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She Loves You, She Loves You Not...

3.89 of 5 stars 3.89  ·  rating details  ·  1,257 ratings  ·  116 reviews
Seventeen-year-old Alyssa thought she knew who she was. She had her family and her best friends and, most important, she had Sarah. Sarah, her girlfriend, with whom she dreamed with about the day they could move far away and live out and proud and accepted for themselves, instead of having to hide their relationship.

Alyssa never thought she would have to make that move by...more
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published June 1st 2011 by Little, Brown Books for Young Readers (first published January 1st 2011)
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Julie A Peters
I think I wrote it, so I'd better love it.
Kelly
What this book does right is create a super strong and steadfast main character in Alyssa. She's a lesbian and she's not going to change herself for anyone, let alone is she going to hide it or be ashamed of it now that it got her kicked out of her father's house. These traits define her and they do so without making her an issue or making her one-dimensional. It spills over into everything she does.

However, it also means she becomes almost a bully toward other people. She's quick to assume sexu...more
Jill Guccini
I do really like Julie Anne Peters, and I definitely enjoyed this read. I like the characters and plot lines and details she develops, and I like reading their stories. I think it was just hard reading this immediately after A Love Story Starring My Dead Best Friend, which was written so wonderfully. Peters, like some other high-profile queer YA authors I've read, just uses too much cheesy phrasing sometimes and it makes my brain squirm a little. And the protagonist seemed like she was sassy and...more
Sharon
Why do people rate this story so highly? If the protagonist were a heterosexual guy, would we be throwing four and five stars? I'm just saying there's not much to the character beyond lust and a flannel shirt.
Melanie Goodman
Alyssa’s father catches her getting hot and heavy with her girlfriend. This would be embarrassing enough for any teen, but to make matters worse, Alyssa has not come out to her family. Her father doesn’t take the news well, disowning Alyssa, and sending her off to live with her biological mother, Carly, who she hardly knows.

Cut off from her friends, family, and now ex-girlfriend, Alyssa struggles to get a job, meet new people, and put a past full of heartache behind her in a new town. Unfortunat...more
Ellen
The story, plot, and pacing worked well enough. However...[spoilers ahead]


Alyssa's romantic relationships were a bit unbelievable. I understand WHY she behaved the way she did, since she clearly had abandonment issues due to her mom leaving, her dad's remarriage, and her dad not accepting her. So I understand why she'd cling to Sarah and Finn. However, Sarah annoyed the hit out of me, and felt more like a creepily sexualized annoying kid sister type than any sort of heartbreaking ex-girlfriend....more
Alex
Apr 09, 2014 Alex rated it 3 of 5 stars
Shelves: lgbt
A great storyline flawed with aggravatingly poor writing structure, irrelevant and semi-pornographic interjections and repetitive scenarios. The number of times the main character physically trips throughout the story is unbearable. Any romantic expression cliché you can think of has been used in this by the author. If you have the patience and tenacity to plunge through the seemingly cobbled-together style, then you'll eventually blot out the poorer parts of the book and come remember the actua...more
Racky
When we were seventeen where were we? Most of us, probably, under the safety of our home with our family. Sent to school by our parents, have great friends, and who knows, maybe have found love at that age as well. Among us is Alyssa, living a safe life with her father until he kicked her out. It's crazy how life turns out, one minute you're inside the comfort zone of what we call home and the next you were just out in the world, all alone; no friends or family to support you, just on your own....more
Sara
She Loves You, She Loves You Not... by Julie Anne Peters follows Alyssa, a girl who has been sent to live with a mother she does not know after being caught in bed with a girl by her father who is a homophobe. Alyssa takes a job in a diner, starts a relationship with a girl and has to get to know a mother whom she has never known and whom works various sketchy jobs including at a strip club. The author also reveals the details of the relationship that Alyssa had that caused her father to disown...more
Kelly Hager
After Alyssa's dad learns that she's gay (in about the worst way possible), she's kicked out of the house and sent to live with her mom. The problem is that she barely knows her mom, Carly. (Carly left when she was a baby and they've barely had contact since.) Alyssa's heartbroken. She misses her family (dad, stepmom, younger brother) and she especially misses her girlfriend, Sarah. She's not sure how to move on and create a new life.

