So Long, Insecurity: You've Been A Bad Friend To Us
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So Long, Insecurity: You've Been A Bad Friend To Us

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Perhaps one of the biggest issues all women face is their own insecurity. Beth Moore, one of today’s most admired and trusted Christian writers, wants women to be free from the insecurity trap. So Long, Insecurity will strike a chord with women everywhere, as Beth speaks truth into the lives of readers, showing them how to deal with their...more
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Published (first published February 2nd 2010)
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Kelly
There was some good stuff in there. Overall I had the same complaint about Beth Moore as I had before. I cannot relate to her. She is almost insufferably girly. In fact I identified far more closely with one of her male correspondents who answered a question about his own insecurities than I did with any of the women she described. I don't think Beth Moore is shallow at all, but she sort of comes across that way, because the world that she inhabits is such an utterly feminine one. I suppose that...more
Carla
I was a little apprehensive about going through this book. Up until now I have tended to write off the, in my view, over-sensationalized "Beth Moore" women's studies and have consequently avoided them. However, I was proved quite wrong in my private little stereotype, and the shallow book I expected turned out to bring me to depths in both my spiritual journey and my emotional and mental well-being that no book ever has. Ever.

This book is easy to read, but has clearly been used by the Holy Spir...more
Beth
The title leave you nothing to wonder about....it's about insecurity. And if every woman was honest with herself, we would recognize that oftentimes we fail to embrace our God given security, strength and dignity like we should. I think this book is an outstanding tool, even if you don't feel like you have cronic insecurity. It's eye opening to how, we as women, tend to walk into a room and immediately compare ourselves to our surroundings and chalk points into the "do I measure up" column. I pa...more
Deana
Beth Moore has the heart of a servant and this book proves her passion, knowledge, and wisdom in Christ. She has done her best in helping women believe in their God-given beauty, talent, and anointing from Christ. With tact, Moore convicts with the Holy Spirit's guidance and touches the brokenness with the compassion from the Father. Women in today's age need a reality check, and Moore helps unravel the lies and temptations the world burdens us with. I recommended this book to every friend I hav...more
Kim
I tend to dislike womanish books. Not this one. Beth is humorous and her illustrations hit home. Insecurity has done damage to my energy and intimacy in relationships. What I learned from this book has helped me relax and enjoy myself.

What I learned---

What is insecurity
-self-doubt and uncertainty about my place in the world, -self-consciousness, anxiety, lack of confidence, fear of rejection, unsure of whether my feelings are legitimate.
-self-preoccupation—more aware of self than anyone else in...more
Ellie Sorota
While Beth Moore's Bible studies have been immensely eye-opening to me, her book So Long, Insecurity was a waste of time. The book begins promisingly enough, but then spends too many pages explaining that, yes, this is a book about insecurity, and yes, some people are insecure, and yes, insecure people might benefit from reading about insecurity. She forgot, apparently, that she'd already said that with the title. This often happens in self-help books - pages and pages spent justifying its publi...more
Jill Williamson
Review by Jill Williamson

I love Beth Moore. I've never met her, but I've done several of her Bible studies and had the privilege of attending one of her conferences. The woman inspires me. Why? Because she's real. She's suffered through life, just like the rest of us, and she refuses to let that define her. Praise Jesus for that! That, and her passion for studying the Word of God, draws me, and thousands of other women, to her like sheep to a shepherd. She is a disciple of Jesus. She teaches Hi...more
Caiti
Insecurity is a monster.
This book exposes it for what it is and passionately bids us to rid ourselves of it.
Beth Moore breaks insecurity down, getting to the reasons behind why we think and feel those negative things about ourselves. Then, with the truth of Scripture, she obliterates every single one, teaching us how to be free, secure, confident people.

It's life changing stuff.
Mechelle
A friend recommended this book to me as a must read. It's not. I first tried to read the eBook version of the book. I couldn't get past the first chapter. I felt like she talked too much--yes, talked too much in a book. I then tried to listen to the audio version. It wasn't any better. It only confirmed that, yes, she does talk too much. The eBook read like I was having a telephone conversation with a friend who I wanted to yell at and say, "Get to the point." The audio version confirmed it. She...more
Jennifer
Beth Moore is one of my all time favorite speakers, bible study writers, and book writers. She has big texas hair, makeup and jewelry, and she knows it & isn't afraid to poke fun at herself.

