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Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction

3.84 of 5 stars 3.84  ·  rating details  ·  763 ratings  ·  69 reviews
Allan and Barbara Pease, the international bestselling authors of Why Men Don’t Listen & Women Can’t Read Maps, deliver their most exciting book yet.

Will men and women ever see eye-to-eye about love and sex? How will relationships ever be rewarding if men only want to rush into bed and women want to rush to the altar? In this practical, witty and down-to-earth guide, c
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Published January 12th 2010 by Harmony (first published 2000)
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I think this is an essentialist worthless book and an epic piece of trash.
Simply repackages stereotypes that are palatable to "traditional" Western values.

Tries to prove through pseudoscience (aka bad evolutionary psychology) how ALL men are horndogs who are always ready for sex, and how women who actually enjoy casual sex must be damaged (have self-esteem issues) or been masculine (have high testosterone) and how men ONLY do *anything* for women ever as brownie points for sex, and how women are
Mike Smith
According to the authors, our attitudes towards sex and love are strongly influenced by our basic evolutionary history and biological needs. Men can't be sure that any given baby is theirs (the book says that studies show that about 10% of children born to married couples are not the husbands' biological children), so they are driven to have sex with as many women as possible to have a reasonable chance of fathering children. Women, on the other hand, know exactly which babies are theirs since t ...more
Shirin Abdel Rahman
I am a Big fan to all Allan and Barbra Pease books but this one is so far my favorite and here is why:
This book is not a dating book so ladies do not expects strategies about how to get a Diamond ring or to find Mr Right also men wont find advices about how to get laid!!
This book is more like Mars and Venus series part for men and part for women so it is not a girly book at all.
Nowadays a woman can be a lawyer,engineer and even a president and a Defense Minster,so you can study like a man,eat li
Just in the style of its title, the book establishes its theme in a very simple and direct manner. It stresses repeatedly that the two sexes behave almost completely differently, due to their biological and psychological "hard wiring", which has not changed from primitive humans to civilized ones.

Since the authors are not formally trained scholars (not much reputation is at risk), one obvious question is how much this book can be trusted. As I only listened to the audio book I could not see the
Mia Queen

Heboh juga judul buku yang saya jadikan buku non fiksi untuk posting bareng #BBI bulan November. Sama seperti bicara soal cinta, berbicara hubungan pria dan wanita sepertinya memang tidak ada habisnya. Buku karangan sepasang suami istri Allan Pease dan Barbara Pease mengungkapkan akan apa sebenarnya yang diinginkan kaum pria dan wanita dalam suatu hubungan. Didasari dengan penelitian dan riset, mereka mencoba mencari jawaban dari apa itu cinta? Apakah benar pria lebih tertarik dengan seks
I liked and enjoyed reading it. It focused on The scientific and biological basis of human relations; love, attraction, sex, ... How: our brains and hormones act and interact inside and reflected outside in our actions.
Very interesting. Though, I don't like the way it covers human relations in a very practical way ignoring but even bluntly denying that mystical relation that turns on flame. I believe, the issue is spiritually followed by chemical then biological Interactions.
Also, I believe th
Took a longer time to finish this book because it is not the usual genre I read. I like the book though. Although it is criticized for only analyzing love from the aspect of science and not a bit from the aspect of emotion, I think it is a good read. The facts are really based on scientific research and papers. There's nothing wrong to learn a little bit more. Plus the comics and little jokes in the book are cute and funny. Just don't take it too seriously and you will find yourself reading a ve ...more
WTF?! Crazy book filled with stereotypical talk and even sexist remarks? (and no it's not because I don't have a sense of honour) so that's saying something

While I gave this book 2 stars - only based on what lil thing I found useful about the book - sharing some scientific research behind some of what the author covered - but really should be 1 start of not ZERO STARS

- really the advice is actually terribly dangerous because the method it's being taught as is based on the idea that YOUR partner
Void lon iXaarii
It certainly is a delightfully politically incorrect book, with each chapter told alternatively from the male/female perspective it certainly is probably a hard to digest book for many, but for those who can take it there's some really good info in there. Also as a bonus there's a shocking amount of surprisingly subtle humor (even to unexpectedly socially rare points).
Jintong Shi
Great book.

From my observation, I can find some correlations. And there are some interesting facts. Like 7 years itch theory. Because humans need nearly 6 years to get to a status of minimal self survival, while for other animals, it is a matter of weeks.

And after intercourse, pregnancy, laboring, and raising to 6 years, it's roughly 7 years.

So 7 years is more about biology.

And there is one thing, to be remembered, for women, chocolate has magic effect, the book said the effect of chocolate on
Fernando Delfim
“Fiquei seis meses sem falar com minha mulher só pra não a interromper”

Com um excelente sentido de humor e suportado cientificamente consegue-se compreender as causas e consequências genéticas das diferenças de reacções entre homens e mulheres.

