A History of the Wife

A History of the Wife

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A History of the Wife weaves a complex tapestry as it outlines the roles, customs, and cultural position of women in Western marriage. The work is engaging, filled with interesting anecdotes and stories, and is an incredibly lively read on a thoroughly interesting subject much in need of a closer look. In breadth, the book ranges from biblical times to the present, and in...more
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Published February 5th 2002 by Harper Perennial (first published 2001)
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Erika RS
This book describes the history of marriage as it relates to modern marriage in America. The lives of wives in the ancient world are examined by looking at wives in the Bible, Greek wives, and Roman wives. Yalom then marches on through history, examining Medieval Europe, early Protestant wives, republican wives in America and France, Victorian wives in England and the U.S. (including those on the frontier). She then gets into the more modern era and looks at the changing role of women and wives...more
Klymene
Before you read this review you should know two things about me:

A) I have an aversion to Nonfiction books
B) It took me more than two months (and less than three) to finish this book.

That being said, I was determined to finish the first Nonfiction book I'd read in a year. Yup, not including my textbooks, it had been a year since I last read a nonfiction book. Honestly, I was sick of the predictable Romance books and teen fantasy novels that I was reading. Of course, the main character was the her...more
Kara
I never felt a strong urge to explore the history of the wife because the cause was always sort of right in front of me. I’ve got my mom’s many achievements as well as her mistakes to learn from. I’ve got my aunts and my grandmothers who I remember indulged in their roles as wife, widower and mother. As well as an Aunt who choose not to be a wife because she, “didn’t want a man to own or control her.” So to me a wife (or not) is as much a part of life as sunshine. But I’ve always known the role...more
Ann Stephens
Borrowed from my local library. I almost laughed out loud at the title!

Yalom does a solid job giving readers an overview of wifehood. She focuses more heavily on Western marriage traditions, and later in the book on marriage in England and in America. This made sense to me, as American law developed from English common law, but I don't know if people searching for world-wide views of marriage would find it helpful.

One of the best chapters in the book deals with the history contraception and ab...more
Shelly
This book is so interesting about the history of the wife. It starts in biblical times, goes through Roman times, to Renassaince times, clear up to modern times and shows the differences and customs and reasons for marraige.
Amee
Something you would read in a women's studies class, but very readable and a page turner...makes you appreciate your husband and honor the women that broke the chains for us to make life for women easier...
Kim
"But neither the imperial Romans nor hagiographic American historians bothered to ask what those 'exemplary' women of the past might have thought of their own situations. They never asked whether those women were happy. It is one thing to judge a society by its public face....or the pages of government documents, all created by men; it is quite another to look at the expressions of women's subjective experiences in their poems, letters, diaries, and memoirs, or wherever else one can find them."

