You Lost Me There
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You Lost Me There

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"Beautiful, brainy, and offbeat" ("Entertainment Weekly"), a perfect sophisticated summer read.
By turns funny, charming, and tragic, Rosecrans Baldwin's debut novel introduces leading Alzheimer's researcher Dr. Victor Aaron, who spends his days alternating between long hours in the lab and running through memories of his late wife, Sara. He's preserved their marriage as...more
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Published August 1st 2010 by Riverhead Books
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You Lost Me There is the debut novel of the co-founder of The Morning News, and there probably is no bigger fan of the site than this reader. (Briefly, for the uninformed, TMN is the site that launched the Gary Benchley web series, the more-hit-than-miss Non-Expert column, and the Tournament of Books, the N-C-Two-As for booknerds. This is a more than fine pedigree for a freshman novelist in the internetty age.)

And Baldwin can certainly write well and engagingly, even the worst moments in YLMT ar...more
Victor Aaron is a dull, dull turd. Why would any of the other people in this book have a relationship with him? He was lame, self-centered and shitty. I would give 1.5 stars and would also like to punch the author in the balls.
This is turning out to be disappointingly heavy sledding. Maybe because the whole thing feels too much like a cerebral exercise -- the characters are there just as a means of exploring the fallibility of memory, not because there's a story that needs to be told.

I like a good story myself.

Update: 2 months later.

Oh dear. This "critically acclaimed" "novel of ideas" turns out to be just the kind of book that exposes me for what I am. The kind of reader who finds a certain kind of serious "novel of...more
This book was just too much of a painful slog. I don't know who or what rang most false: the spry drunken 86 year old, the vapid invisible 58 year protagonist, the weirdly talkative and aggressive 20 something girls who have nothing better to do than hang around the aforementioned protagonist, the stilted and improbable dialogue, the trite musings on science and memory... The whole book seemed to violently violate the old adage of write what you know, which fine, many talented writers can violat...more
A solid first novel by Rosecrans Baldwin. Was it my favorite book ever? No.. but I found it thoroughly enjoyable. The strange thing is though, I found myself more drawn to side characters. Sara in particular, I thought was very intriguing and was perhaps my favorite character... even though she is dead throughout the whole book. The main character, Victor, became more relatable later in the book, when he started going off the deep end. When I was reading Sara's memories about Victor, I thought h...more
Bruce Willis. Die Hard. "Moonlighting"

How often do you run into Mr. Willis and his oeuvre in literary fiction? He may not appear frequently (maybe not at all) yet he fits in perfectly with this substantial and insightful novel about memor by Rosecrans Baldwin. You Lost Me There is a complicated story, with twists and surprises and feinted paths, as well as scientific details about disease and the research to fight it. Beyond the serious details, it is a fun novel as well, thus Bruce Willis refer...more
My very special gentleman friend has this thing with the last third of movies and books. Usually he hates them. Probably would rather have the ending lopped off, than nose dive into a suck pool. Especially in the situation of a really, really, really good first two-thirds.

I had that in mind as I neared the ending of Rosecrans Baldwin's debut novel "You Lost Me There." I considered closing the book. Sealing it. Shelving it. Letting the story end where I wanted to end, instead of where Baldwin wan...more
Read 3/19/14 - 3/26/14
3 Stars - Recommended for readers who don't mind a slow story that turns and churns over loss and regret and misunderstanding
Pages: 304
Publisher: Riverhead Hardcover
Released: 2010

I bought this book as a hardcover yeaaaaars ago at a book sale for a couple of bucks, drawn to it by the title and cover, less so by the jacket copy. The blurb refers to the book as " at turns funny, charming, and tragic". We'll get back to this in a moment.

