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How We Love Our Kids: The Five Love Styles of Parenting

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One Small Change in How You Love
One Big Change in your Kids

Having problems with your kids? What if you are the problem and you just can’t see it? How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love. It’s the only book specifically for parents that reveals the unseen forces that shape every in
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Paperback, 304 pages
Published March 15th 2011 by WaterBrook Press
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Meganjenk
This is one of the best Christian parenting books I've read, in that it steers you away from "teach your kids obedience so they will also obey God!" and more toward an empathetic, compassionate relationship. In short, more like secular parenting books that are more based on psychology and social science on emotional intelligence than literal interpretation of a few Bible passages. I learned more about myself, and was definitely inspired to change some of the ways I love my kids, especially the w ...more
W
Jul 19, 2012 W rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: arc, 2012-read
This book takes a look at some of the dysfunctions parents may have that might be keeping them from having healthy, loving relationships with their children, and may in turn negatively impact their children's future families as well. The book is divided into four parts, each which explore different personality types and try to help parents figure out how best to help their child where he or she is at.

Part 1, which seems like the bulk content of the book, on which everything else is based, chall
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Laura
Title: HOW WE LOVE OUR KIDS
Authors: Milan & Kay Yerkovich
Publisher: Waterbrook Press
March 2011
ISBN: 978-0307729248
Genre: Parenting

One Small Change in How You Love
One Big Change in your Kids

Having problems with your kids? What if you are the problem and you just can’t see it? How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love. It’s the only book specifically for parents that reveals the unseen forces that shape
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Aadel Bussinger
If you are familiar with the Five Love Languages, this book is similar except that the love styles seem to focus more of the dysfunction of families rather than just personality type. The idea is that no family is perfect and the way we love is directly related to the family dynamic that we grew up in.

I liked this book, I really did. However, there were a few things that bothered me. I wish the authors had used more scripture to back up some of their observations on love styles. It seemed that t
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Tori
I am always intrigued by parenting books because there really are so many different love styles. As parents we all have our individual methods of raising our children. One thing we don't really focus on is the fact that our children's behavior may not be due to them but rather due to us. Not to say that we come from dysfunctional families, but rather pointing out that no matter how we realize it our past sometimes repeats in our future. A great example is how when we are young we may tell oursel ...more
Melissa Roach
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One Small Change in How You Love
One Big Change in your Kids

Having problems with your kids? What if you are the problem and you just can’t see it? How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love. It’s the only book specifically for parents that reveals the unseen forces that shape every interaction with your kids.

Identify which of the five love styles you have.
Discover the surprising dynamics that sha
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Cathy Doman
I am so glad I received this book for free through Goodreads First Reads! Reading this book, I learned so much that will help me be a better parent. Milan and Kay Yerkovich explained the 5 different love styles of parenting, how the way we parent usually reflects the way we were parented. They showed ways to overcome specific challenges we all face, based on our own love style, and ways to change for the better. If we understand ourselves, and take care of our own challenges first, we are better ...more
Angela
I found the first part of this book to be rather depressing in that it breaks down each person's emotional style into one of five types, and then goes on to describe how each type is damaging to their child. Not very uplifting!

The later parts go on to describe different types of children, and how best to interact with them. This is what I had been hoping to get out of the book, and I felt much better as a parent and more empowered after reading through to the end.

I have been looking for books
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Rheta Thola
Great book. Actually learned more about myself and my childhood than I did about "parenting" methods. However the premise of the book is about choosing to address your need to heal and grow and how that affects your parenting. So true! Very enjoyable and easy read with providing absolute practical ideas. Love the "toolkit" in the back that provides different "soul words" to use when talking with your kids, and different ways to engage your kids in conversations. Also very smart in breaking down ...more
Gina
Really loved this book.
Jonida
Jan 10, 2014 Jonida added it
Extremely interesting and well written. No one realizes the importance of emotionally training your children to be aware not only of their feelings but also of others and know how to properly care for them both. This book teaches to recognize personalities in children and yourself, and give you a battleplan on how to raise emotionally intelligent adults. Loved it !
Lisa Vu
Excellent read for parents. Provides insight into how family or origin shapes our parenting style. A perfect opportunity to take a look into our own hearts and see specific areas where we need God's guidance and healing in order to replace reactive parenting (via personal issues) with a healthy, godly love for our children.
Crystal Green
This was another great parenting book. This book helps a parent to understand "HOW" they love their kids. We all have our unique ways of parenting, and this book definitely helps point out the pros and cons of each type of style. To read more about my review go to http://www.tidbitsofexperience.com .
Alaina Maxam
THIS IS A VERY GOOD BOOK. IT DEFINITELY GAVE ME SOME GOOD IDEAS. EVEN THOUGH MY CHILDREN ARE ALL GROWN AND OUT OF THE HOME THE THINGS I LEARNED FROM THIS BOOK CAN STILL BE USED.
Heather
I learned a lot about myself as a parent, very interesting book.
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