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The Kind of Friends We Used To Be (The Secret Language of Girls #2)

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Kate and Marylin are best friends forever....

Well, except for last year when they weren't friends anymore....

And except for this year when they both want to be friends again, but just don't know how.

But the thing is, even as they are trying to fix their broken friendship, they are becoming more and more unalike. And that's becoming harder and harder to deal with. Well, it
Kindle Edition, 244 pages
Published April 27th 2010 by Atheneum Books for Young Readers (first published 2009)
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Tori I
I just finished reading The Kind Of Friends We Used To Be written by: Frances O'Roark Dowell. This book about two girls - Kate and Marylin - have been best friends forever, but now there starting to become just friends. My favorite part of this book is probably the ending because it is heart felt and joyful. I am only going to tell you is that it involves some Christmas caroling. Marylin is a seventh grade cheerleader and wants to be in the Student Government. Kate is more like me - in my opinio ...more
Brooke Shirts
Spot-on depiction of middle school social politics -- this little number is something I wish I could have had when I was twelve.

In the predecessor to this book (The Secret Language of Girls, which I haven't read), best friends Marylin and Kate grow apart when Marylin joins the cheerleading squad. This plot is no stranger to the world of middle grade fiction, but O'Roark Dowell manages to steer clear of character stereotypes and bring us something nuanced and real.

In The Kind of Friends We Used t
Reading about real life is one of my favorites, because it give me new perspectives about everything.

I love this story. I love it's messages and characters. After reading two chapters I was already in love with the characters, and I felt so close to them. I felt like I were their best friends.

I feel closer to Kate, because she wants to be different and stand out. She plays GUITAR. Like me.

I feel in a way like Marylin, but she was more of a friend to me. This book is a follow-up (Sequel) to The
This book is written for the teenager girls. It is about Kate and Marylin are best friend for a long time, but they think they can not be friend anymore. Kate likes to play guitar, and Marylin is a cheerleader, Kate does not like cheerleading. Therefore, when they are talking to each other, they don’t know what to talk, and they are not go to school together, doing things together. Kate thinks that she is not the kind of person what Marylin thinks. They make different friends and makes their fr ...more
I've always disliked books that make me relive my middle school years, but this one I actually didn't mind. I think Dowell has crafted an immensely authentic and refreshingly simple portrait of those years when friendships become so unpredictable.

The story centers on Kate and Marylin, childhood best friends who are coming off of a tumultuous sixth grade year with Marylin becoming part of the popular in-crowd and leaving Kate behind. The girls have made up but are still separated by their differ
Adolescence sucks. Plain and simple. And I hate that verb.

Let us say adolescence is difficult because children change in a way that challenges all the certainties that had made childhood such a pleasure.

Your best friend across the street has become a superficial little cheerleader who won't be seen talking to you.

That sucks. Or let us say it is difficult. But then again, you are wearing combat boots and acting weird. What's a girl to do?

The Kind of Friends We Used to Be traces the journey of tw
Eva Mitnick

In this sequel to The Secret Language of Girls, Kate and Marylin have started 7th grade. At first this seems to be Kate’s story – feeling like the odd girl out at Marylin’s cheerleader-and-ballplayer-filled party, Kate realizes that she wants to be different. Specifically, she longs to play guitar. In short order, she has borrowed a guitar from her old nemesis Flannery and has acquired a pair of clunky black thrash boots.

However, Kate only appears intermittently after this. Clearly, she is at pe
One of my favorite things about this book was the way Rhetta's parents were portrayed. Reverend and Mrs. Mayes were kind, loving, accepting, and fun. You don't often see that kind of portrayal of Christians in literature these days. It was nice. My favorite quote from the book came from Rhetta's dad, speaking to Marylin, who is embarrassed by the fact that her parents are divorced: "Everybody's broken, sweetie. God helps us get put back together." Excellent.

I like Frances O'Roark Dowell more and
When I was in 9th grade, my childhood best friend signed my yearbook "To a girl I used to be best friends with." It's not like I carry this hurt around or anything, but I still remember the shock of seeing it in writing, even though I knew it was true.

This book is kinda like that. Two girls in middle school just don't have anything in common anymore, and maybe all they really had in common was living in the same neighborhood.

