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The Velveteen Father: An Unexpected Journey to Parenthood

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A beautifully written memoir about a gay man becoming an adoptive parent, "The Velveteen Father" goes right to the heart of the question of what it means to have children and what it means to be an adult.
Paperback, 256 pages
Published May 2nd 2000 by Ballantine Books (first published May 11th 1999)
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Nov 20, 2013 Rachel rated it liked it
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I bought this for a friend, but decided that I should read it before giving just in case it turned out to be terrible. The topics involved were serious, after all, so it didn't seem like a book to give lightly.
At first, I was worried. The first part of the book is okay, but meanders a lot. The second part piles word upon word without furthering the story or clarifying anything. I feel bad for putting it that way, but I was 100 pages in and uncomfortably wondering what else I could find my friend
May 30, 2009 Melissa rated it really liked it
The title drew me in, it is genius. This book was so beautifully written. It is the story of a man, who falls in love with another man who happens to be the newly adoptive father of a baby. So the relationship progresses, and the author, who never intended to become a father, learns how fatherhood comes to "make him real" and helps fulfill his life. The story in and of itself is not terribly original, it is just one man's account of a chapter in his life, but it is so beautifully written that I ...more
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My mom gave me this book a long time ago when I moved to Brooklyn. It's a memoir by a gay man and his trek into parenthood through adoption. I enjoyed the topic and anecdotes on his two sons, but some of the writing was dry and overly high falutin, so I wouldn't exactly call it a pleasure read. It's probably best for someone who is about to embark on, or has embarked on adoption. Thank goodness books like this exist though.
An intelligent, touching, and funny memoir of the author and his partner Andy becoming fathers when Andy adopts two sons. I enjoyed the dynamic between introverted writer Jesse and outgoing teacher Andy.
Mar 19, 2010 Yeva rated it it was ok
Finally had to stop on this one for awhile. Just too meandering, and I wanted to read their story, but so much was just opinion--not story.
Jul 31, 2008 Joe rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of my favorite books. I read this during a time of intense parental urges. It made me want to be a father.
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