This book was a slower read than the others, as it was a lot of food for thought. I think it's a great book for moms of girls to read, as some of her advice about the world we're raising our daighters in is RIGHT ON THE MONEY.

Proverbs 31:25 is the premise of the book. She is clothed with strength and dign...more
Kristi
This book should be standard issue to every woman on earth. Probably every man, as well. Whether insecurity dogs your steps constantly or whether it only rears its ugly head on occasion, we all hate that ugly feeling. Moore delves deep into finding the root of the problem of insecurity and helps us examine why we find ourselves falling into this trap. Like a wise and loving big sister, she doesn't pull any punches but with authenticity and transparency about her own struggles, Beth offers practi...more
Melissa
I bought this book because of two reasons: First, I love Beth Moore--she has great insight, is a fantastic Bible teacher and can be those things and still embrace a spray tan. Secondly, I wanted to dig into something deeper--but not as deep (with as much homework) as a typical Beth Moore study. I did not buy this book because I thought that I was fraught with crazy insecurities.

HOWEVER, let me just say that I have learned a lot about myself, and others, from So Long Insecurity. Granted, there a...more
Margaret Metz
My best friend suggested I read this book (she had just started reading it herself) and it was one of the best pieces of advice I have ever been given.

This made me laugh, challenged and inspired me. I could relate with so many things written between the covers. It's so universal that even if you don't think you have a "problem" with insecurity - I'm betting that you would be blessed by it.

I deliberately took my time reading this book so that the information could sink in and hopefully change so...more
Dara
I am really sad to give this book a one star because I was really excited about reading it.

Every woman has some sort of insecurities, but for me, I never got any WOW moments out of this book. I was hoping for a light bulb in my head to go off and scream out to me THAT'S YOU AND HERE'S HOW YOU DEAL WITH IT.

Oh well...better luck next time on the next book.
Heather
I've been having a hard time reading this one. Her analogies often get me side-tracked... I wish I could just hear her voice sharing the info instead of reading it. "Get Out of That Pit" was available to me on audio and that was SO MUCH easier to digest.
I wonder if I'll ever finish this one, even though it has great thoughts.
Laura Choyce
I read this book for my women's group at church. Secure enough to admit that I dealt with insecurity, I was very interested in the book. I think Beth is very creative and really does provide a thoughtful analysis and looks at the insecurity from a variety of angles. This was my first book from Beth Moore that I read...was not real keen on to the "you go, sister!" references...but once you get past that there are some great nuggets in here.

While it's Bible-based, I think people who are not Chris...more
Elizabeth
Everyone on planet earth feels insecurity. It's just that Beth is actually honest enough to admit it. An intriguing read on the root causes and how to move away from being victimized by insecurity. One of the better books I've read this year.
Bailey Wenger
I loved this book! It deals with insecurities that every woman struggles with--and it gives ways that we can battle those insecurities through scripture, prayer, an a lot of laughter from Beth Moore. I love her funny, real-struggle stories. :)
Judy
As always, I loved Beth's refreshingly candid approach to a problem that is so destructive, especially to women. Truly a subject we need to discuss with our daughters.
Catrina Welch
amazing book. Beth's insights of a woman's heart bring great healing and liberation through the Word of God.
Laura
This book is a lot more than I expected. It's more like a Socratic dialogue, or a loosely scripted conversation, or a chat with a close friend over a steaming mug of coffee than an ordinary piece of non-fiction. Beth is incurably dialectic, which is one of the many, many reasons I love her and her work so much. She draws you in. You can't help but participate and interact. Whether she's doing a video Bible study, a live conference, or a book, she's gonna talk to you like she'd talk to anyone--li...more
Beth Peninger
Moore tackles a topic that all women I know suffer from but usually won't admit. That's what the 5 stars are for. It's a great book because of how she approaches the topic not necessarily for her writing. Moore has southern wit and charm but it got a little too thick in this book for my liking. But because of how deftly she handled the subject matter I was able to read through the laying on of thick wit and charm and appreciate the conversation she facilitated about insecurity. I read this book...more
Kathy
I can't say that this book lived up to my expectations, which are typically high for anything written by Beth Moore. If I had endured similar life experiences as Beth, I may have better related to the book (thank the Lord that is not the case). Although it did expose a few traits that I hadn't identified as insecurities before--who knew perfectionism is a type of insecurity?--it didn't really address some other topics as well as I expected.
While the basic message is biblical and the practical an...more
Adriane Devries
Beth Moore has discovered what many of us already intuitively knew: that our insidious insecurities are inner time bombs that destroy ourselves and our cherished relationships. She unfolds the devious plot of the enemy of our souls to make us afraid and doubtful of others’ motives to the point of isolating us from meaningful loving friendships, marriages, etc. Insecurity causes women to hate each other instead of befriend each other; causes us to treat people as objects to either conquer or comp...more
Amy
Beloved women’s speaker and author Beth Moore’s latest book, So Long, Insecurity (Tyndale), is her most personal book to date. Moore, who has helped countless ladies break free, get out of pits, and dive deep into Scripture with studies on Jesus, Paul, David, and Esther, is now combating a stronghold in the lives of many women—insecurity.

