Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception
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Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception

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GET TO THE TRUTH

People--friends, family members, work colleagues, salespeople--lie to us all the time. Daily, hourly, constantly. None of us is immune, and all of us are victims. According to studies by several different researchers, most of us encounter nearly 200 lies a day.

Now there’s something we can do about it. Liespotting linksthreedisciplines--facial recognition tr...more
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Published July 20th 2010 by St. Martin's Press (first published 2010)
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Schmacko
This book is another that I’m reading in my extended study. It’s a pretty straightforward book about what people do and why the do it when they lie. It gives a clear indication on how to practice lie spotting, but it also brings up a good point:

The average human being lies 60 to 200 times a day. Almost all of these lies are harmless – lying by omission, lying to protect someone’s feeling, lying to aid social interaction. Sometimes we lie by talking; sometimes we lie by keeping our mouths shut. S...more
Kathryn Anthony
An interesting book. I use some of the "tells" when I'm being honest (I say things like 'to be honest with you' because I'm a polite Canadian, and so I feel like I need to qualify anything remotely approaching bluntness. Similarly, I often use qualifiers like 'to my knowledge' about things that might potentially have changed since--maybe that's the law student in me). But the book emphasizes establishing a baseline set of behaviors for individuals, to account for such things, as well as for peop...more
Rob Freund
Rating: 3 stars for good content, good references, good ideas. Minus 2 stars for hocking her own services in the book, being "for business only" in many respects.

Pamela Meyer first intrigued me when I saw her TED talk on deception. There were two key concepts that I’d latched on to and that are echoed in her book. Firstly, that deception is a cooperative act; we buy into deception because of a core desire to have filled (greed, vanity, blissful ignorance, absolution, etc. etc.) The second concep...more
Aaron Michaux
Reading this book, I wondered how many times Pamela Meyer distorted the truth, or made outright fabrications (e.g.: in the mini-biographies). There is a lot of reliance on the experiences of trained interrogators; however, interrogates do no better then armatures at lie-spotting. They just /think/ they are good at it. Also, there is no discussion on the role of delusions in lying. For example, trained interrogators illicit a surprising number of false-confessions (at least 15-25%), probably by i...more
Alex Kenjeev
Don't read this book unless you have a lot of time to devote to prioritize learning and practicing what it teaches, both while you're reading the book and afterwards. I didn't, and for that reason I didn't get as much out of this book as I had hoped I would.

I read this book after seeing Ms. Meyer's TED talk on the subject of detecting lies. I was hoping it would help me improve at assessing the underlying realities of business conversations. I read it carefully but quickly - I didn't take the t...more
Nathan
I read this book thinking it would help me with some Biblical counselling cases (I'm a pastor, and sometimes have folks lie to me). It turns out the book is helpful only in some cases. As a theologian, I make a distinction between deception and violating the 9th commandment, and Meyer doesn't make that distinction. Ultimately, as a Christian the Bible calls me to believe my brother's word, and if I don't and am suspicious of him, that won't be helpful.

There are lots of interesting things in this...more
Jesse
blech, what seems like a great idea for a book, becomes a poorly sourced coporate rant on negotiation. i read this after watching meyer's ted.com talk, which was kinda one long plug for her book. anyway i got the book from the library, and was subsequently dissappointed. anyone know of a good body language/ face reading book that's out there. you know one written with rigor, and focused upon the science of reading body language instead of ways you can use it to make money for your business. i me...more
Trent
First half of the book is about lie detection, pure and simple. I found this portion to be extremely fascinating and will definitely continue doing research on my own.

The second half goes on to talk about ways to sure up your business/association with tips and tricks on building trusting relationships between employees and employers. It also outlines some good negotiation practices and other things probably more important to those with a more business-oriented mind. I was more interested in the...more
Ap
this book is aimed at the business world. They offered tips for identifying lies that your employees or possible business partners may tell. But the most important thing is to go with your gut instinct.


Look for clusters of behaviors such as a person that avoids answering questions or answers a question other than the one you asked. tvLiars tend to stick with the chronology of their story, not with the emotion. In other words, it's more important to tell a lie in chronological order because they...more
Pamela Huxtable
There's nothing here here you haven't heard of or read of before. Verbal tells, physical cues, facial indicators and body language - it's all here, documented, and with an exemplary tale to go with it.

I have to say, I felt like I needed to take a shower after reading this. And I've decided that I'm okay with the little lies that I'm told - really, I mean it. Go ahead and lie to me. It feels better than analyzing every facial tic or verbal mark.
Lynnea Taylor
The techniques given were interesting and explained well. My only complaint about the book came in at the end. It seemed to deteriorate into corporate paranoia. I'm sure that the examples she gives are real, but the idea that making giant policy handbooks explaining everything employees can and cannot do does not seem like something that would truly work. Try getting your employees to read something like that. On top of which, people who want to cheat and steal will always try. Fostering an atmo...more
Mathew
I discovered this book after listening to Pamela Meyer's TEDs talk. Pamela tackles the topic from the point of view of a business. How can a business learn to create a culture where lying is not rewarded? How can a business avoid making bad decisions in negotiations?

However, all of the principles can be applied to your personal life as well. More than 70% of the book is technique and history of liespotting. The reminder covers practical what now of business. So even if you're not in business you...more
Brian Williams
3 or 4 of the chapters are worthwhile. Those are the chapters that deal with actual lie spotting. The rest of the book is full of how to deal with people in big horrible corporations with deep hierarchy. The moralizing is also a but much to take.
Sarah
Liespotting is a clear and eloquent discussion of how to detect personal and professional deception.

