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This Life Is in Your Hands: One Dream, Sixty Acres, and a Family Undone

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Set on a rugged coastal homestead during the 1970s, This Life Is in Your Hands introduces a superb young writer driven by the need to uncover the truth of a childhood tragedy and connect anew with the beauty and vitality of the back-to-the-land ideal that shaped her early years.

In the fall of 1968, Melissa Coleman's parents, Eliot and Sue—a handsome, idealistic young coupl...more
Hardcover, 336 pages
Published April 12th 2011 by Harper (first published March 31st 2011)
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Vicki
Jul 02, 2011 Vicki rated it 2 of 5 stars
Recommended to Vicki by: IndieBound Next List
2.5 stars. Better than okay, but not quite ... well, just not quite. Firstly, I would hesitate to even call this a memoir. It affected the fiction of being from Melissa's POV throughout, but that was a very awkward fit for most of the book. Writing about how her mom's pupils contracted the first time she saw her dad? Recounting the Nearing's reactions to finding out that her mom was pregnant? And even later, when she actually existed in the timeline, it really didn't ring true. Was 4 year old Me...more
Sarah
I have a distaste for “memoirs” which impute thoughts to other people, recite conversations the author could not have remembered or heard, etc.- I’d prefer it if it were called a fictionalized memoir or biography upfront. So that’s part of my problem here but I also found the writing unpolished and the theme shaky. It felt rather like Coleman was blaming her parents’ homesteading for their marital problems, her father’s hyperthyroidism, and the death of her sister, which was a bit much... yes, t...more
McGuffy Morris


To say this book is a beautifully written memoir does not do it justice. Melissa Coleman tells the story of her parents and what moved them not to be hippies, but to be true back-to-nature farmers. They were not interested in the drug culture, altering their minds, or a commune way of life. They wanted only to provide a natural, simple, down to earth life for themselves and their family.

Following the example, of Helen and Scott Nearing, authors of Living the Good Life, Eliot and Sue Coleman forg...more
willaful
3.5 stars. I won this from GoodReads.

This memoir hit me in a personal way, because I also grew up in the 70's with parents living out of the mainstream; for years I've been hungry for real depiction of what it was like, as opposed to the stereotypes we see in t.v. and movies. This Life is in Your Hands rang very true for me: the sometimes reckless idealism, the lack of boundaries, the passionate following of leaders with feet of clay. I think it's a pretty balanced portrayal, with a lot of atten...more
Marjorie
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Kellie
You might like this book if you are a fan of the writings of Eliot Coleman, organic gardening expert, or you like memoirs such as Glass Castles that tell real stories of families that go through extreme circumstances.

My Review:
This book just grabbed me by the throat from the first few words and images. The writing is beautiful and almost mystical in tone. I found it by chance when I was searching my library catalog for the Eliot Coleman books I check out every year in the early spring. He is a g...more
Clytee
I found this book in a smallish bookstore that manages to stay open in the downtown of Bemidji, Minnesota (population about 13,000). I drove my parents to the family cabin(s) from Scottsbluff, Nebraska to Bemidji, Minnesota this summer and in the couple of days I had once we got there checked out this bookstore that I love. This was a fascinating book. The author's parents, in 1968, moved to a homestead to live off the land and became "icons of the back-to-the-land movement", but it turns out mu...more
Katie
I thoroughly enjoyed this memoir about homesteading in the 1960s-1970s, written by someone who was a child in the homesteading family. Even though homesteading and organic gardening are not particular interests of mine (although food "politics" is), I found this book completely engrossing. It was so lyrically and poetically written, especially for a non-fiction book. The writer has a real talent for gorgeous writing, and especially writing that evokes the feel of being out in nature. What a wond...more
Madrezenith
I was fascinated with this book due to a lifelong interest in homesteading, organic farming, and back-to-the-land culture. I worked for Wes Jackson in the 1990's and saw first-hand the beauty and also a bit of the dark underside of the organic farming movement. This memoir goes much deeper that my own experiences - the author (roughly my age) grew up the child of homesteader/farmers who emulated, bought land from and lived next to Helen and Scott Nearing, authors of Living the Good Life and vege...more
Deb
Back in the 1960s and early 70s, my formative years, one of the countercultural threads running through the zeitgeist was a romantic back-to-the-land movement. I chose this book because back in those days my husband and I had fantasies of living "the good life" as defined by the movement evangelists, Scott and Helen Nearing, and this is the story of a young couple who really did it. Eliot Coleman and his wife Susan bought land adjacent to the Nearings' in Maine, and lived self-sufficiently off t...more
Amanda Hogg
On particularly smoggy LA days when it takes me over an hour to drive 17.5 miles, I sometimes dream about ditching the city and hauling ass to the country to live off the land. These daydreams take me to Sonoma, Napa - somewhere close enough to a big city where drinking a glass of wine at lunch with your garden salad is normal. Rarely, however, do my fantasies to farm take me to Maine. In This Life is in Your Hands, a couple, the author's parents, do just this.

