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Confessions of a Slacker Mom

3.26 of 5 stars 3.26  ·  rating details  ·  1,086 ratings  ·  295 reviews
Parents who are fed up with the pressure to turn their children into star athletes, concert violinists, and merit scholars-all at once!-finally have an alternative: the world of Slacker Moms, where kids learn to do things for themselves and parents can cut themselves some slack; where it's perfectly all right to do less, have less, and spend less. Slacker moms say "No" to ...more
Paperback, 152 pages
Published April 14th 2004 by Da Capo Press (first published December 31st 2003)
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Tara
The title was catchy for me - "preaching to the choir" I thought. :) And some of it was, but the further I read, the more confused I became. Wouldn't you think this book would be about NOT instilling more guilt into mothers? Most parenting books are just people ranting about their opinions who somehow managed to get it all published. This book is no different.

First of all, what is so wrong about taking tons of pictures of your kids and scrapbooking them? The author thinks this gives kids an over
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Jenny
Jan 19, 2008 Jenny rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: parents, teachers, Eliana
I really liked this book (but I guess you figured that out from my stars). It was a breath of fresh air in this uber child-proof, safe world we live in. Her basic premise is that if we follow the current trend we do too much for our children (or shield them from all pain); we don't teach them to be independent or understand how natural consequences work. This went along very well with my belief in love and logic. It may be shocking to some because she lets her kids fall down and she lets them bo ...more
Kelly
Probably should rate this 3.5 stars. The first 3/4s of the book really resonated with me...she lost me a little in a couple later chapters.

I really liked her "has anyone seen my instinct" and "there goes Harvard" chapters. I also like to parent with common sense instead of focusing all my available energy and resources on creating the super genius child. I'd rather raise a well rounded child who has social skills so they are likable; as well as smart, talented, funny or whatever their "thing" t
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Samantha
I enjoy her books. I'll admit I liked Confessions of a Slacker Mom a bit better. I could relate better to it. Since I'm not working full time and trying to be a wife and mother I needed this book a little less. What I do like about her books, aside from the fact they make me laugh, is that she basically gives us permission to let some things go. So often as wives and mothers we feel like we've failed if we don't do everything. Our children should be in dance and soccer and music and school. Our ...more
lyndsay ortiz
Oct 03, 2012 lyndsay ortiz rated it 1 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Perfect Moms. Get it? No one is perfect.
What begins as a funny tribute to the let-your-kid-cry-it-out method of parenthood slowly evolves into the author's puffed-up version of patting herself on the back while the reader is a hostage eyewitness.
You get the feeling that you are way too neurotic about your child's safety and well-being and Muffy Whats-Her-Face is a cooler mom than you. Came away feeling bad about my child rearing techniques (caring, worrying, watching them sleep and making sure they are safe 24/7, ect, wanting to put
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Heather
I liked it, it was funny and lighthearted (mostly), but Lenore Skenazy did it better with Free Range Kids. Hence three stars.
Her basic premise--we know a lot more about raising our own kids than "experts," and we've lost a lot of common sense as a civilization--resonated with me. Trusting ourselves and our children to be able to learn what we need to know, get where we want to go--I liked the support. Even her chapter on other caregivers (nannies, babysitters, etc.) makes sense. Not always but t
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Ellie
I would rate this book 3-1/2 out of 5 stars. The title seems off to me; I would call a "slacker mom" one who is neglectful or gives in to her kids' unreasonable demands. Maybe it's because of the way I was raised, but I would call Mead-Ferro a tough and effective parent, not a slacker parent. (And I mean tough as a compliment). A lot of the book resonated with me; I wish I had read this book many years ago when my kids were younger. I could have used these good reminders, especially the one abou ...more
Grace
The only reason this book got 2 stars is because I did agree with her on the facts that kids have to get dirty and hurt sometimes. And also the fact that loading too many activities on them can be detrimental. I'd rather have my kid be proud of doing very well at one sport/activity than being mediocre at a dozen because he can't focus all his energy into one.
I do not agree with much more of what she was saying. And the way she writes is plain annoying with her oh-so-superior voice. Apparently
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Jennifer Johnson
Mead-Ferro is certainly calling for a "quiet riot" in the image of "wifery". In her book she calls out the standards that we, as women, have set for ourselves, and boldly asks "WHY" everything needs to be perfect. She's quick to point out that it's not necessarily all men's fault that wives have become caught up and exhausted in the pursuit of perfection. The author wants women to be independant from the traditional role of "wife" and wants us to get out there and use our brains and pursue what ...more
Tamra
May 06, 2008 Tamra rated it 2 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people who liked Slacker Wife
I read Confessions of a Slacker Wife, Muffy's second book, first, and LOVED it. So I expected to LOVE this book, too, but I didn't, and I'll tell you the main reasons why.

