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365 Nights

2.77 of 5 stars 2.77  ·  rating details  ·  222 ratings  ·  80 reviews
When Charla Muller's husband turned 40, she gave him something memorable. Sex. Every day. For an entire year. The Mullers had a solid marriage and two wonderful children, but over the years sex had fallen low on their to-do list. The lack of intimacy wasn't causing them to drift apart, exactly, but their connection didn't seem as great as it could be. Charla decided she co ...more
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Published June 24th 2008 by Berkley
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Lisa
I read this because the author is a friend of a friend through three different people. When she stayed on topic, I thought it was interesting and liked the book. However, when she pontificated about her thoughts on the world, marriage, work, children, the meaning of holidays, it was quite annoying. Why should I care what she thinks? Unfortunately, this was over 60% of the book. I felt a little bait and switched, so that she could write about herself instead of the title of the book. Or, maybe sh ...more
Jessie Pearl
Okay. So I understand how a promise to have sex for 365 days straight can kind of turn into other stories, and I understand that a "memoir of intimacy" does not mean a memoir OF the sex.

However...

The first thing that bothered me was that as she mentioned to her husband that they needed to define what "sex" was, they never clearly defined it! This is because the author shies away from actually ever mentioning sex, and in one part even mentions something about if her family is reading this then "
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Dawn
I saw this couple on some talk shows last year when the book came out. She gives her husband sex every day for a year for his 40th birthday. The book is weird, not even really about their relationship but about her childhood, neighbors, etc. Would have been more interesting if she talked about all the times she wished she would have just bought him a tie...
Karen
do NOT read this book. seems like there's a whole new genre of "i want to make money so i'm going to do (insert project) for a year and then write a book about it and be rich and famous" lit out there.

i WAS intrigued by the author's concept--having sex w/your spouse every freaking day for a year, who the eff has time for that. i expected lots of funny scenarios-gone-wrong, etc.

no.

noooooo.

this was so painful i couldn't even finish it, and i'm not the kind of gal who gives up easily on a book. thi
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Sarah
Someone needs to give Ms. Muller the memo that "intimacy" is not, in fact, a synonym for intercourse, or, really, for sex in general. This switcheroo gets really nauseating pretty early on in this book, and it also undermines her ability to say anything that's actually meaningful about how having more sex than you think you want increases intimacy in a marriage. Because of my minor nonfiction addiction (/nosiness problem), it was not uninteresting to read what a pleasant middle-class Protestant ...more
Liralen
I found this book while browsing in the library and was intrigued. Unfortunately, it was something of a disappointment - there is, frankly, not a whole lot of tension (I don't mean that I wish that the year of daily sex had gone terribly and that they'd considered divorce - simply that the book could pretty much be summed up as "We had sex every day for a year. My husband loved it. Me, not so much. It was great for our relationship!").

As other reviewers have pointed out, sex and intimacy are not
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Karen
My husband and I decided to read this book together. We thought it could be fun to see how another couple went about having sex every day for a year.

We're about halfway thought the book and I'm not sure we'll actually finish it.

If you're married with children and you need a pep talk that intimacy is possible even with all the stress of everyday life, then the author's words will probaly be comforting and maybe even a little inspiring that 'you can do it too'.