Melissa Coleman writes about growin...more
Anne Fitzpatrick
I was telling my father-in-law's girlfriend about my current fascination with growing/gathering/raising one's own food (an idle fascination, since I am lazy and have no real desire to labor in a garden or chicken coop), and she told me I should read this book she'd just finished. So she sent it to me. But when I read the flap and realized that the book was also about the accidental death of a three-year-old, well--this mother of a three-year-old wasn't too enthusiastic about reading it. But even...more
Jim Bronec
When I first started farming organically someone gave me the book "living the Good Life" by Scott and Helen Nearing. It tells of there lives getting back to the land, living 100% off what they grow, and shunning themselves from most of modern day technology. I put it down half way thru because I felt them to be overbaring and judgemental in there assesment of the culture and in the promoting of their lifestyle. But most importantly I didn't believe they were being totally truthful. Turns out my...more
Maggie
I received this book through the Goodreads giveaway, and overall I wasn't too impressed. I know this is more of a memoir than it is a story, but nevertheless I grew more and more bored as the chapters went by and as the author introduced countless characters who didn't seem all that important to me. I wanted to see more of Lissie's development, but instead the story focuses on all that comes with homesteading as well as the political situation of the time.

PROS:
1) My mouth started watering when...more
Ciara
this was recommended to me by a friend. it's a memoir by a woman who was raised on a back-to-the-land homestead in the 70s. her parents were followers of scott & helen nearing. the nearings sold her parents a parcel of land & her father, eliot coleman, became pretty well known in organic faming/gardening circles, apparently. but it was far from an idyllic life. eliot suffered from hyperthyroidism, which compromised his health in pretty significant ways & exacerbated his wife's depres...more
Kate Lawrence
I was intrigued that the Colemans lived near and interacted with Scott and Helen Nearing, whose writings have been influential in my life. Without that connection, I probably wouldn't have read this book. I went to hear Ms. Coleman when she appeared at a local bookstore, which increased my interest in her story.
What a powerful memoir of idealism, hard work, misunderstanding, isolation, the rhythms of the seasons, and tragedy! Her writing style is excellent, better than I expected. Her descriptio...more
Jennifer Kleffner
Just finished this. Eliot Coleman, the father in this story, has written several books on organic gardening. He's kind of the "go to" guru for all things organic farming. I have one of his books on my bookshelf. Hence the interest.

Actually a difficult read for me. Had I been born a bit earlier, I could have been one of these back to the land 20 something hippies of the early 70's, convinced I could be totally self sufficient, living off the land. I don't know what was more disappointing. The fac...more
Marian
This is a fascinating story of the author's parents' connection to Scott and Helen Nearing and the self-sustaining movement ("Living the Good Life"). It is also well written.

I noticed it in the biographies section of my local library (Rutland Free Library in Rutland VT). When I was in my late teens I had a fantasy of living on a commune. Never did it. Later, I wondered so much about the children in those communities and how they fared. We have slowly been getting their stories.

In Melissa Coleman...more
Michelle
3.5 stars. If you’re going to read this, whatever you do, don’t read the jacket copy. I picked this up because of excellent reviews and for some reason, about halfway through, decided to check out the jacket. Whoever wrote it did the author and this book a huge disservice because there is a major spoiler. Based on the subtitle (“a family undone”) I figured this didn’t have a happy ending, but to have such a huge (and late-breaking) plot point on the cover copy was a big mistake. I hope they chan...more
Nick
The writing in this memoir of a childhood lived back-to-the-land in rural coastal Maine is mostly good, though some of the dialogue is impossibly hokey, but maybe that is what 1970s back-to-the-landers talk like? At times it is pretty impossible to believe that Coleman can actually remember most of what she recounts, largely because it occurred when she was very young. She even imputes thoughts to various people who were having them before she was born. But it's a compelling story of trial and e...more
Mariah
This memoir of a girl growing up in the 70's to homesteading, hippie parents in Maine was well written and parts of it rang true (mostly the positive parts luckily!) with the semi-hippie parents I grew up with in rural Wisconsin. Her family had deeper issues, though, illness with her father, depression with her mother and a terrible accident that took their toll and eventually tore the family apart. I resent a bit that the fact that her family's dysfunctions were blamed on their lifestyle choice...more
Lisa Kearns
I received this book free in exchange for writing a review. I selected this book because we have a small scale farm and also because I'm interested in the 70s hippy back-to-nature era.