The girls kinda think in ways that is too perceptive than most middle
Mr. Tedrow
Well,except for last year when thay weren't friends anymore.... And except for this year when thay both want to be friends again,but just dont know how. But the thing is, even as thay are tring to fix their broken friendship , thay are becoming more and more unlike.And that's becoming harder and harder to deal with. it would make things a hole lot simpler if kate would just take some of Marylin's fashon advice.what's with the guitar? And why on Earth is cheerleading so imporant to Marylin? she w ...more
Sequel to The Secret Language of Girls, but you don't need to have read that one to enjoy this one. Pretty typical early teen fare, except that the author has more than a few quietly beautiful turns of phrase and insightful commentary on the middle school life. I did find the end somewhat abrupt, and I would've liked to see the characters actually grow and change throughout the story, but the novel's entertaining enough as a slice-of-life depiction of changing personalities and friendships. Wasn ...more
Goodreads Book review Review Ashley Shutt 74

The book I chose to read for this months book report is The Kind Of Friends We Used To Be by Frances O’Roark Dowell. I give this book a 5 out of 5 stars. I would recommend this book to middle school girls for three reasons. It gives you different perspectives, it leaves you hanging, and any girl my age can relate to it.

One thing I really enjoyed about this book was that it was told by two people, so you got to see both sides of the friendship. Every c
In this story about friendship, two friends have been best friends all throughout school. This book has some unexpected curves to it which create suspense for the reader. Overall, this book was decent in my mind. This book reminded me of myself with some of my friends back in elementary school and how we used to act toward each other. This book was not as effective because it was not written for my age range. The characters in this book were younger and it seemed like the book was written for y ...more
The Kind of Friends We Used to Be was a typical story of two changing friends. The title actually tells about the entire book. In the beginning of this book, two very different girls are described. Kate, a tomboy who loves sports, music, and the arts is trying to change her appearance for the start of 7th grade. Marylin, a middle school cheerleader who is all about fashion and being popular is at an end of summer party. These two girls have actually been best friends since preschool, up until l ...more
Apr 08, 2011 Mahaley rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: any body
Recommended to Mahaley by: i found it
So far one girl is in love with a boy, who writes music. And she likes his music and he likes her music. So cant wait to get back to that and like she like wants to play guitar and she wears big black boots to school, her friend dos not like her boots. And she wears like cute little three year old kind of clothing.( her friend the one that dos not like the boy.)
Lindsey Haas
Frances O'Roark Dowell's book,"The Kind of Friends We Used to Be" is an outstanding story of two middle school girls who were best friends. They are now becoming different people and it is hard for each of them to accept their differences. This book shows both the girls sides of the story. I was surprised that the two girls were still friends even though they're nothing alike.
The main characters of the story are Kate and Marylin. Kate is a girl who plays guitar, writes songs, and wears big bla
Alana Mora
This book is called The kind of friends we used to be by Frances o' Roark Dowell. It is however, not a series, but has other books written by the same author. So, it's about two girl named Kate and Marilyn and weren't friends in the 6th grade, but are starting to become friends now in the 7th grade because they realized they need each other. Kate is not the girly type and loves to play the guitar and Marilyn is so girly that she is trying to transform Kate into wearing pink clothes. They stopped ...more
Emily Pierson
I think it was better than the first one. Can't wait for the third!!
Kaylyn Bulthuis
I loved this book! I give it four stars. This is an awesome fiction book that most girls would enjoy. There is different sides to the story. One perspective is Kate's and the other is Marylin's. The girls used to be BFF's but now that they are entering Middle school they both go their own ways. They want to be friends again but it seems impossible. Marylin started cheerleading. And Kate starts playing the guitar. They both make new friends and find new interests. But are they ever going to be fr ...more
Jennifer Kuramoto
The Kind of Friends We Used to Be by Frances O’Roark Dowell is about a two girls who used to be best friends until seventh grade when Marylin decided to be a cheerleader. Kate didn’t have anything against cheerleaders, but Marylin had always tried to change Kate. Marylin was the kind of girl who loved pink and cared a lot about fashion, as Kate just wants to play guitar and wear jeans, t-shirts, and her favorite black combat boots. Kate always wonders if theres another girl who likes playing gui ...more
Kate and Marylin arer now in seventh grade trying to manage a new and more fragile friendship. As they become teenagers, they both look into who they are and who they really want to be. Are you defined by who your friends are or by the kind of friend you are? Without each other as "all-the-time" friends, they are forced to venture forth into the world and discover the power of friendship.

