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Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?

really liked it 4.00  ·  Rating Details  ·  600 Ratings  ·  49 Reviews
This book by the author of Why Am I Afraid to Love? contains insights on self-awareness, personal growth and communication with others. Why do people continually hide their real selves from the people around them? Why are so many so insecure and afraid to open up? The answer, explains John Powell, is that maturity is reached by communicating and interacting with others. Th ...more
Mass Market, 167 pages
Published December 1st 1969 by Argus Communications (first published 1969)
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Jan 27, 2008 W.B. rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: peole with hamsters and broken habitrails
I gave this two stars because I used my brother's copy of it to weigh down a lid on a Habitrail that had a broken snap. This kept the hamster in the cage. Hence the "okay" rating.

It might not have fared so well had there been no hamster.
Jan 05, 2009 Pink rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who struggles with knowing who they are
Recommended to Pink by: found it at a bookstore
The first time I ever realized and admitted out loud that I feel angry was after I read this book. It was a first in a series of books of realizing the feelings behind my frustrations, and helped me to realize a lot of what was simmering in me and then be able to learn how to deal with it. I never thought I was an angry person until I read this book. I realized when I would say what I feel instead of acting out to a situation in order to not tell someone what was really going on with me, it woul ...more
Aug 04, 2015 Rita rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: livro-de-bolso, mine
Acho que agora consigo perceber o porque de termos certas atitudes.
Percebi-me um pouco mais após ter lido o livro.
Sep 10, 2015 Lastoadri rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
القراءة الأولى
واحد من أفضل الكتب التي قرأتها في مجال تعريفنا بأنفسنا وادراكنا لغيرنا.
اتصور أني سأبحث عن كتب أخرى لنفس الكاتب..
اعيب فقط عليه الترجمة، ليست مريحة. ثم إنه يوجز في بعض الأجزاء بشكل ملحوظ، فلا استطيع المضي في القراءة بدون العودة لقراءة نفس الجزء اكثر من مرة.


القراءة الثانية وكأني بقرؤه للمرة تلأولى. وبعيد اكتشاف الكثير عن نفسي وعن الآخرين...
Sara Sherzad
Apr 29, 2013 Sara Sherzad rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It was weird and new but surprisingly logical for me! ...I think it's from a very deep insight from the author...I learned alot but there always remains a "but"! Will read it again.This book is a challenge and difficult to understand for most of us as we live in a matetialistic world! Challenge yourself and read it.
Sameh Maher
Jan 13, 2014 Sameh Maher rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
كتاب رائع كالعادة من الاب جان باول اليسوعى عن لماذا نخشى ان نكشف انفسنا امام الناس ؟؟
ذلك الخوف الدائم من الرفض وعدم القبول
بداخل جميعنا هذا الخوف بدرجات من ان تنكشف فلماذا؟؟
يجيب الكاتب بكلمات هادئة قوية حانية عن سر الكشف وهو الحب الحقيقى الذى يعطى ملئ الحياة للانسان ويخرج سعادته من قلبه
كتاب رائع وبسيط
Rana Shenashen
" وقال الربّ الإله : لا يمكن أن يكون الإنسان وحده..."
( تكوين 2:18)

دائما نحاول أن نخفي ضعفنا في مجابهه أنفسنا ، وفي مجابهه الناس ، ونلجئ لحيل ، ولعب عديدة كي نحافظ علي ما تبقي من احترام لذاتنا، ولا نفكر هل هذا صحيح أم لا ، هل هذه طريقة لحفظ ذاتنا ؟ أم لتخبئتها وراء الكثير من الأقنعة ، البراقع المزيفة ، ولماذا نريد حفظ ذواتنا في الحقيقة ؟ ماهي المخاوف التي تحجبنا عن أنفسنا ؟

يتكلم الأب جان بول اليسوعي في كتابه عن حالات الأنا ، وهي ثلاثة أنواع :
النوع الأول : هي الحالة التي تتمثل في لعب دور" الأب
Jean Carlton
I had to look up the S.J. that follows the author's name on my copy. Society of Jesus.I ignored the God stuff in the book but it was there.
It's hard not to consider his personal life in reviewing this book, now that I've read numerous articles about it, as he was accused multiple times of sex crimes against female students and at retreats.
I am interested in relationships, how people communicate (or don't), the idea of honesty and the discovery of 'who I am', which by the way was a popular topi
Jan Höglund
I don't think John Powell really answers the question "Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?" He writes that we "act 'roles', wear 'masks', and play 'games'" to "protect ourselves from further vulnerability" (p. 5), but he doesn't really address where this vulnerability comes from. He says that our "'programming' is a result of the composite of previous influences in our lives (social programming) and our reaction to them (individual programming)" and that we have "something like a portable tape ...more
May 19, 2009 Meg rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I had a HUGE aha moment reading this book. A life changer! For me anyhow.
Mar 11, 2008 Larry rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
great guide to communication
Sara Alawneh
Mar 11, 2016 Sara Alawneh rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Oct 01, 2013 Bill rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very interesting little book. Short and blunt in its descriptions of emotional health and dysfunction and how it impacts you and others.

In short, you can't be happy unless you are honest with yourself and you can't be honest with yourself unless you can be honest with another.

