Parallel Play

Parallel Play

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Amazon Exclusive: John Elder Robison Reviews Parallel Play

John Elder Robison is a writer, speaker, and advocate. He is the author of Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger’s. Read Robinson's exclusive Amazon guest review of Parallel Play:

The first time I saw Tim Page, I felt a sense of familiarity. He was obviously smart but shy, socially awkward, with a different c

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Tim Page
I am the author of "Parallel Play" and thought that my new introduction to the paperback edition might be of interest to readers:

It is now almost two years since I scribbled down the final words of “Parallel Play” at a window table in my favorite Baltimore bar. Initial jubilation was followed by some premonition about the reception that this most personal of my books might receive – from friends, family, colleagues and strangers, who would now know much more about me than I would ever be likely...more
Cathy
As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD in my forties, I can appreciate the feeling of relief it must have been for Tim Page to get a diagnosis/explanation for his "differentness".
That said, his Aspergers shows in the book. It is a memoir of childhood and young adulthood with tons of info about music, which is Page's love and profession. Very little is said about people in his life: parents, wife, children. The reader knows that Tim cares for people. After all, he mourns those lost to him on th...more
Sean Kottke
This was a terrific memoir about growing up with undiagnosed Asperger's syndrome. Page is a great writer with a talent for describing sensory experiences in clear, relatable prose. This served him well in his career as a music critic, and it serves him well here in the project of helping the neurotypical reader see and feel the world through the senses of a child with Asperger's. With abiding interests in silent film and old Hollywood myself, I connected well with Page's story up through early a...more
Herb Reeves
I have many of the traits ascribed to Asperger's, but other than the informed opinion of a friend, I have had no official diagnosis.

Although many of the symptoms are good fits, and I have no problem accepting the possibility that Asperger's could be the root cause, I've recently wondered if a certain type of upbringing would result in a similar personality type. I'm an only child, and my parents (both deceased) were emotionally uncommunicative. My early enthusiasms were met mostly with indiffer...more
Tim Page
I am the author of "Parallel Play" and thought that my new introduction to the paperback edition might be of interest to readers:

It is now almost two years since I scribbled down the final words of “Parallel Play” at a window table in my favorite Baltimore bar. Initial jubilation was followed by some premonition about the reception that this most personal of my books might receive – from friends, family, colleagues and strangers, who would now know much more about me than I would ever be likely...more
David
first and last couple of pages race through some extremely interesting stuff (his two marriages and divorces, three kids, 10 books published.....) and the rest of the book alternates between fascinating incidents/vignettes (esp. being a passenger in a horrible drunk-driving car wreck as a teenager, a couple of the other passengers having died)and overlong descriptions of concerts he attended, operas he loves, drugs he took when he was a hippie, etc.

Not sure why he decided against writing much ab...more
Laura
Dec 16, 2009 Laura rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Laura by: book group
I very much enjoyed the portions of this book where he talked about his insights into his (dis)ability ("I was probably going to be famous someday but that I was going to be alone" and "The book that helped pull me into the human race was Emily Post's Etiquette.") When there were pages of detail about silent movies or operas I'd never heard of my interest greatly waned!

I read this as a mom of a slightly quirky kid, hoping to get an insider's view of what Page wished his parents or teachers had...more
Christina
I really, really enjoyed the first few chapters of this fascinating look at a child with Asperger's. His obsessions with music and death, the need for the same conversations over and over, and description of school field trips where he cared more about bus routes and the scenery than the destination all drew me into his world.

The rest of the book was a major disappointment, however, as he spends his adolescence descending into drugs and the moral anarchy of the sixties and seventies. He spends p...more
R.G. Evans
When I heard Tim Page interviewed on NPR in support of the memoir “Parallel Play: Growing Up with Undiagnosed Asperger’s,” I had a moment of uncanny recognition in which I felt Page was actually describing my own life rather than his. Could I have Asperger’s myself? I wondered. The feeling only intensified as I read Page’s book. “I suffer little stage fright when it comes to public speaking or appearances on radio or television,” Page writes. “I’ve got those particular acts figured out—but unstr...more
Katie
Really 4 1/2 stars-- a lovely memoir that accomplishes precisely what I think memoirs can and should-- introduce you to a life, paint a portrait of a particular time and experience, and at the same time offer something more--in this case, a consideration of living with Asperger's and an exploration of music that demonstrates Page's music criticism in a light but interesting way. His prose is smooth and goes down like a fine glass of red wine, and his metaphors and descriptions are often quietly...more
Vanessa
Overall, I did like this book. Most especially the epilogue where Page discusses how the Asperger's has affected him over his life-he was diagnosed in his mid 40's. It's also very clear that he has Asperger's Syndrome from his writing which can be at times distant and track jumping (I have Asperger's as well so I say that as an observation and not a judgement.) If you want to read something to get a glimpse of how the brain functions on AS, Page is a Pulitzer Prize winning author and describes i...more
Chuck
While Tim Page's memoir is not specifically about Asperger's syndrome, it makes clear that his intellect, personality, and career all have their footings in that condition. It was evident early on that Page was no ordinary human being; as a young child he displayed a prodigious memory, an obsessive personality, and an unusually high degree of feeling for inanimate objects. But it was music that became Page's ultimate obsession and salvation. As a four year-old he was already developing an acute...more
Carol B



