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The Search For The Real Self: Unmasking The Personality Disorders Of Our Age

4.04 of 5 stars 4.04  ·  rating details  ·  97 ratings  ·  10 reviews
Outwardly charming, confident, and successful individuals may in fact be caught in a knot of self-destructive behavior. This book looks at case histories and delineates appropriate treatments for each disorder--offering a real hope for cure.
Paperback, 256 pages
Published March 1st 1990 by Free Press
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I would recommend this book for anyone interested in human nature or psychology. It describes where borderline and narcissistic personality disorders come from and the kinds of behaviors they lead to in adults. It is written more for therapists than those seeking self-help, but the writing was clear and made sense to me as a layman. A lot of the ideas are applicable to all people, not just those with personality disorders, so I think just about anyone would find it fascinating.
Not so much a self help as it is a clinical psychology book primarily focus on abandonment depression. Even then, is one that I would recommend to many.
Starts off with how the developement of a child in the first few years can effect them as they get older. The importance of particular behaviors and games that youngster play and how the parent(s) respond to them. The later chapters go into the variations of how the impairment of one's developement can effect them in various aspect of their life
Dr. Stanley
An important book which explains the early childhood antecedents of the borderline (deficient) personality elements which so many suffer from and which inhibit their work and love lives. But these borderline elements (weakness of basic psychological abilities), which are fairly common among psychotherapy patients, differ from a borderline personality disorder which is far more severe and less frequent. I praised this book in the introduction to the 2nd edition of one of my books, Troubled Childr ...more
Bill Taylor
On the face of it, this book looks a bit like a self help book, but is actually much deeper than that. I would say it was primarily aimed at psychology health professionals as it goes on the describe therapies to use for disorder treatments. Nevertheless, I did read the first few chapters and found them hard going but informative.

I could really do with something aimed more at the man in the street.
Very easy read. I love how it's written and his presentation of the pre-egoic personality disorders. He includes many real life examples of people with Narcissistic, Borderline, and Schizoid Personality Disorders. My only wish is that he continued on in describing OCPD, HPD and so on in the same exact way.
Randy Elrod
Excellent book, especially the last chapter about the role of creativity in finding your true self. Contains eye-opening profiles of artists: Sartre, Tom Wolfe and Munch.
This book changed my life when I was 12 or 13. I read it again every year or so, to slightly less effect. Still: excellent.
Great professional resource as a deeper discussion about personality disorders and effective treatments.
I read this based on Lynne's recommendation, and found it very worthwhile. Thanks, Lynne!
A good, basic intro to.
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