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Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception
by
Pamela Meyer
GET TO THE TRUTH
People--friends, family members, work colleagues, salespeople--lie to us all the time. Daily, hourly, constantly. None of us is immune, and all of us are victims. According to studies by several different researchers, most of us encounter nearly 200 lies a day.
Now there’s something we can do about it. Liespotting linksthreedisciplines--facial recognition tr...more
People--friends, family members, work colleagues, salespeople--lie to us all the time. Daily, hourly, constantly. None of us is immune, and all of us are victims. According to studies by several different researchers, most of us encounter nearly 200 lies a day.
Now there’s something we can do about it. Liespotting linksthreedisciplines--facial recognition tr...more
ebook, 256 pages
Published
July 20th 2010
by St. Martin's Press
(first published 2010)
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This book is another that I’m reading in my extended study. It’s a pretty straightforward book about what people do and why the do it when they lie. It gives a clear indication on how to practice lie spotting, but it also brings up a good point:
The average human being lies 60 to 200 times a day. Almost all of these lies are harmless – lying by omission, lying to protect someone’s feeling, lying to aid social interaction. Sometimes we lie by talking; sometimes we lie by keeping our mouths shut. S...more
The average human being lies 60 to 200 times a day. Almost all of these lies are harmless – lying by omission, lying to protect someone’s feeling, lying to aid social interaction. Sometimes we lie by talking; sometimes we lie by keeping our mouths shut. S...more
Rating: 3 stars for good content, good references, good ideas. Minus 2 stars for hocking her own services in the book, being "for business only" in many respects.
Pamela Meyer first intrigued me when I saw her TED talk on deception. There were two key concepts that I’d latched on to and that are echoed in her book. Firstly, that deception is a cooperative act; we buy into deception because of a core desire to have filled (greed, vanity, blissful ignorance, absolution, etc. etc.) The second concep...more
Pamela Meyer first intrigued me when I saw her TED talk on deception. There were two key concepts that I’d latched on to and that are echoed in her book. Firstly, that deception is a cooperative act; we buy into deception because of a core desire to have filled (greed, vanity, blissful ignorance, absolution, etc. etc.) The second concep...more
Reading this book, I wondered how many times Pamela Meyer distorted the truth, or made outright fabrications (e.g.: in the mini-biographies). There is a lot of reliance on the experiences of trained interrogators; however, interrogates do no better then armatures at lie-spotting. They just /think/ they are good at it. Also, there is no discussion on the role of delusions in lying. For example, trained interrogators illicit a surprising number of false-confessions (at least 15-25%), probably by i...more
An interesting book. I use some of the "tells" when I'm being honest (I say things like 'to be honest with you' because I'm a polite Canadian, and so I feel like I need to qualify anything remotely approaching bluntness. Similarly, I often use qualifiers like 'to my knowledge' about things that might potentially have changed since--maybe that's the law student in me). But the book emphasizes establishing a baseline set of behaviors for individuals, to account for such things, as well as for peop...more
Jan 24, 2013
Sarah
rated it
4 of 5 stars
·
review of another edition
Shelves:
non-fiction,
personal-development
Liespotting is a clear and eloquent discussion of how to detect personal and professional deception.
The first half of the book focuses on individual deceptive "tells;" physical and behavioral cues that indicate the presence of deception. I was interested by the discussion of how word choice and emotional reactions can change based on whether or not the speaker is lying. I was familiar with most of the body language cues she listed, but entirely new to me were the subconscious processes that go...more
The first half of the book focuses on individual deceptive "tells;" physical and behavioral cues that indicate the presence of deception. I was interested by the discussion of how word choice and emotional reactions can change based on whether or not the speaker is lying. I was familiar with most of the body language cues she listed, but entirely new to me were the subconscious processes that go...more
Don't read this book unless you have a lot of time to devote to prioritize learning and practicing what it teaches, both while you're reading the book and afterwards. I didn't, and for that reason I didn't get as much out of this book as I had hoped I would.
I read this book after seeing Ms. Meyer's TED talk on the subject of detecting lies. I was hoping it would help me improve at assessing the underlying realities of business conversations. I read it carefully but quickly - I didn't take the t...more
I read this book after seeing Ms. Meyer's TED talk on the subject of detecting lies. I was hoping it would help me improve at assessing the underlying realities of business conversations. I read it carefully but quickly - I didn't take the t...more
Liespotting by Pamela Meyer - excellent book.