Parallel Play is Tim Page's memoir of life for someone who didn't know he had Asperger's syndrome until middle adulthood. Asperger's syndrome is "an autistic disorder characterized by often superior intellectual abilities but also by obsessive behavior, ineffective communication and social awkwardness." Tim Page's account of his childhood, teenage years and young adulthood are both humorous and anquishing. It also illuminates his brilliance in his areas of intellectual enlightenment. He has beco...more
Jeremy


This is a short and sweet little narrative about the early life of Tim Page, who was apparently a badass music critic for the Washington Post. It combines two of my interests, music and autism, into a nice, balanced work that is entertaining and informative.

As the author cautions in his introduction, it is far from a how-to manual about raising or interacting with people with autism. In fact, his condition is more like a passenger, always along for the ride but not always immediately relevant to...more
Rebekah Choat
Having a nearly-adult son who very probably also has undiagnosed Asperger's, I picked this up looking for some insight. Page writes just as an Aspie would be expected to write - heavy, detailed emphasis on his particular interests, minimal and for the most part somewhat clinical mentions of how his differences affected his family, with a few deeper glimpses into his relationship with his father and feelings toward a couple of friends. I guess the forays into drugs and the whole counter-culture w...more
Tanya
Having a son with Asperger's who is fast approaching adulthood, I long to know how any Aspie makes it through all the throes of adolescence to become an independent, thriving member of the community, let alone one who is valued.

Tim Page, a gifted music critic currently writing for The Washington Post, fortunately decided to pen a memoir of his childhood and adolescence (with a brief epilogue recounting his major milestones in adulthood). This book was worth the read not only for further insight...more
Jaylia3
The bare facts of Tim Page’s professional life show that not only has he been tremendously successful, he’s very decidedly followed his own path. His lifelong love of music led to employment as a radio show host, a platform that allowed him to interview many of his living heroes in the arts world. He won a Pulitzer Prize writing as the Washington Post’s classical music critic, a job title he’d coveted since the age of three or four. When he discovered Dawn Powell, then a mainly forgotten author...more
Stephanie Patterson


I knew Tim Page’s work through his biography of Dawn Powell and his editing of her diaries. I dimly remembered that he was the music critic of The Washington Post. Though I initially read this largely for his account of his Asperger’s, I stayed for the discussion of music. Though Mr. Page and I do not have similar taste in music, his sheer enthusiasm for the music he listens to and his ability to describe what is essentially indescribable is fabulous. While Mr. Page maintains that Asperger’s ma...more
Estie
Parallel Play describes the unusual childhood and adolescence of Tim Page, a genius with extreme talents but also extreme deficits, an individual who was later diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. The writing is excellent and the story is compelling. The book can be funny, as when Page describes his Acid trip and his first sexual encounter, and emotional, as in his poignant telling of the deaths of close friends and his reactions to them, but also a little dull, as when he devotes many long parag...more
Megan
This is an interesting but ultimately depressing look at the life of a man with Asperger's syndrome. The book feels unbalanced, with extreme focus on bands, music, and counterculture, with other aspects glazed over.

Many people, I think, including myself, have some symptoms of Asperger's syndrome, so there's a lot to relate to in Page's book: his social difficulties (although they seemed to ring false to me - he often wrote that he felt socially awkward, but the actions he recounted didn't suppo...more
Emmalee
I read through several different books about adults with asperger's, or that were found to have been diagnosed with asperger's as adults, as most of the material you find right now deals with kids. He spent a lot more time talking about his life in general than talking about his asperger's. I really found the book "Look me in the Eye" to be a much more interesting and useful read, along with a few other books.

