The Amateur Marriage
I think there comes a point in marriage where a woman realizes that she married a GUY. Sounds weird to say - but there was a part of me that imagined my husband would enjoy shopping and fashion and cry at the opera,...more
I listened to it in audiobook format on a road trip to the Oregon Coast in 2005. It disgusted me.
Pauline is a selfish, mean spirited, horrible human being who treats everyone like dirt. Michael is a spineless whiner who rather be lazy and play the victim than take control of his life. The book consists of watching their unhealthy, selfish, pathetic relationship from beginning to end. Neither of them is likable. I don't think there is a sing...more
For me, The Amateur Marriage represents the sixth time I have read one of Anne Tyler’s novels. On the surface it’s the story of Michael and Pauline. They meet by chance in 1941 in Anton’s, the grocery store run by Michael’s family. 1941, perhaps incidentally, is the year Anne Tyler was born.
There was a war to be fought, of course, a war that affected both of their lives. But there’s a marriage, and a child, a daughter named Lindy. Others follow, a boy and another girl. For Michael a...more
I love how Tyler masks tension the characters are experiencing internally and in their relationships with descriptions of the banal. You just know someone is going to blow a gasket at any moment, but she makes the characters and the reader simmer in it, turning up the heat slowly with the passing years, seemingly meaningless squabbles, and resignation.
Pauline and Michael are just wrong for...more
The genius of Tyler is in her understated approach to the great themes of life. Behind the seemingly trivial details of the ever...more
The book takes you through the years of a marriage/failed marriage starting in 1941 and ending in 2001. Each chapter jumps forward to a new point in time for the family. That alone makes it intriguing--following the family and seeing how they change through the years.
The characters are absolutely believable. Maybe it's because I came from a dysfunctional family or perhaps I'm...more
I would recommend it, b...more
That being said, naturally I simply adore Anne Tyler for her novelistic works that depict raw human emotions and real feelings without the use of firey-explosives or Bruce Willis muscles to depict them. There's just no substitute for reading something and seeing yourself in that very postion without having to reach of your glock or hand grenade... I've found.
In short: I’ve...more
Tyler reliably dredges up the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly of domestic life in Baltimore. Though "seldom if ever spiteful," notes The New York Times Book Review, Tyler is a "mischief-maker" in the spirit of Jane Austen. Amateur Marriage, while departing from the trademark quirkiness of previous novels, affirms that reputation. Against the backdrop of six decades of American life--from the bombing of Hiroshima through September 11, from the old neighborhood to the slums, from the tr...more
All'apparenza è la storia di una famiglia come tante, con i suoi problemi e con la sua routine, ma nonostante ciò è lontano anni luce dal risultare banale o noioso. Lo si legge gradevolmente e man mano che la storia va avanti e i prob...more
When I first began re...more
should have been a fun fling ends up being, due to a twist
of fate, their marriage.
Children, suffering, growth and deaths along with years of
conflicting non-parallel existences lead to the husband re-
alizing that he must leave this stifling trap of toxicity.
The marriage has become a dynamic of two people hating each
other and bringing out the worst that each as to offer.
Neither person alne is bad but the marriage creates a dark
and lonely l...more
I think this book is ultimately sad because it seems to focus on the negative aspects and flaws of a family. I think that we are all amateurs when we marry and the trick is to fight positively! Some problems need attention and fixing, but the foc...more
I particularly liked Tyler's masterful depiction of Pauline, a loveable, volati...more
There is zero character developm...more
I guess, this book teaches us, Li...more
It was really sad as you realize Pauline & Michael had never built a strong relationship but less friendship before they got married. They were the opposites of one anothe...more