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The Joy of Gay Sex

3.89 of 5 stars 3.89  ·  rating details  ·  257 ratings  ·  22 reviews
For a new century and a new generation of readers comes a fully revised and expanded edition of a classic guide to gay sex, love, and life.

Invaluable as a sex guide, a resource on building self-esteem, and a trusted aid for coming out of the closet, The Joy of Gay Sex covers the ins and outs of gay life alphabetically from "anus" to "wrestling." Noted psychologist Dr. Char
Paperback, Expanded Third Edition, 352 pages
Published January 31st 2006 by William Morrow Paperbacks (first published 1977)
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Danny Tyran
How happy I am to have finished reading this book!

List of this book's topics:
Anus 1, Barebacking 1, Bars 3, Baths 4, Bears 5, Bisexuality 8, Blow Job 10, Body Decoration 12, Body Fluids and Disease 14, Body Image 15, Bondage and Discipline 17, Booze and Highs 19, Bottom 22, Bottoms Up 24, Buns 26, Camping 27, Celibacy 29, Chat Rooms 30, Civil Rights 31, Clubs 34, Cock Size 36, Coming Out 38, Compulsive Sex 42, Condoms 45, Cosmetic (Plastic) Surgery 48, Couples 50, Cruising 55, Daddy/Son Fantasie
It's not just a sex manual/dictionary/reference. (Of course, who needs a sex manual?) There are interesting tidbits of gay sex throughout history.
Mark Glidden
Highly informative, very accurate, detailed guide to the (incredibly wonderful) joy of gay sex.
Oh!!!! On my recommendation shelf?? Um. No thanks.. I'm not a gay man.
Nov 18, 2014 Eve marked it as to-read
Hmm....just bought this for my kindle as it's 99 cents on Amazon right now..
Anna Bueller
It would've been better if it was written by Chaim Potok
Elaine White
I got this as a handy reference guide for my MM romances. Some things read quite dated, but others are very handy and useful when trying to deal with the emotional and physical aspects of a gay relationship. Very informative and a wealth of information vital to my character development.
Apr 04, 2010 Heather added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: unsure queers--but do read an updated version
Recommended to Heather by: It was on Mike Ryan's shelf.
Another book I read because it was on my roommate's shelf. My roomie Mike came out that year and shortly thereafter this book appeared on his shelf. I read all his other books (Faulkner, Philip K. Dick, what have you), so I read this one too. I'm not going to rate it because I'm so far out of the target audience.
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Mar 12, 2009 Kyle rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: gay men who want to have better sex. duh.
A surprisingly frank, direct, and helpful book. The mechanics and how-to's of gay sex are not generally offered by mainstream culture, but this book is dead on.
Keita Ito
Every gay man should have this in their collection... Wealth of information from stds, bear code, and much more.
Andrew Wittenmyer
Phenomenal! Everything one needs to know about anything (and everything) related to gay sex.
River fields
haha this book told me nothing i didnt already know. pics in it not even spank worthy.
This would have been useful in eighth or ninth grade. Not so useful as an adult.
Very informative. Well written. The illustrations were also very educational.
Brett Anspach
I read this book shortly after coming out. A must read for every gay man!!
David Cerda
I think it may have changed since I read it...
It was informative and a good read.
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