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Boyfriends with Girlfriends

3.63 of 5 stars 3.63  ·  rating details  ·  1,709 ratings  ·  188 reviews
Lance has always known he was gay, but he's never had a real boyfriend. Sergio is bisexual, but his only real relationship was with a girl. When the two of them meet, they have an instant connection--but will it be enough to overcome their differences?

Allie's been in a relationship with a guy for the last two years--but when she meets Kimiko, she can't get her out of her...more
Hardcover, 217 pages
Published April 19th 2011 by Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers
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Morgan F
Honestly, I did not completely finish Boyfriends with Girlfriends. I read the first 80 pages, then decided I did not want to spend any more time on it. I skimmed, and it doesn't appear I would have benefitted much from finishing it.

I've never read a book by Alex Sanchez, even though I have heard of Rainbow Boys and all the hype that surrounds it. When I got a free copy of this from Simon & Schuster's Galleygrab, I thought I would test the waters before borrowing his other books from the lib...more

If, unlike me, you don’t allow large portions of your life to be sucked away by the website TVtropes, you might not be familiar with this term. It refers to an aspect of a story so obvious that the writer might as well have hit you over the head with it. As the trope page says:
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Even though we are in the middle of Queer YA explosion, bisexual teens are rarely the stars of the show. This book, about the complex relationships of love and friendship between four teens (one gay, one lesbian, one bisexual, and one straight) is a great read. It brings creativity as the straight girl wonders if she is bi and the bi guy tries to beat the insecurity of his gay boyfriend. It captures the pace of high school life dead on and manages to nail the romance between the two pairs of cou...more
2.5 stars. This book sort of read like a screenplay for "How to be LGBTQ" as I imagine PBS would've put on in the 80s. On the one hand, I love that it's really all-encompassing, with L,G,B, and Q characters and a discussion of T. On the other hand, I felt like this book deserved better writing, better follow-through on the storylines...better everything. I wanted this to be a better book so, so badly.

While I found the storyline between Sergio and Lance merely frustrating - when one of you is ra...more
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Alex Sanchez is the author. Suburbia is the place. Lance, Allie, Sergio and Kimiko are the teens. Gay Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender is the genre. Mad Scientist is the reader.

This small group are maneuvering through high school while trying to figure out their sexual identities. The story starts to move along with best friend duos. Lance is on the swim team and very proud of being gay. Yes, he is way out of the closet. His best friend,...more
Thorn MotherIssues
I really wanted to like a book that's about bi identity issues in teens and I'm glad that this one is out there, but I'd still recommend Sara Ryan's books if someone wanted a good story that covered some of the same ground. This was just too talky, too preachy, and while it's good that not all the characters were white, the white characters never had to consider their privilege and the Japanese-American girl Kimiko even found the creepy culture-based fascination the white girl Allie had with her...more
Happy as I am to see a book concerning teen bisexuality on the shelves, I can't bring myself to give BWG a higher rating.

I've read many of Alex Sanchez's books before and was therefore surprised at how uncharacteristically bad the writing was. The point of view jumped between the four main characters constantly, sometimes twice in the space of one paragraph. The characters also seemed kind of flat, to be honest; they never really felt three-dimensional to me and I never quite related to any of t...more
I don't really know what to think about this book. On one hand, it deals with very real, difficult teenage issues. But on the other, nothing really happens other than discussions of sexuality. But I guess that is was some teenagers need to want, what they need to read. With that said, it was a really quick read and I was entertained.

Boyfriends with Girlfriends follows four main characters. Lance, openly gay; his best friend Allie, bi-curious; Lance, bisexual; and his best friend Kimiko, lesbian...more
I am not a huge fan of Alex Sanchez--I have read almost all his other books and usually find his characters to be either very sterotypical or moved more by the lesson he wants to teach than actual moments of personality. But when I heard that this book was about bisexuals and something not normally coverd in YA I decided to give it a shot.

I'm glad I did.

For me this was the best book of his I have ever read. I honestly cared about Allie, Lance, Sergio and Kimiko as characters each in their own wa...more
You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it
~Atticus Finch, To Kill Mockingbird~

While reading this book, I kept spelling the quote above. I am not a phobia nevertheless the idea in this book are new for me. Surprisingly, various emotions were up to the surface when I read this book.

