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Boyfriends with Girlfriends

3.64 of 5 stars 3.64  ·  rating details  ·  2,287 ratings  ·  218 reviews
Lance has always known he was gay, but he's never had a real boyfriend. Sergio is bisexual, but his only real relationship was with a girl. When the two of them meet, they have an instant connection--but will it be enough to overcome their differences?

Allie's been in a relationship with a guy for the last two years--but when she meets Kimiko, she can't get her out of her
Hardcover, 217 pages
Published April 19th 2011 by Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers
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Morgan F
Honestly, I did not completely finish Boyfriends with Girlfriends. I read the first 80 pages, then decided I did not want to spend any more time on it. I skimmed, and it doesn't appear I would have benefitted much from finishing it.

I've never read a book by Alex Sanchez, even though I have heard of Rainbow Boys and all the hype that surrounds it. When I got a free copy of this from Simon & Schuster's Galleygrab, I thought I would test the waters before borrowing his other books from the lib
Kat (Lost in Neverland)




Sort of.

Lance is gay. Allie is straight, but questioning. Sergio is bisexual, and Kimiko is a self-proclaimed butch lesbian.

Lance likes Sergio, but doesn't believe in bisexuality ("But you're attracted to guys, right? Doesn't that make you gay? Why not just come out? Stop hiding!"). Sergio likes Lance, but doesn't like how his ident
This book sort of read like a screenplay for "How to be LGBTQ" as I imagine PBS would've put on in the 80s. On the one hand, I love that it's really all-encompassing, with L,G,B, and Q characters and a discussion of T. On the other hand, I felt like this book deserved better writing, better follow-through on the storylines...better everything. I wanted this to be a better book so, so badly.

While I found the storyline between Sergio and Lance merely frustrating - when one of you is ragingly biph
Happy as I am to see a book concerning teen bisexuality on the shelves, I can't bring myself to give BWG a higher rating.

I've read many of Alex Sanchez's books before and was therefore surprised at how uncharacteristically bad the writing was. The point of view jumped between the four main characters constantly, sometimes twice in the space of one paragraph. The characters also seemed kind of flat, to be honest; they never really felt three-dimensional to me and I never quite related to any of t
Even though we are in the middle of Queer YA explosion, bisexual teens are rarely the stars of the show. This book, about the complex relationships of love and friendship between four teens (one gay, one lesbian, one bisexual, and one straight) is a great read. It brings creativity as the straight girl wonders if she is bi and the bi guy tries to beat the insecurity of his gay boyfriend. It captures the pace of high school life dead on and manages to nail the romance between the two pairs of cou ...more
Thorn MotherIssues
I really wanted to like a book that's about bi identity issues in teens and I'm glad that this one is out there, but I'd still recommend Sara Ryan's books if someone wanted a good story that covered some of the same ground. This was just too talky, too preachy, and while it's good that not all the characters were white, the white characters never had to consider their privilege and the Japanese-American girl Kimiko even found the creepy culture-based fascination the white girl Allie had with her ...more
Haley  *Aye, sir!*
For the most part, Boyfriends with Girlfriends was a pretty decent read. There was just one major thing that severely lessened my enjoyment of the book and I am going to address that first.

Lance really bothered me. Initially, he is very biphobic and I hated him for it.

"My main worry is the bi thing....I guess that means he's still coming out" (3).

"I don't believe there really is such a thing as being bi...I just think that you're born gay or straight. One or the other" (64).

Thankfully, Sergio c
This book is, frankly...

It's embarrassing that this is what we have to represent the lgbtqia+ community and its shameful that this is what we have to offer teens who want bi or qpoc representation in a genre overly full of gay cis white dudes.

First of all, I want to point out that whoever let this book get published obviously forgot what good writing is, blinded by their excitement for some material. The writing is dull, and, frankly, boring. Aside from that, the slang used is written so obviou
I don't really know what to think about this book. On one hand, it deals with very real, difficult teenage issues. But on the other, nothing really happens other than discussions of sexuality. But I guess that is was some teenagers need to want, what they need to read. With that said, it was a really quick read and I was entertained.

