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Resilence: The New Aftewrword

3.57 of 5 stars 3.57  ·  rating details  ·  2,092 ratings  ·  409 reviews
In the year since the publication of her second memoir, Resilience, Elizabeth Edwards has once again found herself living in the glare of the media spotlight. Now, in an eloquent, intimate, and emotionally powerful new afterword to her #1 national bestselling book, she offers readers a window into her world at a time when she is required to adjust once more to a new realit ...more
Published (first published May 8th 2009)
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Ruth Sims
I wonder if reaction to this book might have something to do with the reader's age and life experience. I thought it was a remarkable book because of its honesty and the willingness of Elizabeth Edwards to share, without self pity, heartbreak that would have destroyed many, if not most, of us. The death of a child would be enough by itself to destroy a person. A cancer diagnosis alone would be enough. The confession of a beloved husband/ best friend/rock that he he'd had a one-night-stand and th ...more
I didn't care for this book. Resilience doesn't seem like the correct title, Perseverance maybe, but not Resilience. She moves from one sense of loss to another and reveals how she coped with each trauma, but it just sounds like coping, not overcoming, which is what Resilience implies. It ends rather abruptly with no sense of closure. This book is really I think a documentation of the author's disappointment in the hand life has dealt her. It's a fast read and I gained insight into an interestin ...more
Having seen Oprah's interview with Elizabeth Edwards on May 7th, I was eager to buy and read this book. The interview was open, honest, and engaging - Edwards communicated a tremendous sense of self that had been won at enormous cost. I wondered at the time how much of that was down to Winfrey's talent as an interviewer - the questions were forthright, and her demeanor calm, compassionate, but completely unwavering; this was a place where Truth was going to be spoken.

And I guess I now have my an
It is said that a grieving woman once came to the Buddha carrying her dead child. She had been wandering the streets for days with the child's body, unable to put it down. Asked to restore the child to life, the Buddha told the woman that she must first bring him a grain of rice from a house that had known no loss. The woman searched in vain for such a house and finally realized the lesson the Buddha was trying to teach: that she must put down the child's body. This story is, of course, a story ...more
This is a heartbreakingly sad book. For most of the book, she deals with the loss of her son. That same year, she lost her father. She was diagnosed with cancer. Then years later, the cancer returns and her husband has his infamous affair. She knows she is dying and is married to a man she doesn't know anymore. She does do a fine job communicating raw pain. Most of the book is well-written. There were passages that were excessively redundant but they were few. I like her honesty and her lack of ...more
Sue Reed
This was a good read!!!! Elizabeth Edwards was a very strong lady who had to deal with a lot of junk in her life. I enjoyed reading about her family, her relationship with her parents and even cried when I read the chapters about her son Wade. The thing I liked most about this book was that it was not about the scandal of her was about her life and her fights. Elizabeth spent so much of her life focusing on the positives of everything and always putting her children first...she was ...more
I practically read this book in one sitting. Elizabeth did a wonderful job of expressing her feelings, it was if she spoke to me. I cried at times as she described living without her son, and again as she described living with Cancer. I believe she was telling us that these are the events that help her cope with her husbands indescretions. It seems so much further down the totem pole than what she had already dealt with. I loved that this book was not about scandal but about real life.
I so wanted to like this book more. I admired Elizabeth Edwards a lot, but this book gives you insight only into her response to the loss of her oldest son. She sometimes writes well, sometimes sloppily. She quotes from others too much for such a short book. I think that my biggest problem is that after almost 100 pages about dealing with the loss of a child, 50 pages about dealing with breast cancer, she doesn't really address her husband's infidelity and how she dealt with that. She calls it a ...more
Yesterday, I found out that one of my dearest loved ones--who has battled one form of cancer for over a decade, and another form for the past several months--has zero to ten years to live. Feeling quite devastated, I searched online for books on coping with cancer. This book was near the top of the search results list; from its description, it seemed to be just what I needed. Since the library was already closed, my husband went to the bookstore and bought a copy for me. I started it last night ...more
I had no idea she spent a good chunk of her childhood in Japan. It was interesting to hear her talk about the military bases that I visit quite often. I hate her husband, but she has lived a great life worth celebrating. I’ve grown to respect her, which means a lot.