Moore describes So Long, Insecurity as “one woman’s quest for a real, lasting, soul-changing security” in God, instead of finding that security in self or other...more
Kim Justice
Oct 27, 2012 Kim Justice rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Recommended to Kim by: the author
Shelves: reviewed
My Review:
Starting out I will say that author Beth Moore is at the very top! I have enjoyed many of her Bible study's over the past five to six years. Her writing and studies have been so inspiring for me.

This book came to me on the hills of a time when I was insecure the most. Growing up there were times in my childhood that I was insecure about. But I knew that God was on my side. Then came marriage, kids, trying to work, enjoying working in the church, but also in a completely different pl...more
Nora St Laurent
Beth Moore says our journey to authentic security can only be found in a relationship with Jesus as walk in who He says we are; not what we or others tell us we are. Beth Moore writes like she talks. Because of that it was fun to read this book on such a touchy subject. I didn’t realize the many faces of insecurity until she pointed them out. It’s staggering.

I enjoyed Beth Moore’s honest approach as she says, “Do you ever stop in your tracks and ask yourself out loud, “What am I doing?” Boy, I d...more
Carolyn
This was a pretty decent read. Nothing earth-shattering here, but some good reminders about our identity in Christ and how we as women are to relate to other women. I like one thing she pointed out as a suggestion that I had not considered before.

She suggested that women who have extremely beautiful body types might not want to flaunt what they've got ALL the time. Wearing figure-flattering clothes is one thing, but constantly strutting your stuff in front of women less fortunate by comparison...more
Tracy
Ummm. Okay. I'm not going to be a Beth Moore Basher because I think for a lot of women she has really been helpful and I think she really does love the Lord. But...sometimes she gets a little carried away and in her enthusiasm can cutesy up the Bible or be so determined to make a humorous point that she ends up missing her mark just a bit. My real complaint about this book is the one I have had of all her books so far (and the only reason I've read this and those is because they were chosen for...more
Jennifer Short
I've read books by Beth Moore before. While most women seem to love what she has written, I've never been a huge fan. I've not one to really struggle with insecurity, so I'm not sure I'm the best one to write a review. However, I realized why insecurity probably isn't a big issue to me. In the book, she talks about how once we depersonalize someone, we no longer see them as human, and they are larger than life in our minds. I stopped to think about that. If you were to look at my list of friends...more
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FROM THE AUTHOR'S WEB PAGE: Beth founded Living Proof Ministries in 1994 with the purpose of teaching women how to love and live on God’s Word. She has written numerous books and Bible studies, including Breaking Free, Believing God, and When Godly People Do Ungodly Things, that have been read by women of all ag...more
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“We're going to have to let truth scream louder to our souls than the lies that have infected us.” 272 likes
“As long as we live, our self-absorption and our insecurity will walk together, holding hands and swinging them back and forth like two little girls on their way to a pretend playground they can never find. Human nature dictates that most often we will be as insecure as we are self-absorbed. The best possible way to keep from getting sucked into the superficial narcissistic mentality that money, possessions, and sensuality can satisfy and secure us is to deliberately give ourselves to something much greater...[Christ] showed us that giving, rather than getting, is the means to receiving...to find yourself, your true self, you must lose yourself in something larger.” 32 likes
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