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For the Love of a Son: One Afghan Woman's Quest for Her Stolen Child

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From the time she was a little girl, Maryam rebelled against the terrible second-class existence that was her destiny as an Afghan woman.

Maryam had witnessed the miserable fate of her grandmother and three aunts, and wished that she had been born a boy. As a feisty teenager in Kabul, she was outraged when the Russians invaded her country. After she made a public show of de
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Published April 29th 2010 by Doubleday
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Maryam Khail totakhail
This is a true story, is my story. Everyone who has read the book gave an excellent review, they all loved the story.
Jewel
I can't give this book a star rating since I didn't finish it.

I'm not a big fan of these kinds of books where we get a women telling us her live story, only for us to read all about how terrible it was to live in THAT country, in THAT culture. To me it feels more like it's commercial, bashing your traditions, ur origins and your people, only to sell a story, I have no respect for these women.

Now, if it was presented as fiction, that's a different matter.

In almost every page there is a mention of
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Zillah
I really liked this book, although there are some things I must say. First, I'm not sure it really is a true story, not because of the story itself, but because of the fact that the comments under the pictures make me a bit suspicious. For example, there is a photograph of Big Duran making a first call to his mother, and I find it very unlikely for someone to take photo in that situation. Second, the names are changed in order to protect people's identities and then the pictures are put inside?? ...more
Astrid Falkenberg
Oct 23, 2013 Astrid Falkenberg rated it really liked it
This was one of the more disturbing books I've read in a while, mostly because it was based on the true life of an Afghan woman, and because I will NEVER in my whole life understand or approve of the Islam religion that views women as basically unworthy and allows men to abuse them at will with no repercussions. One of the worst things was that once the abusive father had kidnapped the woman's child, he molded the innocent infant son into an exact replica of him. Had he stayed with his mother in ...more
Sarah Yassin
Oct 12, 2013 Sarah Yassin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: DrIsmat hoso
Recommended to Sarah by: no body
رواية رائعة قرأتها ادخلتني في تفاصيلها واعطتني مشاعر البطلة وأحسست بأنني أعيش حياتها

كيف ؟
كيف يستطيع الرجال أن يتخذوا قرارات متعسفة بشأن حياتنا ؟
كيف يستطيع رجل أن يضرب ويغتصب زوجته أمام أطفاله ؟
كيف يستطيع رجل أن يخطف طفله من حضن والدته ويبعده عنها ليصنع منه وحشا كاسرا ، مريضا نفسيا ؟ كيف يستطيع أن يحول الحب والطمأنينة الى كراهية وحقد ؟ ولماذا كل هذا الظلم والتعسف ألأنهم رجال ؟؟!
يصدمني واقع وحال بلداننا العربية التي تمنح الحرية للرجال لفعل ما يشاؤون بالنساء والأطفال ، كيف يستطيع الأباء إجبار ب
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Maggie Leivas
Jun 22, 2011 Maggie Leivas rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this book and did not consider it heavy or boring in any way. The historical facts about Afghanistan and Maryam's family are necessary and add to the depth of the book. I think most American women my age and younger take our freedom so much for granted. It is difficult for us to believe how women can be so mistreated in other cultures.

I highly recommend this book and hope that some day I will be able to meet Ms. Khail or hear her speak.

Here is a video interview I discovered on y
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Raghad Khamees
May 23, 2014 Raghad Khamees rated it it was amazing
أي روعة تلك التي تكتب فيها جين ساسون ، رواية مؤلمة موجعة ابكتني في كثير من المواقع.
تكشف لنا الرواية عن مدى الظلم الذي يقع على المرأة في أفغانستان لا لسبب فقط لانها أنثى ، ومدى العار الذي يشعر به الشاب الأفغاني عندما تأتيه أنثى
استغرب جداً هذه الدول الإسلامية التي يجب ان تقدس المراة وتعطيها حقوقها .. هي أكثر الدول ظلما و إجحافا بحق المرأة
كم كرهت قيس هذا المجرم المنافق وكم كرهت الرجال من أمثاله
بقدر كرهي لقيس أحببت مريم المظلومة والمتمردة والمضحية والمحبة ..
Hassan Mohammed
Feb 14, 2015 Hassan Mohammed rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

رحلة ثانية مع "جين ساسون" في قلب أفغانستان، بعد كتابها (مغامرة حب في بلاد ممزّقة) التي كانت في شمال العراق، أرض الأكراد.

أفغانستان، أرضٌ لم تعرف الهدوء والإستقرار منذُ أكثر من نصفِ قرن، كأنّما هي قطعة من جهنّم! رائحة البارود المنتشر في كل مكان تزكمُ الأنوف، الجدران ملطّخةً بالدماء، والجثث على أرصفة الشوارع والطرقات! هذا ما نشاهده على أرض الواقع، أما ما يدور خلف الكواليس وفي غسق الليل، فهو المؤامرات والإنقلابات! ما الذي يجري هناك؟! إنها الحرب!