The first half of the book focuses on individual deceptive "tells;" physical and behavioral cues that indicate the presence of deception. I was interested by the discussion of how word choice and emotional reactions can change based on whether or not the speaker is lying. I was familiar with most of the body language cues she listed, but entirely new to me were the subconscious processes that go...more
Belal Khan
Liespotting by Pamela Meyer - excellent book.

Meyer was a consultant on the show "Lie to Me" and also learned from Paul Ekman's face reading system. However, only part of this book is an intro to what some might call "deception detection" and "face reading"

A lot of this book focuses on the idea of fostering an environment at work and home that would minimize deceptive behavior and encourage actions and behaviors that build trust. There are great tips on implementing this organizationally and in o...more
John
I don't think you can learn liespotting from this book; you can learn about liespotting by reading it. (It's like music: from a book you can learn about how musical notation works and how the printed notes map to piano keys. But can you learn to play a piano by reading? No.) You need practice with feedback and critique. A book can't give you that.

That said, you can learn what liespotters look for and try to incorporate their techniques into your life. My feeling is it can't hurt: the worst that...more
Albian
I bought this book, but then in the first chapter was subjected to this long process of having the author explain to me -why- i should know more about this subject... DO NOT CARE. (I'm reading this for my reasons - don't give me yours!)

There was definitely some interesting information in the middle, and maybe it deserves 2 stars instead of 1, but... ah, i guess the overall "business" approach to spotting lies (like putting it in a professional context) was a huge turn-off overall. This made the...more
Nicole
Truth be told, the beginning of this book is mostly a recap of Paul Ekman's studies. It's not until midway that the author offers a more refreshed perspective. Definitely worth reading, to learn more about lie detection, and trust.
Jenny
Good book. Eliminate "why" from my vocabulary - both the articulated why and the implied why - makes people defensive and makes me judgemental.



Ask your brain trust: what are my greatest strengths, what are my greatest weaknesses, when have I seemed most at the top of my game, what are three things you can imagine me doing in my career, what's something you can't really imagine me doing, and how do I get in my own way



Detecting deception: reading the face and the body, listening to the words, BASI...more
Jason
An Interesting read concerning how social interactions, especially in business environments are fraught with lies, omissions, exaggerations, and all sorts of other dirty dealing. I think this is a good starting place and thankfully the author has provided notes so the interested reader can track down primary sources especially concerning the projects analyzing micro-expressions. I wonder about the "Brain Trust" chapter near the end--it was usual business book filler and not on topic and I found...more
Joshua Lassing
Wonderful read and incredibly informative - I highly recommend following her cited sources for further research as well, it's certainly worth the research. ;)
Geoff Kuchera
Read this book and never look at people the same way again.. :-)
Seriously good information, I read it our of curiosity after watching her TED talk.
Tom Buratovich
Talk about a book that will make your head explode! This is fresh research that will prove inestimably helpful.
Caleb Benadum
While a little too reliant on certain techniques that may or may not be as effective as she seems to think, this book does a great job of highlighting points with examples covering a lot of different factors one can look for when lying. Some of them are self-explanatory, but some are a little more counter-intuitive. My favorite example: "I did not (non-contracted, shows an unnatural emphasis, indicates possible deception) have sex with that woman, (distancing language, so you don't identify him...more
Iran
For me this book did not live up to its name. It spends a good third of the book explaining why we should care about it and why it is important, as if trying to convince us. Wasted space. If we are reading it we dont need 50 pages explaining why liespottingt is important.

The examples are weak and feel fake. Only there to help the book make its points.

Most of the information with wich the book pretends to arm us for the fight agains lies is common knowledge. Only someone who never reads magazines...more
Deon
What an interesting read! I have always felt I was an intuitive, empathetic person. I honestly thought this would be a rehash of concepts I already knew, but it definitely had some fascinating things to say, not just about lying, but about the way we communicate in general. Not being in the business world, I naturally skimmed a few sections that felt specific to it, but the majority of the book was not just helpful, but a quick read.

If you're torn, the author's TEDTalk (Pamela Meyer: How to Spot...more
Karen Laurie Thomas
A very good, scientific, look into how and why people deceive. The book includes differences in low stakes negotiation (e.g. getting a new couch or where to go for lunch) and high stakes negotiation (e.g. multi-billion dollar corporate merger). It also tells you how to go about, systematically, figuring out if someone is lying to you. The book covers not only the facial and non-verbal signals, but the verbal clues that could tip you off to the fact that someone could be lying. Every parent or wo...more
Sandra Mann


This book helps people determine when they are being lied to or deceived, or perhaps not being told the complete truth. Some of the book is really for professionals who may interrogate someone but a lot of it is useful for other people. I feel most vulnerable with financial advisers, mortgage brokers, car sales people but I have also had to hire and manage people (as well as look for jobs) and this book is definitely helpful in that area. I listened to a TED talk given by the author and I was h...more
Patrick Todoroff
Fascinating, if disturbing read about everyday deception. Addresses motives, justifications, verbal and body cues, and default dishonesty in business and corporate settings.

At once convicting and informative, it hits home personally as well as trains the reader to spot and avoid deceptive practices. Might be difficult to face, but well worth the time and effort, IMO.

As an aside, it's particularly good source material for writers regarding narrative and character development.

Thank you Ms. Meye...more
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