Preparing to Be a Help Meet: A Good Marriage Starts Long Before the Wedding
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Preparing to Be a Help Meet: A Good Marriage Starts Long Before the Wedding

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Being a good help meet starts long before marriage. It is a mindset, a learned habit, a way of life established as a young unmarried girl or at least that s the way it should be. Nearly every wife will confess that the first year or two of married life was... how shall I say ... a frustrating learning experience. Most girls spend plenty of time planning for their wedding,...more
ebook, 299 pages
Published August 27th 2010 by No Greater Joy Ministries
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This remains the only book I have ever thrown across a room, I have a deep respect for books, but this one angered me mightily. The reality is this book focuses very heavily on how a woman is supposed to catch a man with a one size fits all type of attitude toward the subject. I know that it is about preparing to get married and in some respects this book is useful, but it focuses more on how to catch a man than finding one's own self worth and value in God... at the end of the day, a man will n...more
Christina Knotts
This book was the most challenging on the subject I have yet to read. While we are to look totally to the Word of God, Mrs. Pearl's insight and wisdom echoes much of the Biblical statutes that I love so dear.

My favorite chapter would probably have to be "The Italian Prince." I was greatly encouraged and challenged to get up and actually DO something with my life - and not just to prove that I was a grown woman and that I could live independently, but to work with my hands the things of the LORD....more
Though I did not agree on some of the ways she presented her theology there are many treasures in this book for young women looking to be married someday. There is a lot of life lessons and wise counsel to receive from this book - from very basic fundamental truth to deeper thought provoking and self-evaluating truth. And though, it seems to me, that it is hard to specify how to build relationships because most processes are different and diverse, I felt she painted a good generalization of how...more
Michelle Padrelanan
I have three wonderful and beautiful daughters – well, just let me sing their praises now ‘coz I am their mom! :)) – and it is very important for me to be able to impart to them how to choose their future spouses. Even when my eldest was just a baby, I have already begun praying for her future spouse and I continued to do that till now and will keep on doing so with all my children.

Preparing To Be a Help Meet by Debi Pearl is a book for young Christian girls who would like to prepare themselves...more
Natalie Wickham
I don’t even remember what prompted me to pick this book up to skim through it one night because I don’t usually read marriage-centered books, but I was immediately captivated. So much so that I ended up staying up well into the night reading through almost the whole book. As my sisters and I traveled out of town the following day, I read them a chapter and other portions of the book that I found particularly inspiring. Even though I question some of the author’s points, I finished the book feel...more
Havebooks Willread
I really enjoyed her usual analysis of three types of men, The Command Man, The Visionary Man, and The Steady Man, as well as her additional commentary on three types of women. I appreciated the way she advises young women to "have a life" of their own and not just sit around waiting for "Prince Charming" to come and whisk them away to happily ever after. And I liked the way she recommended using the single years to focus on growing in the Lord and serving Him. This was one of my favorite quotes...more
Amanda Simmons
OK: First and Foremost, I need to address something. I have read some reviews on different Christian-themed books that were suggested to people who did not appreciate the fact that they were recommended books that were "Christian", and that they would not have read these books if they had known that they were "Christian" first. That is your prerogative if such is the case. I would be inclined to suggest that you "not judge a book by its cover", but that is up to you. As I have stated in several...more
I love reading books for young women about christian living, and in this case, preparing to meet your future husband. I've read a few books on this subject, and I just have to say that this book is one of the better ones. It has had more impact on me and my walk with the Lord than some of the other books I've read on this subject.

I've learned and also relearned a lot of things. I loved how this book was full of stories, and not just nice stories about marriages that went well, but also stories...more
The theme of the book is godly submission… helping unmarried ladies focus on character building that will help the transition to submission. She identifies three main types of men: the prophet, the priest, and the king. She then goes on to describe how each of these men tend to operate (the prophet tends to be entrepreneurial and creative type; the priest tends to be more quiet and servant in nature; and the king tends to be much more of a leader), and how each of these is a distinct part of Who...more
This was a most excellent book by Debi Pearl! Every single lady should read it!!! This was my second time to read Preparing To Be A Helpmeet, and will probably not be the last! I read it back in 2010, and decided to re-read it since it was so good and a book that should be read more than once, in my opinion. I love this book for so many reasons. It's got a beautiful, feminine, pink layout and it packed full of godly wisdom and counsel on preparing to be a helpmeet.

There were many practical tips...more
This was my third or fourth reread in about a year and a half. I love this book. God speaks to me through it no matter how many times I read it, and it never gets dull.