حربٌ يدور رحاها بين المجاهدين الأفغان ضد الإحتلال الروس
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ثامر الحمدان
تقول الكاتبة : " في الوقت الذي تبدأ فيه ذراعا الجنين الأفغاني وساقاه في النمو داخل رحم أمه تكون خلاياه الدماغية منشغلة بإصدار الإجحاف والتمييز ضد النساء"
وتقول : " في السعودية يستطيع الرجال عمل ما يريدون عندما يتعلق الأمر بنسائهم وأطفالهم ولن يتدخل أحد , فالرجل يضع قانونه الشخصي في بيته, حتى القوات الخاصة تعتبر الأمر شخصياً. يستطيع الزوج أن يقتلها إن شاء ولن يعترض أحد !!"

عند وجود شخص سيئ في مجتمع ما , لا يعني أبداً أن المجتمع كله سيئ , لأنه لا يمكن أن نصدر قراراً بحق دولة أو قبيلة أو حتى أسرة بسب
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Ananya
Aug 01, 2013 Ananya rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

This heart-breaking story of Maryam is an example of unending torture, oppression, silent submission and suffering of many Afghan women who are rendered too weak to raise a voice against violence done to them by their own husbands and unfathomable strict laws and prejudices in the minds of even the humblest and educated of men. The true face of these worlds, no less dangerous than underworld, is not just depressing, it's terrifying. Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia, Iran, Iraq - whatever Muslim laws ar

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Maha
Dec 07, 2013 Maha rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition







يعتقد الكثيرون ان ما تكتبه جين ساسون في رواياتها سر لايجوز الإفصاح عنه لكونه يتطرق الى قضايا اجتماعيه تكشف
جوانب من علاقات الأفراد والتي يفضلون ان تبقى حبيسة لا تتعدى منافذ الحدود حتى وان كانت غير حقيقيه
إلا أني أرى انه
لا يوجد في رواياتها اسرار قد تكون مشوقة ومحصورة !
كما أن معظم المعلومات الحقيقية معروفة وغير جديرة بالاهتمام أو التكتم عنها ..
والناس اصبحو على وعي تام بما يحدث ولربما الى حقائق أكبر مما أشارت اليه الكاتبه

وبالعودة الى الروايه
تسرد تفاصيل حكاية تشبه آلاف الحكايات المبطّنة في جوف الت
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Baljit
Mar 12, 2012 Baljit rated it liked it
The true life account of an Afghani woman. Despite her education and relatively priveledged life she is victim of tribal traditions and is subjected to abuse. I found it v distressing that even those closest to her, like her father and her sister, could not offer support at crucial moments. The outcome, is not a fairytale ending and there is no closure...such are the harsh relaities of life where violence breeds more violence, from generation to generation.
Laila514
Oct 12, 2011 Laila514 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love all of Jean Sassons book and this was very emotional for me to read about her suffering and about her stolen child and how disgusting the men are towards women when things dont go their way,and that even her own son would turn against her. After reading this book the first thing i did was give my mother a massive hug as really mothers are the most treasured gifts god has given us.
Afghan women really suffer for their children and their freedom.
Az Zahra  Islam
Sep 16, 2011 Az Zahra Islam rated it it was amazing
I love reading this book. I feel pity to Maryam for her first son did not really behave in a proper way towards her even though she is her very own mother. Thankfully, she is still manage to meet her son after so many years but it is not as what I expected where Big Duran will love and miss his mother so much instead he reacted just the same as his father.
Andrea Camacho
Sep 06, 2011 Andrea Camacho rated it it was amazing
I loved this book, it shows the reality of afghan women, maybe is not a true story, I don't know, but is what many muslim women live.
I highly recommend it.
I really like Jean Sasson's books, I have read almost all of them and I recommend each one of them.
Mwa6nah Al Marzouqi
اللغة : سهله وبسيطة وبعيده عن التعقيد والتكلف.
الحكاية : جميلة مليئة بالتفاصيل اللي تشوق القارئ واللي تضيف له معلومات تخصّ آفغانستان و الحياة فيها.
النهاية : مُش متوقعة أبداً !! ولكنها إلى حد ما مُرضية ..

آنهيتها في عشر ساعات متقطعات.
Asma Ahmad
Dec 27, 2010 Asma Ahmad rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A very sad n true story.... Dis bk shows dat hw much da women in afghanistan had suffered n still sufferin... N it e1 shows da unimaginable luv of a mother 4 his lost child...
Pary
Oct 08, 2012 Pary rated it it was amazing
Great book. I feel the pain, i cry with maryam and for Maryams. I see my mom through this book, my sister, my best friend, myself. I see an afghan woman.
Meriam Albalooshi
Dec 18, 2010 Meriam Albalooshi rated it it was amazing
loved it..very touchy
Blue Sea
Apr 06, 2014 Blue Sea rated it really liked it
I'm must admit that I love to read books but sometimes i'll procrastinate to finish a book... However Jean Sasson's writing had made me to continue to read without any reluctant. I knew what I read had published long time ago, however I don't feel it's a old story that not worth to read. Seriously I like Jean Sasson's writing..the way she describe things through words deliver the impact well.

