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Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days

3.73  ·  Rating Details ·  540 Ratings  ·  87 Reviews
By popular demand, Dr. Leman tells wives the secrets to having a new husband in 5 days. Filled with his signature wit and wisdom, this book contains plenty of simple tools plus good stories to back up his advice. And as always, he guarantees results.
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Published September 15th 2009 by Fleming H. Revell Company (first published 2009)
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Jane Maritz
Sep 29, 2009 Jane Maritz rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Well, it's Friday morning, and I don't have a new husband. In fact, my existing husband's first words to me this morning were: "You're a real piece of work, you know that?"

Granted, I'm stressing to finish three book reviews before we take off for the weekend camping trip, and I really should be packing so we can get out of here as soon as possible. So maybe he's justified. And I'd better get moving!

But the point is, Have a New Husband by Friday isn't a miracle-working book. You can't place your
This book was picked up by my husband at the library while I was quickly picking out a bunch of books. He gave it to me as a joke. I think he was disappointed when I said, "oh sure I'll read that too." What I learned real quick as I was reading is that I have an amazing husband. He is not an atypical male which I am grateful for because it makes it easy for me to understand him. I did learn a few things about relationships in general and found that I need to rethink the way I am interacting with ...more
Dec 29, 2009 Randy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Sometimes marital relations are complicated, and sometimes they are not.

If you need to get into what I call the tertiary psychological B.S. level, this isn't for you.

If you are a basically normal person with a normal level of neuroses and baggage, and if your significant other is likewise, and if things aren't so hot between you, try this one.

It boils men down into the simple creatures we are. It helps their women change their behavior, mostly by treating them as if they are men.

Step One: discar
Jan 30, 2016 Regina rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: All Wives and Wives to Be
Shelves: marriage
I've read Dr. Leman before, and love his humorous and gentle way of teaching. Of course, getting a new husband has nothing to do with changing our men, but in changing OURSELVES and how we treat our husbands. I've noticed a difference already and need to read books like this occassionally to be inspired to be a better wife. That role of mine so often gets put on the back burner and that's a real shame. But I'm inspired to do better now and recommend this book to ALL WIVES and wives to be.
Kelly Keeling
Apr 02, 2011 Kelly Keeling rated it it was ok
This book is typical. Basically it states that the problems in the marriage are all the wives fault. Men hold only a small part of the blame. We have no right to the money because he is to make all those decisions for us. If we dare to be independent enough to solve our own problems we are telling him that he is too stupid to solve them for us and we do not really need him. We are to be completely dependent on him asking him how we are to fix our problems or having him fix them for us, asking hi ...more
Sheree Thomson
Sep 01, 2010 Sheree Thomson rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Found this book encouraging and very practical. If you are interested in keeping your pride more than you are in improving your marriage, don't read this book.

Leman puts forward how the male mind works in contrast to us (females) and explains with humor everything from how sex to respect is so extremely important to men and how to "speak man" so that he will hear us!

It's a great read but sobering also. Be prepared to look at yourself as much as you try to figure out your husband.
Jan 24, 2012 Tara rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I've read this book twice; most recently finishing it earlier this month (Jan. 2012). You've got to know how to take something with a grain of salt in order to get the message here but it's well worth it. It has been very helpful to me in understanding what my husband needs from me and has made a difference in how I approach him and how I respond to him. In turn, our relationship has improved immensely. Highly recommended!
Dec 21, 2009 Monika rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: first-reads
Final review: Well, as a First Reads win, this book was a fun read. it wasn't a "change him" book, but moreso a book about helping your relationship grow, and how to grow together as a couple. You really need to take this book lightly though, because the author is very blunt about a lot of things, and others just have you rolling your eyes, but the book as a whole was decent. See below for comments as i updated.

edit:there are alot of things in this book that could have been put into a whole noth
Dec 08, 2009 Cheryl rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thoroughly enjoyed this book both for it's serious content and the humorous anecdotes. Dr. Kevin Leman's humor, insight, experience and wisdom is shared in 5 chapers, each titled for the 5 days of the week. He spells out the significant differences between men and women and explains how women can transform their husbands in 5 days or less by ensuring their husband's needs are met. He states what men need most is to be respected, to be needed and to be fulfilled. He then proceeds to give exampl ...more
Oct 01, 2010 Kellie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was a book I wish I could have taken a month to read. (because it was due back at the library I read it in 2 days). All of it to me was common sense. Of course you should do all these wonderful things to help your husband feel needed, respected, and fulfilled. BUT when I'm reading about it, I do it. It's so much easier, and it had some great ideas. If only I could remember this stuff for a week or two longer...

I would highly recommend it to anyone who's married.
As I read about when divorce
Dawn Trlak-Donahue
Disclaimer-I intended to order the book 'Have a New Teenager by Friday' from this author from our library. (The author was on tv discussing the book and I have a teenage daughter that sometimes brings me to the end of my rope. )I accidentally ordered this book and decided to read it-after having a good laugh about it with my husband and leaving it out for him to see daily.... ;>).

While I don't doubt that some of his techniques might make for harmony-I feel like it comes at the expense of the
Apr 10, 2010 Clare rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Did you know men like sex?
And are oblivious to new haircuts?

Yes, I knew that too.

I get that men and women are different but this seemed turn a pamphlet into a book.

The key to having a new husband by Friday is to be a better wife.

