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Restless Virgins

2.78  ·  Rating Details ·  561 Ratings  ·  111 Reviews

An honest, intimate look at the lives of today's teens—told through the true experiences of friends at a New England prep school

Established in 1798, Milton Academy has a proud history of achievement. It has educated artists and CEOs; it has produced a long line of distinguished scholars and dignitaries; and it has shepherded students through the world of high-pressure ac

Kindle Edition, 354 pages
Published (first published 2007)
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Aug 13, 2008 Sarah rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book was horrible. As a Milton Academy alum, I'm more ashamed of the quality of writing that went into this book (written by MA alums), than I am of what went on. I couldn't even finish the book, it was that bad. Talk about a waste of a good opportunity to expose the current state of American high schoolers in relation to sex. Womp.
Mar 29, 2008 Meredith rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: eh-not-so-good
Female students at Milton Academy give way too much head, I would like to have seen more background on the girl who gave the infamous lockerroom "head"; and the five boys who received said "head". But instead we got way too much info on a handful of other students, and no real contemplative input on whether these activities have been going on since, say, the authors themselves were at Milton, AND has it really changed since, AND how about every other New England prep school, is this the currency ...more
Daniel Sheerin
Jan 14, 2008 Daniel Sheerin rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
As I was once a restless virgin at a New England prep school, I thought this book would be interesting. It is not. I'm so glad I didn't hang out with the norms. Norms are so incredibly boring, not even scandalous blowjobs could keep my attention. Correction, not even a lamely written book about scandalous blowjobs could keep my attention. I'm not a TOTAL weirdo.
Oct 25, 2007 Monica rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: people who find Gossip Girls shocking but still continue to read them
Shelves: 2007, nonfiction
Ugh. Uninspired expose about spoiled rotten prep school kids, written by grown up prep school kids. Lots and lots of florid descriptions of the underground high school sex scene. Don't bother.
Somehow I missed the whole Milton Academy sex scandal that occurred in 2005. After the incident (that apparently made national news), two Milton grads attempted to uncover the sex lives of Milton students, what the scandal means, and what teenagers are really doing. They write about four girls and three boys who were seniors at the time of the scandal. Milton is one of the oldest prep schools in the nation and reeks of old money and entitlement. Therefore, the scandal was shocking. To most peopl ...more
I'm constantly fascinated by how much (and yet at the same time how little) has changed since I was in high school in the early 90s. Sure, people had sex in high school but it almost always occured when people were in monogomous relationships. Of course we went to parties and experimented with alcohol and drugs. But random sex encounters were rare and were looked down on as something that occured between people who didn't respect themselves.

From what I understand, the stories in this book are no
Jan 26, 2010 Jess rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010
What did the authors intend with this book? Did they want to titillate? Scandalize? Make some sort of social statement? Cater to the Gossip Girl-watching crowd?

As a prep school alum, I can certainly believe the events of the book transpired more or less as described. But I can't figure out what purpose the authors thought they'd serve. Much attention is paid to girls who reduce themselves to objects in the hope that male attention of any kind will gain them the respect of their peers, but in th
Dec 30, 2007 Leanne rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
A vile book. Trashy, poorly written. Certainly some truth to the stories, and a realistic look at privileged youth, but a book that I was embarrassed to read in public. It was written by spoiled rich kids, about spoiled rich kids, who thought that their story was the most important one in the world, when, in truth, this story was in and out of the papers, and the locals' minds, right after it happened.

The only time I have ever given unsolicited advice in a book store was when I saw a woman pick
Jul 31, 2010 Lize rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I have no idea what draws me to keep reading about what happens at prep schools, unless it's my deep-seated working-class longing to press my grubby face against the window and peer in at these golden gods and goddesses, who truly do run the world. Whatever.

