A Widow's Story
In a work unlike anything she's written before, National Book Award winner Joyce Carol Oates unveils a poignant, intimate memoir about the unexpected death of her husband of forty-six years and its wrenching, surprising aftermath.
"My husband died, my life collapsed."
On a February morning in 2008, Joyce Carol Oates drove her ailing husband, Raymond Smith, to the em...more
There are a lot of grief books, a number written by widows, but none tells the raw truth of grief and loss like this one, how close to insanity grief feels--is, perhaps--and for a very long time too; how savage, precarious, shattering and lazy grief is, until, at some a ...more
I have a lot of mixed feelings about this book. I read the first half quite quickly; it was highly emotional, and highly engaging. Around the half-way point though, it was simply exhausting and redundant, even melodramatic. It may sound caustic and unfeeling, but her voice is SO highly charged that it began to sound as though she ...more
For me ...more
One of the perils of being a darling of the literary establishment appears to be that there are vultures there eager to profit from every word that drips off ...more
Joyce Carol Oates
I am feeling a bit hesitant to write a Review (with a capital R) of this recently published book by Joyce Carol Oates for I am not qualified to critique her writing, only my heart and mind's reaction to the story she has told. With that caveat, I will share my impressions with you.
I purchased this book because, while I am not a widow, I am interested in how people adjust to life-altering situations; how they feel and what choices they make moving forward. Relation ...more
ilk birkaç sayfayı okuduğumda, "acaba yazarın gerçek yaşamında başından geçenleri mi bu yazdıkları?" diye düşünüp biraz araştırma yaptım. Okuduklarım düşüncemi doğruladı.
2008 yılında zatürreye bağlı komplekslerden yitirdiği eşinin ardından iç dünyasını tüm çıplaklığıyla kaleme almış JCO.
Diğer anı romanlardan farkı, yazı sanatı ve edebiyat üzerine bir yazarın düşünce gelişimi ve hayatta karşı ...more
When she got there, he wasn't.
The guilt ...more
Joyce Smith, known to most of us as Joyce Carol Oates, had been married to her husband for 47 years when he died after a short illness. She was, of course, devastated, and I truly am sorry for her sorrow. Still, I really didn't like this book.
Initially, I was annoyed by all the unnecessary exclamation points and it ...more
And it has. I have been challenged ...more
However, "A Widow's Story" is the kind of book, a memoir about grief, that I usually devour. My 9 year old daughter died suddenly in 2006, so I usually like to learn from ways that others have dealt with life's big losses.
In this case, I mostl ...more
I would not recommend this book to anyone just for the pure fact that it is about a wife losing her husband (of something like 40 years) to an unexpected death. However, if you are like me and like reading memoirs about this topic I would recommend the first 1/3 of this book. After that it is slow and loses your interest.
But to enjoy this book you also really nee ...more
Since I have read some of her work, I knew that a memoir by JCO (yes, she refers to her writer persona at times in ...more
Oates speaks of wanting to write a widow's handbook and indeed this is what she has created. Although everyone's grief experience is different her willingness to lay her experience bare will no doubt be of great comfort to many widows who are readers. I sent off two copies of the book to friends who are recent widows as soon as I completed reading it even though I can't imagine anyone having the concentration for six to nine months after one's mate's death. I also think it would be a good book f ...more
I simply decided that there's nothing for me to be gained by reading this--no insight or closure for me personally, dealing with my own version of death and loss (of a father, not a spouse). In fact, it was starting to bring out something in me I am hesitant to acknowledge: somet ...more
As a person who has studied happiness for many years, Oates did everything wrong. She secluded hers ...more