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The Peacemaker: Handling Conflict Without Fighting Back or Running Away - Student Edition

4.2 of 5 stars 4.20  ·  rating details  ·  2,017 ratings  ·  125 reviews
Sooner or later, conflict will come. But how you handle it makes all the difference.

You might be dealing with a bully at school, parents who just won't see things your way, a coach who has it in for you, or some other conflict; it's a part of life you can't escape. The good news is that God cares about your struggles and gives you powerful truths in his Word. Practice his

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Published April 1st 2008 by Baker Publishing Group (first published October 1st 1990)
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Bob Price
Conflict is inevitable. You put two people in a room and you will get at least five different opinions on something and they will fight.

Ken Sande's book The Peacemaker is designed to help resolve conflict and be restored to one another. The concept may seem simple, and a lot of what Sande says is common sense, but it is still a book that should be required reading, especially in the church.

Sande's main point is that God hates conflict and that we should do whatever we can to resolve conflict.
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Peter Pinyol
I enjoy reading this books. I have been readings others from the same topic in this time of my ministry, and I really believes this one gives a very practical way of resolving conflicts, it is sad that just a few christians follows the principles pressented in this book. Conflict is not an enemy is a friendthat help us to resolve truth, the problem is that we do not know how to work or deal with conflic and for that reason there are so many unresolved situation in our churches today.
Matt
This is a truly useful book for any Christian not living in seclusion... Instead of another "Christian" book about conflict, with pithy admonitions to resolve it because of our faith, Sande creates a compilation of strategies to actually DO something. Chapters are basically lists, charts, and/or checklists with further explanation of each individual segment. That's not to say that Sande is absent from the book as a writer, in fact the personal stories that he shares give credibility to his theor ...more
Giedra
Read with church group. I thought the ideas in this book were good--but most of them seemed obvious to me, and I could have done without all the "7 Keys to This" and "4 Ts of That."

However, despite my negative review, I would still recommend the book for someone looking for concrete ideas on how to work through conflict, particularly if you are someone who avoids conflict or if you anticipate that conflict could become uncivil to where reconciliation becomes that much more difficult to achieve.
Amanda R
A must read! Too many valuable and practical lessons to list here, but one that stands out is the description and practical explanation of forgiveness. I have spent many Sundays sitting in churches, and I have never heard a compelling and practical explanation of what it means to forgive and what that looks like, but I found it in this book.
Rebekah Courter
What an incredible book. I would consider it a must read for every Christian. We are called to be peacemakers. What are we doing about it?
Ray
The Peacemaker is the most helpful guide I have found to assist Christians in resolving conflict. It takes an uncommonly Biblical approach, leading one through a process designed to foster reconciliation, to God's glory. One is instructed in ways to "get the log out of your eye"; to "go and show your brother his faults," and to "go and be reconciled." These principles are applied to a variety of situations: third-party conciliation, forgiveness, confession, church discipline, self-examination, c ...more
Anita
Jan 12, 2008 Anita rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone
By far this is one of the most practical and god centered books for biblical conflict resolution. The book is not just for people who have trouble with anger or who are in some sort of legal disagreement. Conflict is something we deal with every day because we basically all have different agendas. Often these agendas crash and people have to deal with this conflict. We can avoid it or the person, we can attack the person, or we can seek to work it out with the person and be truly biblical peacem ...more
Josh Wilson
Ken Sande, The Peace Maker
In his book The Peace Maker Ken Sande introduces the church to the oft overlooked Biblical principles of conflict resolution and casts a vision of the radical impact these principles would have if the church actually took the Scriptural teaching on forgiveness and reconciliation seriously. Sande explains that although often Christians handle conflict no differently than unbelievers, conflict in fact provides great opportunities to glorify God in the process as our fait
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Patricia
Conflicts are something we all face. The Peacemaker provides Biblical and practical solutions to conflict. Resolving conflicts in a Biblical manner can be a powerful testimony of God's love and grace in our lives. I appreciated how Ken Sande applies Biblical principles to conflict resolution in a very practical way. He shows when it is right to overlook an offense and when it isn't. Peacemaking is the key to unity within a church, family, or any relationship. Attempting to escape conflict by den ...more
Rod Culbertson
An excellent book that assists in helping those who are involved in actual personal conflict or those who must lead in contexts (churches particularly) in which conflict inevitably arise. This book is a must read for pastors and seminary students (i.e. future pastors) and would help out individuals in their marriages as well. I would actually rate it higher that 4 stars but wasn't quite willing to rate it as a 5 star book (but it's close).
Shay
I do not believe there could be another book written on Biblical peacemaking. Ken Sande has written an astounding book and one that I will reference often for years to come. Whether your dealing with conflict in the home, the church, or your business, this book will help guide your heart back to Biblical principles which can turn every conflict into an opportunity to bring God glory and grow your faith. I can not recommend this book enough.
Brian
This book wasn't exactly what I expected when I bought it so it may color my review slightly. I was expecting it more to be how to handle with violent conflicts between individuals. That being said, I think that many of the principles laid out in this book could certainly be helpful in such a situation. Although, they would have to be applied in a quicker and more efficient manner.

