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Consequential Strangers: The Power of People Who Don't Seem to Matter. . . But Really Do

3.31  ·  Rating Details ·  99 Ratings  ·  16 Reviews
Our barista, our mechanic, our coworker—they populate our days, but we often take them for granted. Yet these are the people who bring novelty and information into our lives, allow us to exercise different parts of ourselves, and open us up to new opportunities. In their unprecedented examination of people on the periphery, psychologist Karen Fingerman, who coined the term ...more
ebook, 298 pages
Published August 24th 2009 by W. W. Norton & Company (first published July 28th 2009)
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Melinda Blau
I'm a bit biased, because I wrote this book. But everyone tells me that reading it changes the way they walk in the world. This book is about the people we take for granted, or perhaps don't even notice.
Mar 10, 2012 Deb rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
*Strangers among us*

Sure, we all know that our close relationships with family, partners, and friends influence our lives in significant and obvious ways. But, what about the casual relationships we have with have those outside of our immediate circles?

Delving into the realm of our more subtle relations with "consequential strangers," Blau and Fingerman provide a fascinating look at how the "minor players" in our lives collectively--and surprisingly--have a major role in how our lives function a
Nov 27, 2009 Sherry rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
"Consequential Strangers" has a pretty interesting premise, and was heavily researched and well thought out. However, it probably could have been shorter and reached the same conclusions. It says what we probably already know intuitively: that a person is even more happy, healthy and satisfied with life if he knows and interfaces with a myriad of people every week. Connections with people you only know from certain places are of high importance to your sense of self and place, and often can lead ...more
Jan 05, 2011 Walter rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I myself have travelled the globe and met so many interesteing people, but have also been in dark places and low times where the unconditional help and advice from strangers has been more benefical than one might think. I'm not a shy person so many of these stories i can really relate to. This book really should keep your faith that there is good in people and there is hope. It's an inspiring book that isn't meant to be that way, it's just finding strength and support all around you. It truly de ...more
Jan 02, 2015 Jacqueline rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I honestly wish that Consequential Strangers was a total stranger from my bookshelf. This book took a simple premise, that strangers and acquaintances are important in our lives, and somehow managed to find enough anecdotes ways to rephrase her point that it came out to 276 pages. Were the author more eloquent she could have saved herself the effort of writing a book and fit it in a fortune cookie or a tweet. I didn't learn ANYTHING new, and the author quotes her previous book. I don't think tha ...more
This was an interesting book, but there seemed to be quite a bit of repetition. Not that that is a bad thing (repetition is the mother of memory), but I ended up skimming parts because I felt like I had already read it. There are good ideas and ways of recognizing how important these "consequential strangers" (it also seems that this is just the authors' term for acquaintances) and how much they play a part in your life.
Joseph Santiago
Jun 15, 2014 Joseph Santiago rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Wonderful book that touches on bullying, the affects of everyday encounters, workplace dynamics, and sheds light on how we live socially. This is a great book that I have returned to many times and took my time combing through. If only you all could see the dog eared pages and my underlines that are ready to be used for future articles. This is a good book for the professional and the curious community member.

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Addie Madsen
Oct 07, 2013 Addie Madsen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book. It opened my eyes to so many things I didn't realize before about the people I interact with on a daily basis. A must read for anyone who wants to know more about those around them and themselves. It's very insightful and will change the way I look at things from now on.
Jason Breedlove
Mar 04, 2011 Jason Breedlove rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I definitely liked it better than Freakonomics. It starts out kind of slow, but it has some great information in it. Since starting over in life; I'm a recovering addict and reformed inmate, my current life is based on people I know at the store, at the gym, at the library etc.
Oct 18, 2009 Janet rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Any book that's simply written based on research is really not for me. I also don't ever take the attitude that they're trying to erase here, of "people who don't seem to matter." Everyone matters...
Mary Drummond
Sep 09, 2012 Mary Drummond rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Textbook theory on the roles that strangers make in our lives. Good book if you are studying physcology.
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I especially liked the discussions regarding online relationships.
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Award-winning journalist Melinda Blau has been researching and writing about relationships and social trends for more than thirty years. With her (lucky) thirteenth book, Consequential Strangers: People Who Don't Seem to Matter...But Really Do, she widens her lens to include the surprisingly vital connections that extend beyond family and close friendsa subject that has taken her into the world of ...more
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“A human being is part of a whole, called by us the “universe,” a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separate from the rest—a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us…. We shall require a substantially new manner of thinking if humanity is to survive. —Albert Einstein” 0 likes
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