Meyer was a consultant on the show "Lie to Me" and also learned from Paul Ekman's face reading system. However, only part of this book is an intro to what some might call "deception detection" and "face reading"
A lot of this book focuses on the idea of fostering an environment at work and home that would minimize deceptive behavior and encourage actions and behaviors that build trust. There are great tips on implementing this organizationally and in o...more
Meyer was a consultant on the show "Lie to Me" and also learned from Paul Ekman's face reading system. However, only part of this book is an intro to what some might call "deception detection" and "face reading"
A lot of this book focuses on the idea of fostering an environment at work and home that would minimize deceptive behavior and encourage actions and behaviors that build trust. There are great tips on implementing this organizationally and in o...more
I bought this book, but then in the first chapter was subjected to this long process of having the author explain to me -why- i should know more about this subject... DO NOT CARE. (I'm reading this for my reasons - don't give me yours!)
There was definitely some interesting information in the middle, and maybe it deserves 2 stars instead of 1, but... ah, i guess the overall "business" approach to spotting lies (like putting it in a professional context) was a huge turn-off overall. This made the...more
There was definitely some interesting information in the middle, and maybe it deserves 2 stars instead of 1, but... ah, i guess the overall "business" approach to spotting lies (like putting it in a professional context) was a huge turn-off overall. This made the...more
blech, what seems like a great idea for a book, becomes a poorly sourced coporate rant on negotiation. i read this after watching meyer's ted.com talk, which was kinda one long plug for her book. anyway i got the book from the library, and was subsequently dissappointed. anyone know of a good body language/ face reading book that's out there. you know one written with rigor, and focused upon the science of reading body language instead of ways you can use it to make money for your business. i me...more
While a little too reliant on certain techniques that may or may not be as effective as she seems to think, this book does a great job of highlighting points with examples covering a lot of different factors one can look for when lying. Some of them are self-explanatory, but some are a little more counter-intuitive. My favorite example: "I did not (non-contracted, shows an unnatural emphasis, indicates possible deception) have sex with that woman, (distancing language, so you don't identify him...more
This book helps people determine when they are being lied to or deceived, or perhaps not being told the complete truth. Some of the book is really for professionals who may interrogate someone but a lot of it is useful for other people. I feel most vulnerable with financial advisers, mortgage brokers, car sales people but I have also had to hire and manage people (as well as look for jobs) and this book is definitely helpful in that area. I listened to a TED talk given by the author and I was h...more
This isn't a bad book exactly, but it seemed like it couldn't quite decide how best to package itself. Was it pop psych, "business," self improvement? Ultimately, I found myself thinking it would be best for writers and actors to learn the best ways to convey some "lie behaviors" into characters without the over the top traditional characteristics. Otherwise, the actual information about how to spot lies could have been conveyed in a 10-20 page pamphlet.
First half of the book is about lie detection, pure and simple. I found this portion to be extremely fascinating and will definitely continue doing research on my own.
The second half goes on to talk about ways to sure up your business/association with tips and tricks on building trusting relationships between employees and employers. It also outlines some good negotiation practices and other things probably more important to those with a more business-oriented mind. I was more interested in the...more
The second half goes on to talk about ways to sure up your business/association with tips and tricks on building trusting relationships between employees and employers. It also outlines some good negotiation practices and other things probably more important to those with a more business-oriented mind. I was more interested in the...more
A comprehensive overview of what it takes to tell if someone is lying. This is not science, and involves a lot of gut feelings.
But, I stopped reading halfway through - even though it seemed like something I wanted to read, doing so would give me ammunition I didn't need to figure out if someone was lying to me or not.
The book is good and well worth it, it's just that it wasn't the right time for me...
But, I stopped reading halfway through - even though it seemed like something I wanted to read, doing so would give me ammunition I didn't need to figure out if someone was lying to me or not.
The book is good and well worth it, it's just that it wasn't the right time for me...
I don't think you can learn liespotting from this book; you can learn about liespotting by reading it. (It's like music: from a book you can learn about how musical notation works and how the printed notes map to piano keys. But can you learn to play a piano by reading? No.) You need practice with feedback and critique. A book can't give you that.