What I didn't expect was to be drawn into the book to the point that I couldn't put it down! Melissa Coleman has a magical way of capturing the time and place of her youth, down to the smells, sights and sounds. Her book begins with her parents meeting in the late 60s, buying their farm and beginning to work toward...more
Agnes
This memoir deals not only with family but also the idealistic approach to cultivating land, embracing nature and living the simple life. Melissa Coleman writes about her barefoot childhood with so much beauty as she compares her feelings and experiences with people to what she observes in nature.

- "when you focused on the leaves fluttering..." to end of paragraph p. 4
- Mama and Papa's interest in healthy eathing p. 22
- bottom of page 23 - the 3 objectives
- mountaineeing and "labor" p. 87
- "The...more
Cathy
What a great book! This is Melissa Coleman's real life memoir as she lived her childhood on a farm in Maine. Her parents decide to pack up and move to a 40 acre farm in Maine where they become involved in the growing of organic crops, tilling the soil and enduring all the hardships of what was a somewhat pioneer type existence, but was actually a hippy type commune in the 60's.
I was totally immersed in this book and thought the authors descriptions of all the beauty and wonder of childhood we...more
Suzanne
I received this book from Good Reads First Reads--- thank you.

Having had a hobby farm of 40 acres during the back to earth movement of the 70's, I felt a personal connection to this story. The author, though a child at the time, has precious memories of the powerful influence of nature, including the smell of dirt and bark, and the wonderful feel of rain and snow in the woods. This is a fascinating story of some of the pioneers of the organic movement, and the struggles they faced. (The author's...more
Renee
I loved this memoir; I could not put it down. Melissa Coleman has written a timely and honest portrait of her own childhood experience in Maine with her two homesteading parents during the turbulent 1970s. Coleman's parents, decided to create their own sublime reality on 60 acres of land in Maine.

While Coleman highlights the beauty of growing up in a family culture that valued the nature’s abundance and freedom of expression, she does not falter to also expose farming's damaging effect on family...more
Gretchen
I wanted to love this book. The set-up, the introduction of the organic farming community, and the story of the Nearing's impact on the homesteading movement are each interesting. But I couldn't get past the writing style. If you are writing your own memoir, I think it's off limits to talk about events before your birth as if you were actually present. Either you need to present only your own memories, or you need to change tone and "imagine" the conversation.
I kept with the book for the first...more
Byron Norsworthy
As a former aspiring organic farmer who was inspired by Eliot Coleman's Four Season Harvest and New Organic Grower, when I saw this book I *had* to read it.

As a memoir by Eliot Coleman's oldest daughter, this book is written with incredible maturity, sensitivity and empathy for both her parents, when she could have easily demonized one or both of them. Melissa Coleman rises above what could be labeled a uniquely unstable and traumatic childhood and finds a reason to celebrate at every turn - if...more
Edith
Melissa Coleman was born in 1969 to parents who shunned the expectations of American mainstream society - opting instead for an alternative lifestyle. They embraced the values of homesteading, self-sufficiency and a back-to-the-land movement prevalent among many ‘hippies’ of this time. Her young parents bought 60 acres of land on a peninsula in Maine next to Helen and Scott Nearing (who were already well-known as authors of the popular homesteading bible “Living the Good Life”) and proceeded to...more
Jeri
This book was interesting to me on several levels. The politics and social changes of the 60's and 70's were revisited, which brought back memories. The history of the organic food movement was detailed, also. The most impacting aspect of the story was the author's ability to depict her family dynamics and undoing in a gentle, insightful and understanding manner; when disrespect is so popular in memoirs.
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As a freelance writer, Melissa Coleman has written about health, gardening, food, art, and travel. She lives in Freeport, Maine, with her husband and twin daughters. Her father, Eliot Coleman, remains one of the most revered and influential organic farmers in the country, a trailblazer in the locavore and the whole food movements."
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“Fall arrived with its honey light and cool evenings, and the maple leaves brightened to match the reds and yellow of ripe apples. It was time to put away the bounty of the warm months for fortitude during the cold ones, as humans had done for centuries.” 2 likes
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