The Peacemaker: Handling Conflict Without Fighting Back or Running Away - Student Edition
You might be dealing with a bully at school, parents who just won't see things your way, a coach who has it in for you, or some other conflict; it's a part of life you can't escape. The good news is that God cares about your struggles and gives you powerful truths in his Word. Practice his...more
Ken Sande's book The Peacemaker is designed to help resolve conflict and be restored to one another. The concept may seem simple, and a lot of what Sande says is common sense, but it is still a book that should be required reading, especially in the church.
Sande's main point is that God hates conflict and that we should do whatever we can to resolve conflict. ...more
However, despite my negative review, I would still recommend the book for someone looking for concrete ideas on how to work through conflict, particularly if you are someone who avoids conflict or if you anticipate that conflict could become uncivil to where reconciliation becomes that much more difficult to achieve.
In his book The Peace Maker Ken Sande introduces the church to the oft overlooked Biblical principles of conflict resolution and casts a vision of the radical impact these principles would have if the church actually took the Scriptural teaching on forgiveness and reconciliation seriously. Sande explains that although often Christians handle conflict no differently than unbelievers, conflict in fact provides great opportunities to glorify God in the process as our fait ...more
In reality the book is mostly about resolving personal differences among people who know or are at least acquainted ...more
As an example of his clarity and thoughtfulness, here are the four Gs around which the book is structured:
-Get the log out of your own eye
-Go be reconciled
Really would recommend this!
The main difficulty with the book is that it could probably use some sharper examples. Storiss about neighbours fighting over noisy dogs are good but not that useful if you find yourself in a full-blown conflict.
But I think the theory is very sound.
There's nothing in this book that is earth-shatteringly profound; but it is eminently practical in laying out a paradigm for peacemaking. From the 4 G's of peacemaking, the 7 A's of Confession, 4 promises of forgiveness, the Slippery Slope of conflict, and the P.A.U.S.E principle, there were memorable tools and a gospel-centered method of resolving everyday conflict in relationships, the home, the church, and in society. De ...more
Interesting thoughts about "does peace mean we have unity in all things?", "how do you reconcile and balance passages where we are told to judge others by their fruits", etc.
It would be worthwhile to attend a Peacemaker event or Bible study, to further develop an understanding of what it really means to be a peacema ...more
I only wish that I had read this book thirty years ago. It would have changed the way that I handled lots of conflict situations. I can only say that I use to hurt others in the way I handled conflict. I trust that after ...more
I borrowed this book from a person who highly recommended it, and now I want to buy it so I can study it some more! I think everybody should read th ...more