It takes a while for the full extent of what happened before A...more
Ab
First of all, I'm always glad to see another book published about lesbians and queer-identified folks, so when I saw that Julie Anne Peters had a new book, I was eager to read. That being said, the book was alright, but it had so many of the same old story lines and themes that I was kind of disappointed.

The book is set up rather strangely, with "flashbacks" about Alyssa and Sara's relationship coming to us in the second person, and it just felt really weird and unreal. And of course, we don't...more
Katherine
RATING: 3.5 Out Of 5

The grip of loneliness begins in my stomach and crawls up my chest and lungs and throat. I pick a daisy out of the bowl and hold it up to my nose, closing my eyes, and the bitter odour reminds me of Sarah and home and...everything. I pluck a petal. "She loves you." I drop it in the bowl and pluck another. "She loves you not..."

A volcano erupts inside, and I burst into tears."


I first discovered Peter's when I read her novel By The Time You Read This I'll Be Dead. It was fantas...more
Sally
Is "uneven parallel bars" a thing over there? Here we have either parallel bars or uneven ones... I don't get how something could be both :P

Anyway! This book. I liked it pretty much, but I just couldn't stand Sarah and didn't see the appeal in her - she was immature, clingy, dishonest, self-centred, a cheater, manipulative, you name it... (sound familiar much?!) I don't like people like that in real life so reading about them isn't much fun! God, what a jerk Ben was too. (view spoiler)...more
Danya
This review is not to help people really decide whether or not to read it, it's just for people who know me...
So, this was the first book I've ever read with a lesbian main character, and I have to say, at first she annoyed me. The main character just seemed really shallow at first, even though you felt bad for her rather horrible situation. All she could think about was Sarah, which makes sense, and what happened must have sucked, so that didn't bother me, but then all she could think about was...more
Laura
The biggest recommendation for this book is that it's perfect for GLBTQ collections, but as a teen romance it doesn't quite cut it. The level of angst, the drawing out (interminably) of the Big Incident that causes Alyssa's father to disown her intercut with her judgmental attitude towards her mother all lead to "just another misunderstood teen" novel.

Alyssa is very comfortable being out among her friends, but can't come out to her family. That might resonate with readers, yet once she's sent to...more
Dana
Well, I started this book and finished it all in one night. I could not put it down. It helped that it was basically the story of my own life. Never have I had so many similarities to the main character! (Minus the sexy motorcycle riding lesbian, who I am still anxiously awaiting.) Anyway, this is a great book. The emotion is high and very well done. The characters are likable and realistic. Julie Anne Peters always manages to write these stories that catch your attention and make you feel like...more
Jennifer McMurrain
I was fortunate enough to receive an advanced copy of this book, which made me extremely excited because I really enjoyed "By the Time You Read This I'll Be Dead."

Though this book was good, I felt it missed the "Wow" factor. Besides the fact that the main character is a lesbian, I found this to be your typical teen love angst book. There were also parts of this book written in the 2nd person. There's a reason this is typically not done, it trips up the brain, anyway it tripped up mine.