First, I'm a slacker and I have no qualms about that. I've known I'm a slacker my whole life and the fact that this attribute spills over into my family life is no surprise. Part of my slacker-ness is an overwhelming "I just don't really care" attitude coupled with a "Do whatever you want, that's great," attitude. Like a tolera
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Christina
When I bought this book at my library's used book sale, the woman who checked me out gave me a knowing look and said, "You're not a slacker mom." Not sure what she meant, since she knew nothing about me, but I believe I replied, "Maybe that's the problem."

It's super easy for the moms among us to go overboard. Probably the dads too. We want the best for our kids, we want them to have the best, be the best, and on and on, but we lose sight of what's really best for them, and just as importantly, w
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Molly
I agree with the less-things more-imagination aspects of this book, but I think I would have repackaged the book. Mead-Ferro isn't a slacker--that chiding title really shouldn't be applied here. She paints herself as someone who is passionate about and good at her job, which is absolutely fine and lovely. In many ways, I envy that, as my career doesn't involve money really. I haven't seen an original book of poetry on the bestseller lists. Just Heaney's translation of Beowulf a while back.

I also
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Raven
I really enjoyed the first half of this book and found it a refreshing reminder to stay true to your own mothering instincts and not succumb to the world's lists of the million and one items your baby needs. I appreciated her call to let kids learn by making mistakes and to stop smothering them, to let them learn the art of making do, The second half didn't have the same appeal to me, but that's simply because I started disagreeing with some of her points. For instance, she said it's actually a ...more
Terrah
I think the Goodreads synopsis says it best: "A slacker wife has the wisdom to accept the following: that a little dirt on her kitchen floor doesn't hurt anyone, that wrinkles on her husband's shirt and on her face are perfectly natural and not worth worrying about, that party guests can be just as happy with a bowl of chips as an elaborate salmon mousse, and that over-scheduled equals under-happy. Above all, a slacker wife lets herself have fun being a wife. She has girls' weekends, orders take ...more
Elision
This pragmatic/cute book of Mom-to-be/Mom essays by Muffy Mead-Ferro is a fast read. I sat in a bookstore for an afternoon, and woosh: finished.

There are a couple reminders I'll take away from the book:
(1) You will never please everyone with your parenting style--don't try; please yourself & do what seems right for your family. Think.For.Yourself.
(2) Marketing for kids stuff is MEANT to make you feel like a terrible parent--but you don't need all of that sh*t. ;) Making due with what you h
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Emily
I just loved this book. It made me feel really good about myself. Especially the chapter about 'entertaining' where the author says to just serve potato chips IN THEIR BAG so that you can focus on the important things, like enjoying your company.

I swear to you when I read that I hollered out in joy and did a little dance. A few months ago someone at church told me that I had offended a lot of people and ruined Enrichment night by allowing/encouraging chips to be served in their natural form, i.
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Nicole
I think she has some good points, but I can't get past the condescension in her attitude that if you professionalize motherhood, somehow you are trying too hard. I get that it would be much easier to put chicken pot pies (frozen, not homemade) on the table every night, but I just don't really want to do that (although there are times that this particular dinner happens in my household). I like being a mother and wife, and I like that I'm trying my darndest to do both well. Her points are well ta ...more
Joanne
While I agree with most of Mead-Ferro's take on motherhood -- simple principles like you don't have to hover, and you don't have to enroll your kid in every activity on the planet -- her tone completely put me off. I think she's angry, or defensive, or maybe both, because her whole "I am a slacker" diatribe is snarky and supercilious. I suppose "Confessions of a Supercilious Snarky Mom," while more accurate, would not be as good a title. I did enjoy her stories of growing up on a ranch and about ...more
Leslie
I did not agree with all of the author's points. I think that she was extreme on some things. But I definately got her message. The world tries to convince us that we need to do certain things to be a good mother. I reallized after reading this book that listening to God as well as my own instincts are much more important than listening to media, latest trends & even "professionals." God seems to have trusted me with my children so it's ok for me to go with my "gut insticts" as well as direc ...more
Jennifer Dines
This is the first parenting book I've read cover to cover - mainly because it is the first one that made me feel comfortable. It didn't give me those anxious feelings like other "this is my parenting style" books. This book is not earth-shattering, and it is not meant to be. I'm not sure if the title matches the book - I might call it the minimalist mother or something like that. I think that Mead-Ferro's take on parenting is refreshingly down-to-earth, practical, and non-materialistic. She seem ...more
Kelly Decoteau
I'm currently reading chapter 5 and relating COMPLETELY. AMEN SISTA! ... all about how the wives have to buy all the gifts, write all the cards, send all the invitations, etc. Husbands have no idea how much time this takes! So fitting right between Christmas and my daughter's birthday party.

