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Boyfriends with Girlfriends

3.59  ·  Rating Details ·  2,680 Ratings  ·  262 Reviews
Lance has always known he was gay, but he's never had a real boyfriend. Sergio is bisexual, but his only real relationship was with a girl. When the two of them meet, they have an instant connection--but will it be enough to overcome their differences?

Allie's been in a relationship with a guy for the last two years--but when she meets Kimiko, she can't get her out of her
Hardcover, 217 pages
Published April 19th 2011 by Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers
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Morgan F
Honestly, I did not completely finish Boyfriends with Girlfriends. I read the first 80 pages, then decided I did not want to spend any more time on it. I skimmed, and it doesn't appear I would have benefitted much from finishing it.

I've never read a book by Alex Sanchez, even though I have heard of Rainbow Boys and all the hype that surrounds it. When I got a free copy of this from Simon & Schuster's Galleygrab, I thought I would test the waters before borrowing his other books from the lib
Kat (Lost in Neverland)




Sort of.

Lance is gay. Allie is straight, but questioning. Sergio is bisexual, and Kimiko is a self-proclaimed butch lesbian.

Lance likes Sergio, but doesn't believe in bisexuality ("But you're attracted to guys, right? Doesn't that make you gay? Why not just come out? Stop hiding!"). Sergio likes Lance, but doesn't like how his ident
Mar 25, 2016 Sam rated it did not like it
initial thoughts:
-a gay guy who refuses to believe bi people exist (lol im sorry but what...)
-"SUPER!!" "SUP DUDE" "COOL" "YEE-HAH" 102828282x per chapter
-bad characters & bad plot
-i cant even talk about what i didnt like vaguely because ill go into rant mode and just spew about everything i didnt like about this book lol
Dec 23, 2013 Dahlia rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: quiltbag-ya
This book sort of read like a screenplay for "How to be LGBTQ" as I imagine PBS would've put on in the 80s. On the one hand, I love that it's really all-encompassing, with L,G,B, and Q characters and a discussion of T. On the other hand, I felt like this book deserved better writing, better follow-through on the storylines...better everything. I wanted this to be a better book so, so badly.

While I found the storyline between Sergio and Lance merely frustrating - when one of you is ragingly biph
Vitor Martins
Esse é um livro cheio de boas intenções, que se propõe a falar se temas muito importantes mas que em alguns aspectos falhou bastante.

O tema principal aqui é sexualidade. Temos personagens gays, héteros, bissexuais e ~curiosos~ e a maneira como o autor foi honesto ao falar sobre sexo me agradou bastante. Os 4 protagonistas são adolescentes e os 4 ou já fizeram ou tem interesse em fazer sexo. Gostei muito disso porque os jovens santinhos em YA não me convencem muito.

O maior problema que encontre
May 25, 2011 Alienne rated it it was ok
Shelves: lgbt-fiction
Happy as I am to see a book concerning teen bisexuality on the shelves, I can't bring myself to give BWG a higher rating.

I've read many of Alex Sanchez's books before and was therefore surprised at how uncharacteristically bad the writing was. The point of view jumped between the four main characters constantly, sometimes twice in the space of one paragraph. The characters also seemed kind of flat, to be honest; they never really felt three-dimensional to me and I never quite related to any of t
Jul 28, 2011 Sarah rated it it was amazing
Even though we are in the middle of Queer YA explosion, bisexual teens are rarely the stars of the show. This book, about the complex relationships of love and friendship between four teens (one gay, one lesbian, one bisexual, and one straight) is a great read. It brings creativity as the straight girl wonders if she is bi and the bi guy tries to beat the insecurity of his gay boyfriend. It captures the pace of high school life dead on and manages to nail the romance between the two pairs of cou ...more
Sep 29, 2014 Sam rated it did not like it
This book is, frankly...

It's embarrassing that this is what we have to represent the lgbtqia+ community and its shameful that this is what we have to offer teens who want bi or qpoc representation in a genre overly full of gay cis white dudes.

First of all, I want to point out that whoever let this book get published obviously forgot what good writing is, blinded by their excitement for some material. The writing is dull, and, frankly, boring. Aside from that, the slang used is written so obviou
Thorn MotherIssues
Jul 19, 2011 Thorn MotherIssues rated it it was ok
I really wanted to like a book that's about bi identity issues in teens and I'm glad that this one is out there, but I'd still recommend Sara Ryan's books if someone wanted a good story that covered some of the same ground. This was just too talky, too preachy, and while it's good that not all the characters were white, the white characters never had to consider their privilege and the Japanese-American girl Kimiko even found the creepy culture-based fascination the white girl Allie had with her ...more
Jan 26, 2011 Britta rated it liked it
I don't really know what to think about this book. On one hand, it deals with very real, difficult teenage issues. But on the other, nothing really happens other than discussions of sexuality. But I guess that is was some teenagers need to want, what they need to read. With that said, it was a really quick read and I was entertained.

