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The Joy of Gay Sex

3.87  ·  Rating Details  ·  297 Ratings  ·  24 Reviews
For a new century and a new generation of readers comes a fully revised and expanded edition of a classic guide to gay sex, love, and life.

Invaluable as a sex guide, a resource on building self-esteem, and a trusted aid for coming out of the closet, The Joy of Gay Sex covers the ins and outs of gay life alphabetically from "anus" to "wrestling." Noted psychologist Dr. Char
Paperback, Expanded Third Edition, 352 pages
Published January 31st 2006 by William Morrow Paperbacks (first published 1977)
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Danny Tyran
Mar 04, 2015 Danny Tyran rated it really liked it
Shelves: gay, history, sexuality
How happy I am to have finished reading this book!

List of this book's topics:
Anus 1, Barebacking 1, Bars 3, Baths 4, Bears 5, Bisexuality 8, Blow Job 10, Body Decoration 12, Body Fluids and Disease 14, Body Image 15, Bondage and Discipline 17, Booze and Highs 19, Bottom 22, Bottoms Up 24, Buns 26, Camping 27, Celibacy 29, Chat Rooms 30, Civil Rights 31, Clubs 34, Cock Size 36, Coming Out 38, Compulsive Sex 42, Condoms 45, Cosmetic (Plastic) Surgery 48, Couples 50, Cruising 55, Daddy/Son Fantasie
Jun 13, 2007 LARRY rated it it was amazing
Shelves: menology, rainbowland
It's not just a sex manual/dictionary/reference. (Of course, who needs a sex manual?) There are interesting tidbits of gay sex throughout history.
Oct 28, 2007 REDD rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, gay-lgbt
Sep 14, 2015 Scott rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: thepinkroom
Interesting to read this book ~15 years after it was published. I skimmed the last half as I lost interest. The illustrations are great and sexy.

The format is totally outdated - a "encyclopedia" style book is just not relevant in today's age of Google. I loved it just for the time capsule that it is in relation to gay culture.
Elaine White
I got this as a handy reference guide for my MM romances. Some things read quite dated, but others are very handy and useful when trying to deal with the emotional and physical aspects of a gay relationship. Very informative and a wealth of information vital to my character development.
Mar 12, 2009 Kyle rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: gay men who want to have better sex. duh.
A surprisingly frank, direct, and helpful book. The mechanics and how-to's of gay sex are not generally offered by mainstream culture, but this book is dead on.
Keita Ito
Sep 27, 2012 Keita Ito rated it it was amazing
Every gay man should have this in their collection... Wealth of information from stds, bear code, and much more.
Andrew Wittenmyer
Jan 02, 2011 Andrew Wittenmyer rated it it was amazing
Phenomenal! Everything one needs to know about anything (and everything) related to gay sex.
Nov 18, 2014 Eve marked it as to-read
Hmm....just bought this for my kindle as it's 99 cents on Amazon right now..
Oct 30, 2011 Lauraadriana rated it it was amazing
Very informative. Well written. The illustrations were also very educational.
Brett Anspach
Jan 11, 2013 Brett Anspach rated it it was amazing
I read this book shortly after coming out. A must read for every gay man!!
Nov 15, 2015 BethK rated it it was amazing
Shelves: altsex
This book gave excellent, detailed instructions on giving oral sex to a man.

"If you want to please a man, learn from one"
Oh!!!! On my recommendation shelf?? Um. No thanks.. I'm not a gay man.
Garret Nordstrom
Aug 20, 2015 Garret Nordstrom rated it it was amazing
THE MUST have book if you are Gay!!! ESSENTIAL reading!!!!!!!
Anna Bueller
Jun 09, 2014 Anna Bueller rated it liked it
It would've been better if it was written by Chaim Potok
Apr 04, 2010 Heather added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: unsure queers--but do read an updated version
Recommended to Heather by: It was on Mike Ryan's shelf.
Another book I read because it was on my roommate's shelf. My roomie Mike came out that year and shortly thereafter this book appeared on his shelf. I read all his other books (Faulkner, Philip K. Dick, what have you), so I read this one too. I'm not going to rate it because I'm so far out of the target audience.
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This book is on the bibliography of books challenged, restricted, removed or banned in 2007-2008 put out by Robert P. Doyle and the American Library Association. More info at
River fields
Mar 13, 2008 River fields rated it it was ok
haha this book told me nothing i didnt already know. pics in it not even spank worthy.
Apr 01, 2012 Kyle rated it it was ok
This would have been useful in eighth or ninth grade. Not so useful as an adult.
David Cerda
Aug 02, 2007 David Cerda rated it really liked it
I think it may have changed since I read it...
Jul 10, 2012 Soulsolfelis rated it it was amazing
It was informative and a good read.
Sam Pink
Jul 12, 2010 Sam Pink rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
totes the shit!
2 copies
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