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The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says about Love, Sex and Intimacy

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The Bible is well-known for its wisdom on spiritual concerns and righteous living. But did you know it can also guide you in matters of dating, courtship, and marriage?

"Based on what God knows about us," says Tommy Nelson, "He has provided an instruction manual in the Song of Solomon with eight very enlightening, explicit, and highly practical chapters on the topics of lov
Hardcover, 192 pages
Published November 13th 1998 by Thomas Nelson
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Apr 26, 2011 Tami rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: dating, courting, engaged and married couples
I never knew the Song of Solomon was so explicit. I knew it spoke of a woman's body, but how good it was for a married couple to look to for great advice on sex in the marriage. Many Christians feel they can't do certain things once they are married and they loose all romance. God created sex and created it to be good for husband and wife to enjoy. I recommend this book for people who are dating, courting, engaged and married.
Aug 28, 2008 Amber rated it really liked it
If you've read the Song of Solomon, you were probably just as confused as me. Raisin cakes and a flock of goats? What in the world is he talking about? Tommy Nelson does a great job of bring this book to life. Not only does he explain what these ancient symbols mean, but he shows how the problems and joys of love in Song of Solomon really do transcend time.
Jonathan Beigle
Dec 30, 2013 Jonathan Beigle rated it liked it
Shelves: marriage-family
The book is Tommy Nelson's take on the Song of Solomon. I've been around Tommy Nelson's Book of Romance for a long time. I went to a Song of Solomon conference in college and then we did his video series in a young married Sunday School class at church. However, this is the first time I've read the book. I actually came away from the book a little discouraged, especially in the first half. The way I read the first half of the book (which is primarily focused on dating through engagement) was tha ...more
Lisa Godfrees
Apr 16, 2013 Lisa Godfrees rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian-other
Tommy Nelson pulls from God’s Word and his own experiences with marital counseling to share the truth about God’s ideals for dating, marriage, and intimacy. Drawn primarily from the Song of Songs (or Song of Solomon) and enhanced with other biblical passages, The Book of Romance looks at several practical questions for single and married people in the church today:

When should I start dating?
What’s the big deal about sex before marriage?
When/do you share those dark secrets from your past?
How do y
Jun 06, 2011 Christina rated it it was amazing
Tommy Nelson is one of my all time favorite teachers! I was first exposed to his expository style in college at Campus Crusade for Christ conferences. His study of Solomon is so good, I had already heard it twice while single and then newly married, I took my husband to hear him teach it again. This book is a great representation of his talks, which are probably available for purchase somewhere online. UPDATE: The Podcasts for this study are available for FREE under Denton Bible Church on itunes ...more
Jul 24, 2015 Liz rated it it was amazing
This is a must-read! I highly recommend this book for anyone who is in a relationship or planning to be in one! Pastor Tommy Nelson has provided life-changing advice based on the Song of Solomon.
Feb 01, 2009 Rachel rated it it was amazing
This is a special book to me for many reasons. I read this book while in college and for the first time I realized that the God that I loved created sex and it was a beautiful and wonderful thing- not a sin like I had thought or a "naughty" word. I used this book and accompanying study guides to teach a class with young women in my youth group while in college and it was a really awesome study. We all benefited from learning from Scripture and this study. It talks about what God says about sex a ...more
May 27, 2008 Kari rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: kate, peggy, tina, nicole, abby, holly, erin g, erin c, cheryl, lori, swifyjess,
Recommended to Kari by: III
I just started this book this afternoon.

I wish I had started it five years ago. Actually, even twelve years ago it could have had a huge impact on my life.

I highly recommend it to all of you. Yes, you. Male, female; young, old, single, married, dating, divorced, widowed...

If you asked me what are the key elements of our marriage, the list I'd have given is pretty close to this book's ideas. No coincidence that my husband read it shortly before we got engaged. I am so thankful he did. And now,
Jan 11, 2011 Jenn rated it it was amazing
This book/study has a special place in my heart since it was the first study that my husband and I completed together with a small group of couples when we were in college 12 years ago. I knew what Song of Soloman was about, but didn't really read it and understand it until this study helped open my eyes to true Godly romance. I appreciate how the Bible and Mr. Nelson make this study applicable to any stage of a relationship. We still make mention of this study and we've been married for 10 year ...more
May 11, 2011 Sam rated it really liked it
Shelves: own, nonfiction, marriage
I thought this was a very good book. It's almost a commentary on song of solomon. He goes all the way through the book (S.S.) and does a pretty good job of explaining it. Although, there ARE other interpretations and he didn't mention those. I also was surprised by his conflict resolution chapters that I didn't know were in the book of romance. Very interesting. Overall, a very good read. I would recommend to others and probably re-read or go back and check out my highlights.
Callie Conklin
Jun 04, 2014 Callie Conklin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition


This book was excellent! It's so deep and well written! I read it with a group of women for a women's Bible Study and it was great to get to read a book of the Bible that I have never read before and have a book that explains what I'm reading. I didn't agree with a few points Tommy Nelson has in here, but that can be so with any Bible Study that uses a study book along with the Bible. I highly recommend this book!
Chuck Engelhardt
Nov 29, 2009 Chuck Engelhardt rated it it was amazing
There are so few resources out there dealing with the Song of Solomon and Tommy Nelson provides one of the best here. Although it falls short of the connectiveness in Video Series, Tommy still brings a practical application and human interest aspect to the lessons it contains. Highly recommended - especially for those contemplating marriage.
Christopher Mathis
Jul 28, 2016 Christopher Mathis rated it it was amazing
Such a great document and further guide for everything associated with ever-changing periods concerning your significant other. Spritually enlightening and straightforward, a true book that every christian should pick up, regardless of what phase your relationship happens to be in.
Feb 14, 2009 Chary rated it liked it
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Jul 14, 2013 Karen rated it liked it
Shelves: religious, 2013
Good content in a kind of rambly package. I think It'd be worth perusing through again in a later season of my life. Not totally applicable to me right now, but good content. It's also nice there are accompanying podcasts
Jun 04, 2008 Elizabeth rated it it was amazing
This was incredible! Loved how he explains each and every part of dating, engagement, marriage. . . and keeping your marriage alive. Also bought the DVD series and have been watching them! GREAT
Jess Martin
Dec 28, 2015 Jess Martin rated it really liked it
Shelves: owned
Good book that really tells the truth about dating, courtship, and marriage using the awesome Song of Solomon from the Bible to draw out the truth about love.
Beth Todd
This book was quite interested and was recommended by me to many clients in counseling whether they were married or not.
Aug 02, 2016 John rated it really liked it
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Tommy Nelson's classic commentary on the Book of Solomon and what God's word reveals about true love.
Jan 12, 2013 Laura rated it it was amazing
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Adam & Kristin Veteto
extremely good for dating, engaged, and married couples!
David Sager
Mar 30, 2013 David Sager rated it really liked it
Study of the Song of Solomon. Good book!
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Tommy Nelson has served as the pastor of Denton Bible Church, located in Denton, Texas, since 1977. He is also a best-selling author (The Book of Romance, Better Love Now, A Life Well-Lived) and popular national marriage conference speaker. Nelson holds degrees in education and biblical studies and has been married to his wife Teresa for more than thirty years.
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