Boyfriends with Girlfriends follows four main characters. Lance, openly gay; his best friend Allie, bi-curious; Lance, bisexual; and his best friend Kimiko, lesbian
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Alex Sanchez is the author. Suburbia is the place. Lance, Allie, Sergio and Kimiko are the teens. Gay Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender is the genre. Mad Scientist is the reader.

This small group are maneuvering through high school while trying to figure out their sexual identities. The story starts to move along with best friend duos. Lance is on the swim team and very proud of being gay. Yes, he is way out of the closet. His best friend,
Jun 19, 2011 Rory rated it it was amazing
I am not a huge fan of Alex Sanchez--I have read almost all his other books and usually find his characters to be either very sterotypical or moved more by the lesson he wants to teach than actual moments of personality. But when I heard that this book was about bisexuals and something not normally coverd in YA I decided to give it a shot.

I'm glad I did.

For me this was the best book of his I have ever read. I honestly cared about Allie, Lance, Sergio and Kimiko as characters each in their own wa
For the most part, Boyfriends with Girlfriends was a pretty decent read. There was just one major thing that severely lessened my enjoyment of the book and I am going to address that first.

Lance really bothered me. Initially, he is very biphobic and I hated him for it.

"My main worry is the bi thing....I guess that means he's still coming out" (3).

"I don't believe there really is such a thing as being bi...I just think that you're born gay or straight. One or the other" (64).

Thankfully, Sergio c
Mar 29, 2015 Merin rated it it was ok
Shelves: ya
I was really disappointed. I knew that this book had bi teens and qpoc- whoo! I've also read several of Alex Sanchez's other books and loved/enjoyed them so I was all set for a good, angsty read through an 'issue book'. This one was very hard to get through. I stopped reading twice in the first chapter because of big issues in character descriptions and centring of whiteness. Overall, the book had too much going on to handle it all in a good way. Like I don't know how to talk about this without ...more
Jan 18, 2015 Lala rated it did not like it
Lance has always known he was gay, but he's never had a real boyfriend. Sergio is bisexual, but his only real relationship was with a girl. When the two of them meet, they have an instant connection--but will it be enough to overcome their differences?

Allie's been in a relationship with a guy for the last two years--but when she meets Kimiko, she can't get her out of her mind. Does this mean she's gay? Does it mean she's bi? Kimiko, falling hard for Allie, and finding it impossible to believe t
You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it
~Atticus Finch, To Kill Mockingbird~

While reading this book, I kept spelling the quote above. I am not a phobia nevertheless the idea in this book are new for me. Surprisingly, various emotions were up to the surface when I read this book.

It was nice that every character, Allie, Lance, Kimiko and Sergio, got their own chapters. So I could read all their point
Mar 09, 2015 Kat rated it it was ok
my second time reading this book, it was less than satisfactory. i can't really adequately describe my disappointment, but i can try.

It kind of hits you over the head with its message: BISEXUALITY IS REAL AND NOT EVERYBODY CAN NEATLY FIT INTO LABELS. Which in and of itself is adequate. i can tell that this book tried really hard to be a comprehensive work of fiction about bisexuality, but i just wasn't feeling it. first of all, it was written poorly. The characters were pretty two dimensional. i
I’m sorry. I tried. I really, really did.

Great topic. Poorly executed.

Problem was this felt more like a textbook example used to educate students in a GSSA more than an actual story. I never got a real grasp on the setting or emotions behind the things being said and done. There wasn’t much to immerse into and it just gave the message a lectured aftertaste.

And I hated the main character (er, well one of the four - there is a lot of head hopping). To put it simply; he was offensive. The only conf
John Amory
Jul 31, 2012 John Amory rated it did not like it
Shelves: lgbtq-ya-lit
I wrote a paper for a grad class last summer on this book and Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher. My thesis was basically that LGBTQ young adult literature is expanding, but the focus is primarily on gay, lesbian, and/or questioning young adults. The B and T are largely ignored, and when they aren't ignored... well, the results aren't typically very good. This book was my example of how poorly bisexuality is portrayed in YA lit, because it is a problem. That's how it's presented throughout Sanchez' ...more
May 19, 2011 skyline rated it it was ok
Shelves: m-m, ya
The book started great. The characters were interesting and the story was interesting. But then I don't know what happened. The characters started to annoy me. Really annoy me. And made me nervous but not in a good way. I mean... the second half of the book is like "I should call him. I shouldn't call him. What do I do? Maybe I should call him. I don't know. Do you think I should call him? What if he thinks I should be the one calling and then I don't call him? No, I'll wait that he calls. But w ...more
I need to stop reading things just because they're queer. Surely there are better novels with actual bisexual representation than this. That said, I also need to stop reading straight people's reviews of queer novels because if I read one more top review that says a book is "hypocritical" because "the characters are focusing too much on gender" RIGHT AFTER THE REVIEWER DECLARES THAT THEY ARE STRAIGHT I'm gonna implode.