It's partially an account of the "Milton Scandal", which I'd never heard of--back in 2005, five hockey players were expelled from Milton Academy in Massachusetts for receiving oral sex in the locker room [en masse:] from a 15 year-old female
Susan Bazzett-griffith
1.5 stars. A few years ago, I read Anita Shreve's Testimony and loved it- found it fascinating and horrifying and just really gripping. I saw this book, realized it was about the true story that Shreve pulled inspiration from for her novel, and decided I must read it. Unfortunately, it was pretty bad. I would actually give it only one star, BUT it kept me interested enough to keep reading and I usually reserve one star ratings for books I either can't finish or truly don't want to finish, so tha ...more
May 25, 2015 Stephanie rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Why did I read this whole book? I thought that it was going to go somewhere, that there would be some point to it. Sadly, I didn't find that, and I wish I had listened to earlier reviews and skipped the book altogether.

It was educational to hear about the cultural and social norms at a New England prep school. It's sad to hear how easily young girls are letting themselves be, even begging to be, used sexually by older boys. It would be one thing if they felt affection for these boys, or even see
Nov 21, 2007 Katherine rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone
So I'm on this kick with immersion journalism. I read all the ones about sororities and college and private school. there wasn't any reason for me not to read this one. I actually hadn't heard about the Milton scandal before.

This book is about something terrible that happened at Milton academy.things are about to get a little explicit here, in case you can't handle it.

From what I read, the whole school was somehow involved in things getting to the point they got to. Girls were giving boys every
Jun 14, 2010 Erin rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book was relatively redundant. If you have been a student or a teacher (or both) at an elite prep school in the past decade or so, none of the information presented in the book will shock you. If you read the Boston Globe around the time the story broke, you are probably familiar with the general details about what happened during the 2004-2005 school year at Milton Academy. That is not to say that similar inappropriate behavior did not happen in years prior or years since - only that the s ...more
Aug 27, 2009 Nancy rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
An interesting but disturbing look inside the sexual and social choices of boarding school teenagers. A "true" story set at Milton Academy during the 2005 hockey team incident involving five sophomore and junior boys and a freshman girl. If the stories told are remotely true, then things have really, frighteningly changed since I was in high school...
Jan 07, 2008 Meera rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was like reading an episode of the OC or Gossip Girl.. except MORE! This is the true life story of the students that were rocked by the scandal at Milton prep school, and I have to say that I felt like my teenage years were very innocent in comparison. Pretty scary stuff if this is what kids today get up to.....
Aug 24, 2007 Courtney rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
While the book was fascinating with its lurid accounts of extreme high school sex, I feel it might not have earned its categorization of "sociology." The authors make only pallid overtures at linking the stories of this particular high school class with any larger social issue, of which there were many to choose from. Though titillating, it misses its potential.
Jan 15, 2008 Mary rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I started reading this and couldn't get through it. Got 150 pages in and still no "event." In addition, the writing was so poor I sometimes had to read sentences several times to figure out what the authors were trying to say. Very disappointing indeed.
Dec 30, 2011 Amanda rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This is the book that never climaxes. There's a joke in here somewhere.
Tiny Pants
I was very, very close to giving this book 4 stars, but in the end I went with three. While it turned out to be a total page-turner and reasonably well-written (much more so than I expected, which was why this had lingered on my bookshelf for months only to then be consumed in under three days), there was one big thing I didn't love about it: There's basically zero analysis here.

On the one hand, we could argue (and I'm certain the authors would argue) that this is a good thing. Their teenage su
Dec 20, 2010 Nicola rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: teen, non-fiction
Restless Virgins is a soapy, compelling read about a number of prep school seniors. It’s basically the literary equivalent of MTV’s “Laguna Beach”, but it nonetheless captures something relevant about the high school experience in the 21st century.

