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Emozioni distruttive. Liberarsi dai tre veleni della mente: rabbia, desiderio e illusione

4.12 of 5 stars 4.12  ·  rating details  ·  1,278 ratings  ·  76 reviews
*Why do seemingly rational, intelligent people commit acts of cruelty and violence?

*What are the root causes of destructive behavior?

*How can we control the emotions that drive these impulses?

*Can we learn to live at peace with ourselves and others?

Imagine sitting with the Dalai Lama in his private meeting room with a small group of world-class scientists and philosophers....more
Hardcover, 462 pages
Published 2003 by Mondadori (first published February 29th 2000)
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I'm an atheist, but I find Buddhism to be a compelling religion. I admire the Dalai Lama (duh), but what is truly stunning is his scientific curiosity. Never before have a I heard a religious leader say that if scientific evidence contradicts the dogma of a religion, that religion *must change* to accommodate this new data - that's exactly what the Dalai Lama states in this book. Read it!
This is not an easy read. This is not the kind of material that I breezed through and I've found that while the rational and logical aspects kept me rooted, some realizations along the way were pretty painful. I read this with a journal next to me. And I'm not finished reading it yet. The book offers a lot of self-reflection and one of the most poignant takeaways I received from this is how the Dalai Lama had to take a break during one seminar when he learned that Westerners hated themselves. He...more
A great primer for anyone who wants to get some knowledge on neuroscience. Additionally one would appreciate how the author explains on length different sections of the brains anatomy ,for many of the uninitiated it would be their first time coming across terms such as as Amygdala, Hippocampus , Frontal Lobes et al.
Going beyond just explaining brain anatomy , Daniel Goldman illustrates how all of these parts have a great bearing on our personalities and behavior.The book breaks through the Freu...more
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Michael Vagnetti
It's unfortunate that this book is titled what it is. It's really a book of comparative psychology/philosophy of mind: Western vs. Buddhist. It explores in detail the complex Buddhist concept of emotions/afflictions, and how Western language and philosophy have framed ideas of compassion, mind, and ethics in contrasting ways. A practical bridge between the mythical elusiveness of concepts like nirvana and samsara and the way that the brain actually handles emotions across cultures. The scientist...more
Unfortunately, Daniel Goleman rather gets in the way of the "dialogue” to which the title refers. He seems much more intent on creating a Dalai Lama hagiography than presenting the reader with a pellucid transcript of the proceedings of what, to be fair, does seem to have been an amazing colloquium. Notwithstanding the annoying smarminess of Goleman, the book has its moments. In particular I found discussions in which neuroscience research findings were described and related to Tibetan Buddhism...more
Susan Mills
The Dalai Lama is a fascinating person, as has been said before. The book makes it apparent that he is deeply intelligent and engaged both on a spiritual and temporal level. He has an insightful mind as to many scientific inquiries. Here, he and other high lamas are an integral part of a conference of neuroscientists exploring how the mind works and, in particular, how we can better manage and train our minds, our youth, to steer away from destructive emotions and find a happier mindset. The Da...more
This record of conversations between the Dalai Lama, Buddhist scholars and American & European psychologists and neuroscientists was absolutely delightful. There were big, complicated ideas discussed, but explained! This book gave me a lot to think about, (like the idea that anger isn't necessarily something innate we can't get rid of). Hmmmmm.
I wish I could give it 6 stars. A great dialogue, not just about destructive emotions, but about all emotions/psychology in general. Monks in meditative states outscore everyone else on tests of emotional selfcontrol, even going so far as calming others through using the open-state.

The author recounts the public meeting between Buddhist practitioners and scientist, comparing and contrasting the 2 systems for a detailed look at emotional psychology.

Also includes an explanation of PATHS, an Americ...more
Everything I love, spirituality, psychology, neurology.
This book was excellente. If it sounds at all interesting, get it and read it.

