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Reviving Ophelia

3.86  ·  Rating Details  ·  22,929 Ratings  ·  1,009 Reviews
The phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller. More than 1.5 million copies sold. Now available from Riverhead. This is the groundbreaking work that poses one of the most provocative questions of a generation: Why are American adolescent girls falling prey to depression, eating disorders, suicide attempts, and dangerously low self-esteem? Dr. Pipher posits that it's America' ...more
ebook, 304 pages
Published August 1st 2005 by Penguin Group (USA) (first published 1994)
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Joyful Comfort Yes, more than ever. The book describes a problem which has only gotten worse for today's teenage girls - with cellphones, Instagram, and Snapchat,…moreYes, more than ever. The book describes a problem which has only gotten worse for today's teenage girls - with cellphones, Instagram, and Snapchat, likes & comments constantly rating and announcing who or what is popular - it's increasingly difficult for girls to hold onto a sense of self.(less)
Megan Surely Ainsley meant to say everybody should read this book. That being said, the book is mostly narratives about girls struggling, not a psychology…moreSurely Ainsley meant to say everybody should read this book. That being said, the book is mostly narratives about girls struggling, not a psychology textbook, so it really depends on the boy.(less)
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Suzanne Evans
Aug 20, 2007 Suzanne Evans rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Everyone... Ehh, just girls.
My mom gave me this book when I was like 12 or 13... this was only the beginning of the self help slurry of books, clippings, etc that my mom would throw my way. As an adolescent girl (who this book is geared towards) I hid the book under my bed and read other bull shit things like the other books you will see on my list (read in the early to mid 90s). Thinking I knew what was best for me, as girls do at that age, I continued to resist my mother's consistent pushing me to read this book. She eve ...more
Laura
Feb 10, 2013 Laura rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
While this book had a whole bunch of interesting anecdotes, there were nothing more than anecdotes. The fact that a bunch of her patients manifested particular characteristics doesn't lead to the ability to generalize about adolescent trends in general, as Pipher does here. On the contrary, it's just as reasonable to believe that her patients, many of whom presumably came to her through referrals from other patients, were a self-selecting group, each of whom referred people to Pipher because she ...more
Caris
Jan 27, 2010 Caris rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010
When I look at my daughter, I see a beautiful little human who means more to me than anything I could have ever imagined. She smiles at me when she wakes up. She holds my finger as we watch TV. She explains the most elaborate and convoluted things to me in a baby language I can't quite comprehend but certainly get the gist of. I have an intense feeling of responsibility for her well being, which, I assume, will last for the rest of my life.

The thought that she will grow up causes me physical pai
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Holly Bond
Oct 10, 2007 Holly Bond rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents & social workers
Shelves: non-fiction
The most important thing about this book, that I will never forget, is how well it illustrates the shift from a bubbly little girl to a depressed/angry teen and how the world just does everything it can to rob a little girl of her self esteem. That's not a blaming statement, but just an observation, that girls today are taking an emotional beating at almost every turn, and this book is a call to action. I recommend that you follow it up with Ophelia Speaks. If you have a daughter, please read th ...more
Scott
When I first read this, I was very convinced of the premise--that girls do great as they move forward in elementary school, but sometime between 4th and 8th grade the harsh reality hits them that they are going to be objectified and relegated to second-class status in this male-oriented world. As a result, you see a drop-off in vivacity, creativity, and individuality. Instead of the former spunk and enthusiasm of girlhood, you see young women who shrink from the public eye, who retreat into depr ...more
Jessica
Nov 13, 2007 Jessica rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This is a biased and thoughtless review, based on vague memories of a cranky adolescent's insensitive snap judgment, so you shouldn't pay any attention to it. It's definitely more of a statement about me than it is about the book, which I don't really remember anyway.

I read this in the mid-nineties when it came out, and I remember feeling, as a teenage girl, annoyed and offended. I felt at the time that it was making too much of girls' helplessness and sort of encouraging us to feel sorry for ou
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K
Hmmmm....very mixed feelings about this one.

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls covers a lot of the same ground as Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student. We read about adolescent girls struggling with depression, eating disorders, self-mutilation, premature sexual involvement, etc. Both Mary Pipher and Miriam Grossman are mental health practitioners who treat these girls and view their difficulties less
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Carrie
Apr 22, 2008 Carrie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: people who care about young women
Recommended to Carrie by: Camille
There were some good things I took away from this book. Oddly enough the most important things I learned is to keep my daughters room filled with journals and writing tools. :) Wow, I wish I would have used (or would use now) writing as a tool to stay mentally healthy. The other is to keep her busy in things that make her strong in, body, mind, and spirit.