That said, my biggest issue with this book, beside it clearly being a very hea
C Steiner
Jul 19, 2014 C Steiner rated it did not like it
I would place any success from Boyfriends with Girlfriends on the fact that it is one of the few books that features bisexual characters. This inclusion was the only reason I picked it up and kept going throughout it. While it is nice that there is some breakaway from the two LGBTQ book models of "sassy gay friend and straight girl sidekick" and "questioning lesbians come out of the closet," the book felt very flat to me. The conversations seemed unrealistic and forced, and none of the character ...more
Jan 06, 2016 Sascha rated it did not like it
Shelves: couldn-t-finish
the writing was unbearable from the first page. i had to put it down after about twenty pages due to the blatant fetishization of other races. example: when the main (white) girl finds out that the girl she's going to meet is japanese, she gets excited because she "loves everything japanese". it makes it feel like the girl is just another japanese accessory she wants to try out instead of a living, breathing person! not that any of these characters felt like people. they were all so stereotypica ...more
Jan 11, 2015 Joshua rated it really liked it
A culturally diverse book about the LGBT community that doesn't exclude bisexual individuals. I think that this is a really important book because there is a lot of animosity and bi-erasure that comes with being bisexual. Even In in the LGBT community, they are still considered "confused" or "greedy", especially in media and pop culture.
It wasn't especially heartwrenching or profound, but I don't think that was the authors intention. It's a very cute, light, contemporary read. It's hard to find
Sylwia (Wish Fulfillment)
I would have given this book a higher rating if it didn’t read so young. Aside from the young writing style/genre and the fact that it seemed a little too stereotypical and offensive at times (mostly with race, gender, and slut-stereotyping), this book was a delight to read because of its bi-positivity. Bisexual characters are seldom written and so I almost want to give this book a 5/5 rating for having at least one completely out bisexual character. The bisexual storyline was accurate in that i ...more
Menglong Youk
First, Let me say that this is the fifth book of Alex Sanchez's I've read so far. In each book, my rate isn't below 4 stars. His first and only Trilogy, Rainbow Boys, is in the sixth place of my all time favorite series. I love the way he made and described his characters; not boring, not complicated, but interesting, absorbing and wanting to get some more of the story. This book is basically about a complicated friendship of a lesbain and a straight girl who later discovered that she's bi, and ...more
Dec 03, 2010 Christianne rated it liked it
Shelves: young-adult
Very dialogue driven, but the dialogue seems authentic. Not much in the way of exposition or descriptive writing.

Could draw reluctant readers who are LGBTQ, but I wish it would draw all teen readers who would see multifaceted gay and bi teens as they struggle with identity and relationships.

Also seems like Sanchez specifically wanted to address prejudice against bisexuals among gay teens.

Has a happy ending; doesn't show any bullying; and shows parents trying to come to terms with their kids' sex
Agent Smith
Apr 03, 2011 Agent Smith rated it liked it
Shelves: j-ya-fiction, lgbtq
This was my first time reading an Alex Sanchez novel about teenagers exploring their sexuality. The book resolves around Lance, Allie, Sergio, and Kimiko-four friends who attempt to navigate the ups and downs of being either bisexual, gay, or straight in relationships and what it means to be comfortable and confident with who you are and the choices you make. There was nothing special or extraordinary about the novel, but it was a decent book.
Dec 31, 2015 Nora rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2016
I was super excited to read this book, I think I was expecting something completely different. I thought the characters weren't very realistic and the plot lines were confusing and childish. Thought the characters were very unbelievable and acted like children, but high schoolers. The book had its moments, but very few and short lived. The idea of the book was good, but when it comes to content it didn't show.
Jan 15, 2013 Barb added it
Couldn't finish it. Sanchez was once the only pop author of teen LGBT lit I could find, These days I expect more complex characters and better writing.
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Alex Sanchez is the author of the Rainbow Boys trilogy of teen novels, along with The God Box, Getting It, and the Lambda Award-winning middle-grade novel So Hard to Say. His novel, Bait, won the 2009 Florida Book Award Gold Medal for YA fiction. Alex received his master’s degree in guidance and counseling from Old Dominion University and for many years worked as a youth and family counselor. His ...more
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