I left it shelved with the countless othe...more
I appreciated how the structure of the prose mimicked how the brain stores and recalls memories--appropriate, since the MC is an Alzheimer's researcher. But the characters were so unlikable I really didn't enjoy this read very much. I normally have a fairly high level of tolerance for reading about the problems of the privileged, but this guy was all, "Boo hoo, I'm a middle-aged white male, and I can't maintain an erection, and everybody uses email and I can't figure out how it works, and aren't...more
Christina Zawadiwsky
You Lost Me There by Rosecrans Baldwin

This is a book about memory (and its individuation), but it begins, in the prologue, with secrets. When they are getting to know each other, husband and wife Victor and Sarah tell each other their deepest secrets – he, that he had killed someone – that is, a friend of his killed himself and Victor felt he should have stopped him – and she, that she may have punched her mother in the stomach (at which they both laugh, given her mother’s obnoxiousness). Dr. Vi...more

As far as scientists have come in terms of medical breakthroughs in treating neurological disorders and depression, the interworkings of the brain and the way that humans create memories still, to a certain degree, remain mysteries. In his debut novel You Lost Me There(Riverhead, $25.95), Rosecrans Baldwin attempts to explore the subjective aspects of memory and the emotional bond of marriage from the point of view of an Alzheimer’s disease researcher.

Greg Zimmerman
The set-up for Rosecrans Baldwin's debut novel, You Lost Me There, is certainly intriguing. An Alzheimer researcher wrestles with his own rememories. But his problem is not that he's losing his memory. It's that he can't remember things accurately or definitively or with the same assignation of value as others. And this causes him quite a bit of consternation. Indeed, it nearly ruins his life.

Dr. Victor Aaron's wife Sara has been dead for several years -- perishing in a car crash soon after a re...more
I like the idea of this book. I like the idea of a book about memory, how two people's memories of the same events can be completely different, and how that can color their lives together. There wasn't enough of that in this book. However, this book has plenty of two dimensional women. Ugh. I hate books where the author has no idea how to write female characters. I also didn't like the protagonist much, so that didn't help me feel invested in this book. I think that maybe Baldwin was trying to s...more

this book lost me somewhere in the first hundred pages. i was intrigued by the premise--alzheimer's researcher finds his own memories unreliable after his wife's unexpected death--but it never really panned out. what annoyed me most was the way the characters talked to each other--something about their dialogue just baffled me, as if they all knew what they were talking about, but i didn't. the last third of the book picked up a bit, and i was satisfied to have finished it, but frankly, if i'd h...more
I gave this one 75 pages and just wasn't feelin' it. I could set it down easily, and picking it up was out of a sense of duty rather than an urge. Since I have a stack of other books waiting for me, I gave myself permission to abandon it, and if I missed out on an awesome book here, I can live with that. (Insert "you lost me there" joke here!)
Dear Book: Apt title! PS: Unless you know you're "Memoirs of a Geisha" or the like, don't call yourself "You Lost Me There." Seems like a bad idea. You lost me at page 70ish, when I realized all your male characters were totally cliche and the idea you started with was going nowhere. Bah. Sincerely, Someone Who Tried to Like You
Judy Mann
Okay - I would say he lost me there.. and there... and there. and even there.. and especially there... and moreover .. there and there and there.
This was one really lousy book.
There were times when the writing was so incoherent that I wondered if the galleys hadn't gotten mixed up in the printing. He - Baldwin- uses metaphors that make absolutely NO SENSE. By last night it had gotten so bad that I actually wrote some of them down.
Watch this:: (He's talking about his lab partners getting a grant...more
switterbug (Betsey)
In the isolated Soborg Institute off the coast of Maine, obsessive geneticist Victor Aaron works tirelessly to make a breakthrough in Alzheimer's research with his capable, motley crew of colleagues. Since his wife, Sara, died several years ago, he has walled himself off emotionally from relationships, frustrating his twenty-five year-old girlfriend, Regina, a research fellow and budding poet. He is fifty-eight and suffering from impotence. She is a potent, burlesque-loving young woman that danc...more
Victor Adams is a sixty-year-old neuroscientist putting in long days at his lab, studying Alzheimer's. He's been working long hours his entire career, which caused him to miss out on much of his marriage. His wife, Sara, has died in a car crash some time ago, but Victor hasn't properly grieved. When he finds notecards Sara had written as a therapy assignment, his marriage is cast in a different light. He remembered things one way, but Sara has a drastically different point of view. Coming to ter...more
Lee Razer
I definitely wanted to like it more than I did. The written dialogue is frequently clunky, almost as if rather than holding a conversation the characters are just throwing words at each other. Maybe that's reflective of Victor's malaise and difficulty relating to other people but it made for a sometimes irksome reading experience.