Another thing I walked away with is that there are strengths and weaknesses in every form of parenting. It made me want to hug the stuffing ou
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Myria
Apr 23, 2012 Myria rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
The author has good intentions and I agree with her on some things but…. This was horrible. I don’t even know where to begin! I really don’t. I understand parents wanting to protect their kids from these kinds of things but I hope any parent does not live by this book. Please do more research. A LOT!

I don’t know if it was just me but the way Mary worded some things, it came off as she blamed men for this problem. WHATEVER. This just reminds me of a joke that Katt Williams said about woman blami
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Natalie
Oct 23, 2008 Natalie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this book was really really interesting. It is about the negative effects our culture has on teenage girls (too much emphasis on beauty, too much encouragement to be passive in order to please others, etc.). One of my favorite points she made is that our society spends tons of time and money educating women on self-defense, but wouldn't it make much more sense to educate young men on how to be respectful and non-violent towards women?
I do have some reservations about the book, though:
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Shelly
Mar 18, 2008 Shelly rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's been a while since I read this and was reminded about it via a thread on this very website about how women feel about barbie dolls and the like. The author is a psychologist who works with adolescent girls and suggests that there is a window (somewhere between 9 and 13 if I remember correctly) where young girls will either choose academic, athletic, or artistic endeavors--or boys. Girls learn to like boys early on (way before they learn to like girls) and an unfortunate consequence of this ...more
Jessica
I read this book when it first came out in 1994, when I was 13. I had just been busted by my parents for stealing prescription drugs from their medicine cabinet (I think the plan was to kill myself...hazy), and this book appeared on my mother's nightstand soon after. I remember approaching the book like an army general who has gotten his hands on the enemy's battle plans, only interested in it as far as it could reveal to me what plan the adults were hatching this time so I could fortify my defe ...more
A.K.
Mar 25, 2009 A.K. rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fic
Makes a valid point or two but I remember being insulted by this as an adolescent girl. Specifically at the point when Pipher holds up a daddy-knows-best fundie family as raising a totally well-adjusted teenager. I'd rather be a maladjusted junkie slut than live in the midwest with my nice, cool, cryptofascist hard-on for jeezy parents, thanks. This should be on the "feminism, question mark" shelf.
Sherri
Jun 26, 2016 Sherri rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An important book for the parents of adolescent girls. In her practice as a therapist, Pipher became concerned about the number of adolescent girls she was seeing with severe depression, eating disorders, suicidal thoughts, and cripplingly low self-esteem. As she worked with them, she came to believe that many of these problems stemmed from the tremendous pressure society puts on girls to be physically beautiful and sexually appealing from a very young age and from sexism and sexual violence. Pi ...more
Laura
Aug 09, 2007 Laura added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Parents
This book is targeted at parents of girls in the 90's. While I think it had many good things to say, it was also very repetitive and could have been edited into a much tighter and more to the point read. Also, a little updating is in order. When Pipher wrote this book, things like "myspace" and "facebook" weren't even in existence. I imagine that many parents in the 00's and beyond would probably appreciate some tools for dealing with these new intrusions into family life.

Some parents might take
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alysa
Apr 04, 2012 alysa rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I HATED this book. Is there NO hope for our girls? I found this book to be very negative about the future of girls trying to grow up in this world. Although the book is outdated I did not find a whole lot that related to the average American girl. The author generalizes about girls as a whole based upon her patients that are in therapy. This is not to say that girls are not going to have issues, but I don't think the majority of girls are going to have the depth of issues of the girls in this bo ...more
Wendy Jackson
May 09, 2016 Wendy Jackson rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book as part of long-term preparations for my daughter's adolescence. I figure the more I understand, the better equipped I will be - though one can never be fully equipped, of course. I found the book very accessible: the author includes many case studies to illustrate her points, and these are backed up with her more theoretical ideas about how everyone can escape mostly unscathed from adolescence. It would be great if there were a newer edition of the book: it is more than twenty ...more
Devon
Nov 30, 2014 Devon rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents of tween and adolescent girls
It took me months to read this because it's so dense and so hard to read about all the ways a young girl can totally go off the rails--girls who are whip-smart, athletic, funny, loving and fearless at the age of ten can turn a corner and become withdrawn, silenced by many forces and self-destruct.