Much to be said about that idea. As I said, a short, easy read although the font in this particular edition slows you way down and the verbiage can be a little much at times (this was published in 1969). It's repetitive (th
Sep 15, 2015 Fatima rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
شكراً للاب جان باول على هذا الكتاب المعبرّ والصادق.. أستطيع أن اقول أنه سيكون له تأثير في حياتي.. فقد منحني قدرة على التبصر بنواحٍ كثيرة بذاتي..
Heidi Archer
Apr 16, 2015 Heidi Archer rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"Yet the barriers are never permanently broken. Friendship and mutual self-revelation have a newness about them with each new day, because being a human person involves daily change and growth. You and I are growing, and our differences are becoming more apparent. We are not growing into the same person, but I am growing into my own person and you into yours. I discover in you other tastes and preferences, other feelings and hopes, other reactions to new experiences. I discover that this busines ...more
Shimaa Nady
Mar 17, 2016 Shimaa Nady rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
حبيت الكتاب ده لطيف أوى
"وجالى ع الجرح أكتر حاجة بهتم انها تكون فيا وفى الناس اللى بحبهم فى دايرتى او فى تعاملى مع الناس عموما هو " الصدق
باقى الصفات مش هقول مش مهمة بس فى الاخر كلنا بشر كلنا بنغلط وعندنا عيوب بس المهم ماتخدعنيش
صعب أوى دلوقت تلاقى ناس حقيقية وعلاقات حقيقية بوعى أو بدون وعى كله بقى بيمثل على كله احنا بقينا بنشتغل نفسنا
الكتاب بيدى لمحات عن ازاى ممكن وصل بعلاقتك مع نفسك اولا ثم مع الناس لمستوى اعمق من الصدق
الصدق هو المنجى الوحيد اللى ممكن يخليك تدخل فى علاقة حقيقية علاقة تقلل من و
Maria Montemayor
why am i afraid to tell you who i am? i am afraid to tell you who i am, because, if i tell you who i am, you may not like who i am, and it's all that i have... ― john powell
Apr 08, 2014 Beshoo rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: pdf, favorites, psychology
هناك قاعدة تكاد تكون عامة و هى ان الانانية فى الانسان تكاد توازى مقدار الالم عندة .. انها مسالة اهتمام و قدرتنا على الاهتمام محدودة .. و الالم يخرب الانسان و يحقرة
Hady Nabil
Mar 01, 2016 Hady Nabil rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
كتاب عميق شيق، يأخذك في رحلة داخل أعماق النفس البشرية. مع كل صفحة تقرأها، تشعر بأن بصيرتك تزداد استنارة، والغشاوة تسقط من عينيك، و تتكشف أمامك حقيقة نفسك.
Nov 23, 2014 Rose rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lots of pretty great fundamental concepts in this, although in certain places I felt like it might not be organized the best, and could do with fleshing some of the things out with more details and examples.

I found a lot of these concepts to be really useful for thinking about how I relate to others.

I would recommend to some, but I feel like there is a lot more that could be done with these ideas.
Abd Ellatif Farahat
كتيب خفيف، بسيط، ولكن دسم، بمعنى كل سطر منه لها معنى،
فكرته الرئيسية: لا تختبئ، لا تخبئ نفسك، بل عبر- بالتبادل- عن نفسك فكرا وعواطفا مع من تثق به ويثق به، فتنموا سويا.. دعوة لخلع الاقنعة، والكف عن ان تكون غير ذاتك او ان تداريها بطرق دفاعية او بشخصية حيلية، فما تستفيده من هذا لا شئ سوى فقدان ذاتك وميوعتها ووحدتها.
لم اكن عاشقا للكتب اللي بتتكلم عن النفس و الذات و في بداية معرفتي بالكاتب و كتبه، اعتقدت انه كتاب تنمية بشرية آخر، و لكن هذا الكتاب و هذا الكاتب، بيغوصوا جواك و بيعرفوك عن نفسك كتير، must read
Aug 16, 2013 Daniel rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: cnv
Li esse livro em complemento ao estudo sobre a Comunicação Não Violenta. Complementa e aprofunda o trabalho de Marshal Rosenberg sobre a CNV, que John Powell chama de comunicação plena ou profunda. No capítulo Lidando com as Emoções afirma que, além de aceitas, investigadas e relatadas, as emoções devem estar integradas à vontade e ao intelecto do ser humano. Por exemplo, posso sentir raiva, aceitá-la e expressá-la, mas também devo submeter minha reação à essa raiva aos meus valores e conceitos. ...more
Mar 20, 2016 Heba rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: category2
This book nailed most of my intrapersonal conflicts and got me depressed for a while..! Reading it, I think, would be saving me a lot of mess (and misery) in the future, that's why I'd recommend it to everyone..
Youanna Nabil
Sep 03, 2015 Youanna Nabil rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
جدد ثورتي الداخلية علي كل العلاقات المزيفة و الاحاديث التافهة و كل اشباه العلاقات اللي في حياتي ... لمستني جدا قواعد الاتصال الحميم، و سرني اسلوب الكاتب القوي و المؤثر و السلس .. يستحق القراءة :)))
Maria Dolores
May 25, 2016 Maria Dolores rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great book, it helped to understand some things much more better and from a different point of view.
Gadiel Gascon
a gift from a friend.
Jan 13, 2016 Zane rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
How do you read the books
Feb 27, 2014 Justin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: required, dnf
For Psych class!
Looked good from the 50 pgs that I read during the 1 week we were required to read a self help book
Aug 13, 2008 Tajsha rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
A friend of mine wanted me to read this book because she was going through some tough stuff at the time. It really helped to shed light on why she did some things that seem inexplicable and out of character for the person that I knew.
I realized that she used this book as a way to open up about some "stuff" that she had been wanting to tell me but did not know how to start. I guess she thought that I would not be her friend after she shared her secrets.
We are better and closer friends than ever
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