“Marido que ensina a mulher a dirigir está a caminho de uma ação de divórcio”

“O casal está deitado na cama. Ele, silencioso, concentra o olhar no teto. Ela pensa, aflita:
- Provavelmente nem sabe que existo… Acho que não gosta mais de mim… Será que está se
OK book to quickly breeze through, but wouldn't base a romantic relationship on this book. However, it does provide some insight on the way both genders view both relationships and non-relationships.
Anintya Novitasari
Unfortunately, this book contain the 'west people' point of view. So there are several things that different with the condition in Indonesia and it can't be applied.
Juliette (Ladybug)
buku ini bagus sekali, mengisahkan isi kepala dn kemauan laki-laki pada perempuan, dan mengisahkan perbedaan sex laki-laki dan perempuan

kalian must read!
Wil Roese
Mar 03, 2011 Wil Roese rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Shallow people
This book is a little shallow in that it only looks at the biological aspects of love and totally ignores the spiritual aspects. It also downplays friendship. While friendship is mentioned as one of the seven types of love, it is not mentioned in the three phases of love. This may be the way a most relationships actually happen but it is also the problem with most relationships. When there in no real friendship in the beginning than there is nothing remaining after the passion is gone.

I did, how
This book is a mixed bag. On the one hand, it seems to be a collection the conventional wisdom on gender difference backed up by evolutionary biology / psychology pseudoscience. And yet, there is a reason why conventional wisdom has developed and not all the science is junk. I think this can be a useful book in understand the general inclinations of many people. There are some unfortunately tendencies described in this book which I think are common among men and women. I think learning about the ...more
Wieder ein neues Buch der Erfolgsautoren Allan und Barbara Pease. Diesmal widmen sie sich dem Thema, das am meisten Stress zwischen den Geschlechtern erzeugt: Sex.
Gestützt auf wissenschaftliche Studien (die im Anhang zum nachlesen wissenschaftlich korrekt gelistet sind) untersuchen sie, warum die Menschheit die einzige Art ist, die bei der Partnersuche Probleme hat. Dabei werden Klischees, die bisher eher auf Erfahrungen begründet waren durch wissenschaftliche Fakten und Messungen belegt und unt
I think this book is the best ( meaning it has every concept ) from the entire series these authors wrote on this topic.
I agree that somethings might be considered by some people ( male or female ) challenging and maybe a little offensive, but the theory behind has enough qualities to be regarded as being a good approximation of the reality.
The language is very accessible and every few pages there are some small jokes.
One advice before reading this book: position yourself in a mindset of a sci
John Gurney
A pleasant surprise find! This book uses evolutionary biology and myriad academic studies to look at male-female relationships. Be forewarned, this book is about how people really act and what really motivates them, not necessarily what religious or politically correct people wish to be the case. The narrative style is amusing, even whimsical.
Sonali Bora
Entertaining and enlightening. Explains that love is after all, a chemically induced reaction in the brain. Answers a few questions and raises some more.
A recommended read for all women who wonder why men have only 1 thing on their mind, or men who wonder why women can never understand it.
Πέτρος Παπαγεωργίου
If one accepts the science and research backing this book up, the book is very good and informative. Do i have any doubts? not really but as all books of the same kind they tend to generalize... Other than that I would say, very well written, and definitley the kind of book that can help couples understand each other better... In fact I suggest, once read, it would be good to dip into it every now then in order to remind each other what to do and how to deal with problems...

A good book!
Это одна из тех книг, про которые можно сказать "Начали за здравие, а кончили за упокой". Первые несколько глав были интересными, открывали много нового, но начиная с середины повествование стало "жидким". Новая информвция почти отсутствовала, постоянно присутствовали идентичные с другими главами абзацы из разряда copy-paste, что было не очень приятным и испортило впечатление о книге. Казалось, что авторам нечего сказать, но при этом установлено количество необходимых страниц, и они решили напис ...more
Non esaltante come l'altro che ho letto, ma cmq, per passare il tempo e leggere delle differenze uomo-donna va bene.

Pag 199
Everything makes sence now...! :D
A handful of sections are rambling and disjointed, and sometimes I feel like the ends of some of the chapters are a nonsensical thought dump. Minor quibbles aside though, this book does a wonderful job of breaking down the differences between men and women when it comes to sex. There's no sugar coating here, and both parties are held equally responsible for their evolutionary upbringing. All is not lost though, and maybe with the power of this knowledge and the handy human attribute of free will ...more
Not as funny as I expected.
Vladimir Rybalko
Generally, this book does not describe anything new. Authors simply systematize all known knowledge. Although, they do it well. The book consists of many useful advices about human relationships. If you read this, you will get a good experience for building a strong relationships. In whole, you can understand the opposite sex better.
In the end I want to quote very good words: "Men and women are different. We are not better or worse than each other. We are just different!".
Zan Stefkovic
Solid and interesting book, but not as interesting as the last two books by Allan Pease I read.
Sonja Toth
Interesting and also enjoyable. Logical and fact based, referencing lots of scientific and statistics studies which i really like.
Jesús Gallego
Peor que " Por qué los hombres no escuchan y las mujeres no saben leer mapas", aunque siempre se aprende algo con estos libros, eso sí.
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