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The Joy of Sex: 30th Anniversary Edition

3.54 of 5 stars 3.54  ·  rating details  ·  1,356 ratings  ·  94 reviews
An international bestseller since it was first published in 1972, this updated edition brings this imaginative, uninhibited guide to lovemaking and sex to a whole new generation. It has been revised in such a way to retain Dr Comfort's original, revelatory advice while making it appropriate for the 21st century.
Unknown Binding, 224 pages
Published February 21st 2004 by Not Avail (first published 1972)
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Beth F.
Dec 23, 2008 Beth F. rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: teenagers who find the copy their parents were hiding
--When I was 15 and found this book hidden in the basement, I read it and it gave me quite a thrill.
--The 70's version is awesome and disgusting and awesome, awesome, awesome!
--The hairy man beast who was prominently featured in the original version of this book may be entirely to blame for my disgust of facial hair (thank goodness my husband shaves daily!)
--I’ve never seen the new version with the modern couple and don't care to. It would totally ruin the magic.

Malbadeen
Mar 12, 2008 Malbadeen rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Joy - seriously, her name is Joy.
I read this too young and I particularly remember a part that talked about not wearing spiked boots during sex, because while it may be a visual turn on it can cause some unintended physical pain in the long run. I felt it was a good point and made a note to my prepubescent self to not have sex while wearing spiky boots.
David
Here is a joke based on this book.

(You have some visible injury - cast, eye patch, bandage, etc.)
Person A: "What happened?"
You: "You know the book the Joy of Sex? There is a typo on page 137."
Ellee
Ok, ok, I know... Everybody's heard about it. I figured I'd read it to see if this book by Alex Comfort was in reality what I expected it to be. If all you expect upon opening this book is a racy book full of exotic photos, you'll be surprised. The Joy of Sex is actually very down-to-earth and not really at all titillating (pardon the pun). It's almost like a Chilton's guide to heterosexual sex. That being said, this book is most likely to be of help to relatively inexperienced couples, but even...more
Henry Manampiring
Sep 12, 2007 Henry Manampiring rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: sex illiterates
I received this book THREE times as gifts. Do I look like complete sex-idiot?
Cathy
I find this rather G-rated in a hardcore world. I would probably feel comfortable giving this to my age 18 children if I had any. If you are really looking to reignite the spark, I don't know that this will do it, but you will know if you crack it open and find yourself saying 'been there, done that'. I do not consider myself kinky or used hard and put away wet, I probably fall more into the PRUDE catagory.
Alex
This is the second book about sex that I have read; the first being "She Comes First". Overall it wasn't a bad book and it was a quick read, but the format was sort of confusing and odd to me. There were four sections: Ingredients, Appetizers, Main Courses, and Sauce & Pickles, and each section had multiple excerpts about different topics. Basically, there'd be a paragraph or two on an idea or topic and then it would move on to another one. It didn't flow very well and didn't seem very compr...more
Emily
This book was comprehensive if you are a heterosexual interested in knowing more about heterosexual sex. The lack of mentions of LGBT individuals and the assertion that all humans are bisexual when each individual has autonomy over their identification seems problematic. Much of the information and opinions provided could be found through other online sources, such as Columbia University's 'Go Ask Alice.' The illustrations and intimate and honest tone are extremely beneficial, though.

This book i...more
David
I debated on whether or not to record this as something I have read, but I have decided to go for it.

I should start by saying, that what drew me to this book wasn't it's content, but more of the cultural and historical significance of the text. While not something that people talk much about, "The Joy of Sex" is a book that, while I might not say changed the world, it certainly had its impact.


It was a national best seller for many weeks. Couples, perhaps intrigued by the taboo nature of the text...more
Kennyo
Quite good, as far as it goes, that being heterosexual couples. You'll never please everyone, so those whose proclivities aren't covered here will, of course, be displeased about their omission. The omission is defensible in that a comprehensive volume couldn't be hefted, rendering it less than useful or enjoyable and offending those who are already at the edge of their sensitivities. Refer, please, to the opening clause of my second sentence.

Alex Comfort published a book that neatly and with d...more
Usagi Tsukino
Aug 02, 2014 Usagi Tsukino rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People who want better communication with their partner on a sexual loving basis.
Need to reignite fiery sparks of passion in your life? Master a few old tricks whilst learning new? Wanting to re-establish communication on all levels with your partner? – Then this book is for you!

Need in-depth knowledge on sexual experiences and an easy how-to-guide for that which you haven’t learnt yet? Just want to understand Woohoo a little better than you did before? Or are looking for advice/ideas/comfort and reassurance if you haven’t had any experience yet? – Then this book is certainl...more
Maddy
Don't get me wrong, this classic book is very good in SOME departments. If I ever had kids, or had read this when I was much younger, I felt it would be a very insightful book. This book does a very good job of explaining respect for sex partners. What it doesn't do is explain anything outside of heterosexual lovemaking.

This edition is meant to be an updated one from the 70s, so I was expecting more from this classic. It really doesn't touch on toys in the bedroom, BDSM, homosexuals, or transge...more
1malissa
Now days many people in America read urban books involving sex, drugs, and violence. However they also read other books out there, but surprisingly several of them are banned because of it’s religious beliefs, violence, and sexual content. Personally I believe every book that’s out there should be available to the public.
One reason I think books should be available is because of its religious beliefs. At times people tend to question god, some are not quite sure who he/she is, and others may n...more
Anna
While I can see how this book might have caused a stir back in 1972, to my modern eyes it seems hopelessly dated and rather dull. Most of the information in the book is of a very basic, nuts-and-bolts kind that most modern readers will already be aware of. It is written in a quite matter-of-fact and unsexy (and at times inappropriately humorous) style which I did not much care for.