Boyfriends with Girlfriends follows four main characters. Lance, openly gay; his best friend Allie, bi-curious; Lance, bisexual; and his best friend Kimiko, lesbian
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Alex Sanchez is the author. Suburbia is the place. Lance, Allie, Sergio and Kimiko are the teens. Gay Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender is the genre. Mad Scientist is the reader.

This small group are maneuvering through high school while trying to figure out their sexual identities. The story starts to move along with best friend duos. Lance is on the swim team and very proud of being gay. Yes, he is way out of the closet. His best friend,
I am not a huge fan of Alex Sanchez--I have read almost all his other books and usually find his characters to be either very sterotypical or moved more by the lesson he wants to teach than actual moments of personality. But when I heard that this book was about bisexuals and something not normally coverd in YA I decided to give it a shot.

I'm glad I did.

For me this was the best book of his I have ever read. I honestly cared about Allie, Lance, Sergio and Kimiko as characters each in their own wa
my second time reading this book, it was less than satisfactory. i can't really adequately describe my disappointment, but i can try.

It kind of hits you over the head with its message: BISEXUALITY IS REAL AND NOT EVERYBODY CAN NEATLY FIT INTO LABELS. Which in and of itself is adequate. i can tell that this book tried really hard to be a comprehensive work of fiction about bisexuality, but i just wasn't feeling it. first of all, it was written poorly. The characters were pretty two dimensional. i
I’m sorry. I tried. I really, really did.

Great topic. Poorly executed.

Problem was this felt more like a textbook example used to educate students in a GSSA more than an actual story. I never got a real grasp on the setting or emotions behind the things being said and done. There wasn’t much to immerse into and it just gave the message a lectured aftertaste.

And I hated the main character (er, well one of the four - there is a lot of head hopping). To put it simply; he was offensive. The only conf
John Amory
I wrote a paper for a grad class last summer on this book and Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher. My thesis was basically that LGBTQ young adult literature is expanding, but the focus is primarily on gay, lesbian, and/or questioning young adults. The B and T are largely ignored, and when they aren't ignored... well, the results aren't typically very good. This book was my example of how poorly bisexuality is portrayed in YA lit, because it is a problem. That's how it's presented throughout Sanchez' ...more
You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it
~Atticus Finch, To Kill Mockingbird~

While reading this book, I kept spelling the quote above. I am not a phobia nevertheless the idea in this book are new for me. Surprisingly, various emotions were up to the surface when I read this book.

It was nice that every character, Allie, Lance, Kimiko and Sergio, got their own chapters. So I could read all their point
Sep 30, 2012 skyline rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: m-m, ya
The book started great. The characters were interesting and the story was interesting. But then I don't know what happened. The characters started to annoy me. Really annoy me. And made me nervous but not in a good way. I mean... the second half of the book is like "I should call him. I shouldn't call him. What do I do? Maybe I should call him. I don't know. Do you think I should call him? What if he thinks I should be the one calling and then I don't call him? No, I'll wait that he calls. But w ...more
I would have given this book a higher rating if it didn’t read so young. Aside from the young writing style/genre and the fact that it seemed a little too stereotypical and offensive at times (mostly with race, gender, and slut-stereotyping), this book was a delight to read because of its bi-positivity. Bisexual characters are seldom written and so I almost want to give this book a 5/5 rating for having at least one completely out bisexual character. The bisexual storyline was accurate in that i ...more
A culturally diverse book about the LGBT community that doesn't exclude bisexual individuals. I think that this is a really important book because there is a lot of animosity and bi-erasure that comes with being bisexual. Even In in the LGBT community, they are still considered "confused" or "greedy", especially in media and pop culture.
It wasn't especially heartwrenching or profound, but I don't think that was the authors intention. It's a very cute, light, contemporary read. It's hard to find
I need to stop reading things just because they're queer. Surely there are better novels with actual bisexual representation than this. That said, I also need to stop reading straight people's reviews of queer novels because if I read one more top review that says a book is "hypocritical" because "the characters are focusing too much on gender" RIGHT AFTER THE REVIEWER DECLARES THAT THEY ARE STRAIGHT I'm gonna implode.

