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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved

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A guide to making the ultimate relationship decision from the author of Why Does He Do That? In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward-with or without their partners.

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Paperback, 432 pages
Published November 1st 2011 by Berkley (first published March 1st 2011)
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This book is really for people experiencing abuse, especially those who may not realize that it is/was abuse but know that something is definitely wrong. I will say there are some biases in this book - such as the default assumption that most abusers are men (maybe this is true?). On the other hand, this book hits many nails straight on the head. I found it very helpful.
Terrah Mayes
This book is more about you finding and nurturing yourself, setting clear boundaries and learning to love yourself as your best friend. It's not so much about hating your batterer as much as it is about honoring and loving yourself. Great book!
This was the best book I read ever on deciding on leaving a relationship or staying. I'd give it 10 stars if I could.
This book is definitely geared towards aiding women rather than being a book about relationships in general. It will help you establish boundaries and support you in doing so. The assumption is that you're talking about a deeply distressed relationship struggling with the likes of addiction, physical and/or emotional abuse or mental disorders.

The book has some great discussions about what a healthy relationship looks like and is really great at encouraging you to feel that you should have a heal
Laurice Grae-Hauck
You love him when he is nice to you and wish that it could always be like that. But sometimes he is cruel and may even be physically abusive. Is it time to get out of this relationship or is the abuse too much? Another great one by Lundy Bancroft that can help you sort through the mess of your troubled relationship to decide if it is worth sticking around or if it is time to get out.
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this was a very exciting boo.I would recommend it to my class
Very thorough, non-judgmental. Either my standards have completely slipped or I've been on a roll with good self-help books lately. Good, realistic thoughts for staying or leaving.
this is a horrible book and may have ended my relationship
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Lundy Bancroft is an author, workshop leader, and consultant on domestic abuse and child maltreatment. His best known book is Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (first published in 2002). With 20 years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families, he is a former co-director of Emerge, the first counseling program in the United Stat ...more
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