(done reading)
It was a fun, quick read. Not life changing. I shared many of the same opinions as the author. Nice to know that I'm not the only one!
Moriya
There were a lot of things I agreed with - because I do them. ha! But she was a little condescending in her tone... and of course I didn't agree with her end message. Which was working Moms set a good example by being good at what they do. I think you can stay home and be an even bigger influence in your kids lives (just my humble opinion).
Elizabeth
I agreed with the author on several points (too many toys, kids feel entitled to everything these days, parents go way overboard) but towards the end is when she turned me off. She hires a full-time nanny, then acts like that is the best way to expose children to other cultures and ways. 1. That's a stereotype to assume all nannies are different races/from different cultures and 2. This can be achieved without a nanny.
She then goes to actually diss stay-at-home moms by stating that she knows wo
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Chantel thomas
I don't feel so bad about my parenting skills after reading this book! The book really shows us how anal society has become about raising "perfect" kids. I like to let my kids climb on the counters. Something wrong with that??
Allison
May 30, 2014 Allison rated it 5 of 5 stars
Shelves: non
I found this book by accident, and I'm so glad I did! Mead-Ferro is hilarious and laid-back, and shares my views on parenting. It was refreshing to read this so close to giving birth, and realize that I know what's best for my kid and family, regardless of how overprotective and over the top other parents may be, and how they may try to impose their views on me. The best thing I can say about this book, and the biggest compliment I can give it, is that she reminds me of Adam Carolla. They share ...more
LuCinda Beltman
For my third book of 2011 I read Confessions of a Slacker Mom by Muffy Mead-Ferro. Honestly, this is a short book at only 137 pages, but it took me this full 9 days to read it. I started it first and just couldn't get into it. Finally, I started forcing myself to read two chapters a night just to get it over with. There were a few funny anecdotes in there, but overall the tone was more "my way is better than your way". I was really disappointed as I had heard this was a light, enjoyable read. De ...more
Amy
So funny! Yet so true!
Darci
This book was not what I had expected, but I found it to be both frustrating and interesting. Sometimes it seemed like the author was trying too hard to convince me that she has it all figured out and that she is okay with her decisions - but many of her points are appropriate. Why do we have such a high standard for ourselves in our role as wife when our work outside the home has also increased? I would love to find a thing or two to neglect! I also appreciated thinking about how the media has ...more
Jen Bookout
Summary
Mead-Ferro examines the unreasonable expectations women place upon themselves and how society and human nature work to perpetrate these double standards. Topics include: cleaning, aging, entertaining, sex and friendships.
Review
This book had a lot of good points, but it wasn't as humorous as I was expecting. I like the fact that the author didn't place all the blame on society and maintained that we as women need to be more proactive in making our own choices and standing by them. The qual
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Lisa Wuertz
Feb 29, 2008 Lisa Wuertz rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: rebellious women, femminists
Recommended to Lisa by: The Today Show
I finally got around to reading Confessions of a Slacker Wife and Confessions of a Slacker Mom both by Muffy Mead-Ferro.

I bought these books knowing they would present an opposing view to Passionate Housewives Desperate for God. "Opposing" was quite right.

Much like the Desperate book, there are funny and good things to take away, but there are also extreme viewpoints to be found and taken with a grain of salt.

I think I liked the Slacker Mom book better than the Slacker Wife book.

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