That said, my biggest issue with this book, beside it clearly being a very hea
Menglong Youk
First, Let me say that this is the fifth book of Alex Sanchez's I've read so far. In each book, my rate isn't below 4 stars. His first and only Trilogy, Rainbow Boys, is in the sixth place of my all time favorite series. I love the way he made and described his characters; not boring, not complicated, but interesting, absorbing and wanting to get some more of the story. This book is basically about a complicated friendship of a lesbain and a straight girl who later discovered that she's bi, and ...more
Very dialogue driven, but the dialogue seems authentic. Not much in the way of exposition or descriptive writing.

Could draw reluctant readers who are LGBTQ, but I wish it would draw all teen readers who would see multifaceted gay and bi teens as they struggle with identity and relationships.

Also seems like Sanchez specifically wanted to address prejudice against bisexuals among gay teens.

Has a happy ending; doesn't show any bullying; and shows parents trying to come to terms with their kids' sex
Mar 29, 2015 Merin rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: ya
I was really disappointed. I knew that this book had bi teens and qpoc- whoo! I've also read several of Alex Sanchez's other books and loved/enjoyed them so I was all set for a good, angsty read through an 'issue book'. This one was very hard to get through. I stopped reading twice in the first chapter because of big issues in character descriptions and centring of whiteness. Overall, the book had too much going on to handle it all in a good way. Like I don't know how to talk about this without ...more
Heidi Gonzalez
First let me say I love Alex Sanchez. I haven't read of book of his that I didn't like and this was no exception. I breezed through this in a few hours. I loved it based on its story, not the writing. He has written better books but this is a topic that really isn't discussed.

Sanchez really seems to grasp the angsty teenage craziness as well as the confusion that sometimes comes while trying to define sexuality. He does this in a way that is respectful to whatever label you choose to identify w
Agent Smith
This was my first time reading an Alex Sanchez novel about teenagers exploring their sexuality. The book resolves around Lance, Allie, Sergio, and Kimiko-four friends who attempt to navigate the ups and downs of being either bisexual, gay, or straight in relationships and what it means to be comfortable and confident with who you are and the choices you make. There was nothing special or extraordinary about the novel, but it was a decent book.
I was excited to read this because I normally enjoy Alex Sanchez books quite a bit. But this one....was it even written by the same Alex Sanchez I have read before? The writing was horrible!

The characters were so passive about everything, it was a wonder that anyone got (back) together at all! The only bit of the book that I liked was the confrontation between Kimiko and her mom. It has the suspense that every other part of the book lacked, and we were not given every single internal thought th
A book that you can actually get through, however, it was missing many things.

I probably won't end up re-reading this book, but it was good enough to get passed it.

I would recommend it to people interested in LGBT books and want something small to increase their book reads --- but is it worth the read? Not really...
C Steiner
I would place any success from Boyfriends with Girlfriends on the fact that it is one of the few books that features bisexual characters. This inclusion was the only reason I picked it up and kept going throughout it. While it is nice that there is some breakaway from the two LGBTQ book models of "sassy gay friend and straight girl sidekick" and "questioning lesbians come out of the closet," the book felt very flat to me. The conversations seemed unrealistic and forced, and none of the character ...more
Super queer and super cute.
I didn't like the constant jumping between characters in this one. I think it would be a good book for a younger person that is coming out or questioning their sexuality though.
2.5 Less a romance novel and more a friends angst with friends in minute detail over every aspect of each's burgeoning relationships. Interesting in that both friend pairs are boy/girl—a gay boy and a straight girl who finds herself becoming bi-curious, and a bi-boy and a gay girl. Told almost entirely in dialogue, with very brief lines of narrative. Reminded me of 1970s YA, written mostly in dialogue. But then again, exactly the opposite; in those books, dialogue was oblique, making the reader ...more
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Alex Sanchez is the author of the Rainbow Boys trilogy of teen novels, along with The God Box, Getting It, and the Lambda Award-winning middle-grade novel So Hard to Say. His novel, Bait, won the 2009 Florida Book Award Gold Medal for YA fiction. Alex received his master’s degree in guidance and counseling from Old Dominion University and for many years worked as a youth and family counselor. His ...more
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