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Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception

3.49  ·  Rating Details  ·  1,170 Ratings  ·  131 Reviews
GET TO THE TRUTH

People--friends, family members, work colleagues, salespeople--lie to us all the time. Daily, hourly, constantly. None of us is immune, and all of us are victims. According to studies by several different researchers, most of us encounter nearly 200 lies a day.

Now there's something we can do about it. Pamela Meyer's Liespotting links three disciplines--faci
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ebook, 256 pages
Published July 20th 2010 by St. Martin's Press (first published 2010)
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Schmacko
Sep 03, 2012 Schmacko rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is another that I’m reading in my extended study. It’s a pretty straightforward book about what people do and why the do it when they lie. It gives a clear indication on how to practice lie spotting, but it also brings up a good point:

The average human being lies 60 to 200 times a day. Almost all of these lies are harmless – lying by omission, lying to protect someone’s feeling, lying to aid social interaction. Sometimes we lie by talking; sometimes we lie by keeping our mouths shut. S
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Rob Freund
Rating: 3 stars for good content, good references, good ideas. Minus 2 stars for hocking her own services in the book, being "for business only" in many respects.

Pamela Meyer first intrigued me when I saw her TED talk on deception. There were two key concepts that I’d latched on to and that are echoed in her book. Firstly, that deception is a cooperative act; we buy into deception because of a core desire to have filled (greed, vanity, blissful ignorance, absolution, etc. etc.) The second concep
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Kathryn Anthony
Nov 06, 2011 Kathryn Anthony rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An interesting book. I use some of the "tells" when I'm being honest (I say things like 'to be honest with you' because I'm a polite Canadian, and so I feel like I need to qualify anything remotely approaching bluntness. Similarly, I often use qualifiers like 'to my knowledge' about things that might potentially have changed since--maybe that's the law student in me). But the book emphasizes establishing a baseline set of behaviors for individuals, to account for such things, as well as for peop ...more
Aaron Michaux
Mar 19, 2016 Aaron Michaux rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Reading this book, I wondered how many times Pamela Meyer distorted the truth, or made outright fabrications (e.g.: in the mini-biographies). There is a lot of reliance on the experiences of trained interrogators; however, interrogators do no better then amatures at lie-spotting. They just /think/ they are good at it. Also, there is no discussion on the role of delusions in lying. For example, trained interrogators illicit a surprising number of false-confessions (at least 15-25%), probably by i ...more
Nathan
Nov 24, 2013 Nathan rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book thinking it would help me with some Biblical counselling cases (I'm a pastor, and sometimes have folks lie to me). It turns out the book is helpful only in some cases. As a theologian, I make a distinction between deception and violating the 9th commandment, and Meyer doesn't make that distinction. Ultimately, as a Christian the Bible calls me to believe my brother's word, and if I don't and am suspicious of him, that won't be helpful.

There are lots of interesting things in this
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Jana
''The price of facing reality is ''ordinary misery''.

After Paul Ekman came back from Papua New Guinea, where he discovered that all people universally have 6 basic emotions: joy, sadness, surprise, fear, disgust and anger, he made presentations to therapists working in mental hospitals. They asked him something he had not previously considered: could the nonverbal behaviours Ekman was analyzing reveal whether a person was lying.

The therapists were concerned that mentally ill patients might succ
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Alex Kenjeev
Don't read this book unless you have a lot of time to devote to prioritize learning and practicing what it teaches, both while you're reading the book and afterwards. I didn't, and for that reason I didn't get as much out of this book as I had hoped I would.

I read this book after seeing Ms. Meyer's TED talk on the subject of detecting lies. I was hoping it would help me improve at assessing the underlying realities of business conversations. I read it carefully but quickly - I didn't take the t
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Jesse
May 31, 2012 Jesse rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
blech, what seems like a great idea for a book, becomes a poorly sourced coporate rant on negotiation. i read this after watching meyer's ted.com talk, which was kinda one long plug for her book. anyway i got the book from the library, and was subsequently dissappointed. anyone know of a good body language/ face reading book that's out there. you know one written with rigor, and focused upon the science of reading body language instead of ways you can use it to make money for your business. i me ...more
Trent
First half of the book is about lie detection, pure and simple. I found this portion to be extremely fascinating and will definitely continue doing research on my own.