However for us, the book just wasn'
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Stan Armiger
I'm a guy and the only reason I picked this book up at the local book exchange was even at my most virile I don't ever think I would be up for it every night. I was interested to see how husband Chad held out but there was no real mention of this or for that matter any other intimate details.
This book was total con and very hard to keep reading and I only finished it as I am such miserly bastard I needed to get my moneys worth out of the nominal price I paid for it. I just thank God that I did n
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Carrie Runnals
Wow, I've received some pretty intense statements, dare I say "accusations" about this book. I'll be speaking with the author tomorrow, so I'll pass them along. Hmmmm, wonder what the rest of you GoodReads "guys" think...
Holly
I saw this couple on a talk show and checked out the book.
First of all, the book is not at all graphic or scintillating. In fact, it borders on downright boring. While there are some hints of reflection of how more regular intimacy can improve a marriage, it contained more of her own thoughts and stories, that didn't always make a point. I came away from the book feeling no more enlightened about marital intimacy, yet I know exactly how she feels about wrapping gifts at Christmas and how she sh
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April
This just wasn't what I was expecting. I like the concept a lot - recognizing that she needed to have more intimate time with her husband and deciding to make it a priority. But the book shared more about her passed life than it did about her "gift" of sex for a year to her husband. Also, I thought by the end of this year, there would have been a miraculous change in her husband - suddenly she's making time for him each day and he steps up his game around the house, showering her with things tha ...more
Mindy
Not an easy feat to make 365 nights of sex boring, but this book nailed it. After the first chapter, I started skimming, and eventually flipped to the back of the book and began reading it backwards. A vein of saccharin passive-aggression permeated the book, especially in passages about her husband's family. And the focus seemed primarily self-centered---an "I want to pick a gift that is so HUGE that my husband (and the rest of the world) cannot forget what I did."

Today I also finished Just Do
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WMO
Aug 25, 2008 WMO rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: women
At about a quarter-way through the book I started thinking about how I was going to write my review for this one. Really, knowing I wanted to write a review was a key reason that I finished the book. It was a tough one for me to get through. And not because it was a BAD book - it isn't - but because my expectations were way off. The cover is so sexy! It proclaims 365 nights! Sex! Every day for a year! I just assumed I was in for some really hot tidbits about s-e-x.

Instead I felt like I was on a
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Erin
I was so intrigued with this book--mostly because I'm unmarried, but I have heard the rumors of married people with kids never having sex, and that just floors me. I can understand being busy and tired and stressed, so you may not have it every day, or even every few days...but rarely? Only once a month? Twice a year? I can't imagine it. So the premise got me.

I also didn't realize the author is in Charlotte, so that added to the enjoyment of it (as she makes a few local references). Muller is a
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Carissa Grayson
Okay before everyone starts saying that I’m a perv, this is not a “sexual” book. This book was actually quite interesting and not “dirty” like someone would think. This book is about reconnecting with your partner and making sure that you take the time to have some intimate act whether it be sex, kissing or hugging.

This book is pretty much about the Mullers and their marriage. They have a typical marriage with normal issues. They are married and have 2 children. Their day is so busy that all the
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Cassandra
Most of the reviews slammed this book but I rather enjoyed it. I didn't want to read about all the dirty details but took a chance that this book was more about intimacy than about "the deed" itself. Thankfully, it really is a clean book about marriage, relationships, intimacy, etc. It's not well written but it was interesting. I appreciated the author's gift to her husband and her concluding thoughts of her year long attempt at greater intimacy with her husband.
Christina
There are some unnecessary tangents in this book, but hey, you can't only write about 365 days of sex for 279 pages. Charla writes more of a personal memoir here and provides some perspective on her 10 years of marriage. Some of her observations are right on target. At the end of the year, Charla's conclusions and changes are heartfelt and real. While she claims to be a professing Christian, you won't find a lot of biblical content in this book. Which is a shame, because a biblical perspective w ...more
westernway
I thought this book would be an interesting book about relationships and the strains that the modern world puts them under. Instead I found myself getting annoyed at the writer especially her apparent inability to use the word 'sex'. If she found it so repellent why did she not use the phrase 'making love'. Her use of the word 'imtimacy'made me think of silly 'tweenagers' giggling behind their hands at anything related to sex.This woman is over 40 for gods sake!
It seemed to me to be the author
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Jayne Lamb
One of those annoying, unfinishable books that are completely misrepresented by their premise. This is in no way a 'memoir of intimacy' - no great insights about the nature of maintaining sex in married life - instead it's a little like being forced to read a year's worth of the 'Muller family newsletter; you know, the kind that some families send out with a Christmas card every year that details Every. Little. Thing. that happenned during two-thousand and whatever. So, if the idea of a listenin ...more
Amy
I had some doubts about whether Muller's story could fill a whole book, especially since I'd heard that she didn't get into the nitty gritty of her experiment/experience. (I wondered, how was she doing to dodge it?)

