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Preview — Confessions of the Other Mother by Harlyn Aizley
Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All!
After author Harlyn Aizley gave birth to her daughter, she watched in unanticipated horror as her partner scooped up the baby and said, "I'm your new mommy!" While they both had worked to find the perfect sperm donor, Aizley had spent nine months carrying the baby and hours in labor, so how could her partner cla ...more
More than 15 years into the lesbian baby boom, Aizley's collection of first-person accounts by nonbiological lesbian mothers is a long time coming. Nonlegalistic and (mostly) nonharrowing, these tales are only tangentially about powers of attorney, two-parent adoption, and custody battles, instead illumining what it is to be mom and not-mom at the same time. Some pieces explore the feelings of envy and loss of would-be but infertile mothers learning to accept their easily...more
Instead, I think the anthology format was working against this subject matter. Almost all of the anthologized essayists related more or less the same narrative arc to the reader: "Being the 'oth ...more
I also liked the fact that the essays were so different from each other. I could tell write away that some of the authors I would get along great with and others I didn't like so much. Even the authors I could tel ...more
I'd really like to hear what anyone else who may have read it thinks about it, especially in relation to their own experience.