L...more
Rebecca
Marilyn Yalom writes an interesting history for the layperson of the woman as she has most consistently figured in society - as a wife. I found it striking to see the sequence of ideas about women and male/female union as they performed a broader social function - ideas of fruitfulness, loyalty/partnership, strength, purity/filth, possession/responsibility, licentious/asexual - and how society defended its principles violently from one belief system to its opposite statement in the following era...more
Asho
I found this book on the library shelf next to another book I was checking out and I decided to read it on a whim since I'm in a committed relationship that will (presumably) eventually be a marriage and I'd like to know what I'm getting myself into!
I found this book to be an easy read, and it was interesting to be able to read the entire progression from the ancient Greeks to the 20th century in a single book. Unfortunately, Yalom's study did not have enough depth and complexity for me and ult...more
Briynne
Ever since I got married, I've found the concept of marriage very interesting and hence I read books like this. Honestly, I wanted rather more out of this book since the premise - which was admittedly, as a history of the institution that largely defined women's life experiences for a huge portion of recorded history, was impossibly huge - struck me a quite tantalizing. But, as one might expect, this fell well short of the aim stated by the title. I liked this book; it was pleasant reading, gene...more
Robert
The title is quite appropriate. The book does not claim to be "The" comprehensive world history of the wife, but "A" history, so those looking for the story of the wife outside of the author's focus on "Western Civilization" will be disappointed. Nevertheless, for those willing to take the book's title at its word(s), the author has told an eminently readable history of the perceived role of a wife - her status, advantages and limitations - beginning in Ancient Greece, Rome, and the Bible and e...more
Susan
The early historical coverage was very good, the twentieth century coverage brief and disappointing. I wanted to see more women's stories; I wanted reports from social experiment communities; I wanted speculation on "where do we go from here" and all of that was thin or lacking altogether. Still it was an interesting book, and very readable. The author made her own prejudice clear, which I always appreciate, and the subject matter is fascinating to me. I would recommend this book to anyone who i...more
Eddy Allen
A History of the Wife weaves a complex tapestry as it outlines the roles, customs, and cultural position of women in Western marriage. The work is engaging, filled with interesting anecdotes and stories, and is an incredibly lively read on a thoroughly interesting subject much in need of a closer look. In breadth, the book ranges from biblical times to the present, and in sheer scale it attempts to present a unified series of
images of the Western wife over the course of some 2,000 years. In doin...more
Linnea
When I first opened A History of the Wife, I looked at the introduction titled- Is the Wife an Endangered Species? This itself held my attention. However, in the act of moving onto chapter one, it was clear that this book was a tad slow for my taste. Just as I was gradually becoming unsure that I even wanted to complete the book, I moved further through the times. I then found myself truly intrigued by the history of Protestant wives, and affected emotionally by the duties and rolls of women in...more
Michelle
While this book is academic in nature, it was actually didn't read like most traditional academic books to me. It was easy to get through and I didn't feel like I had to backtrack to recall any information like I usually would with this kind of book.

The book is insightful and I think masterfully works its' way through the history of the wife from Roman and Greek times to the present. There were times that it seemd the author got on a tangent more about women's history in general than the histor...more
'stina
I'm about two or three chpaters in.

A few nights ago, I finished a book called A History of the Wife, which was part historical documentation and part sociological/anthropoligical review. It was a walk through the evolution of (Western) marriage over the last 4,000 or so years, and the last hundred have been particularly revolutionary.

Frankly, fuck traditional marriage. I don't want to be in a subservient relationship with my spouse. I don't want to have financial and social decisions in my and...more
Becky
This book is so eye opening. It’s one thing to be vaguely aware that 200+ years ago thing were completely different for women, its another to travel through time with them, feel their sorrows, empathize with their fear, and realize that even our own grandmothers lived in a different world from modern marriages.

And we still have so far to go.

This book provided one of the best reading experiences of my life. It’s one of those books that changed me on a very personal level. I learned so much, an...more
Meredith
I loved this book so much I immediately gave it away to someone else to read. Not only does she start at the beginning, but she weaves an interesting and well-written historical narrative. With many young (and older) people today confused as hell about what/why this whole marriage thing still exists, Yalom provides context for an institution that has varied immensely over time. I think anyone interested in society and relationships might find this one appealing.
Chris Selin
Much more interesting than I initially thought it would be. The author does jump around a bit too much with chronology and also keeps the majority of the book focused on western wives, but it still is a very interesting look at where we've been, where we are and leaves you to ponder where we are headed. The role of husband and wife will forever be evolving. I'll stick with my philosophy of staying true to yourself and the correct path will open up for you.
Magdalena
Nov 15, 2009 Magdalena rated it 4 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Clara Barata
Recommended to Magdalena by: Emma Infante
Voy en la Reforma, pero la Historia de las esposas desde Adán y Eva hasta el siglo XV ha estado nutritiva.
El capítulo sobre el antiguo testamento va siendo de los mejores, muy humano y lleno de contradicciones, con mujeres fuertes, maridos enamorados, amantes, parejas que sobreviven a las guerras, al desierto, bello.