Because I...more
Allison Elizabeth
I liked this book okay, but reading it reminded me that I really am not a teenager anymore. I often love YA, especially LGBTQ YA, but I found the main character unlikable--completely self absorbed and unaware of the world around her--, though perhaps realistic for a seventeen year old who has been kicked out of her house and cheated on by the girl she loved. The story was predictable, but more or less enjoyable. I would definitely recommend it to teens, but it isn't a YA novel that worked for me...more
Louisa
"Luna" it is not. The main character, Alyssa, is a whiny self-indulgent brat. As is Sarah the fifteen-year-old doing the loving and loving not from the title. Alyssa's new love interest, Finn, is only marginally more interesting. The only character I really found myself rooting for at all was Carly, Alyssa's fucked up stripper mom. Says a lot, I'm afraid.
Jennifer Bagazin
I went through a variety of emotions when reading this book. One minute I'm repulsed because of all the gayness and the next I'm bawling my eyes out and swimming in my own tears. It was pretty unusual that the theme of the book was about lesbians. Not that I have anything against them. Its just that I still find it hard to accept them in our judgmental society even though their brothers in the gay community are already accepted. And its also the first time that I've read a book in a lesbian's po...more
Anne
I guess 2 1/2 stars, but this book was just not that interesting. Very predictable and I rolled my eyes one too many times. It has actually been a couple of weeks since I finished it, and I can't even quite remember why I found it so dull, I'm not even sure of the names of the characters. Bad sign.
Lena
The formatting of this novel's narrative is, at first, incredibly compelling. You'll find yourself anxious to parcel out the "whole story," as it is given to you in bits and pieces. The "whole story," however, is not super-satisfying.

My main issue with this book was that I found its protagonist to be pig-headed to the point where I kind of couldn't stand her. Even though she's going through an enormously difficult time coming to terms with her own queer identity, she doesn't really seem to be to...more
Dichotomy Girl
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Emma
Review coming soon
Mike
I'd consider myself a mild fan of Julie Anne Peters. I've enjoyed a few of her books - mainly By the Time You Read This I'll Be Dead and grl2grl, but the last book of hers I read, Define Normal, was much weaker than I expected, and it made me pretty nervous for this one. It wasn't bad, like Define Normal was, it was just... mediocre. Looking back, little stands out in my mind after reading it.

Probably the most problematic thing about the novel is Alyssa, as a protagonist. I don't say that becaus...more
Alicia
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Beth G.
Jan 02, 2011 Beth G. rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: fans of The Bermudez Triangle and Empress of the World
The physics law works not only on objects but on people. Because of Sarah's action, her force and thrust on your life, you went flying into space and spinning out of control.

At the beginning of her Junior year of high school, Alyssa thought she had things under control. She got along with her stepmother and her half-brother. She worked hard and got good grades. She was out to her friends Ben and M'Chelle and the other members of the school's Gay-Straight Alliance, and closeted to everyone else,...more
Laura
I didn't really like the main character, Alyssa, but I think her situation is more common in high schools than I know. Alyssa finds herself kicked out of her home when her lesbian relationship with her girlfriend, Sarah, is discovered by her father. She's sent to live with her mother, Carly, in Colorado, far from her friends and family. I was not convinced that Carly was a good influence on her daughter, not because she's a stripper but because she doesn't seem to have a mothering bone in her bo...more
Christi
Jun 07, 2011 Christi rated it 5 of 5 stars
Shelves: ya
Review from my blog: http://christitheteenlibrarian.blogsp...

Another powerful novel from Julie Anne Peters. I really shouldn't have to say any more than "Julie Anne Peters has written a new novel. Go and get it. Now!" But, for the sake of this review, I will add a little more.

When we first meet Alyssa, she has just recently been uprooted from the only home she's ever known. She's now living with her mother, Carly, who has spent less than the minimal amount of time with her daughter. Carly's dayt...more
Steph
Gist of the book:
At thirteen Alyssa knew she was a lesbian. At seventeen she fell in love with Sarah and had great friends who were very supportive. Unfortunately love is complicated especially if the girl you love doesn't know if she is gay or not. Experiencing heartbreak from the girl she loves and being disowned by her father and sent to live with her estranged mother, Alyssa must start over. Will the pain of her old life keep Alyssa from moving on?

My thoughts:
This is a great story of a young...more
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Julie Anne Peters was born in Jamestown, New York. When she was five, her family moved to the Denver suburbs in Colorado. Her parents divorced when she was in high school. She has three siblings: a brother, John, and two younger sisters, Jeanne and Susan.

Her books for young adults include Define "Normal" (2000), Keeping You a Secret (2003), Luna (2004), Far from Xanadu (2005), Between Mom and Jo (...more
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