other Stories I Shouldn't Share with Acquaintances, Coworkers, Taxi drivers, Assistants, Job Interviewers, Bikini Waxers, and Ex/Current/Future Boyfriends but Have

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TV writer Hilary Winston offers up a witty collection of autobiographical tales about her misadventures in dating.

Just when Hilary feels like her life is finally in order, she gets a sucker-punch to the gut: Her ex-has written a novel based on their relationship in which he refers to her throughout as the “fat-assed girlfriend.” Her response to this affront is just one of
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published May 3rd 2011 by Sterling (first published May 1st 2011)
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Jul 09, 2011 Jeff rated it did not like it
This book is bad.

There's no other way around it.

I'm sorry if you liked this book, or thought it was funny. I'm sure you're a nice person. But you're wrong.

This book is so bad, that this is my third attempt at writing a review for this book... this book is so bad that I can't think straight.

I love books by women who love to talk about their struggles as single women, or young mothers, or go getters, or whatever...

I've read Jill Soloway, Beth Lisick, Sloane Crosley, Hollis Gillespie, Gail Paren
Jan 09, 2013 Sarah rated it did not like it
Two self-absorbed superficial buttheads dated each other and then wrote books about it. And now I'm conflicted. Because on one hand, I wish they had never met each other, so that neither of them would have ever gotten book deals. And the world would be better off. But on the other hand, I'm almost tempted to be glad that they found each other, because they kind of deserve one another. (Warning: this is going to be a long-ass , bitter review.)

I don't think I've ever had such a negative reaction
Jun 25, 2011 Heather rated it it was ok
I think I need an intervention so I can get over my humorous 30-something memoir addiction. Either that, or Barnes and Noble needs to install a warning system just for me. The next time I am lured towards something confessional, an alarm will go off and then an announcement: "Step away from the humorous memoir." Then kind people in lab coats will show up and gently escort me out of the store and suggest that I go buy shoes.

And even ending up with another pair of platform wedge sandals that I can
Feb 21, 2011 Kate rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone who's ever had their heart broken
Recommended to Kate by: Goodreads First Reads
This is a review of the Advanced Reading Copy that Sterling Publishing Company was kind enough to send to me because I won it here on Goodreads First Reads.

With a bit of editing this book will be a seriously big hit. What drew me into its clutches was the cover art and then the title. Seriously funny stuff and you know what, the text didn't suck either! I mean you just never know when the book cover is this awesome.

Premise of the book: Hilary Winston goes into her posh LA Barnes and Noble bookst
Jul 14, 2011 Zaneta rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir, nonfiction
Like it says in the dedication page, this book is for "anyone who has ever had their heart broken. And dreamed of getting just the tiniest slice of revenge. And didn't do it because they were worried they'd look crazy."

To some people, Winston may seem like the crazy-ex girlfriend for writing a tell-all memoir about her previous relationships. But then again, most people do not innocently discover themselves as the "fat-assed girlfriend" in their ex's new novel at Barnes and Nobel. The book is s
May 25, 2011 Nette rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Pretty funny in places, unnecessarily gross in others. I'm not prudish or squeamish or other -ish words, but after reading entire chapters about her problem poop and her broken cervix, I feel like I should charge her a twenty dollar co-pay.
Sep 30, 2011 Kara rated it did not like it
Shelves: bios-auto-bios
So far there's a lot about cat piss. And baths. But not baths in cat piss.

After completing the book, my review doesn't change. It just wasn't that good.
Feb 27, 2012 Scribblegirl rated it it was ok
Shelves: nonfic, blech, memoirs
I find it very hard to believe Hilary Winston gets paid to write comedy. That she writes (or has written) for Community boggles my mind, since I like Community, and it's not only funny, it's often brilliantly so, and frankly, I find it impossible to believe the girl who wrote this could ever write an episode of Community that I would like. This book is NOT funny. It's sad and pathetic and really frigging depressing. It's so pathetic, in fact, that I can't believe it isn't professional suicide fo ...more
May 29, 2011 Michelle rated it it was ok
I was excited to read this book. I’m a fan of the book her ex-boyfriend wrote
(about her apparently), The Average American Male, and I love My Name is Earl.
The concept of a revenge novel is comedic in itself. I picture Kathleen Turner
and Michael Douglas in War of the Roses pecking at a typewriter as fast they can
trying to get the last laugh in. Both of these novels were brutally honest in
painting an amusing perspective of the female and male psyche.