In this book, we are introduced to some interesting new characters. Characters that challenge and strenghten
Abigail Wilson
I didn'y read the 1st book but i happened to fall in love with this book and Mrs.Dowell's writing! It's like she uses magic to lure you into reading her books and using her magic to make the book come to life before your very eyes! I write books but, never TRY to get them published. Reading good books like Frances' makes me have new and better ideas to make my books more interesting and magical. To make the book come to life. But, you know what's wrong with me? It's very hard for me to finish a ...more
Kate Hannigan
She has amazing turns of phrase. Great imagery, very tangible references. Good use of humor that doesn't condescend. This book features long-time friends entering seventh grade, heading in clearly opposite directions. She makes each charming in her own way and never severs the ties between them. Third person, but perspectives alternate by chapter.

"Flannery's mom was a little too happy to see Kate, if you wanted Kate's opinion. It was sort of like she thought Kate was there to rescue Flannery fr
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Jaime W
The book The kind of friends we used to be, by frances o’ roark dowell is a sequel to The Secret Language of Girl. This book is very interesting there are two girls that are totally opposite. Marylin and Kate are the two main characters. Kate is a girl who wears jeans and plays the guitar. Marylin wears pink leggings and skirts and is of course a cheerleader at there middle school. They used to be friends and then separated when they noticed they weren’t the same they didn’t have most of the sa ...more
Jennifer Wardrip
Reviewed by Sally Kruger aka "Readingjunky" for

The friendship adventures of Kate and Marylin continue in THE KIND OF FRIENDS WE USED TO BE. The girls were in sixth grade in THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF GIRLS, and now they are in seventh.

Marylin continues to hang out with the cheerleaders, although she is gradually beginning to realize that the controlling Mazie does not always have her best interests in mind. When Marylin meets Rhetta, the new girl, she never dreams that they could h
Emma Xoxo
I LOVED this book. I was actually pretty sad when the book ended, I have to admit. Kate and Marylin are exact opposites, even though they used to be friends. Now that Marylin has become a cheerleader and hangs out with the "wrong" people (rude), Marylin and Kate are teetering dangerously away from each other. Now Marylin is ditching Mazie and is slowly become friends with the mysterious Rhetta. She might be becoming more than friends with Ethan though... ( might have wrote the wrong name ). Kate ...more
Small deviants aside, little kids are friendly folk. Catch `em young enough and you can turn them into friends if they both like making chocolate chip cookies and having sleepovers. They are discerning, but friendship often trumps their differences . . . for a time. Then puberty appears on the horizon and all bets are off. Suddenly kids have to form strategic alliances with their peers. And that friend you made in the second grade? Suddenly you're beginning to realize that you two have very litt ...more
Giselle Martin
It was an okay book, but the things is that the book really captures my attention at first and starts of strong, but the ending was nothing like I expected, because for me it didn't end the story at all and just left it incomplete. I don't know if it was just that I had put my hopes up for this book, and I liked it and enjoyed, but it didn't reached or exceed my expectations for this book. I think that it is a fairly good book that girls that can relate to the main characters and their age shoul ...more
The Kinds of Friends We Used to Be
Francis O'Roark Dowell

Kate and Marylin are best friends forever buy along the way they lost a year of that friendship. But now they are back together they are finding it difficult because they seem to be so much alike. Each of them have grown in their own way and are trying to find how they fit together.

This is the sequel to The Secret Language of Girls. Another good book for tweens but not memorable to me.
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Frances O'Roark Dowell is an author of middle-grade fiction. Her books have received numerous awards, including an Edgar (Dovey Coe), the William Allan White Award (Dovey Coe), the Christopher Award (Shooting the Moon), the Voya Book Award (Where I'd Like to Be), and the Boston Globe-Horn Book Award for Excellence in Children's Fiction, Honor Book (Shooting the Moon). Dowell has an MFA in Creative ...more
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