In reality the book is mostly about resolving personal differences among people who know or are at least acquainted
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Paul Sheldon
Good reworking of the original Peacemaker book. I worked through this book with a group of young teenagers. The illustrations in the book really help them to grasp how diverse conflicts can be, and how common they are. The book did seem to be a bit repetitive, but perhaps that was by design. Overall this is a very helpful resource for young people.
James Bunyan
Really strong on practical wisdom and Biblical principles. Designed to be user friendly and therefore really helpful!

As an example of his clarity and thoughtfulness, here are the four Gs around which the book is structured:
-Glorify God
-Get the log out of your own eye
-Gently restore
-Go be reconciled

Really would recommend this!
Ed
Here is an excellent book on Christian counseling. It covers all aspects of counseling, from minor problems to major church related procedures. It also does a good job on relating Christians with unbelievers in their confrontations with each other. Very practical in showing ways to solve disputed matters with other people. Not only for the professional counselor but also for the layman with his neighbor.
David King
A theology of conflict resolution. Written in handbook format, it weaves the biblical foundation throughout a detailed explanation of how to put things into practice. This is my 3rd or 4th time through the book in the past 15 years, and I am still trying to figure out how to consistently put this into practice.
Zorina B
This is a great book that I would recommend to every Christian. This book is helpful in understanding how to respond to conflict in the Christian's daily life. Christians will also face conflicts and this book shows how we can go about conflict to bring glory to God even in our conflicts. This book is a must read for every Christian.
Liza
wish i read this book 32 yrs ago...valuable, practical, biblical perspective on conflict resolution. must read for everyone regardless if you are battling a conflict or not. probably a book i will re-read every year.
Matthew Hodge
A really Biblical look at conflict and how to deal with it. Certainly, if more people followed this framework there would be a lot less conflict and more peace.

The main difficulty with the book is that it could probably use some sharper examples. Storiss about neighbours fighting over noisy dogs are good but not that useful if you find yourself in a full-blown conflict.

But I think the theory is very sound.
Brett
Full of illustrations, scripture, and practical application, The Peacemaker offers the four "G's" of interpersonal reconciliation: Glorify God; Get the long out of your eye; Gently restore; Go and be reconciled. Sande's principles and applications are generally deeply rooted in both scripture and practical experience. However, Sande also enjoys dabbling in prooftexts, false analogies, and ill-reasoned arguments. Sande's approach to the contemporary church is often reactionary and his use of scri ...more
Eric Chappell
A solid book on conflict resolution; probably one of the best out there.

There's nothing in this book that is earth-shatteringly profound; but it is eminently practical in laying out a paradigm for peacemaking. From the 4 G's of peacemaking, the 7 A's of Confession, 4 promises of forgiveness, the Slippery Slope of conflict, and the P.A.U.S.E principle, there were memorable tools and a gospel-centered method of resolving everyday conflict in relationships, the home, the church, and in society. De
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Garry Geer
This stands in line with a lot of other CCEF material. I appreciated the author's desire to push the readers to some uncomfortable places in dealing with forgiveness. He clearly addresses that behavior must be confronted and changed, but forgiveness must also take place. He also outlined some solid practical advice through working through those small irritating conflicts around us. He states that there is a lot of work that goes into peacemaking, but that far more effort is wasted on engaging in ...more
Melinda
An excellent book to read, although a difficult one. Each example brings personal examples to mind of how these basic Biblical principles have not always been the norm in my own life.

Interesting thoughts about "does peace mean we have unity in all things?", "how do you reconcile and balance passages where we are told to judge others by their fruits", etc.

It would be worthwhile to attend a Peacemaker event or Bible study, to further develop an understanding of what it really means to be a peacema
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Shannon
Of the books I've read, this is by far the best on conflict resolution. Biblical foundations are apparant throughout, and study questions complete each chapter. I could spend a lot of time studying through this book and learning to apply it. It's not drowning in testimonies, but there are enough to convince the reader that the Bible's ways are worth trying. ;) Plenty of references lead a person back to the Bible so he doesn't have to take the Ken Sande's word for it. I would recommend this to an ...more
Dan Curnutt
How do we as Christians handle conflict? Usually we handle it very poorly. Ken Sandes book is a great introduction into handling conflict in a Biblical manner. I believe that every Christian should read this book and seriously consider how to apply the principles to their lives.

I only wish that I had read this book thirty years ago. It would have changed the way that I handled lots of conflict situations. I can only say that I use to hurt others in the way I handled conflict. I trust that after
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Dru
It was a compelling read. Really thought provoking, since it made me reflect on what kind of person, what kind of Christian I am. And I realized I had, what they say, a plank in my eye. Yet I'm quick to judge others? It was a really good reminder of that, and how to amend my actions as well my thoughts so I can better glorify God, even in conflicts.

I borrowed this book from a person who highly recommended it, and now I want to buy it so I can study it some more! I think everybody should read th
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Isaac Barton
One of those pause the world, have everyone read it then get back to life and see what happens books.
Patricia Walker
Outstanding book on understanding, dealing with and resolving conflict
Daniel Wells
This is the essential textbook on reconciliation and the local church's role in reconciliation. The challenge for me as a pastor is to imagine how this biblical material may be multiplied in my local church.
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Ken Sande is the founder of Peacemaker Ministries and president of a new ministry, Relational Wisdom 360. Trained as a mechanical engineer and lawyer, Ken is passionate about bringing the life-changing power of the gospel into the lives of Christians and their churches. He has used biblical peacemaking principles to minister to parties in hundreds of conflicts ranging from simple personal dispute ...more
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