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What Was I Thinking?: 58 Bad Boyfriend Stories

3.11  ·  Rating Details  ·  240 Ratings  ·  61 Reviews
The stories you are about to read are true. Often hilarious and always relatable, they all describe the moment when good sense and simple self-respect triumph over the human need to be loved—or, at least, the need to be with a particular man. The relationship may not last beyond lunch, or it may linger for weeks, months, or even years. But inside, you know: it's over.

ebook, 224 pages
Published February 3rd 2009 by St. Martin's Press
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What Was I Thinking? 58 Bad Boyfriend Stories was laugh-out-loud funny and yet deeply sad. I kept being struck by the fact that there's all these women in the world who ignore "red flags" and "warning signs" about loser men. Still, it was a hoot to read of just how blind love can be. I found quotable notions in "Norm Crosby Syndrome," "Swedish Meatball," "Oh, How We Love Bad Boys," "Bah Humbug," "Dark Bill," "...And The Matt Came Back," and "Starter Marriage," as well as hearty chuckles in many ...more
I left my normal YA reading and picked up this book because I thought it would make me laugh, mostly it just made me sad though.

I felt sorry for all the woman who had dated and been treated badly by jerks, but even more, I felt badly that so many women out there dumped guys for such minor offenses. It's as though they all believed that love is something that just happens to you when you find the right person, and not something that two people work on.

Mostly it just made me think about the fact t
Feb 15, 2013 Melanie rated it really liked it
I don't really do any research on the books I read before I read them. So I had the title and cover to go on for this one, and I was quite surprised. I sort of expected a trashy book dishing on relationships and dating horror stories. What I found was much more human. I quite liked the stories of various women having that moment when they realized that their boyfriend was not the person for them. An experience that spans across different personality types and wants. It was nice to see it as some ...more
Michelle Morrell
I was hoping for something silly and funny, but only a couple of the 58 stories fit. The rest were bitter and sad, and left me thinking some of those ladies could have avoided everything with a bit more pride and self-worth. I don't think people deserve to be treated like crap, but I do think there was a lot of "you reap what you sow."
Oct 30, 2015 Sandra rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: sac-library
Thoroughly enjoyed this book. Found it while wandering random aisles at the library. Not so much about loser boyfriends as it is about the women and the things they learned about themselves. Read it in less than 2 days. I may have to buy it, so I can read it again.
Alissa Wolf
Oct 20, 2015 Alissa Wolf rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found this book hilarious! It's not your typical "men are jerks" whine fest. Instead, the essays are written from a perspective of taking responsibility for one's foolish choices, with wit, insight and humor. Only one essay is sad, as it was written by a woman with a broken heart. But most of them are very funny. That's not surprising, as many of them were written by women who are either comedians, or comedy writers.

I especially enjoyed the essay written by the author who dated a male porn sto
Margaret Nordahl
Appreciated knowing I'm not the only one! Great book for post break-up. Solidifies one's resolve!
May 07, 2009 Lori rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chick-lit
And now something from the "and you think you've had it bad" category...

58 women share anecdotes about truly awful men. We've all done it. This book is somewhat reminiscent of those long nights back in college where you and your girls sat around someone's dorm room, drank way too much contraband liquor and swapped humiliation and hell stories. In other words, this book should have been a lot of fun (as viewed from the relatively safe distance of a 40 something woman married to a decidedly sane,
Sep 26, 2014 C.j. rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Got this book to put in some Breakup Care Packages. Only a handful of the stories made me chuckle, while most made me question if I wanted to ask my friends to go through this. The stories are from 50 year old women who relive the promiscuous, pot smoking days. The one that I remember the most is the woman who dated a porn star.
This is an assortment of first-person essays which tell of that moment in a relationship when you realize that it’s not going to work, no matter how much you want it or need it to, or how much it seems like it should. One example is Lynn Snowden Picket's tale of an ex who orders a “creche” of wine instead of a carafe of wine, because “Hey, Baby. I'm a writer. I play with words.” Or maybe it was that time when your ex bared his bottom and asked you to... you'll have to read the book to find out a ...more
Emily Vaught
Jun 02, 2016 Emily Vaught rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found this book relieving. These stories are relatable to anyone who has been in the dating game and also a bit reassuring that there is always someone out there that has a worse dating story than you do.
Jun 26, 2014 Molly rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction, essays, 2014
A few serious essays, but mostly amusing ones. I probably wouldn't have picked this up, but the first essay was by Carrie Fisher, so I was immediately drawn in. A pretty consistently good anthology.
not a terrific collection of antidotes. far too many are ho hum and several make you glad the guys got away!
Aug 12, 2014 Sharah rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not as funny as I had expected, but it certainly made me feel better about my own life.
Mar 08, 2012 VegasGal rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2012
I was expecting this book to have more stories about really bad boyfriends, especially since the cover looks like the woman on it is truly horrified. Yes, some of the stories were horrible, thankfully the poor woman got out of THAT relationship! But other stories where the woman had her moment of clarity where she truly knew her relationship was over, appeared to be quite shallow and vapid. This book could have really been a good read and a shocker had the editors taken the time to find those wo ...more
Some really great stories that didn't make you feel so alone. Some really sad stories that made you realize you are smarter than you thought. Some really funny stories that you will be able to tell your friends about when they need a boys stink kind of day.
Interesting concept and overall a decent read. Was a bit annoyed with the nook version though because there are a few comic strip stories and the e-reader doesn't see that as font so it wouldn't enlarge it and I could not read them without bu
Mandy Yeung
Jan 04, 2014 Mandy Yeung rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was so relatable, even at the onset from the introduction. It's reassuring, in a way, that our experiences as girls on a quest to find true love can be so universal. Details vary but the emotions ring true. Reading this book was like having spent an awesome girls' night with besties sharing their humorous tales of heartbreak and lessons learned.
Apr 11, 2009 Kate rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
A great anti-romance romp through other womens' mistakes. All I can say is thank goodness the losers depicted by this crowd of women were all in the past tense. I've met a few of these type of guys and I can only say how grateful I am that I never dated any toads more than once.