The second half goes on to talk about ways to sure up your business/association with tips and tricks on building trusting relationships between employees and employers. It also outlines some good negotiation practices and other things probably more important to those with a more business-oriented mind. I was more interested in the
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Nima
Apr 17, 2016 Nima rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Tim
Nov 27, 2015 Tim rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Overall, this book was a good introduction to basic deception detection techniques; enough to get you started. These techniques take time to master and require a lot of practice. So you must understand that you aren't suddenly going to be a skilled interrogator just from reading this book.

The introduction of the book had a lot of redundant information. After that, the author provides a nice overview. In the last part of the book, it jumps to some related topics that really could have been used f
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Rawa Muhsin
Nov 07, 2015 Rawa Muhsin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Pamela Huxtable
There's nothing here here you haven't heard of or read of before. Verbal tells, physical cues, facial indicators and body language - it's all here, documented, and with an exemplary tale to go with it.

I have to say, I felt like I needed to take a shower after reading this. And I've decided that I'm okay with the little lies that I'm told - really, I mean it. Go ahead and lie to me. It feels better than analyzing every facial tic or verbal mark.
Aman Mittal
"I'm the most terrific liar you ever saw in your life. It's awful. If I'm on my way to the store to buy a magazine, even, and somebody asks me where I'm going, I'm liable to say I'm going to the opera. It's terrible."

-J. D. Salinger, The Cather in the Rye

Being human and being able to communicate and understand each other with our spoken or written words, might make us feel superior in front of other species. We can be on the top of the food chain, the IQ chain and all other chains as much as we
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Sandy Dee
Nov 12, 2014 Sandy Dee rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love the techniques presented in this book although some of the so called proven techniques can be difficult to apply in real life. To be able to spot deception someone needs to be very attentive, carefully watching and listening on subtle clues.

When you know that your on a mission to find the truth or interrogate someone, you will be attentive and no doubt you will find yourself applying the techniques you've learnt from this book. However, to apply such level of vigilance in our daily inter
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Mathew
Jan 28, 2014 Mathew rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I discovered this book after listening to Pamela Meyer's TEDs talk. Pamela tackles the topic from the point of view of a business. How can a business learn to create a culture where lying is not rewarded? How can a business avoid making bad decisions in negotiations?

However, all of the principles can be applied to your personal life as well. More than 70% of the book is technique and history of liespotting. The reminder covers practical what now of business. So even if you're not in business you
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Brian Williams
3 or 4 of the chapters are worthwhile. Those are the chapters that deal with actual lie spotting. The rest of the book is full of how to deal with people in big horrible corporations with deep hierarchy. The moralizing is also a but much to take.
Literary Strawberry
Caught my eye while I was shelving at the library, and I thought I'd check it out. If nothing else, I figured it might help with writing accurate body language.

