The Peacemaker: Handling Conflict Without Fighting Back or Running Away - Student Edition
You might be dealing with a bully at school, parents who just won't see things your way, a coach who has it in for you, or some other conflict; it's a part of life you can't escape. The good news is that God cares about your struggles and gives you powerful truths in his Word. Practice his...more
Ken Sande's book The Peacemaker is designed to help resolve conflict and be restored to one another. The concept may seem simple, and a lot of what Sande says is common sense, but it is still a book that should be required reading, especially in the church.
Sande's main point is that God hates conflict and that we should do whatever we can to resolve conflict. ...more
The strength of The Peacemaker is that it avoids the all-too-common trend of presenting humanistic principles of psychology dressed up in religious ...more
However, despite my negative review, I would still recommend the book for someone looking for concrete ideas on how to work through conflict, particularly if you are someone who avoids conflict or if you anticipate that conflict could become uncivil to where reconciliation becomes that much more difficult to achieve.
I read a paper edition but this cover matches my book cover.
This book was a recommendation from my pastor when I asked about a good book on peacemaking and resolving conflict. I took a long time going through it. Parts of it are hard to read and parts of it I made go slower by reading a lot of scripture while going through chapters from it. I think the book would be helpful for anyone. I found part 4 on reconciliation to be eye opening. I would recommend this book but suggest reading t ...more
In his book The Peace Maker Ken Sande introduces the church to the oft overlooked Biblical principles of conflict resolution and casts a vision of the radical impact these principles would have if the church actually took the Scriptural teaching on forgiveness and reconciliation seriously. Sande explains that although often Christians handle conflict no differently than unbelievers, conflict in fact provides great opportunities to glorify God in the process as our fait ...more
Here are some of my notes from the book:
Every conflict is ordained by god. He knows it and he cares for you through it.
He loves you with an everlasting love. He loves you and take comfort in that. He works everything together for good.
We may not be able to see it but we can take comfort in knowing that he is both in control and that he loves you.
If you are looking for biblically-based teaching on conflict resolution, look no further. In the same regard, for those not on that mission, you may at times find the suggestions and approach frustrating - I encourage you to still read it, if nothing else than to adapt the ideas into you r own personal framework.
The biggest complaint I have is that I often found some of what was suggested at odds with core principles it established just moments earlier. For example, kill the ag ...more
Interesting thoughts about "does peace mean we have unity in all things?", "how do you reconcile and balance passages where we are told to judge others by their fruits", etc.
It would be worthwhile to attend a Peacemaker event or Bible study, to further develop an understanding of what it really means to be a peacema ...more
I borrowed this book from a person who highly recommended it, and now I want to buy it so I can study it some more! I think everybody should read th ...more
I only wish that I had read this book thirty years ago. It would have changed the way that I handled lots of conflict situations. I can only say that I use to hurt others in the way I handled conflict. I trust that after ...more
-are having trouble forgiving others.
-are having trouble with their anger.
-tend to get into disagreements with others.
-are arguing too often with their spouse.
-want to forgive, but don't know how.
-want to be a person of peace, but don't act that way.
As with many books, there were parts of this book that really resonated with me, and other parts tha ...more
There's nothing in this book that is earth-shatteringly profound; but it is eminently practical in laying out a paradigm for peacemaking. From the 4 G's of peacemaking, the 7 A's of Confession, 4 promises of forgiveness, the Slippery Slope of conflict, and the P.A.U.S.E principle, there were memorable tools and a gospel-centered method of resolving everyday conflict in relationships, the home, the church, and in society. De ...more
All too often, poor conflict resolution skills result in the accidental escalation of conflict. This book should be required reading for all married/engaged couples and all pastors ...more
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"I will not think about this incident."
"I will not bring up this incident again or use it against you."
"I will not talk to others about this incident."
"I will not allow this incident to stand between us or hinder our personal relationship."
By making and keeping these promises, you tear down the walls that stand between you and your offender. You promise not to dwell on or brood over the problem, nor to punish by holding the person at a distance. You clear the way for your relationship to develop unhindered by memories of past wrongs. This is exactly what God does for us, and it is what he commands us to do for others.”