The frequent use of terms like "squares" and "straights" and other 60s/70s slang date the book considerably, as do...more
Evan Dower
It was a new edition, with revised content to update it, but as a friend mentioned, it wasn't really written for my generation or gender. Also, the writing is confusing. There was a sort of half-assed attempt at a dictionary format, so some sections start with just a noun phrase and some start with a full sentence. The inconsistency is confusing. Then, there are sentence that start with "For her, ..." but it isn't clear if they're talking about advice "for her" when she's doing something for him...more
FiveBooks
Writer Kate Figes has chosen to discuss Alex Comfort's The Joy of Sex on FiveBooks as one of the top five on her subject - Sex and Marriage, saying that:

"It seems so innocent really now, all those daring explanations of S and M and positions, but it was before Aids and people were so optimistic. It was as though we’d discovered sex and free love."

The full interview is available here: http://five-books.com/interviews/kate-figes
Dee
Sep 09, 2014 Dee rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Those who are new to exploring sex
For its time of publication, this was really a ground-breaking book for a lot of people who were not yet comfortable talking about and exploring their sexuality. It's pretty tame by today's standards, but it probably changed some lives.
Victoria Williams-Fisher
I have always wanted to read this book! And finally did. I found it a timeless classic and I learned a few things. I was actually doing a little "research" for my latest novel, THE WARRENS. When you are writing about the sex life of a younger couple, you want to make sure you are not missing out on anything! I was happy to find that I am quite knowledgeable and not much has changed! This is an updated version and the photographs are absolutely stunning.I enjoyed it, it was a quick read because o...more
Ashley
Totally found this in my parent's drawer when I was snooping. It was the 70s version. Oh, man.
Samantha cole
aw come on!!!!!!! i don't think i have this particular version, but they keep reprinting it, and it just keeps getting better. i can't really recommend a particular chapter, cos then you'd know how kinky i was/am, but hey, everyone should have a copy on hand for various reasons...either for yourself on those cold winter nights, or when you think you've done it all and here comes another position! if you can find the version that has the pics of the hippies of the 60's, it's awesome to see how 'a...more
Monica
This is a very general introduction to sex. I understand how it made a stir back in the 70s because it was the first major book of it's kind. But to me with all the information about sex being constantly bombarded at us nowadays, there was nothing new in it. Yet if I had kids going through puberty, this would be an excellent book to give to them when they're going through puberty. One that they can read and then discuss with me later if they have any questions.

All in all, a very general introdu...more
Jess Scott
my version of this book is a slim version (dark purple cover). simple but gorgeous pencil illustrations accompany the text in the version i have. i found the writing style witty, and not that "dated" actually (despite this being a book that was originally published in 1972). there are certain "facts" that will always hold true, and the information was presented in an engaging, witty and concise manner [very good combination for an enjoyable reading experience--for me at least :)].
Karli
This book is very straight, which is fine. Straight people need these books too! But it's overly committed to gender norms, so it's only palatable if you really subscribe to the idea that women are like this and men are like that. I bumped it up a star just for the part where Comfort suggest that no one, not even women, should shave their armpits or wear deodorant. It's for the pheromones, and that's awesome advice. Pick and choose what you like from this one, I think.
Vijay Swamidoss
Lifted the veil on my Indian mind born in later 50s
Mahinn
My reasons for even rating this book can be limited to just the one: nostalgia. I found this hidden amidst the godawful drugstore paperbacks my mother used to read and to a thirteen-year old it was a treasure for the just raging hormones. I read it cover to cover then and came across it again a few days ago at the second hand bookstore. You'd find more creative sex in my mother's old drugstore paperbacks.
Susan
A group of friends got me this as a birthday present when I was 22. They were mocking the fact that I was probably the last Canadian virgin.

While it learned me some fancy words for various sexual positions and had some nice erotic drawings, it did nothing to prepare me for what was a very uncomfortable first experience.

It is a very well written book. It is not pornography, more art.
Heather
Apr 04, 2010 Heather rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Heather by: Leslie Larsen had a copy
I read this in college because my roommate had a copy. It was okay. Sometimes it was hard to figure out whose limbs were whose in the drawings, which was entertaining. I remember noting at the time that the author seemed to feel that if you weren't into threesomes, you were a prude, but if you didn't like anal, that was okay, and I thought he was letting his own preferences invade the book.
Summers Eye
its not a bad book. the prose is somewhat alien & turgid. & some of the French phrases seem un-necessary. and obviously some of the more fringe modes of human sexuality are more out in the open and perhaps even normal. heterosexual & couple-centric in its outlook but still not w/o merit and a good addition to any sex manual library. the penis is not his its "Ours..."
Chad
My mom and dad got this for me to explain sex better when I came of age... it was one of the best ideas for that and plan on doing the same for my kids. Sex is important... and education on it just not thought about today.

For anyone out there, it explains in simple text and drawings of various positions, target areas, and more. Well worth the read young or old.
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Alexander Comfort, M.D., Ph.D. (10 February 1920 – 26 March 2000) was a medical professional, gerontologist, anarchist, pacifist, conscientious objector and writer, best known for The Joy of Sex, which played a part in what is often called the sexual revolution. He was also the author of many other books on a variety of topics.
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