I'm really interested in the buddhist approach to emotional issues:
'"To consider whether those destructive emotions are part of the basic nature of mind, we need to examine them. Take anger, for example. A strong burst of anger seems irresistible, very compelling. We feel almost powerless not to feel angry; it is as if one has no choice but to experience it. This is because we don't really look at the nature of anger i...more
Hm, it seems rather awkward (if not ungenerous) to write but I wouldn't recommend this book. I was very interested at first, learning that Buddhism is open to changing as science provides explanations that contradict Buddhist teachings, but this work is no more than a summary of a week-long presentation by various specialists in religion, biology and psychology on mental states that can be deemed destructive, whether in the East or West. In the course of the book, it became clear that the specia...more
Jan 01, 2008 Kris rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone.
This is one of my current favorite books. It is the most lent, read, and then bought book on my shelf. The Dalai Lama has been participating in Mind and Life conferences where modern western scientists and brilliant Buddhist philosophers discuss current science findings that show the ancient philosophy of Buddhism to have been quite accurate and ahead of its time. I can not wait to hear about the next conference as there should be even more data that shows the power of meditation on brain waves,...more
Ricardo Roman
Como pocos libros teóricos, Emociones Destructivas tiene la facultad de evocar emociones profundas de afecto y admiración por seres humanos visionarios en el sentido más profundo de lo que necesitamos en estos tiempos. Comprender las emociones como parte de la mente, y la mente como algo más que una máquina de procesamiento de información. Es un diálogo entre científicos experimentales y sabios del budismo tibetano, que incluye sorprendentes experimentos de primera línea científica, que debiera...more
Jul 19, 2008 Christi rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Christi by: Brandon DeCuir
Fascinating! While it was a long read (because I kept re-reading), it was worth every minute. This book is the account of the eighth Mind and Life meeting, held March of 2000 in Dharamsala, India.

While reading, I actually felt as if I were sitting amongst the renowned scientist, monks and philosophers. This conference combines ancient Buddhist wisdom and breakthroughs in a variety of fields of scientific study (neuroscience to child development). The relevant discoveries illustrate how we can r...more
Lisa L.
While this book is interesting, it separates the scientific point of view of emotions from philosophical and religious—which I thought is the only way to look at emotions. The book on emotions that shook my understanding of emotions to the core was Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions written by Vlad Koros. Koros uses simple observations to show how emotions appear and disappear in our minds and bodies and then explains techniques (which seem like p...more
This book is an account of one of the fascinating annual meetings between the Dalai Lama and western scientists. There is biographical information about the participants, all of whom are at the forefront of their respective fields of research. They get into discussions about the mind - what it is, how it works. They compare Buddhist ideas about philosophy and psychology with current research into the workings of the brain. One of the interesting things was how many English words have no equivale...more
This book is an interesting mix of science and faith. Are we all just talking (and arguing and fighting) about the same things the world over, just in different 'languages'? I really liked the views of the Dalai Lama and have read a few of his books on peacefulness and mindfulness and happiness and joy from simple pleasures as a result of this book. Daniel Goleman's scientific background helps to explain why age old traditions and some would say superstitions actually work. It is not an easy rea...more
Arne Krueger
great, great, great. the connection between neuroscience, and the secularisation of the buddhist concepts and psychology, is the topic of this book. it's written by scientists, who are familiar with but definitely no buddhists nor religious. they try to understand, connect, translate and proof century old wisdom into our modern times with great success. i love the structure too, which is following a three day conference held in 2001 together with the dalai lama. he himself, is only present throu...more
David Haws
I'm giving a lecture on commitment and the willingness to suffer (ostensibly about the death of Socrates) and I remember these two Dalai Lama books that I read a few years ago. I think the point is that empathy is human, and empathy requires us to share suffering. Suffering is in the Affective Domain, but the causes of suffering can be physical, cognitive, or affective. I think the point with Socrates (the Crito) is that he empathizes with the suffering in Athens caused by a cognitive deficiency...more
Sep 04, 2008 Maribel rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Recommended to Maribel by: Jamie
Our emotions and how we handle them define us. It is through our temperaments and moods that others around us know us. With that in mind, it is imperative that we learn that we have complete control over our emotions, and not the other way around. We can learn to respond in more positive ways to unsettling feelings that come up in our day to day life. Why, this being as important as it is, have we not as a society done something to teach this important skill to each other. This book raises some...more
I've had this book for ages. Well, not exactly, may be more than a year already but still couldn't manage to find neither discipline nor incentive to read it yet.

But, hey, as the dissertation process are becoming "destructive" to my emotion more and more each day, may be it would be a good idea to pick up this book! :-p

In fact, my adviser sort of told me to get a book by Goleman on Emotional Intelligence, but when I got to the bookstore, I sort of like this title more. So, I'm sort of a rebel wi...more
This is a description of meetings with the Dalai Lama and other Buddhist monks with several Western scientists and philosophers such as Daniel Goleman (wrote Emotional Intelligence), Paul Ekman (studied facial expression and emotion), Alan Wallace, and Georges Dreyfus among other participants, sponsored by the Mind and Life Institute. The Dalai Lama lists and describes Buddhist mental afflictions and discusses and compares these with Western participant's definitions of destructive emotions. Cul...more
Anish Chowdhary
This is a book which has evolved out of a discussion between world's leading scientists (psychologists, neuro-scientists etc.) and Buddhist practitioners led by HH Dalai Lama. It seeks to find points of convergence and divergence between science and Buddhist beliefs on what destructive emotions are, how they affect us and how can one lead a happier life. It is a very complex topic and Daniel Goleman does an excellent editing job to present it in an unbiased and lucid way.