It was nice that every character, Allie, Lance, Kimiko and Sergio, got their own chapters. So I could read all their point...more
Sep 30, 2012 skyline rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: ya, m-m
The book started great. The characters were interesting and the story was interesting. But then I don't know what happened. The characters started to annoy me. Really annoy me. And made me nervous but not in a good way. I mean... the second half of the book is like "I should call him. I shouldn't call him. What do I do? Maybe I should call him. I don't know. Do you think I should call him? What if he thinks I should be the one calling and then I don't call him? No, I'll wait that he calls. But w...more
Apr 28, 2014 Katie added it
I found the text spoke down to its audience. Teenagers don't talk like that (sorry, but no one says "self-sex" and "hand-sex"... I guess I should be grateful he didn't write "mouth-sex"). It all seemed very childish. I really did not enjoy this book - I didn't feel challenged at any point, I didn't learn anything, I didn't care about any of the characters and I wasn't moved.
Very dialogue driven, but the dialogue seems authentic. Not much in the way of exposition or descriptive writing.

Could draw reluctant readers who are LGBTQ, but I wish it would draw all teen readers who would see multifaceted gay and bi teens as they struggle with identity and relationships.

Also seems like Sanchez specifically wanted to address prejudice against bisexuals among gay teens.

Has a happy ending; doesn't show any bullying; and shows parents trying to come to terms with their kids' sex...more
Agent Smith
This was my first time reading an Alex Sanchez novel about teenagers exploring their sexuality. The book resolves around Lance, Allie, Sergio, and Kimiko-four friends who attempt to navigate the ups and downs of being either bisexual, gay, or straight in relationships and what it means to be comfortable and confident with who you are and the choices you make. There was nothing special or extraordinary about the novel, but it was a decent book.
I was excited to read this because I normally enjoy Alex Sanchez books quite a bit. But this one....was it even written by the same Alex Sanchez I have read before? The writing was horrible!

The characters were so passive about everything, it was a wonder that anyone got (back) together at all! The only bit of the book that I liked was the confrontation between Kimiko and her mom. It has the suspense that every other part of the book lacked, and we were not given every single internal thought th...more
C Steiner
I would place any success from Boyfriends with Girlfriends on the fact that it is one of the few books that features bisexual characters. This inclusion was the only reason I picked it up and kept going throughout it. While it is nice that there is some breakaway from the two LGBTQ book models of "sassy gay friend and straight girl sidekick" and "questioning lesbians come out of the closet," the book felt very flat to me. The conversations seemed unrealistic and forced, and none of the character...more
I didn't like the constant jumping between characters in this one. I think it would be a good book for a younger person that is coming out or questioning their sexuality though.
I was excited to read this one since I noticed some of Sanchez' past books seemed to erase bisexual folks and even be biphobic (gay dude in The God Box telling guy he was half out of the closet when he came out of as bi or something along those lines)
I was very disappointed though. This book seems to lack the depth I got out of The God Box and Bait. The only real message seemed to be "bisexuality is real" which is no doubt an important message but I was still hoping for something a little more.
I would have given this book a higher rating if it didn’t read so young. I am biased and am not enjoying young adult novels in general lately, and this one read more like middle grade than young adult to me (even though it includes a bit of a sex scene - but what middle graders don’t know all about sex?)

Aside from the young writing style/genre and the fact that it seemed a little too stereotypical and offensive at times (mostly with race, gender, and slut-stereotyping), this book was a delight t...more
What I love about Sanchez's books is that his writing style makes the book feel like its a friend sharing a personal story.

In Boyfriends With Girlfriends (now one of my favorite books of his, right next to Bait), Sanchez brings up the topic of bisexuality. With affection, he brings to the fore common fears and myths of bisexuality, bring humour and understanding to a much misunderstood sexuality.

I deeply connected with the character, especially Allie. The journey of self-discovery each teen ta...more
Mar 28, 2014 Sps rated it 3 of 5 stars
Shelves: ya, story
God I love gay books. Alex Sanchez may not aim for the lyrical heights (which is totally OK by me) but his dialogue is good, his plots are fun, and his characters make me happy. They don't spring magically out of nowhere with no context, and they don't act any older than the high-schoolers that they are.
They do household chores and homework, are surrounded by their families, go to extracurricular activities, wank, IM, text, and call each other all the time--Sanchez has grounded them in what lif...more
Aha, I have a review, originally posted at TheOtakuLibrarian.