Cornelia, the young dreadlocked liberated vegan hippy and live-in goddaughter, I thought was a largely unnecessary and weak character. Her provacative presence in his...more
Renee Alarid
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Larry Hoffer
First of all, how friggin' cool is the name Rosecrans Baldwin? Definitely begs for some notoriety, don't you think? Well, after reading this tremendously affecting book, I have little doubt Baldwin is on the fame track.

Victor Aaron is a fairly well-known Alzheimer's researcher running a university lab in Maine. He is struggling with the recent death of his screenwriter wife, Sara, with whom he had only recently gotten back together after an estrangement. One sleepless night he finds a stack of...more
Slow-paced, heavy on the circular philosophizing, leading not much of anywhere, as the lead character thinks through his unacknowledged grieving process. The author has a very nice grip on his main character, an aging researcher, and has a good handle on the tedium and stress of life in the research-grant lane, and life on tiny, exclusive New England islands. He would make an amazing essayist, but the book reads more like character studies than a plot moving towards a climax and resolution. I wa...more
A scientific researcher loses his wife in a car crash. She leaves behind five written exercises from her therapy sessions, describing five turning points in their relationship. The man tries to come to terms with the loss of his wife, by visiting her elderly aunt, starting a sexual relationship with a burlesque-dancing graduate student, and by allowing his bohemian god-daughter to move into his house to follow her dreams of being a chef.

How will this handful of zany women help him come to terms...more
As is the case for so many individual people, this book's strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin. I enjoyed that although the book starts out with a main character who is an Alzheimer's researcher and who is forced to face the considerable gaps between his own memories and those of his dead wife, the novel never lets itself be reduced to--or even focused on--memory. Instead, it ranges wildly across creativity in Hollywood, off-off-Broadway, in the kitchen, in poems; swimming; li...more
Nah, dude. The idea/outline/plot here is that a doctor studying Alzheimer's comes upon some index cards his late wife had written about their marriage and this forces him to call into question their past. (Which cards, by the way, are extremely eloquent and perfectly punctuated for being index cards--we're talking full-on dialogue, and pages of it, a notion I suppose we're meant to just swallow as readers, but I for one wasn't able to suspend my disbelief there.) But the index cards have just ab...more
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I had been meaning to get to Rosecrans Baldwin's You Lost Me There for awhile now. Instead a year+ passed and I just ended up reading his American in Paris memoir Paris, I Love You But You're Bringing Me Down... which, in small part, spoke of writing this novel. While I wasn't bowled over by Baldwin's Paris, I thought it would be an interesting literary segue to finally go back and read this debut novel.

But while the premise is promising, a doctor researching Alzheimer's struggles with his own m...more
Over thirty years into his research into Alzheimer’s disease and four years after his wife’s sudden death, Victor, internationally acclaimed neuroscientist struggles with memories…”The more you recall something, the more false it becomes…” His own words haunt him, baffled by human emotions, as he is forced to think about his long marriage when he discovers his wife’s notes about directional changes in their marriage, a therapist’s assignment to both of them. “If two people have the same experien...more
Aaron (Typographical Era)
There was a lot more meat to this one then I expected. It was fascinating on several levels: the science behind Alzheimer’s Disease, the way memory works (I’ve always been intrigued by the way different people remember the same event and by the way when recalling certain memories we can actually see ourselves in the situation as if we were a third party viewing the memory), and level of complexity to the characters introduced within the story.

The tricky thing at work here is to remember that al...more
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Rosecrans Baldwin is the author of Paris, I Love You but You're Bringing Me Down and You Lost Me There, which was named one of NPR’s Best Books of 2010, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, and a Time and Entertainment Weekly Best Book of Summer 2010. He is a cofounder of the online magazine The Morning News.
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