(Tim Page, has recently noted that he dropped the "growing up with undiagnosed asperger...more
George
Nov 05, 2009 George rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: anyone
Recommended to George by: Politics & Prose Bookstore
This was a very well written autobiography of Music critic and author Tim Page. He gave a great insight to the life and struggles of one who has Asperger's. If you have a friend who may be dealing with this issue, this book may help you understand how his/her mind may be viewing life and the world. Mr. Page is a Pulitzer Prize winning author and he uses his writing abilities to discuss the unique perspectives he has had since childhood and explore how he mapped out a successful path through life...more
Anna Hanson Bevens
This book wasn't enjoyable to read, but I firmly believe that it is necessary to read. My sister and I have a favorite expression, cribbed from Monty Python, that we pass back and forth to each other: that no matter how bad circumstances may be, "It's just a flesh wound." And although it may be gallows humor, it's survivor's humor as well. Mr. Page's book is that of a survivor, and even more rare, it's that of an articulate, self-deprecating one. Which is all too rare to find.

If you have time, p...more
Catherine
Written in a journalistic style, Page outlines his youth and early twenties encounters of self-exploration. Although he attributed much of his ‘60s experiences to Asperger’s, I found his episodes of alcohol and drug abuse pretty typical of many of his peers during that time.

He passionately loves music and writes in rich detail of operatic and classical music. At times, it was a bit over-analyzed for my taste.

Other than the Epilogue portion of the book, I thought Page’s stories were a bit tedious...more
Anne Marie
I guess the others who've written reviews so far are NTs or non-spectrumites (or whichever term you may prefer). I, for one, could relate very well and honestly have no idea why some felt it was difficult to read or follow. It proceeds in a chronological fashion from infancy to the present. That some were bothered by so much inclusion of music reviews/critiques is hilarious to me. It reinforces and clearly demonstrates that us Aspies are obsessed with our interests and love to comunicate our lov...more
Bonnie
I read this on my Kindle.

Tim Page, at one time a classical music critic for the Washington Post, winner of the Pulitzer prize, was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome as an adult. As I read this memoir, many people popped into my mind – particularly the children I’ve worked with over the years – the bright, wonderfully eccentric kids who march to their own somewhat quirky drumbeat.

I liked the quote at the beginning of this book: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” – Anon...more
Aras
This book should be called "Tim Page's quite decent, perhaps even great, life."

Because the subtitle alludes to his psychological struggles, I was expecting something a lot bleaker, but it turns out that in many ways Page's circumstances were quite fortunate: a family that was supportive financially, emotionally, and socially; a culture-rich childhood that evolved into encounters with capable mentors when he was a young man, and the ability to make a living doing what he loves. Many have not been...more
Gail
I hoped this book would be more about Asperger's and what it was like to live with it. Instead it was a biography. To be fair, in the introduction, the author did say that it was about his life and not about his syndrome. I was interested in this book because I am a teacher and I've had students on the spectrum. As I read I was searching for the parts of the book where he described how he thought. Perhaps this is why at times I felt I was skimming the book more than enjoying the prose.
Linda
Afer hearing Mr Page interviewed on NPR, I really wanted to read this book. Somehow I guess I expected more, having heard him speak and say that this book was about his childhood and growing up with Asperger's. What I got was a typical coming of age memoir with very little to demonstrate the syndrome. Maybe I'm too voyueristic, but I expected more of an explanation of how he saw his life as "parellel play" and not just how he grew up.
Sps
Biography would be a much better place for this than the 362s: this is Tim Page's life as written by Tim Page, with the Asperger's content secondary to general memoir.

I feel like a thrillseeking tabloid reader saying this, but given that the writing is nothing special, the facts of his youth are not far enough from the norm to capture my attention. Like most adolescents, he's experimenting with drugs and defiance, interested in but made awkward by sex, in thrall to some arbitrary topic, and fig...more
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Tim Page is the author of Dawn Powell: A Biography and the editor of The Diaries of Dawn Powell and Selected Letters of Dawn Powell . He won the Pulitzer Prize for criticism in 1997 and is a culture critic at The Washington Post.
More about Tim Page...
What's God Got to Do with It?: Robert Ingersoll on Free Thought, Honest Talk and the Separation of Church and State The Glenn Gould Reader Dawn Powell: A Biography Tim Page on Music: Views and Reviews Carnegie Hall Treasures [With Memorabilia]

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