Created to Be His Help Meet
Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book is written to lead them back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now, I want you to know that it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a miracl...more
Personally, this book has boosted my marriage to...more
My grievances with this book are Mrs. Pearl's consistent hubris and unscriptural assertions. In Mrs. Pearl's opinion, women are at fault for men's sins, from Adam to David (see chapter 11). In contrast...more
Her aim for women to submit to their husbands cheerfully and be examples to younger women are scriptural, but she at times mis...more
There are a lot of really good helpful bits of advice in the book that one really needs to be open to, and prayerful about, in order to benefit from it. Whenever you trust God and allow HIM to change your husband, instead of trying to do it yourself, God will change your husband....more
What I learned from this book is that it all boils down to simple obedience to God. You can nitpick Debi Pe...more
I tried to be open minded when I read this book due to some christian friends raving about it a few years ago. Oh. My. God. The tone Debi takes toward her rea...more
The basic premise of the book is that a woman's sole purpose in life is to be supportive of her husband. Failing to procreate is sinful, working outside the home, sending your children (you do have more than one, right?) to school instead of homeschooling, missing church, having friends who do not attend your church, wearing your hair short, and questioning your husban...more
A word of caution - for feminists and women who are easily offended by talk of submission, this book is guaranteed to cause some deep seated anger.
Still, there are many nuggets of truth and helpful adv...more
I'll agree, there are some things in this book that you can take away with you. I've found that by trying to be happier and anticipate some of my husbands needs, our marriage is better. He is then happier and isn't as moody with me. Instead of getting naggy and spiteful, I just walk away and let him calm down. And he is more prone to seek me out and apologize to me for his attitude and actions....more
Instead of showing the fruit of the Spirit, she shows a harsh and critical spirit, she misuses Scripture, and she utterly misses the grace of the gospel. Her ideas are dangerous because she takes some true concepts, mixes them with lies, and calls her way "biblical", so her readers believe that it is found in Scripture and if not followed, will cause them to sin. This is spi...more
"...that is what you did with the rejection of his choice of stove. It is no wonder that you are frustrated and 'just plain tired.' I'm plain tired of thinking of the damage you have done and what you have been missing. Your husband is probably tired too: tired of this marriage."
I found it encouraging because Mrs. pearl does advise women to use their talents and gifts, not to hide them, something that I'd been discouraged from doing by some other Christian womanhood teachers. It was nice feeling free to ind...more
While I agree with the authors about Biblical submission and being a "keeper of the home", I think there is much in this book that could become a yoke of slavery to young women eager live biblically. Sadly, there is not much about grace in this book or living in light of cross.
In today's world what is acceptable in society differ from many things the author states what are acceptable according to the Bible. She uses scripture to back up what her findings are.
I would read a chapter, think "that wasn't so bad". Then later, a bit at a time things would begin to hit me. HARD. Things that pertained to my marriage specifically. Things I was doing wrong. Nobody wants to accept or th...more
Can seem "outdated" but a lot of what she says rings true, even if I didn't "want" it to.
I really appreciated the emphasis on attitude, and how having...more
cons: friendships with other women ARE important! Dreams, goals, and personal interests outside the home are not bad things! I disagree that the woman should just 'smooth over' problems with her husband with joy. You should be an active and equal partner, yes one that submits, but not without trust and good rea...more
That being said, the end 'advice' for the most part is excellent. It advises women to love, trust and serve their husband, to keep bitterness out of their marriage, and to center their lives on their families. What they call obedienc...more