That said, you can learn what liespotters look for and try to incorporate their techniques into your life. My feeling is it can't hurt: the worst that...more
That said, you can learn what liespotters look for and try to incorporate their techniques into your life. My feeling is it can't hurt: the worst that...more
A very good, scientific, look into how and why people deceive. The book includes differences in low stakes negotiation (e.g. getting a new couch or where to go for lunch) and high stakes negotiation (e.g. multi-billion dollar corporate merger). It also tells you how to go about, systematically, figuring out if someone is lying to you. The book covers not only the facial and non-verbal signals, but the verbal clues that could tip you off to the fact that someone could be lying. Every parent or wo...more
A book that could be an extensive Wikipedia article with some added remarks on the art of life. Still it was an enjoyable "pop" reading which pointed me towards some more in-depth references, so it was absolutely not a waste of time.
Also worth mentioning is a very nice TED talk given by Pamela Meyer from which I learned about this book. If you are not sure this is a book for you - look up the video first.
Also worth mentioning is a very nice TED talk given by Pamela Meyer from which I learned about this book. If you are not sure this is a book for you - look up the video first.
TED brought me to this book. Let me begin by saying that I never really grasped the concept of good nonfiction until this book. This is really bad nonfiction. And I did read some boring books. This one really has so little to say and it's so diluted it's painful.
For the actual liespotting you're probably interested in chapters 4 to 6, maybe a little of 2.
For the actual liespotting you're probably interested in chapters 4 to 6, maybe a little of 2.
Sadly this book did not live up to my expectations. Most of it was information recycled from books I've already read that have very little to do with 'liespotting' and a lot to do with reasons not to tell lies. Seriously, I think I learned more from the first season of Lie to Me than I did from this book.
I enjoyed the author's Ted Talk more than her book. It was a tad too technical for my liking. Her research on body movement and how it correlates with truthfulness was neat to consider. The average person is lied to roughly 200 times a day!
Succinct insight into the fascinating study of lie detection that focuses on basic techniques that are well-sourced and referenced throughout the book. I recommend watching Meyer's TED talk as well, which is what pointed me towards this work.
I read this after watching Meyer's TED Talk. The detection skills described in the book are practical and useful. http://catoverlord.blogspot.com/2012/...
Not the best book on deception detection I have ever read, but definately one of the better examples. This book also shows an interesting view of corporate deception and the role that plays.
We all lie. We can all detect when others are lying (sometimes!). Using techniques in this book you can dramatically increase the accuracy of lie detection, if you are willing to spend months studying and practicing. I can see why some people would spend those months, but it's not worth it to me. As a result, I mostly just skimmed this book to get an idea.
Good book. Eliminate "why" from my vocabulary - both the articulated why and the implied why - makes people defensive and makes me judgemental.
Ask your brain trust: what are my greatest strengths, what are my greatest weaknesses, when have I seemed most at the top of my game, what are three things you can imagine me doing in my career, what's something you can't really imagine me doing, and how do I get in my own way
Detecting deception: reading the face and the body, listening to the words, BASI...more
Ask your brain trust: what are my greatest strengths, what are my greatest weaknesses, when have I seemed most at the top of my game, what are three things you can imagine me doing in my career, what's something you can't really imagine me doing, and how do I get in my own way
Detecting deception: reading the face and the body, listening to the words, BASI...more
The most comprehensive guide on the science behind deception. Meyer offers a fantastic guide to learning lie-spotting techniques that will help you in all areas of your life.
a great book I have ever read
it helps you read spot the lies in the commercial world.
I have read twice actually, and wish to read it again when I have got time
it helps you read spot the lies in the commercial world.
I have read twice actually, and wish to read it again when I have got time
Was OK... The deception techniques were interesting but mostly it was dragging because too much of it pertained to a business world that I was unfamiliar with and had no future in anyways. But the techniques have been noted and documented. However I doubt I'll be able to remember half of them.
Jul 04, 2012
Rhonda
rated it
5 of 5 stars
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review of another edition
Shelves:
library-book,
non-fiction
I loved this book. Gave me some wonderful insights on body language and deception. I would recommend this book to anyone that feels they need more insight into people.
Interesting book... lots of details. I think it would take a number of readings to set the specifics in memory but it would be a useful endeavor.
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