Don’t treat your husband like your girlfriend.
Never ask why. It destroys a man’s trust.
Avoid using terms like Always and Never. (Yes, I do get the irony of #3 contradicting #2.)
If you notice for a guy to notice something, you’ll be waiting a long time.
Shelleyrae at Book'd Out
I have to agree with another reader - the title should be something like "How to Be a Better Wife" and while it raises some valid points - yes men like sex and probably want more than you are giving him, it is very simplistic in its outlook and I'm not sure it gives men quite enough credit, men are largely reduced to stereotypes. It also puts almost the entire onus for the emotional health of the marriage on the wife and while I whole heartedly believe in supporting and respecting my husband I d ...more
Feb 22, 2010 Patty rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book had a lot of good advice for women who want to change their relationship with their husbands. My only beef with it is that the author seems to take for granted that every man is the same simple minded hormone driven creature (I'm sure that's not how he meant it... but that's how it came across.) Although I like a lot of his ideas it felt like he was giving men a free ride to just "be men" while having women do most of the changing- in the way we relate, communicate, act, etc. I'm not s ...more
Monica Albright
You are not going to change anyone except yourself. Which is a good thing. Just know that your husband will not turn into someone else. I recommend this to anyone who is even the slightest bit annoyed with their spouse. There are helpful hints and most of it is just common sense. Think about your actions and words.
This book does NOT have the helpful reference section like the "kid" version of this, but it isn't needed.
Colleen Wainwright
To be fair, I did not start with a husband. In fact, I may be done with husbands altogether—the jury's still out on that one. But if I ever get one, and the stuff in this book is what I need to do to keep him, I'm not going to have him for long. [Read for free on my Kindle. Because...because...oh, some things are destined to remain mysteries wrapped in enigmas, only to be revealed in the cozy confines of a shrink's office.]
Dec 02, 2010 Donna rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I like the author's style and voice, sense of humor. Confirms many things I've learned but wondered if my husband was the only one....? I'd like to read more of his books. Gives a very positive outlook, Christian outlook on one's commitment to marriage.
Jul 14, 2010 Lisa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Got this book to share with a friend, but decided to read it myself first. So many great points on how women totally don't understand their husbands. A great read if you want to understand the men in your life better.
Jan 16, 2012 Janice rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoy Dr. Leman's books, and this was no exception. He has such a fun, casual way of writing that it is such a quick read and very entertaining. Good ideas to help strengthen even healthy relationships.
Jeannie Mineer
This is a horrible name for a book. It's basically explaining the communication barrier we have as males and females. Very good insight. It doesn't tell you to change them, it tells them to change YOU. Very good.
Feb 28, 2012 Kathy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Really, so far, nothing I didn't already know about my Maybe just motivation to think more about loving him better no matter how irritated I can become at him. :-)
Amber Kay
Mar 23, 2011 Amber Kay rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I did not read it for a long time due to to the title... however the book is great and it focuses on what needs changed IN BOTH OF YOU to make things better.
Aug 03, 2014 Caryn rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was amazing. It will change the way you speak and act towards your husband because you don't realize just how important you are to him and his every decision. The amazing man you married, will in turn, react to your changes in a wonderfully positive way. I have always felt this way towards him, I just assumed he didn't want to hear me gush about him.....but he does and loves every second of it. I didn't read this book because my marriage was in trouble in any way, I just knew we could ...more
Mar 23, 2012 Lori rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I just LOVE Kevin Leman's sound advice. He makes everything so simple. It's great having advice form a guy on how to handle guys.
Apr 07, 2014 Amber rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have read other books by Kevin Leman and enjoyed them. This book was also a good book in many ways. My biggest problem was how many times he mentioned the idea of divorce as an option. I understand he was saying it was in extreme situations but it was a little disheartening to hear him say it so much in a book that is supposed to be upholding marriage, especially the Christian ideal of marriage. Other than that, a good book. I enjoyed his stories he shared but I would definitely recommend his ...more
Dr. Leman has a great style and this had a lot of great reminders in it. Good read!
Lynne Modranski
Dr. Kevin Leman would have me believe that all men are "dumber than mud." I just don't buy it! I will concede that women should not expect men to be mind readers and that men and women are wired differently, so women shouldn't expect a man to act like her girlfriend. However, I believe that men are intelligent creatures uniquely designed by the Author of Life. You may not be created to be multi-taskers, but you are intelligent enough to know that if the garbage needs taken out, it's perfectly ac ...more
Dear Dr Leman,

To be honest, it was really spooky reading your book and seeing so many of my husband's traits described on the pages. I mean, I really had thought when he told me that I'm his only/best friend that he couldn't possibly mean it, that maybe he was exaggerating for emphasis. I was really skeptical when I first picked this book up (which I only did because it was available for Kindle FOR FREE and a friend of mine strongly and adamantly insisted that I really ought to grab it and read
I already have an awesome husband, but I picked up this book during a give-away because I figured it would give me insight into how to be a better wife and show my husband how much I love and appreciate him. I was right. There is no manipulation in this book. It basically boils down to better communication and better understanding your husband.

The book also has a great summary at the end that I want to copy and hang somewhere to help me remember when life gets busy.
Have a new husband by Friday? Is that even possible? Dr. Kevin Leman says it is. The New York Times bestselling author and self-help guru shows even the most frustrated wife how she can have a new husband by Friday. Leman reminds any wife that if what she's doing to get better behavior out of her husband isn't working now, it never will. So it's time for a change. That means it's time to change her own patterns of behavior.
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Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally recognized psychologist, author, and media personality. He was the first to popularize Adlerian psychological concepts in the United States, which are based on birth-order and family dynamics. Dr. Leman holds Bachelor's, Master's, and Doctorate degrees in clinical psychology from the University of Arizona.

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