Be Different: Adventures of a Free-Range Aspergian with Practical Advice for Aspergians, Misfits, Families & Teachers

Be Different: Adventures of a Free-Range Aspergian with Practical Advice for Aspergians, Misfits, Families & Teachers

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“I believe those of us with Asperger’s are here for a reason, and we have much to offer. This book will help you bring out those gifts.”

In his bestselling memoir,Look Me in the Eye, John Elder Robison described growing up with Asperger’s syndrome at a time when the diagnosis didn’t exist. He was intelligent but socially isolated; his talents won him jobs with toy makers an...more
Hardcover, 286 pages
Published March 22nd 2011 by Crown (first published January 1st 2011)
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Amanda
I finished Be Different almost a month ago, but I’ve been thinking about it all this time, trying to decide what to write. Robison’s latest book is as well-written and entertaining as his first book, Look Me In the Eye. I think I’ve hesitated to write about Be Different because I see so much of myself in the anecdotes. I see more of my son, which makes sense, as he’s been diagnosed with Asperger’s, but there’s a lot of me in there, too. Even having acknowledged several months ago that I have som...more
Erin Duffy
To be fair, I read this right after "Look Me in the Eyes" which is one of the best biographies I have ever read. It was so charming and fresh. So when I read this book, which is very good, but more straightforward and less entertaining, I rated it lower than it probably deserves. I liked the advice at the end of the book the most. I am changing my stars to 4.
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“For anyone who has difficulty fitting in, this book is fantastic.”
—Temple Grandin, author of Thinking in Pictures

“In a love poem to his wife, Pedro Salinas, the Spanish poet, wrote, ‘Glory to the differences / between you and me.’ John Robison teaches us to celebrate differences
like Salinas did, but also offers clear insight and valuable advice on how to cope with the challenges that being different can create. This book transcends the specific case of Asperger’s syndrome and is a less

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Cheryl
I'm an Aspie-loving Momma who feels this book must be read by anyone who is personally impacted by Asperger's Syndrome - as the Aspie, as a teacher, or as a family member. It was tremendously insightful to peek into the reasoning of an Aspergian as a tool toward understanding. I have begged my daughter to read it due to the continuing thread throughout the book that an Aspie is truly capable of more than the average individual if depression or discouragement is overcome. Through relating and ack...more
Victoria
A fascinating story with practical advice for people on the autism spectrum - Aspergers, specifically, but for anyone who has always felt "different." John Robinson shares stories and insights from his growing up years, showing us what it's like to grow up a bit quirky, eccentric, socially-challenged, yet absolutely brilliant. I empathized with his relational struggles, sensory overload, and inability to "read" faces but it amazes me that he wasn't diagnosed until age forty. He taught me that ev...more
Nicky
A book written directly for people with Aspergers and their parents and teachers, to explain how neurotypical people use social skills that can be learned to have satisfying productive lives. The author shares many of his life stories with his thoughts and reactions and how others perceived them. Then he describes when he decided to work on each of his skills and how he went about it.
Short chapters move the book along quickly. The stories generally show that the repeated efforts of others faile...more
Jennifer
Robison's memoir, Look Me in the Eye, shared the ups and downs of his unusual life. Be Different is more of a guidebook: this is how I, an Asperigian, learned to navigate and succeed in the world, and you can, too. It contains practical advice along with stories of how he learned it.