Restless has been pitched quite obviously as the “real life” version of Curtis Sittenfeld’s best-selling Prep. The difference between the two books is immense, however. Sittenfeld conjures a narrative that cuts much deeper than the usual high school dr
Oct 07, 2009 Sara rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I was looking forward to a thought-provoking, fascinating book. Instead what I read was a tasteless "expose". It was boring. And sex scandals are rarely boring. (Then again I didn't find the Milton scandal, altogether that scandalous...)
I would have enjoyed it more had they chosen to explore the story from the perspective of 'Zoe' (she was the fifteen year old Milton student, who brought statutory rape charges against five other Milton boys).
The student body seemed to believe that there should h
Nov 12, 2013 David rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
centerpiece incident, which I only very dimly remember but apparently was in the national news at the time, is 2005 case in which 5 boys from Milton Academy in Massachusetts (part boarding, part day student prep school) received oral sex from one underage girl. Authors are young women who graduated from Milton, though not in the same class as the kids focused on here.

They don't actually have new info on the main incident and apparently didn't get to interview in any depth any of the kids involve
Sara Parker
Dec 23, 2008 Sara Parker rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this book up a couple times at bookstores because of the intriguing title..but always put it back thinking, "eh...its about high school kids and I've been out of high school for a little while now." This last time i decided, what the hell, and bought it. I was pleasantly surprised, it was pretty good. I suppose some things have changed since I graduated in 01...I don't remember sex being so casual among the majority, but I suppose I went to a small town type of high school. I wonder if ...more
Jul 14, 2008 Liz rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: education
This book was extremely alarming and graphic. Two Milton Academy alumnae return to interview five students after the hockey sex scandal. It's a definite page-turner but not very well written. It reads like a teenage smut novel, rather than ethnography.
The detailed sex encounters are not what is shocking, I feel like it goes on everywhere. It is the lack of self respect and self esteem exhibited by each of the girls represented in the novel. Sex acts are performed in order to gain popularity and
Jul 12, 2009 Sarah rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
In 2005, Milton Academy, a private school outside of Boston, was at the center of a sex scandal. In this book, the authors tell the stories of some of the students who were seniors at the time the scandal broke and explore how this breeding ground for the upper echelon could be at the center of something so debased.

Or I guess that's what this book was supposed to be about. This was not terribly well-done. The authors basically just present us with the lives of a number of students, none of which
I read this book piecemeal because I kept getting bored while reading. Probably more of an issue with having it be the 'bedside reading' more than anything wrong with the book itself.

Since the book is written in short chunks split between different students and different events it was easy to get through, though a little confusing when read over a long period of time. Again, more a fault of my reading than anything the authors did.

There wasn't much revealed in this that I didn't expect. I didn't
From the moment I checked this book out under the raised eyebrow of the librarian, I was challenged to recall those socially-obsessive years of high school. I heard an interview of the authors on a podcast and thought I might want to learn more. At first it seems this book presents a very sad dilemma for girls- be promiscuous and buoy your self-esteem with social acceptance or be virginal and filled with self-doubt and isolation. Towards the end it moves away from such a simple dichotomy, but it ...more
Anna Engel
Part sensationalistic journalism, part melodramatic revisionism, part (dare I say it?) sociological study, "Restless Virgins" is the story of Milton Academy's 2005 senior class. The authors, were are Milton Academy graduates themselves, seem to revel in their inside knowledge about the school, its traditions and history, and the supposedly secret lives of American teenagers at a boarding school. No one should be shocked that teens have lustful thoughts and that some of them act upon those desire ...more
Jessica Shaw
Mar 06, 2015 Jessica Shaw rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
So many issues with this book. I was instantly intrigued by the Milton Academy scandal in 2005, as I grew up and went to a wealthy high school in Maine where hockey was one of the most popular sports. I also graduated in 2005 but did not remember hearing anything about this situation. I have always been enjoyed reading about real life cases and was interested to see what students who went to milton felt about the incident and punishments. Unfortunately this book really lacked much information. Y ...more
Sara Pauff
In spite of what the book jacket copy conveys, the plot of this book really doesn't have much to do with the 2005 sex scandal at Milton Academy. There are no interviews or first person accounts with any of the students involved. Instead, the book focuses on the lives of a group of seniors who only hear about the incidents and details their dating lives. Older generations might be shocked by the sex habits of these teenagers, but the parts of the book that really stuck with me were the descriptio ...more
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