Honor Lost: Love And Death In Modern Day Jordan
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Honor Lost: Love And Death In Modern Day Jordan

3.6 of 5 stars 3.60  ·  rating details  ·  874 ratings  ·  138 reviews
"I'd always believed that we'd spend our lives together...I never dreamed that my time with her would be cut short, or that my life would be a journey down this path, but I realize that she left me with a mission...I must find a way to make all Arab women's silent cries for justice and freedom heard around the world." Dalia was a young, beautiful Arabian Muslim living with...more
Hardcover, 211 pages
Published January 28th 2003 by Atria Books (first published 2002)
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5th out of 24 books — 11 voters
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This book is just one big fat lie.
I'm sorry to see that some people still are so fame hungry that they tell one big lie after another, I'm in no means ever racist, but this evoked my anger so much that I have to clarify this:

I'm a Muslim girl living in Jordan, this kinda stuff happens, but no more than few cases a year, we do not live in constant fear of being kill because we love, you cannot generalize the whole Jordanian community to be murderous just because some crazy person decides to kill...more
Forbidden Love was a very good book because it made me more aware of some of the injustices that are taking place to women around the world especially in Muslim countries. This is also a true story so the message was even more powerful and effective to me. I also liked this reading this book because it showed this close, sisterly friendship between Dalia and Norma. I thought it was touching that they would both go through extraordinary lengths to do something or protect each other. Forbidden Lo...more
This account is not a true memoir, but actually a fiction. It is a very controversial book in the eyes of most educated Jordanians. Khouri actually grew up in Chicago, not in Jordan. I will be using this book in my thesis about memoirs about honor killings.
This novel is not very good. The characters fall flat and it is obvious that the Khouri has an axe to grind with Jordanian society. I struggled with this unbalanced and preachy portrayal. I could read it in a day, quite easily. It was almost...more
Jun 11, 2007 Natalie rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone ready for a wake up call
Honor Lost is a book that still haunts me even though it's been a couple of years since I read it. It was very well written and quite captivating. It's a beautiful and devastating true story and it gave me an education every Western woman needs. I'm still at a loss for what I can do to keep this story from repeating itself in the lives of so many innocent women. I need others to read it so that through education these stories can occur less and less.
Albeit there is so much controversy surrounding this book, I appreciate how clear, and well written this novel is. As a fan of Middle Eastern (and generally foreign) tales, I had a few questions about this book once I re-read it like many readers of it. However, my first experience with it was in 10th grade, and I was simply too enthralled with how unique this book was amongst the bland, and frankly white-washed titles we had in school. This was a treat and it generated cogent dialogue with peo...more
This book was very important to read. It was written well and in an engaging way, although the end was clear from the beginning.

I enjoyed reading the account of the friendship between Norma and Dalia, and it was interesting (and heartbreaking) to read about how they manipulated the laws that govern their lives (and the lives of women in Jordan) in order to carve out some pleasure and freedom for themselves.

As the women plot and plan ways for Dalia and Michael to spend time together, they are suc...more
After posting my review, I've read about this author as presenting the story as factual, when in reality it is fiction. As a work of fiction, it would still be an intense and riveting novel, but when presented by the author as factual (and subsequently found to be fiction), it leaves a bad taste in one's mouth. It is hard for me to figure out the author's intentions; controversy, sensationalism, profit? I am leaving my review as originally written, but with a caveat at the beginning, that is: I...more
At first I thought it read as a kind of Lifetime movie, the book edition, but I decided that the book was written from the heart and the importance of the issue overshadows any such melodramatic tone. This is the story of two women who, as the author described themselves, were soul sisters, and the killing of one of them only to uphold her family's honor, which she had supposedly besmirched. As we already know from the outset that there is no happy ending, I found myself feeling the author's rag...more
Mirjam Penning
This story I remember very well, when I found the book here again on GoodReads. I took it from the library once to read it. The book is written by the female friend of the victim in the story. She was a witness to the unfolding.
The victim was a beautiful girl, bound by her culture and the honour of the society she lived in. Despite she knew it was forbidden, she still went to keep meeting the object of her love. She couldn't stay away and she paid an enormous price, just for being in love.