Winston’s book documents many of her experi
Oct 28, 2013 Kristy rated it really liked it
I genuinely enjoyed this book. I am surprised at some of the negative reviews here and I can't help but wonder if somehow expectations were set a bit too high? I remember the same thing happening with Julie Klausner's book (which I also found very funny and entertaining). I guess in both cases I had read all this neg stuff already and I was expecting things to be really substandard, and then they turned out to be really funny, charming essays with moments of actual heartbreaking insight. And bot ...more
Heather Colacurcio
Jan 17, 2012 Heather Colacurcio rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, humor, memoir
I read this book at a point in my life where it really hit home; I found myself on the last page in less than two days of starting it, and on the verge of tears as well. Winston's book is indeed humorous, but there is a profound sadness and hurt that weaves itself throughout the majority of her stories. Winston recounts what it means to love and be loved and the devastation that lost love brings. The lingering effects of a breakup stay with us long after the person we loved has left, long after ...more
Apr 25, 2012 Angelica rated it did not like it
Let's start with the title, the whole title. "My Boyfriend Wrote a Book About Me: And Other Stories I Shouldn't Share with Acquaintances, Coworkers, Taxi drivers, Assistants, Job Interviewers, Bikini Waxers, and Ex/Current/Future Boyfriends but Have" ....

The title itself is long, drawn out, boring and pointless.

The main character describes her pathetic life focusing on her ex boyfriend that she's obviously still hung up on, complaining that he wrote a book about her and calls her a fatass. She
Feb 28, 2011 Ann rated it it was ok
Free ARC through GoodReads FirstReads.

The main reason for my "it was OK" rating was the style. The book was written very casually, similar to what I'm used to seeing on blogs. This was a deliberate choice, but it was not to my taste.

That said, the content was fine. There were plenty of laugh-out-loud moments. There was also a lot more sadness than I expected.

I'm the same age as the author, and while at first I found some of the misadventures hilarious (and had plenty flashbacks to my own exes)
Feb 26, 2011 Richard rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I happened upon the book by accident. The title caught me, and the description made it sound like a fun read.

Before I get to my review, I will qualify everything that follows by saying I am clearly NOT the target audience. I am ten years older than the author, male and straight.

The writing is fluid, and the stories are interesting. In fact, most of the stories are the type that I would probably have enjoyed more if I heard them in the workplace or from a friend, one at a time, spread over time.
Jan 10, 2012 Emily rated it did not like it
Shelves: non-fiction
I was not impressed with this all. From the title and the jacket it looked like it was going to be really amusing, but it wasn't. I mean, she wrote for My Name is Earl (which I loved) and Community (which I liked). But the book just didn't do it for me. It was just a whole bunch of over-sharing about her numerous sexual encounters and I wasn't all that impressed. There may have been a time or two that I chuckled out loud, but I'm not even sure those were warranted. And let's just throw ...more
Mar 21, 2012 Evelyn rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
If I'll be honest, I expected a bit more humor to the book, seeing as Hilary Winston is one of the writers for Community, and I did actually pick this up in the humor section. I was drawn by the title, really, and I was hoping that there would some sort of characteristic development or resolution to this, but it really was just a bunch of stories about her disastrous relationships and her cat. Don't get me wrong, it was quite funny at times, it just didn't give me a sense of completion. The only ...more
I just didn't find this that funny. I think it's because I didn't connect with it. All the positive reviews talk about how they totally understood where she was coming from and had experienced similar things and so it was funny. The only parts I connected with (and consequently, laughed and cried at) were about her cats.

I guess it's not really her fault that we haven't had many, if any, similar dating experiences. I'm just saying the humor isn't universal.
Less than 1/2 star. Not even a little funny.
Jan 19, 2012 Raven rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
The title caught my eye in iBooks, and so downloaded the sample... as I was reading, I realized that I had read the book Winston's ex-boyfriend had allegedly written about her- Chad Kultgen's "The Average American Male." I actually really enjoyed Kultgen's work of fiction, as his prose was interesting and minimalistic; something I thought was a clever representation the male mind. It was pretty chauvinistic, with numerous references to the pronounced size of the main character’s girlfriend’s der ...more
Nov 01, 2012 Lindsey rated it did not like it
If I could sum up this book in one word it would be, "Yikes!" I thought it was going to be funny, as I'm a huge fan of memoirs & comedy, but it just made me sad & kind of angry at times. I understand her douche of an ex-boyfriend (who sounds more like he has aspergers than OCD) wrote a book about her & that's awful, but to retaliate with a book aimed at him, as well as a string of other men (can't imagine they'd want to be mentioned in a book, just as Winston didn't...), makes her ju ...more
Yvette Hamacek
May 26, 2011 Yvette Hamacek rated it really liked it
I really liked this book...although I think that referring to it as a revenge novel in any way is very misleading. The inspiration for this book came from Chad Kultgen's "The Average American Male" in which Hilary was referred to as the "fat-assed girlfriend". However, instead of getting any kind of revenge on the ex-boyfriend, she actually humanizes him. She makes the relationship seem much deeper and more authentic than the thinly-veiled fiction version of it that he uses in his book. The cont ...more
Sarah B.
Jun 01, 2015 Sarah B. rated it liked it
The pitch for this book is AMAZING: Hilary Winston is in a Barnes & Noble one day and picks up a book by her ex-boyfriend, only to realize that one of the main characters in his novel is HER. That's all it took for me to 100% want to read this book.