I have to say it up front that Boyfriends with Girlfriends was one of my least favorite Alex Sanchez novels (my favorites were the first two of the Rainbow Boys trilogy, the God Box, and Getting It). It was an all right read, quick and easy, but the GLBTQ aspects of it were so heavy-handed that it seemed that every conversation that they had was about sexuality. And that rotating, alternating POV confused me at times.

But, on the other...more
I’m sorry. I tried. I really, really did.

Great topic. Poorly executed.

Problem was this felt more like a textbook example used to educate students in a GSSA more than an actual story. I never got a real grasp on the setting or emotions behind the things being said and done. There wasn’t much to immerse into and it just gave the message a lectured aftertaste.

And I hated the main character (er, well one of the four - there is a lot of head hopping). To put it simply; he was offensive. The only conf...more
I opened this up the other night intending to read a few pages to wind down before bed, instead I ended up staying until 3AM and reading the entire book. So, it's got that going for it. However, I am also kind of disappointed in it. I don't know exactly why but I was expecting more. You know, more than just the topic of biphobia. That's not to say that it isn't important to talk about it - it is extremely important, but this book just keeps hitting you with it like a hammer, and as a result it s...more
Danii Allen
I enjoyed this book a lot and read it in a few hours. Kimiko was my favourite character.

There was a good range of LGBT+ stuff in there - gay boy, lesbian girl, bi boy, questioning girl. (Even a mention of transgender issues, which is the least acknowledged in the majority of so-called 'LGBT novels' [or, 'G and occasionally L novels', as I like to call them. (So thanks for involving bi and trans* and questioning because they're all important parts of the LGBT+. Asexuality wasn't considered - and...more
This is about two groups of best friends. Lance and Allie, Sergio and Kimiko. Lance and Sergio have been chatting on the phone and online. When the story begins the two are meeting for the first time at a mall. Allie and Kimiko go to keep it a stress free first get together.

Lance and Sergio get along very well. Though Lance who is gay doesn't like that Sergio considers himself a bisexual. Lance believe someone is either gay or straight. Eventually, this is worked out. Sanchez does a great job o...more
That One Geek Girl
I'm not going to beat around the bush: I love Alex Sanchez books. Ever since I read Rainbow Boys in high school, I felt that his books truly captured the essence of the teen LGBT experience in today's American society. But something always felt like it was missing to me, until now. His new book, Boyfriends with Girlfriends, is the first time that a lesbian relationship is at the forefront of one of his books, and it is beautiful.

There are 4 main charater: Sergio and Kimiko, Lance and Allie. We f...more
Jun 07, 2011 Christi rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: ya
Review from my blog: http://christitheteenlibrarian.blogsp...

I enjoyed this story. This is the first book I've read by Alex Sanchez, and I'm glad I did. Originally I selected this eGalley because I was updated the LGBT book list at the library. There have been so many incredible new books recently that our older list was in serious need of updating. You'll be happy to know that Boyfriends with Girlfriends made it onto the list!

What I loved about these characters is that they are all so set in th...more
Lance is gay. Sergio is bi (though Lance thinks that's just a cop-out). Lance's best friend Allie is straight (with a long-time boyfriend), until she meets Sergio's best friend Kimiko, who's a lesbian, and is immediately attracted. Oh, the drama! Lance wants to be a couple after just two dates with Sergio, and wants to know who he's with all the time and why he can't go out tomorrow night, and who was that guy he was with at the mall, etc. etc. Sergio isn't ready to be part of a couple and hates...more
The beginning of Boyfriends with Girlfriends starts with Lance, Allie, Sergio and Kimiko all meeting for the first time. Lance and Sergio had talked online and were interested in seeing if there could be more between them. Your learn very early on that Sergio is bisexual and that Lance doesn't believe bisexuality is real.

Then there is Allie, Lance's best friend, who is struggling with her own sense of identity. She's been in a relationship with a guy for two years and although she cares for him...more
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Alex Sanchez is the author of the Rainbow Boys trilogy of teen novels, along with The God Box, Getting It, and the Lambda Award-winning middle-grade novel So Hard to Say. His novel, Bait, won the 2009 Florida Book Award Gold Medal for YA fiction. Alex received his master’s degree in guidance and counseling from Old Dominion University and for many years worked as a youth and family counselor. His...more
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