Avoid the booty call blues and get the love -- and sex -- you deserve Come on. Admit it. He may not be that into you, but were you ever really tha...
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Nov 20, 2009
Julie
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Any guy who writes a book titled, "She Comes First," must know what he's talking about, and that appears to be the case here. It's kind of sad to admit that a lot of what Kerner discusses in this book is spot on. We have lowered our standards. We do tend to settle for the "in the meantime," rather than be alone.
Some takeaway quotes:
- What is the point of dating someone if he doesn't make you feel great?
- What is the point of casual sex if the sex pa More...
Some takeaway quotes:
- What is the point of dating someone if he doesn't make you feel great?
- What is the point of casual sex if the sex pa More...
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May 24, 2009
Cathryn
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This book seems like it was written from the viewpoint of a different generation. I am mid-twenties, but the book seems to be geared towards women in their mid-thirties. I've never had any of the relationships he talks about in this book. If a guy is not into me, or I am not into him, there just simply isn't a relationship. Where are these guys that will date you even if they're not into you? And he doesn't even discuss "meantime" relationships where you can see other people. I guess I
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Mar 04, 2009
rebekah
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I am surprised I had never heard of this little love self help gem before...But it crossed my circulation desk last week and I thought, oh this is just what I need to read! I rather like being single but sometimes...well a girl get lonely. It was a little disconcerting to see many of my behaviors written in black and white...but I enjoyed the breezy casual style and I did finish the book in a place of hope, not a place of despair. I recommend this book for all my single ladies!
Jul 28, 2011
Stacy
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I can't say enough about how much I love this book. I read it after I got out of a bad relationship (one in a string of many, I am sorry to say) and it really illuminated the patterns I was falling into and why I kept making the same relationship mistakes again and again. I loved this book so much that I actually tracked down the email address of the author and thanked him for this book. I can't say enough good things about it!
Oct 18, 2008
Birgit
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I enjoyed this self-help book. It's a quick read and the titles are explicit enough that you can easily skip the chapters that clearly don't apply to you ("you're not that into him, but you slept with him anyway because you want to have sex like a man"--yeah, I spend my Friday nights watching Ghost Whisperer...I'm not likely to have a one night stand anytime soon.) I gave it only three stars, however, because sometimes the advice confused me. Like any romantic advice book the author gi
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Aug 14, 2011
Jaclyn
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I liked this book. Kerner offers encouraging advice to those of us trying to navigate the tricky world of dating and trying to figure out who and what we want. I wish this wasn't a library book b/c I would love to have it to refer back to from time to time when I feel a little discouraged with dating and all it's complications. I may need to go buy myself a copy...
Dec 04, 2008
Hillary
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I have to admit, I liked this book better than "He's Just Not That Into You". This book was more about realizing the reasons you do what you do when it comes to guys; coming to terms with why you shouldn't lower your standards; and how to deal with it all.
Aug 01, 2011
Kristen
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great response to he's just not that into you. funny how women work. we want so badly to have that fairytale love we'll do anything to convince ourselves we've found it. LOL
Feb 12, 2008
Chriss
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Playing off of the popular series, "He's not that into you", this book tried to take it to the next step more from the woman going out and getting what she wants. But I didn't agree with going out and "having sex like a man" because they make it sound like casual, one night stands are okay. Maybe for some women, but not all. I personally don't think that is the answer for finding love but some of the points were well taken and the author uses his own experience meeting his
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Feb 11, 2009
Becky
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This wasn't as funy as "He's Just Not That Into You," and I was really hoping it would be. But it was an interesting read, at times.
May 18, 2009
Sasha
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I really like this book. It was a good companion book to "He's Just Not that Into You". It is basically about not lowering your standards.
May 17, 2009
Nimave
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I found this an enjoyable and interesting book with lots of new and funny facts to learn and a good message behind it.
May 15, 2009
Another great book, very informative and funny. This is a book I will continue to read forever also.
Oct 08, 2011
Nerida
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i liked "hes just not that into you" better. kinda just re-iterating the same thing
Aug 04, 2011
Nerida
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i liked "hes just not that into you" better. kinda just re-iterating the same thing
Sep 17, 2009
Christy
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nothing like breaking up with someone right before v-day and finding comfort in a book.
Jul 08, 2009
Symya
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This is a pretty good read. It is not as good as one would think it is.
Oct 19, 2007
Jennifer
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I admit to having a streak of vicious hatred in my heart for the seeming hundreds of thousands of books dedicated to women who, sheeplike, continue to adore men who are genetically inferior to pond algae. "Women Who Love Men Who Hate Them", "He Doesn't Love Me, But I Stand By My Man", "He's Not that Into You". I am weary of self-help books to begin with, but these just make me sick.
This one amused me.
This one amused me.
Feb 13, 2008
Rachel
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Author wrote this book as a counter balance to He's Just Not That Into You ... some snippets...women can't actually have sex like men because a woman's brain chemistry is different (attach). men have feelings too. Respect yourself and stop lowering your standards. Overall the book was pretty empty. His and his wife's story at the end is kind of sweet, the most worthwhile thing in the book.
Feb 14, 2008
So yes I am a huge cheese ball but this book is great - I am actually reading it for the second time (don't worry, its short)...really only applies to my single friends (if they exist) but it is an awesome book. NOTHING like the other book that recently came out - How you can tell a guy is into you? or whatever it was...anyway, love it and HIGHLY recommend it to anyone that is single!
Aug 24, 2008
Sarah Beth
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ugh oh god, i really did read this book, though by the end, i was down to about 10 words a page. i, um, do not recommend it, though it was good fodder for conversation. Also, i am currently doing 100% of the things the book told me not to. Am not raising my standards, am not reaching for the love i deserve, am mostly hoping for the best.
Oct 27, 2007
Oi Yin
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In the aftermath of the break up of a pseudo-relationship, I felt the need to read something that would put things in perspective. It was a fun read. I don't know that it did much to alleviate the mixed emotions I was dealing with but it did provide a bit of common sense and a bit of levity. Unfortunately it was lost on me.
Jan 02, 2011
Amber
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A breeze but insightful. A lot of the things that we all know but need to be reminded of every once in awhile about dating when you go through some of the tougher times of that dating cycle.
I may be a bit biased because I see Dr. Kerner as a correspondent for my new station, but nonetheless, I like what he has to say.
I may be a bit biased because I see Dr. Kerner as a correspondent for my new station, but nonetheless, I like what he has to say.
Jul 09, 2008
Beth
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Much better than "He's Just Not That Into You."
It actually deals with why women languish in relationships when we *know* it isn't the one...
Kinda empowering. He totally encourages women to do what they need to in the moment, while being cognizant of potential trip-ups.
Also very funny.
It actually deals with why women languish in relationships when we *know* it isn't the one...
Kinda empowering. He totally encourages women to do what they need to in the moment, while being cognizant of potential trip-ups.
Also very funny.
Sep 17, 2008
Amy
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This book is full of drawn out generalizations and pointless exercises but enmeshed in the text are a few enlightening isights about men and women in relationships. It's a quick read so I think its worth thumbing through the boring stuff to the more insightful parts.
May 29, 2008
Tara
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While I will always look to Greg Behrendt for advice about relationships first, Ian Kerner does offer some good insight into dating. The book isnt as witty or humorous as He's Just Not That Into You, but overall it was an uplifting book that made me think.