Must recommend for those...more
Katharine Holden
Not as interesting a book as I thought it would be. It's a case of a rather dry, self-consciously pretentious book being given a catchy title to draw readers. I didn't gain much insight from this reading this. Also, I found the careful avoidance by non-Tibetan, not-Buddhist Westerners of using pronouns to address the Dalai Lama obsequious in the extreme. It distracted me from what the co-authors were saying. This detracted from the book as the dialogue it was supposed to be, as it was obvious an...more
Beth Robb
Loved every second of this book!
Jul 30, 2014 Readerbug marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
Elly Sands
Excellent! It took some time to read but worth every minute. Oh how I wish I was sitting in that room in Dharmasala. But what would I say?! I'd just be all ears and beaming with excitement and joy! Actually the dialogue pulls you in and makes you feel a part of it as though you were truly there. A great exchange between great minds about the the role emotions play in our lives and how we might effectively handle them. A great combination, Buddhism and science,and how they walk hand in hand in ma...more
Gemma Williams
A very interesting report on the Mind and Life conference on Buddhism, neuroscience, psychology and negative emotions, facilitated by the Dalai Lama, who comes across as very knowledgeable about science. Despite the Western and Buddhist positions even differing on the definition of what a negative emotion is, the discussion is very fruitful on both sides, with a real sense of the different perspectives being open to learning from each other. fascinating stuff, and lots to think about.
The content was interesting but less accessible and applicable than some of the Dalai Lama's other collaborations. I feel like this is one book I will need to read multiple times to fully appreciate.

Update: One year later, it's hard to remember how I would have seen this material as less accessible applicable. This book really helped me adjust my frame of mind when I needed it, and I am certain I will still revisit this book.
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“The Extraordinary Persons Project In fact, Ekman had been so moved personally—and intrigued scientifically—by his experiments with Öser that he announced at the meeting he was planning on pursuing a systematic program of research studies with others as unusual as Öser. The single criterion for selecting apt subjects was that they be “extraordinary.” This announcement was, for modern psychology, an extraordinary moment in itself. Psychology has almost entirely dwelt on the problematic, the abnormal, and the ordinary in its focus. Very rarely have psychologists—particularly ones as eminent as Paul Ekman—shifted their scientific lens to focus on people who were in some sense (other than intellectually) far above normal. And yet Ekman now was proposing to study people who excel in a range of admirable human qualities. His announcement makes one wonder why psychology hasn't done this before. In fact, only in very recent years has psychology explicitly begun a program to study the positive in human nature. Sparked by Martin Seligman, a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania long famous for his research on optimism, a budding movement has finally begun in what is being called “positive psychology”—the scientific study of well-being and positive human qualities. But even within positive psychology, Ekman's proposed research would stretch science's vision of human goodness by assaying the limits of human positivity Ever the scientist, Ekman became quite specific about what was meant by “extraordinary.” For one, he expects that such people exist in every culture and religious tradition, perhaps most often as contemplatives. But no matter what religion they practice, they share four qualities. The first is that they emanate a sense of goodness, a palpable quality of being that others notice and agree on. This goodness goes beyond some fuzzy, warm aura and reflects with integrity the true person. On this count Ekman proposed a test to weed out charlatans: In extraordinary people “there is a transparency between their personal and public life, unlike many charismatics, who have wonderful public lives and rather deplorable personal ones.” A second quality: selflessness. Such extraordinary people are inspiring in their lack of concern about status, fame, or ego. They are totally unconcerned with whether their position or importance is recognized. Such a lack of egoism, Ekman added, “from the psychological viewpoint, is remarkable.” Third is a compelling personal presence that others find nourishing. “People want to be around them because it feels good—though they can't explain why,” said Ekman. Indeed, the Dalai Lama himself offers an obvious example (though Ekman did not say so to him); the standard Tibetan title is not “Dalai Lama” but rather “Kundun,” which in Tibetan means “presence.” Finally, such extraordinary individuals have “amazing powers of attentiveness and concentration.” 0 likes
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