He begins by dividing people into three groups: Aspergians, Proto-Aspergians (those with "plenty of aspie quirks but not too many disabilities"), and everyone else, the neurotypical, whom he dubs nypical. Be Differen...more
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Laurie
Robison has written a manual that should help anyone with Asperger’s navigate the world of neurotypicals- those who aren’t on the autism spectrum. Written as a loose autobiography, he uses his own life to illustrate the problems that those with Asperger’s can have, and tells us how he worked around those problems. His inability to read body language or read emotion on faces, his lack of understanding of social expectations, and his over sensitivity to some stimuli are all things he’s educated hi...more
Cheryl
I felt affirmed by this book, and the highlights I made in the Kindle version are going to be handy bookmarks to remind myself of the author's advice about improving my social awareness. All of us in my family are "Aspergians" to different extents, and the more I read makes me realize that my mother also is on the spectrum, which made it difficult for me to get n-typical feedback about how to get by when I was growing up. Books like these from the "autism speaks" community (including Temple Gran...more
Ayu
Good overall content, but author fails to acknowledge female readers. I didn't expect him to offer dating advice for girls the way he does for boys because he, after all, had never been a girl. It would be nice, however, if he didn't alienate female readers entirely in those moments he talked about "girls"--and there were a lot of them--especially since this book was purported to function as a "guide" for all Aspergians and misfits, which I presumed to include females as well as males. His son's...more
Holly Arrow
A wonderful memoir and guidebook to living as an Aspergian. Laugh-out-loud funny stories that are also poignant and moving. Equally valuable for those who have always known they were "different" but not sure why and for those who have an Aspergian in their life and have sometimes been completely bewildered by interactions with same. This will give you insight where the normal strategy for empathy (imagine yourself in that position, think of how others you know have behaved in that position) fail...more
Amy (SpedBug)
Although I enjoyed Robison's first autobiographial book, Look Me in the Eye, more than this offering, I found Be Different educational and entertaining. In this book, Robison outlines ways Aspergians - and even those not struggling with Autism spectrum disorders - can cope in a world where they are the minority.

Dealing with 'nypicals' or 'neurological typicals' can be difficult for those who struggle in social situations. Aspergians have difficulty reading social cues, facial expressions, and t...more
Sydney
I really enjoyed this book. There were laugh-out-loud funny moments for me (see the chapter on "Lobster Claws"). There were also a lot of "ah HA" moments; I recognized certain aspects of my own so-called "different" mannerisms.

I don't know if I have Asperger's, but it's something I've considered. Some of my mannerisms are nowhere near as extreme as the ones he described. The parts about extreme focus on narrow topics and straightforward, innocent self-absorption rang a bell with me. He's been ac...more
C.M.
I read this book so that I would perhaps gain a better understanding of my very young son who was diagnosed with ASD. It's really quite interesting to get a peek into how thoughts occurred in his mind. While I was able to take away some of that as helpful in understanding my own child, some of it wasn't relative to him because each person on the spectrum is completely different, really.

The resources at the end were very well thought out and researched. I appreciate that and honestly didn't real...more
Bea
Robison is a very good writer. He writes clearly and honestly about his struggles with being different, having Aspergers, not being diagnosed until he was an adult and what that meant to him, and the coping techniques that he's used over the years. He has developed a pretty clear understanding of what he can and can not do and freely admits when he doesn't know for sure when a quirk or difficulty si due to his autism and when it's just "normal". He also speculates on what is normal and why is it...more
Kaje
Having an aspergers son, I found it very helpful in pointing out lots of things too small and detaled to go into here, but it gave me a further insight into how aspie kids view the world and its social rules. The author, Being an undiagnosed aspie until he grew up, realised he was different and learned to copy and follow and cope. More than that he listened to the things that attracted him and made a career for himself. Descriptive, and matter of fact, it's well written and takes you inside the...more
Holly
Our family has struggled with more problems getting help for my son than will fit in this box. Finally, after he had serious enough issues, he was hospitalized this Spring. There, we received a very helpful diagnosis: Asperger's Syndrome. It made so much sense. At 12 years old, even he, felt a sense of relief. This book adds something else to that relief: hope and inspiration. This is a must read for parents of children on the Spectrum. Robison asserts that life gets easier for Aspergians as the...more
Huda Felimban
Why do we read biographies? Are all details mentioned “real”?
And what my Russian friend always asks “fabulous Huda, then what?”