Lines that I loved:

I suppose that in real life, we have to distinguish between those catastrophes we can repair and those that require us to face a new reality.

We stand a little straighter in his shadow.

The fall is much farther if you
Colleen Flannery
Like so many other reviews, mine starts out "i so wanted to like this book...." I wanted to see how this public figure handled her bouts with cancer, how her celebrity, devotion, faith, clout, whatever might make her journey singular and inspirational. We rarely saw Elizabeth angry. We all stood in awe of this woman who took her cancer public and pressed on with the campaigns. What i found was a woman who was so broken by her teenage son's death that she never learned to function, to cope. She j ...more
Deirdre Keating
I consider myself one of this book's least likely readers; while I love memoirs, political ones are usually inauthentic and ghost-written, and I never could stand John Edwards. Even though his political positions were probably closer to mine than other politicians, he always came off as a snake-oil-salesman to me. I still remember cringing during most of his VP debate against Cheney. Unsurprisingly, I find him even less appealing now.

But my mom's recent bad news had me searching our library for
Elizabeth Edwards went through a decent amount of shit in her life. Her son died, she got breast cancer (which killed her not too long after this book was published), and most famously, her husband cheated on her while she was dying of cancer. I remember being rather disappointed with John Edwards when all that came out. He wasn't my favorite presidential candidate, but I didn't expect that. Cheating on your wife while she's got cancer, that's some real, dirty, Newt Gingrich kind of stuff. I onc ...more
Cathryn Mchenry
This book was amazing but be prepared to sob your way through it. Being through so much adversity, I felt she was reading the very words on my own soul. Amazing.
Katie Tatton
I had read Elizabeth Edwards' first book Saving Graces: Finding Solace and Strength from Friends and Strangers a few years ago and liked it very much, so I was anxious to read Resilience, especially after hearing an NPR interview in which Edwards said:
"I think that resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had, the reality that you liked before."

Edwards has certainly had more than her fair share of new realities that frankly sucked. Her son's death, the
Kathleen Hagen
Resilience: Reflections on the Burdens and Gifts of Facing Life's Adversities, by Elizabeth Edwards, narrated by the author, Produced by Random House Audio, downloaded from

Elizabeth Edwards is a beloved political figure. She is not the best narrator of her own books. I think she becomes emotionally charged in reading what she wrote. Her voice gets very small and tense and sometimes she is almost whispering her words. It makes it more difficult to listen to her. But the message she g
I think a better title for this book might be, "Bitterness." I wanted to like this book, because I really like Elizabeth Edwards, but unfortunately it failed for me on many levels.

This is the second book authored by John Edwards' outspoken and self-effacing wife. In this book she catalogues the tragedies and disappointments she has suffered as an adult and how she hopes she has "risen above" them. To be fair...she has walked a challenging road. 1-Her active and healthy father suffered a stroke t
How do you cope with a teenage son's sudden death in a car accident? What do you do to make the hurt disappear? How do you carry on in your life? How do you forgive a husband for his affair with another woman?

I found Elizabeth Edwards' personal story honest and both uplifting and heartbreaking. She reflects on adversities that she has faced in her life and how she is coping with them - a teenage son's death, breast cancer, recurrence of her cancer, her father's death, and her husband's indiscret
Elizabeth Edwards writes how she is coping with three major events in her life---the death of her son, Wade, her breast cancer, and her husband's infidelity. She really shares her deepest feelings, how she is getting through life...