At l...more
May 26, 2008 Santina rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: No one
Recommended to Santina by: Partner
I loved this book, but after adding it to my books on Good Reads, I learned it was a hoax. I will leave my 4 stars as that's how I felt about it at the time, but, based on this new information I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. The muslim community has enough againist them right now, without having lies passed off as true stories.
A. Gulden
"Our mothers, like all mothers of daughters, did their job by training us to live in an unsympathetic, protected, male-dominated world. I'm certain no woman raised in Jordan escaped her childhood and young adulthood without hearing things like: 'A woman's honour, once ruined, can never be repaired', or 'Better to lose your life than lose your reputation'. They told us about the woman who chose to kill herself and die honorably rather than allow a potential rapist to assault her, and of the woman...more
I honestly don't know how to rate this book. When I first read it, it was believed to be a true story. Later it became known that the author lied about it. So, for a fiction, it was a very good story. Too bad it lost its appeal because of lie.
A stark reminder of how love can easily sweep one off their feet, forgetting the religious boundaries. And how women are so suppressed in Arab cultures. A good read, couldn't put it down, read it in one sitting
You will be terrified by the amount of sadness this book brings. A well told and touching story although I didnt see the need to target a religion when the problem is cultural.
Dua'a Ma
People are missing out the point of the book. It's true that it is a false account, but I think the writing wasn't that bad. It also serves a good cause. There are women around the world that are prejudged and misunderstood by extremists, that is the truth the books has told. One cannot deny what it actually means to be in a society that doesn't appreciate you because of your gender, colour, or beliefs. Honor crimes still exist. There's one way to put an end for it, and that would be taking dras...more
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Disappointment has driven me to give this book only one star and I classified this book as a fiction regardless what the author claimed that this is a nonfiction; I could have given this book more than this given the story is very touching and romantic love story, the Author is not a very wordy kind of author but I think the simplicity makes this book readable or is it because the readers thought simplicity is a good way of telling a true story?

This is a story about Jordanian girl named Dalia, b...more
Het is lang geleden dat ik een waargebeurd verhaal heb gelezen. Een boek was zo gruwelijk dat ik het achteraf liever niet gelezen had, hoewel het natuurlijk goed is dat het probleem aangekaart werd. Maar daardoor had ik het wel even gehad met dit soort waargebeurde verhalen. Verboden liefde bevat gelukkig niet zoveel gruwelijke details, hoewel de moord op Dalia op zich al erg genoeg is.
Het verhaal is goed opgebouwd en leest vlot. Het gaat in op de vriendschap tussen Norma en Dalia. Ook wordt uit...more
Apr 14, 2013 kingshearte added it
Shelves: 2013, fiction
So... I was already having a hard time figuring out exactly what to say about this book without sounding like a culturally-intolerant privileged white person, but then I learned that the entire book is actually a fabrication, and that Khouri's own story is a weird, convoluted tangle of stuff (a quick google search will give you the basics), and now I just don't even know where to begin.

I guess, as a story, it's pretty compelling, although not the best written I've ever read. I found, while I was...more
The book is well-written and very moving. She pulls the reader into another world, becoming attached to the two protagonists - young women that most of us may relate to on some level. We rejoice in their humble success, and follow the women through to the consequences of secret and risky choices, just to find love and a little freedom in their highly restricted existence. I hope it continues to come to the attention of people who care, are willing to pray and do something for the women subjected...more
Ashlea Stark
Was halfway through when the numerous errors made me Google the author, finished it only to see how far the lies would go.

The whole thing's made up, she claims to have fled Jordan at 26 when the reality is that she's lived in Chicago and Brisbane since she was 3. This whole book is a cheap trick to make money off the deaths of other women.
This book was very simple and great fast read to learn about a real story of a woman in Jordan falling in love with someone that wasn't her religion. The writing wasn't the most embellished style but it was pretty good and simple.

It was pretty fascinating to read how horrible it is to be a woman in Jordan and it is astounding that someone of my gender in another part of the world has it so freaking hard and dangerous to live.

I am still processing the story and the message. The author decides t...more
Susan Hester
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Well now I'm just annoyed I wasted 50p on this, only to find out it is a hoax. I can't bring myself to bin any book, however bad, but I've put a note on the cover so anyone who sees it after me will know it's a fake. I hope other people will do the same.
Rachel Ogg
This is a true story about two girls, Norma and Dalia, who lived in Jordan and knew each other since they were born. They opened a salon together, and before long, Dalia fell in love with a regular customer, Michael. Norma helped the two set up secret, forbidden meetings, but Dalia's brother, Muhammed, found pine needles from one of Dalia and Michael's dates. The two girls are worried for their lives because they know that in the Muslim culture, the father is expected to kill his own daughter if...more
errruugghhh. honour killings are horrible. this memoir has been proven a hoax. I would like to read some non fiction about this controversial subject. this is a poorly written and constructed "memoir". sorry Jemma!
I was first intrigue by the theme of it: Honour killing

I heard about it that in some countries (long ago...not sure about now) practises this "horrible" action to shed away the shame/disgrace that women brought to the family.

And at first this author claims it's based on her true experience, I thought of giving it a go. Must be interesting as its based on first hand experience. But it turns out to be a piece of lies. Its as if she's the one that brings disgrace to the literary world and not to me...more
Molly Nagappala
I just learned that this book is a work of fiction, which I did not know at the time I gave it 4 stars. Very disappointed in the author but glad that she has been found out.
I am fighting every fiber in my body not to burn this book.
As a Jordanian and a Muslim I can assure you that this is a bunch of lies.
I know that extremist families exist everywhere and I'm sure that a family like this one exists in Jordan, but the author here generalizes, saying that this is the norm in Muslim families.
For example, women can't eat unless men eat first. This is not in Islam.

The writing was beautiful. I have to give her props for her narration. However, the characters are one dim...more
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