Those questions usually pop up whenever I read a biography, but not this one.
In this book, John E. Robinson tells some selected stories from both his childhood and adulthood trying to help us form a better understanding of aspergians’ behavior. Things like : How he managed to control and change some of his attitudes & How he deals with bad news, crisis and friends.
H...more
Ann LaBar
This is a very readable. The personal stories are at times very funny which makes what could be an uncomfortable subject to some approachable. The advice and insights into Aspberger Syndrome are extremely helpful. I have given a copy to my Aspberger daughter and very likely Aspberger husband to read. I think this book arrived at the right time for my teenaged daughter who is having a horrific time making friends. The message that life for someone with Aspbergers only gets better and better with...more
Liz
So, this was by an aspergian. Let me tell you, reading through it, half the stuff, like how to deal with other people, he could have learned from reading Dale Carnegie. I'm glad to hear that having a diagnosis for his behavioral differences made him feel better about himself, but it seems that he lived his life to the fullest without the diagnosis, and having found out earlier might have changed the way he lived his life, hence he would not have made the strides that he did. I also felt that he...more
Dana
Robison's book is a look at Aspergers from the inside, with the aim of helping out others who share his diagnosis. He frequently reminds his audience that, while things may be tough as a kid or teen, it gets better as an adult. He focuses on how to turn Aspie traits into success ("Kids make fun of your special interests in elementary school, but people will see you as an expert in your field when you're an adult"), as well as how to mitigate some of the condition's weaknesses. I particularly lov...more
Jonathan Karmel
I liked Look Me in the Eye better, but I enjoyed reading this too. I agree with the central premise of the book. Understand yourself, understand how your behavior affects others and apply the generally accepted rules of moral, ethical and polite behavior. But then go ahead and be different. Celebrate eccentricity; don't appologize for it. I like and agree with the concept of the "proto-aspergian" - a person with Asperger's traits who nevertheless would probably not be diagnosed with Asperger's....more
Joanne
I read about half of this book before giving up, since it's sort of a how-to guide for people with Aspergers or their family and friends. It's written at about an eighth grade level with big margins, and I have to wonder if, after the success of his last book (Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's), Robison's publisher was rushing to get something out the door as a follow-up. The lessons are somewhat fleshed out by anecdotes, but it's still very simplistic (e.g., Manners are important even...more
Anna
John Elder Robison didn’t learn why he was different until he was 40 years old when he was diagnosed with Asperger’s. By then, he was already a successful businessman with a family and a history of mechanical wizardry including designing exploding guitars for the band, KISS. I really enjoyed Look Me In The Eye - his memoir about growing up with Asperger's but not knowing that he had it. Be Different is a bit more practical. Robison gives advice for anyone who is different, e.g. dealing with bull...more
Sue
John Elder Robison writes about his experience of living as an Aspergian, filled with anecdotes and stories from his childhood, adolescence and adult life, as well as hard won advice on how to survive and even thrive in a world that finds it hard to understand and accept difference. He comes from a fascinating family. His brother is Augusten Burroughs, who wrote "Running with Scissors" about their unconventional (mad, really) childhood. This was later made into a film. "Be Different" is funny an...more
Erika
Reading books by Aspergians is so enlightening, because you get into their brains and can appreciate the differences the author discusses. Reading about how brains are different doesn't give you a feeling for how different they are, but reading the thought processes of an Aspergian does. This book is different than others I've read like it because of the use of humor. The author does have a sense of humor and there were time I laughed out loud. He also makes some points that I had not read about...more
Alison
This book is fantastic! Its readable, practical and entertaining. Anyone who has any interaction with Aspergers should read this book - whether they have it, have family members who have it, teach people with it or are just plain curious about how an Aspergian (as the author calls himself) thinks. Written by an Aspergian for Aspergians, the book gives a personal narrative of how different aspects of Aspergers were a difficulty and how he dealt with them - and other aspects were actually benefits...more
Meredith
I picked up this book on the suggestion of my son's classmate's mother. Part memoir, part self-help book for those on the autism spectrum and the people in their lives, Be different : adventures of a free-range Aspergian with practical advice for Aspergians, misfits, families & teachers by John Elder Robison offers a peek into how an Aspergian mind works, as well as some advice on how to function in a society largely made up of "nypicals" (Robison's word for neurotypicals).

To those on the sp...more
Terry
This book is much more:
1. interesting
2. specific
3. useful

and is better written than Robison's previous book about living as an Aspie "Look Me in the Eye." "Be Different" gets down and dirty with the real challenges and rewards of being with or supporting an Aspie. The book not only tells the stories of growing up as an Aspie (at a time when no one really knew was Asperger's was), but also connects those stories of his childhood to learning how to navigate in the nypical* world.

*"nypical" = neur...more
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I was born in rural Georgia, where my dad worked as a country preacher. I was kind of a misfit growing up. In fact, the bigger I got, the more misfit I became. At age 8, I got a little brother, and he was a misfit too. I dropped out of school in 10th grade, and never looked back. My brother dropped out a few years later, following in my footsteps.

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