De las griegas, pobre de ellas -todo mal con un marido gay-, pobres romanas -sus maridos podían divorciarlas, pero ellas no al revés y las cambiaban cada 2 por 3 por alianzas polít...more
Joan
Yalom surveys the institution of marriage and the role of the wife throughout western history, showing how radically our ideas have changed over the past two millenia. Yalom covers the classical, medieval, and Renaissance periods, but the book is necessarily weighted to the last three centuries, when women themselves began recording their own attitudes toward their roles as wives and their expectations of marriage and their husbands. It's a vigorous, well-crafted work, and a fascinating read.

I h...more
Raelene
Ah! I loved this book. Pretty basic information about the history of women, but it does a great job of class analysis. It is very focused on the western world, so keep that in mind. Obviously it would be a ridiculously huge undertaking to include the entire world, so that does not do a disservice to the book. Also, my history professor was cited in the book, so shout out to Professor Carlson!!
Bea
Overall I liked this book. It was easy to read, yet had a lot of facts. I liked the numerous personal accounts found throughout history.

My criticisms are more about the overall scope of the book. It's a history of the wife in Europe and America. Other countries are not included. And in Europe the countries include England, France, Germany and wee bits from other countries.
Shannon
This is a very solid book. Well researched and interesting. It can be dry at times and I'm not sure it told me anything I didn't already know. Overall it was a good read even though I definitely skipped ahead and skipped around. I know what any "true" feminist would say about it though: no history of eastern or middle eastern women is given. It's all western women.
Namrirru
Great! Fantastic! Wonderful history. Albeit an exclusively western history. Greece - Rome - Western Europe - Americas - Native Americans - Rich, poor, north, south, frontier, African American, mormon, quite in depth. Multi-faced approach from literature, laws and government, economics, everyday life to specific biographies, letters, and diaries. It's so interesting.

There is one small problem. She takes a very soft approach to some difficult issues. Though it seems as though she is being ironic....more
Josiah
Plot: C
Writing: B
Vocabulary: B
Level: Moderate
Worldview: Descriptive
Rating: PG13 (adult topics such as sexual activity, contraception, abortion, indentured servitude, lack of suffrage, single parenthood, polygamy, bigamy discussed in general/vague terms)

This book provides a good, overarching picture of marriage from the woman's perspective in Western civilization throughout history, concluding with a look at American women in the 1990's. Yalom uncovers the roots of modern marriage trends such as...more
tuttle88
Started out great but once she hit the 1920s the book pretty much became A History of the American Wife. And mainly white, middle class wives at that. There were pretty good mentions of Indian wives in the colonial era but they weren't mentioned in the modern context at all, ditto Hispanics. The sections on immigrant & African American wives were sort of continued until the 50s but then they vanished.
No mention of the history of wives from anywhere other than England, the USA and a couple e...more
Wendy
A lot of wedding/engagement/marriage traditions that get taken for granted are explained. For instance, the custom of having witnesses at the wedding. Some of it is sad, but it is also human history. If you are a 'why?' person, I think you would like this book.
Tori
2005- Starting off with Biblical wives and ending in the modern-day, this book explores how wifehood has changed over the centuries. The author tries to keep a balance by mixing up straight research with personal accounts and it makes for a mostly good combination. However, sometimes it seemed like some chapters were a little light on history and heavy (repetitive in some cases) on individual accounts. In my opinion the first half of the book was more interesting than the second half.
Katie
I left off about halfway through when school started, but this was a surprisingly readable and fairly interesting look at the development of the role of women in marriage and the home. As soon as I find my copy, I'll start reading it again.
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Marilyn Yalom grew up in Washington D.C. and was educated at Wellesley College, the Sorbonne, Harvard and Johns Hopkins. She has been a professor of French and comparative literature, director of an institute for research on women, a popular speaker on the lecture circuit, and the author of numerous books and articles on literature and women's history.
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