Unfortunately, the book doesn't fully satisfy. Winston gives us dozens of short chapters, each one telling one vignette, usually about her love life. The longest parts are about "Kyle" (Chad Kultgen), the author of the instigating novel, with whom
Jan 03, 2012 Meagan rated it it was amazing
I loved this book. This was the last book I read in 2011, and it was a great way to end the year. Hilary Winston is a great writer on Community and she translates very well into a book. She finds the humor and the enjoyment of life in all of her awkward and quirky experiences. She talks about her boyfriend who she thought she was in love with, a few one night stands, her fear of becoming a cat lady, and how she learned to be happy being single. She is intelligent and easy to relate to.

May 04, 2013 Ashley rated it liked it
While browsing for books in Barnes & Noble, the author Hilary Winston discovers to her surprise that her ex-boyfriend wrote a book. What's even more surprising, it's about her and their 3 year relationship. As she sums it up, she just wantes to die.

What follows next are a series of essays about her relationships with men, her family, and her cat Emmett.

Overall, I enjoyed the book. If at all possible I would give the book 3 1/2 stars. Winston really captures the awkwardness of dating and rela
Adam O'Brien
May 09, 2012 Adam O'Brien rated it did not like it
This book tried to be a lot of things, and it just tripped itself up. The girl knows (thinks) she's really funny, and says so, frequently. But she also plays this i'm-so-awkward-and-clueless-isn't-that-adorable? game. She whines about how she's ugly and will never find love and will be an old cat lady and lost her virginity at the embarrassingly old age of fourteen, but also documents a new good-looking guy she slept with every other page. She casually whores around using people and abandoning t ...more
Shannon Alexander
Sep 21, 2011 Shannon Alexander rated it liked it
I went on a brief "books by 30something white women who aren't that interesting" kick. I THOUGHT maybe she'd be interesting since her ex-boyfriend did write an unflattering book about her and she writes for Community. The stuff about the boyfriend was interesting and I think it's nice karma that the sheer fact that he wrote a book about her got HER a book deal, for better or worse. There is some funny stuff and I like her -in comparison to the NY hipster style of I Don't Care About Your Band- be ...more
Jul 02, 2013 Angela added it
Shelves: memoir-etc
All I kept thinking during this book was 'At least it isn't 'I Don't Care About Your Band'' - but that's not enough reason for me to love it. Why so many baths, Hilary? Why?? It was a quick read, it was relatively painless, but I want to boycott all books of this genre. Hey, twenty-something women in metropolitan areas: if you're going to wear your damn weirdness on your sleeve, stop flaunting it like the emotional relevance of a sassy new haircut. I can't deal with it any more.
Apr 06, 2015 Yzobelle rated it it was ok
It's a 100-peso book I got from a book sale. And I would say the experience of reading it is worth just that -- 100 pesos and nothing more. It was an okay read (thus, the 2 stars), funny and entertaining at times. It is a little bit too shallow and no deep insights. But my deep respect goes to Hilary Winston for the courage to write such life story.
Jan 03, 2012 Lauren rated it liked it
I was told this book would be hilarious, but I thought it induced less laughter than it did pity. Because I have taken one semester of psychology classes, I can confidently diagnose this girl with depression and low self esteem. Which she admits to anyway. Self depracation is funny, but this girl is just depressing. Some laughs, but more cringes.
Jennifer Steinhoff
May 12, 2011 Jennifer Steinhoff rated it did not like it
I often need to remind myself that I don't have to finish every book I start. I gave this book 2 chapters and then returned it to the library. I think everyone has enough of their own bitterness to deal with, without reading and absorbing someone elses anger and resentment and bitterness.
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