In developmental psychology, Erikson theorizes that adolescence is a time of resolving the conflict "identity vs. role confusion". I don't know how anyone survives this after reading Pipher's accounts
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Jaclyn
This book has opened my eyes to the complications of adolesence that my daughter is just on the cusp of. Although the book is 10 years old, and I am significantly younger than the author, I found the topics to be very relevant even today. I personally relate better to the author, who was a child in the 50's, and feel that the problems girls were beginning to face in the 90's are worse than I faced in the 80's and are still very much a probem today, probably more so. Reading about all of the chal ...more
Melinda
Mar 15, 2010 Melinda rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is highly recommended in "How to Talk to your Child about Sex" by the Eyre's, which I have read and reviewed ( http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/... ), so I have queued it up for reading.
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This book is a good companion book to read with "Packaging Girlhood", see http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/... for my goodreads review.

"Packaging Girlhood" shows you what goes on behind the media and marketing that pushes girls (from toddler to college age)
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Alisa
Jul 09, 2012 Alisa rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I really wanted to enjoy this book. It's nonfiction about raising girls (quite a few of my friends had it marked to read thinking it was fiction...it's not). Written by a PhD in the 90's I was instantly drawn in and found her observations not only interesting but also disturbing. Truth be told, I didn't actually finish the book because it was just beating me down. I quickly skimmed the second half just to make sure I wasn't setting aside something that would change my life (or more accurately my ...more
Becca
Oct 21, 2015 Becca rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
me:single handedly tries to fight the mass media while protecting every young girl in america
Teodora
Mar 22, 2016 Teodora rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Makes a valid point two,but it is a little bit boring .
Raina
Oct 22, 2015 Raina rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
dang. society is messed up, yo.
Nancy
Jun 08, 2015 Nancy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Twenty years ago this book was talked about a lot amongst our high school's faculty, parents, and (female) students. (Well, at least the faculty/parents MADE us talk about it.)

But, it turns out I never actually read Reviving Ophelia back then, and I recently picked it up for $1 at a used book sale thinking that--since I now have a daughter-- it might be worth reading for real. A lot of issues with adolescent girls are timeless, right?

Unfortunately, yes. Dr. Pipher must be pretty chagrined that
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Kathleen
This book deals with the lives of young girls and their struggle with eating disorders. I read this when this was an issue in my own family, and I found it to be a great resource.
Julie
Nov 10, 2013 Julie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2013, rereads, for-school
Review on Reading Lark: http://readinglark.blogspot.com/2013/...

How do you begin to critique a book that changed your entire life? It might sound like hyperbole to some, but that’s what Reviving Ophelia did; it changed my life. And based on the feedback I get every time I mention the book, it’s subtitle of Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls is somewhat misleading, because it has “saved the selves” of many an adult as well. The book is equal parts fascinating and eye opening, and, in this revi
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Susan
Nov 09, 2012 Susan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have three daughters, ages 11, 13, and 15. So when a teacher friend recommended, "Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls," who was I to say no?

It was a good read. The title is based on Ophelia, from Shakespeare's Hamlet. Happy as a young girl, Ophelia loses herself in adolescence and lives only for the approval of Hamlet and her father. She goes mad with grief when her authority figures spurn her, and finally drowns herself in a stream. Author Mary Pipher wrote this book hopin
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Sarah
Dec 01, 2008 Sarah rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone with Daughters!
Recommended to Sarah by: Leslie, Carla
This book was a slow go because of the digestion required and my own reflection. It wavered from 5 to 4 to 3 and back to 5 stars for me. This book, written by a female phsychologist in hte 90's, has some really great insight and analysis on what adolescent girls are faced with in our culture, reaching out to them, understanding them, loving them, parenting them, and about a hundred case studies of too much, too little, just right, horror stories, good adjustment stories, etc. It talks about girl ...more
Natali
Dec 26, 2013 Natali rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I won't lie: this book scared the shit out of me. Please Lord, never let my daughter become a teenager!

This is a serious topic that not enough research addresses: the confusing messages confronting adolescent girls and how little understood they are in our culture. I wanted to read it in order to understand the challenges my daughter will face, although it was written when I was a teenager so it helped me understand a lot of the things I went through as well. I wanted to gain an adult's perspec
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“I teach girls certain skills. The first and most basic is centering. I recommend that they find a quiet place where they can sit alone daily for 10 to 15 minutes. I encourage them to sit in this place, relax their muscles and breathe deeply. Then they are to focus on their own thoughts and feelings about the day. They are not to judge these thoughts or feelings or even direct them, only to observe them and respect them. They have much to learn from their own internal reactions to their lives.” 7 likes
“Another vital skill is managing pain. All the craziness in the world comes from people trying to escape suffering. All mixed up behaviour comes from unprocessed pain. People drink, hit their mates and children, gamble, cut themselves with razors and even kill themselves in an attempt to escape pain. I teach girls to sit with their pain, to listen to it for messages about their lives, to acknowledge and describe it rather than to run from it. They learn to write about pain, to talk about it, to express it through exercise, art, dance or music.” 6 likes
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