"Each time I fell into a chasm...........I had to accept that the planet had taken a few turns and I could not turn it back. My life was and would always be different, and it would be less than I hoped it would be. Each time, there was a new life, a new story.
A poignant book about facing life's adversities, Elizabeth Edwards takes the reader along with her as she searches for answers and in the end, finds them only within herself. She has had to endure the death of a child, terminal cancer, the loss of her father and her mother's senility, and now the loss of trust in a spouse. There's a great quote on the last page that I like: "The modern hero is a person who does something everyone thinks they could do if they were a little stronger, a little fas ...more
I don't know why some books I would give 3 1/2 stars to get a 4 from me and others get a 3. I'm weird that way, but this book would probably be closer to 3 1/2 stars. That being said, I did read it in a few hours, so that is saying something about my interest. It really was a thought-provoking read to me. I can't imagine going through even one of the trials she went through, but even more interesting to me than what she had to go through, the way she dealt with all three. And how she gave hersel ...more
This book is one that is a heavy book to read. A great deal of it is about grieving. I feel Elizabeth masterfully wove her thoughts about the process of grieving, and overcoming grief. I really liked where she talked about accepting the new reality, and letting go of the hope that our "old lives" can still be, so that we can find peace. For those who have criticized the title it actually is perfect, for overcoming grief, is resilience. Elizabeth has overcome her griefs as much as can be expected ...more
Although I thought that there was probably too much about her son's death, I thought her outlook on how to deal with the adversities that we all face was excellent. Most of us have never lost a child (and I can see why that would color almost everything a person would do), realized that they are dying of cancer and had a perfect husband be unfaithful. This is a lot to have on one's plate. However, with all this, she frequently states that we must face each day, look at the good in our lives and ...more
Been wanting to read this since it was published in 2009. She had certainly been through it all and her honesty
shines through. Some food for thought. I really liked the analogy of having a table with four legs, and when one
leg is gone, how unsteady it is. It will never be the same, but then it can be rebuilt with the 3 legs. Also when
people would ask "Are you over your grief?" Elizabeth states that if she lost a leg, one would never enquire "Are you
over you lost leg?" You never get over grief, b
Patty Mora
This book was a major disappointment. I was hoping for more: more insight, more feeling, more revelations. Instead it was shallow, no depth to it at all. Perhaps Elizabeth Edwards was "editing" her thoughts and too careful with her words. I was hoping for a little more passion and "life" to this book, but it left me feeling hopeless, empty, depressed.

Take a pass on this book, friends. Good thing I borrowed it from the library and didn't waste money on it.

I really wanted to like this book, but sa
Edwards has certainly experienced many adversities in her life and she eloquently speaks on her process of finding resilience. The book's primary focus is on the loss of the Edwards' teenage son, Wade, in an automobile accident. Although the writing is quite repetitive, Edwards' descriptions of her grieving process was profound and heartbreaking for this reader.

John's affair was discussed, but much more sparsely than perhaps what some readers might desire or expect. If you're looking for sordid
I loved Elizabeth Edwards' first memoir--Saving Graces--and while I was very excited about reading this second memoir, I couldn't really imagine how she could create another equally beautiful book. But she did it, and it really is a very, very good book by a very special person. Don't read it for the tabloid stuff (it's not there); read it because Elizabeth Edwards has a gift for writing simply and beautifully about some very difficult circumstances. I can't recommend this book enough!
I'd read her book "Saving Graces: Finding Solace and Strength from Friends and Strangers" many years ago, which is focused on the death of her teenage son. This book talks about everything from watching her father's health decline before he passed away, her son's death, her battle with breast cancer, and dealing with her husband's affair and the end of her marriage. The timeline of her life has some parallels to my own family, as my mom passed away from breast cancer in Jan 2009, and she passed ...more
I read this on Mother's Day morning - it was a good read for a single sitting read. She is thoughtful and earnest in her descriptions of her journey through hardship and grief. It is a journey that is very unique to her and she kept it that way - not generalizing, just sharing. Made me think a little bit of the way Anne Morrow Lindbergh wrote.
Wow! What a lady! I am just amazed at Elizabeth's courage, and her ability to share her life's lessons with us in such a beautiful manner. She is so real. Her emotions shared are so raw and heart wrenching. She is smart! She epitomizes the word, class! ... Elizabeth Edwards is down to earth, genuine, and truly remarkable.
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