I had read many good things about this book, so finally I just ordered it from Amazon. After reading the first chapter, I felt like someone had knocked me over the head with something (something very large and heavy). And I mean that in the best way. Every single chapter has been opening my eyes. To how very unprepared I am for...more
What I loved about this book was that it gave a lot of very practical information that you can still use even if you never get married. Plus the information was varied and relevant. It has love stories (each one very different as well!) interspersed in between to prove different points. Many singles books I have read are targeted toward a specific audience or demographic (for example, trendy "youth group" crowds, or very conservative Mennonite girls on the opposite spectrum). This book, for the...more
May 14, 2011 Frances rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: girls ages 14 and up
Shelves: christianity
This was a great book for teenage girls. There are lots of helpful illustrative real-life stories and good ideas about how to prepare yourself for marriage. That said, there was less emphasis on the fact that God is the only thing that will ever ultimately satisfy, and that we should really be preparing to meet Him one day. While I'm sure that was an oversight on the author's part, it left the impression that getting married will satisfy all your hopes and dreams, which it can't. The book was fi...more
Pretty good...very blunt...not sure if thats a good thing or a bad thing. whatever.
This book seemed to be more about guy psychology/study than helping a girl prepare to be a wife. I found it to be slightly helpful, but still not something I would probably buy.
I appreciated a lot of the concepts and principles presented in this book, but the presentation and stories seemed unnecessarily "weird" in some ways and that was a distraction for me. It was an interesting blend of good information, unusual (and so often unhelpful and confusing) examples, and undeveloped ideas and principles. My sense was that if you're already well-grounded biblically and want encouragement it could provide some of that, but it's not a good foundational book because of the lac...more
I know many people don't like the Pearls because of their "pride and arrogance". I agree that they are rather over the top, but there's something refreshing and unusual about an American Christian in the twenty-first century who dares to unapologetically and unashamedly state their beliefs and convictions.
I liked this book because it contained a lot of practical advice. Generally, I find books for single Christian women to be stifling, shallow, boring, and sometimes even insulting. This one br...more
Liesl Hathaway
Jun 09, 2011 Liesl Hathaway rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommended to Liesl by: Bro. Jimmy Nichols
Very good - practical teaching that you can put to life. A couple of things I would disagree with (God telling her at age twelve whom she would marry?) but 99 percent was helpful, convicting, and I would definitely recommend it for any young woman. I liked this book so much that after I lent it to a friend, who then left for college and hasn't had time to read it, I requested it at my local library so I could read it again myself.
AWESOME BOOK! I've read and re-read Debi Pearl's "Created to Be His Help Meet", I guess getting a head's up for when I am married. But this book is great for just that! Not only does it tell you what to expect from different types of men, but how to be preparing yourself now as a single girl, how to serve, learning practical skills and such. I'm really enjoying our girls' study on this book!
Good book for young unwed women.
I definetly recommend this volume. Every young single Christian lady should read this. A collection of personal testimonies, stories, anecdotes and tips on making the most of your single years, and preparing for marriage and beyond. For the single girls who might be getting antsy on finding their true love, this is a must-read. My daughters some day will read this just as I did.
I was kind of skeptical at first, I'm not going to lie. But, this book really showed me what I need to do to be a great future wife. I recommend this book to anyone that isn't married, but wants to find that perfect man for them. It taught me that I need to be patient when it comes to all of this.
Okay, I liked parts of this book, but I would not recommend it. It was not written carefully, and some things came across as legalistic or just plain strange-you have to kind of read with a translator in your mind.Even so, parts of it offended me. The Pearls struck me before as being slightly odd.
Hannah Beck
Fabulous book. Incredible insight and wisdom. The end of each chapter is accompanied with an area where the reader can reflect on what was read. It has examples and outlines the three types of people.

I would encourage every one woman to read this book. It could make or break her future marriage!
Jan 25, 2012 Alison rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Young Ladies
This book is very essential for girls to read before they get married! It has vey much helpful information,as well as explains the 3 types of men and women.Also includes the author's love story (how they met) and also the story's of some other couples. Best for 16+.
Good stuff. I like the practicality of it; there's a good focus on prayer and real preparation. Not so sure what to think about the catching-a-guy-'s-attention stuff, but there is plenty of good material here. I'll probably be coming back to this one.
Charity U
This is a most amazing book and every Christian young woman should read it. It's literally life changing. Please get a copy and read it! And I believe, if you're married already, Debi Pearl's "Created to Be a Help Meet" is also really good.
Debi shares some incredible love stories, and some really great wisdom about men and women and being a wife. If it weren't ridiculously old fashioned, legalistic and traditional, and didn't use KJV scriptures, it'd probably be worth a 4.5.
Anna Topal
This was one of the most eye opening books I have ever read, a humbling experience for me. I recommend this book to any gal out there who is a follower of Jesus and seeks for more wisdom on the subject of female roles. - Blessings!
This is another one I will read over and over again. It really helped me to see how loving my role as a help meet and as a wife is God's plan. I should not fight with God about my position but willingly step into his will for my life.
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