As other reviewers have said, the first half was pretty interesting, but the second half ends up being nothing but stuff on office work, such as deal negotiation and corporate boardroom whatnots, which... Isn't really relevant to me. I was kind of hoping for more stuff on personal relationships and everyday life situations, but hey, I wa
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Annie
Aug 24, 2014 Annie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The beginning of the book provides useful information on spotting lies -- identifying baseline behavior and noting "tells" and cluster of behaviors when a person is lying. It is followed with chapters diverge somewhat from lie spotting, such as negotiation techniques and conducting a deception audit at work. The information's still useful in that the reader can apply the techniques to build trusting relationships and avoid dishonest people. I think the reason why the book hasn't received higher ...more
Christopher
Nov 24, 2014 Christopher rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this would be an interesting primer in how lying works and how to begin spotting it. It's not. Meyer starts with a vague and unreflective definition of lying or deception. For example, she includes the idea that a child might cry for attention as an instance of deception (the child doesn't really "need" anything). Anyone who is a parent knows that the child genuinely wants your attention and has noticed that if she cries, you come more consistently and quicker. Is that deception or jus ...more
Nancy Graham
3 1/2 stars. In some ways this felt like two different books: one on detecting deception and one on tips for growing as a business leader. Probably both were helpful, but I felt a little whiplashed at times, wondering why some of this content was included in a book about deception-spotting. Probably everyone has experienced a truth-obfuscator or outright fraud who continues to win plum roles and even accolades; if you're starting to suspect things don't add up with some person in your sphere, th ...more
Therese
Jun 03, 2016 Therese rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This was an odd book - for a book that was supposed to be about how to tell when people are lying, ironically it came across often as disingenuous because of the extravagant claims it made about how it could give the reader an edge in being able to tell true from lies. Some of the "tips" seemed vague, unhelpful, and even contradictory. If someone puts a lot of detail in a story, in one part of the book that's a sign they're lying, while in another part of the book it's a sign of telling the trut ...more
Aligator
The first part of this book is a really nice 100-ish summary of the subject of liespotting and serves well as an introduction to it. The second half concerns more with negotiation and honesty-seeking in a corporate environment. While the book should be pretty good for people who have to handle big stakes deals in those situations I still find myself a bit disappointed since it's not what I wanted from the book. I guess I'll keep on looking for a book that digs deeper (going to try Ekman and Darw ...more
Ap
Feb 07, 2016 Ap rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
this book is aimed at the business world. They offered tips for identifying lies that your employees or possible business partners may tell. But the most important thing is to go with your gut instinct.


Look for clusters of behaviors such as a person that avoids answering questions or answers a question other than the one you asked. tvLiars tend to stick with the chronology of their story, not with the emotion. In other words, it's more important to tell a lie in chronological order because they
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Lynnea Taylor
The techniques given were interesting and explained well. My only complaint about the book came in at the end. It seemed to deteriorate into corporate paranoia. I'm sure that the examples she gives are real, but the idea that making giant policy handbooks explaining everything employees can and cannot do does not seem like something that would truly work. Try getting your employees to read something like that. On top of which, people who want to cheat and steal will always try. Fostering an atmo ...more
Sarah
Liespotting is a clear and eloquent discussion of how to detect personal and professional deception.

The first half of the book focuses on individual deceptive "tells;" physical and behavioral cues that indicate the presence of deception. I was interested by the discussion of how word choice and emotional reactions can change based on whether or not the speaker is lying. I was familiar with most of the body language cues she listed, but entirely new to me were the subconscious processes that go
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Reinhardt
May 19, 2016 Reinhardt rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Obviously if you are in the business of detecting lies, this book is required reading. Otherwise, it is interesting from a psychological standpoint. People who lie have all kinds of body behaviours - we just can't help it.

Even if you are not dealing with liars, this book will help you focus on body language and its importance. It also looks at language patterns.

Interesting and important if you spend a lot of time talking with people face to face (and who doesn't).
giselayvonne
Intimidating; for a book like this that many everyday people might read, it seems that my suspicions were always correct: I cannot lie. What was weirder is this: even when I am telling the truth, it seems I regularly display what this book says are evidences of lying. Oh boy, I'm screwed. I kind of want to read it again as a more thorough review of these lying behaviors, really analyze my behavior.

Otherwise, it seems to be a book well geared for managers in a business environment. The rest of u
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Brad
Dec 06, 2014 Brad rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What a AWESOME book! I read this after participating in a week long interviewing and interrogation training seminar that I attended for work. I became fascinated with the idea of detecting deception and wanted to learn more. This book was an absolute HOME RUN!!! Besides, it is a fun book with plenty of interesting material. I bet most people would find themselves enjoying (and benefiting from) this book.
Christian Zamora-Dahmen
This is the perfect book for today's paranoid.

Seriously. The subject of spotting lies is an interesting deal, but this book basically suggests a lifestyle based on mistrust. At the start it promises an optimist outcome, but since it ends only focusing on spotting lies for the benefit of big companies, I did feel a bit cheated. Of course spotting lies in business is an important deal, but it is not the only environment where it applies and I found it too bad that apparently lies are only importan
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“In 1905, Freud wrote: “No mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips. Betrayal oozes out of him from every pore.” 2 likes
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