But I tore through this in two days and really, really liked it. I found her really appealing and her voice and situation relatable. She's busy, she's sometimes harried, and she's gotten lazy about being actively involved in bettering her marriage. The semi-showboat move she makes in
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Katherine
I didn't expect to like this very much, to tell the truth, but it was a nice lightweight paperback that seemed like it would be a good airplane read--and that's what I needed. I picked it up out of curiousity and became unnerved by the similarities to my family--birthdays, anniversary, alma mater, age--though I think we have pretty fundamental personal differences. But Muller's a decent writer with an intriguing perspective. The book turns out to be less about sex and more about relationship, no ...more
Ingrid Moisil
Airing the laundry of her 40 years of life, but there isn't much too air! Badly written, not interesting, not worth the time.
Debbie Sochor
I borrowed this from the library because I was curious what the big deal was. I found this book boring cover to cover.
Jennifer
I enjoyed the author's approach to telling this story.
I thought she brought up a lot of interesting discussion points. I was pleasantly surprised that the book was not a "tell all" or a "how to" sex book. It was about intimacy and commitment, connection and marriage. A times I thought she rambled off course, but then realized that the "ramblings" were the author's way of introducing herself & her family to us. I think it was necessary to draw the reader in and help us feel connected to her t
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Chris
Not quite what I was expecting from the title. This isn't a Sex book for all you out there hoping for some dirty little secrets or new tips & tricks to spice up your own sex life. This was more about the author herself, and why she offered this gift of 365 days of intimacy to her husband. It often rambled off topic and delved into her history, but she always brought it back around to the point she was trying to make about participating in her marriage. It was easy to feel a connection with t ...more
Nancy
Jul 21, 2012 Nancy marked it as abandoned  ·  review of another edition
Perhaps like the quickie sex the author engages in to fulfill her birthday-gift promise to her husband, there's just not enough here. She fills the pages with extraneous stuff not remotely related to the (supposedly) central theme of how one goes about fulfilling this quirky promise in a life full of other commitments and what it ultimately means to her, her partner, and their family. When she started in on how her grandmother insisted on tablecloths blah blah at Thanksgiving, I realized this is ...more
Theresa
This book was really good for anyone to read, but I'm guessing married women would get a lot of the humor in it more so than someone who is dating. There were many things in this book I could relate to, and many I have to fear as my marriage goes on in years. :) I would recommend this women in committed relationships for sure. It makes you realize, and remember why you chose to get married...and puts life back into perspective. It talks about children, careers, intimacy, in-laws, and everything ...more
pianogal
I saw this one a while ago and am just now getting to it. Promising your husband sex every day for a year seems like a pretty big order but avoiding him for years didn't seem to help the situation any.

I liked how this book was more than just about sex. It looked at the couples whole relationship, which really wasn't in that bad of shape to start. I don't know that there were any ground-breaking insights here, but I liked the conversational way in which the author chose to present her life.
Brooke
I really, really, didn't like this book and I wasn't able to finish it. This book is less a memior of intimacy and more a memoir of a run of the mill family. Muller does a great job of writing an entire book about sex, without actually talking about it. I am bitterly disapointed that Muller did something that could have been quite interesting and eye opening, and yet did such a terrible job of documenting the experience. I certainly wouldn't recommend this book to anyone.
Dave
I read this book because I was looking for something light to read as I recovered from knee surgery. Not much to think about on this one, and although I was tempted to put it done a couple of times, I did manage to finish it. At times it comes across as a self-indulgent, "Hurray for me, look what I did for my husband even though I didn't really like it aren't I wonderful" story. But in the end, it helped to improve their marriage, and that can't be all bad.
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