Kids are worth it : giving your child the gift of inner discipline
Barbara Coloroso's powerful message is that good parenting begins with treating kids with respect. It means giving them a sense of power in their own lives, and offering them opportunities to make decisions, take responsibility for their actions, and learn from their own successes and mistakes. Rejecting the "quick fix" solutions of punishment and reward, she uses everyday...more
It was unpleasant to see what a jellyfish I've been, but while I was reading the book, I really felt myself developing backbone. The author gives specific ways yo...more
1) I read an old edition.
2) I read this for school, so I was more interested in the basic philosophy (and how it might transfer to a classroom) than the parenting specifics, and thus...
3) ... I only read about half the book.
You can probably guess the tenor of the book from the number of quotes from spiritual sources and leaders (including about a dozen versions of the Golden Rule) --- Coloroso's emphasis is on the dignity of the parent and child. The focus is on encouragement and h...more
I thought it was a great read. It made me feel really good about my parenting philosophy and the relationships I have with the kids. I am happy to say I am 90% "Backbone" parent. It also really defined my childhood (jellyfish).
I also related to one of the negative family types (brickwall), which explained the harm you can do...more
But for a book on positive parenting, its tone is quite judgmental. The author classifies parenting styles into 3 types - two are horrid and the third is ideal. The problem with this approach, as I see it, is that not many people are going to want to identify with the exaggeratedly awful par...more
It's for kids of all ages and addresses self-esteem and inner discipline. I think in today's world so many kids struggle to feel good about themselves. The book incorporates some Love and Logic and other styles of parenting you may have read about. What I really like about it is that it's easy to read and is something you can easily work into your child's life. It helps children become resilient and resourceful and teaches you as parents how to empower your child...more
Also, no more rewards! Threw out the sticker charts! Teaching them that they do things beca...more
Some tips from this book:
When you have to criticize, criticize the problem, not the kid. An effective way to do this is to say, "That's not right" rather than "that's wrong." "That...more
I rarely finish non-fiction works; I tend more often to scan them for the information I'm after...or get bored and set them aside. But I devoured every page of this book, and can confidently say it's the best parenting book I've read. It has helped us to set aside some of our differences with regard to discipline and find a healthier middle-ground.
She uses an anagram for her approach to creating consequences that I...more
A rational, logical, thoughtful approach to discipline. This book just made so much SENSE! Combines a loving child-rearing philosophy with real-life practical examples of how to handle various situations with your children so that they grow up with a strong c...more
If you want to raise freethinkers there is no need to teach them obsolete customs like religious ones. The book gives a lot of examples and is easy to read and understand about parenting with discipline and without punishments...more