This would be a great book to give to young women on the dating scene as a primer on what you really--no, really--don't have to put up with. Wish my friends and I had had a copy floating around during our nubile years.
Everyone has that moment when you know it's just not meant to be. You may know it at the time, you may only see it with the benefit of hindsight, but we've all had that moment at least once. A variety of women share their stories of when they know the relationship was over.

Some are funny, some are heartbreaking, some are more than just a little pathetic, most are very entertaining. If you've ever swapped bad date stories (I recently swapped 'most awkward date' stories), give this collection a re
Jul 29, 2010 Kelly rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010
This was a quick read with some interesting stories, although not much of which I could relate to. Some of the authors annoyed me, breaking up with their boyfriends or husbands for some minor little "flaw" (and I do mean minor). But overall I enjoyed the book, and it was fun to read a story or two at a time. The stories are short, between 2 and 4 pages each, so it's a nice one to carry around with you to read from when you have small pockets of time to spare.
Lena Tumasyan
The book was funny and entertaining but the name is misleading. I would it would be about all the terrible boyfreind stories that women had. But instead it was mostly about the "AHa" moment when the guy says or does something that makes you realize you'll never be with him forever. So the book should be named "The day i knew it was over." Some of the writing was poetic, so i liked that. I also liked the diverse age range and background of the women in the stories.
This was a very uneven read for me. For every hilarious story, there were several that were either depressing or boring. Several of these story-tellers have amazing comedic timing. However, like boyfriends, when they are good, they are very good, but when they are bad, they are horrid. My favorite story was "The Matt Came Back". I appreciated the fact that the narrator so bravely exposed a major personality flaw in order to share her story.
Eva Rubin
Cute, predictable, and surprisingly few insights considering that most of the women have and/or need analysts. A quick read.
I thought this book would be full of funny stories about crazy ex-boyfriends, and some of the stories were really funny, but then some were just sad and/or depressing. Unfortunately with story collections like this you don't know what you're going to get since all the stories are by different people. Overall, it was pretty good, but not great. Although it definitely makes me glad to me happily married!
Kathy  D.
Jul 06, 2013 Kathy D. rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: adult, 2013
Ok, but uneven. I was looking more for relationship horror stories rather than essays on why women like bad boys and boring "he just wasn't right for me" stories. While there were several stories of tragically bad relationships, many stories were just a case of a bad fit between the writer and her man. Some stories were funny, some were pretentious, and some were overly long and boring.
Mar 24, 2009 Kara rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Kara by: Ann Kong
Shelves: non-fiction
As is usually the case with books composed of essays by multiple authors, some of the essays were better, funnier, etc than others. I really liked that most of the essays were no more than 2-3 pages; making it easier to read in shorter periods of time or even one at a time. Provides clarity for those women who have just broken up or may be second guessing their break up decisions.
Oct 12, 2011 Rada rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
This book was a lot more introspective than the title leads you to believe. I appreciated the honesty of the women involved. Sometimes while reading the stories, I would think; why did you not see this coming? other stories were more subtle. In the end it is always important to listen to your gut, because unlike some guys, it doesn't lie.
I only read this book during my lunch hour at work. It was entertaining enough for its purpose. Some of the stories were quirky, so I skipped over them. A lot of them were entertaining and just made me go, "Why did they date that jerk?" But this book isn't something I would have brought home to read cover to cover. It was just all right for me.
Jun 29, 2010 Kathy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very funny collection from women talking about failed relationships and the moment when they knew the relationships were going to end (even if they ended long after those moments). Some were sad, most were funny and my essay on the Six Month Mistake could have fit right in. Not really man-hating material, truth be told.
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