This story had made me link it to a song - "If I were a boy" by Beyonce. Women..women...women...a symbol
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Trupti Dorge
Nov 11, 2015 Trupti Dorge rated it really liked it
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I love books by Jean Sasson. The first time I read on of her books I was in 11t Grade and it was probably my first non-fiction book. I have been a huge fan of hers ever since. I think her writing is simple but the stories in her books are heart wrenching. I remember I cried a lot when I read her book Mayada. She writes about women in the Muslim World. She writes about their oppression at the hands of those they love, oppression by their government and because of age old beliefs that are hard to ...more
Sharina  MS
Sep 03, 2013 Sharina MS rated it really liked it
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I love the way it's written. the narration is just excellent, I hardly put down the book, I finished it immediately after started reading it. the story often made me laugh, cry and think. I feel devastated on how a nation of beautiful places like Afghanistan treat their women godlessly. never in Islam that Allah and the prophet teach to ridicule, terrorize women/wives. Whats shocking is there's a phrase in the book saying in Quran, "Man can do whatever he likes and man can beat their wives coz i ...more
Anita
Jun 22, 2012 Anita rated it liked it
I have read another book by this Author called, ' Mayada, Daughter of Iraq' which was excellent. unfortunately this book was not so good. The story dragged on in the beginning but the middle of the book was brilliant and then I had to finish it to find out the ending. I mainly read this sort of material to learn more about cultures in other countries. I certainly learnt a lot from this book. I like how the author does a mini history summary at the end of the book so the reader has a clearer unde ...more
Yusra
Oct 04, 2015 Yusra rated it it was amazing
يؤسفني أنها أحداث حقيقية فما عانته مريم وغيرها من النساء ليس بهين. تعرفت على أفغانستان، تاريخها، عادات أهلها وتقاليدهم. وأحببت كثيراً أسلوب وطريقة سرد الكاتبة للقصة وأردت أن أقرأ روايات أكثر لها.
Teacher_jay
Jan 04, 2016 Teacher_jay rated it it was ok
"For the love of a son", I will give it 2.
Strengths:
- A strong language and an effective style. She had me cry in many incidents
- Very frank, very powerful in discussing the details of everything.

Weaknesses:
- When Maryam was in that school of boys, how does this happen! I mean she studies and everything without someone noticing that she's a girl! Somehow it sounds artificial to me.
- I don't like the way it talked about Islam, she never gives the right impression and the correct image about it. I
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Amera Markous
#لأنك_ولدي ، قصة حقيقية مُحطمة ، تحكي عن معاناة المرأة في أفغانستان وإستكرادهم لها و على عدم إعترافهم بحقها في العيش بسلام ~

بعد الإنتهاء منها ، رغبت اللقاء بالعديد من النساء والإستماع إلى مشاكلهم محاولة مني لإصلاح ما تبقى من نفوسهم وحياتهم ، كما كان حلمي يوما ما .. #لأنك_ولدي تحكي قصة العديد من النساء العربيات إلى يومنا هاذا ، الذين لا تزال قصصهم مخفية غير قادرة على الظهور أمام الناس ، فتشترك معظم نسائنا بالإستسلام وعدم التحدي ولا الوقوف لتتحصل على ما تريد - هكذا إعتدنا الحياة - في مجتمعات لم ت
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Ansar M
Jul 29, 2015 Ansar M rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
لطالما اعتقدتُ بأنّ لطول الرواية أكبر الأثر على نفسي من تلك الروايات القصيرة، ولا اعلم إن كانت الاحداث تطغى على الواقع فتجرّدني منه وتجبرني للخوض في تفاصيل روايةٍ والدخول إلى اجواءها وكأنني انا التي اعيشها، أتألّم حين تجلس امرأة ما على دبّوس وُضِعَ لها بالعامد أحاولُ ان أمنعها من الجلوس لكنّها تجلس فلستُ من اخرج الأحداث الواردة في نهاية المطاف،
لكنني هُنا عشتُ احداثاً حقيقيّة صحيحة لا يمكن إنكارها.
أحمد الله اولاً على انني ابنة فلسطين، أعيشُ بكامل حرّيتي، لي الحق في التعلّم والعمل وإبداء الرأي ف
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L
Jan 07, 2014 L rated it it was amazing
This book is one of my favorite! It had got me so emotional and put me into tears. This book talks about the life of Maryam ; she promised herself not to marry because she feared being abused just like most Afghan women. But she was put under some family pressure and was forced to wed the wrong man. However, that man turned her child into something unexpected, something unlike his mother's pure heart.

I literally teared while reading the mothers feelings toward her long lost child :(
chucklesthescot
Oct 19, 2011 chucklesthescot rated it did not like it
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This was not what was advertised. It was meant to be the story of a woman seperated from her beloved son and trying to find him again. The first chapters I ploughed through were giving you the full story of each grandparent, then moved on to her father's story. By this point I was bored and decided not to continue with the book. When I read a true story, I expect the story to be about that person, not a personal history of every living relative first!!!
Yati Daud
Jan 07, 2013 Yati Daud rated it really liked it
When you look at the title of the book, it tells you alot. A mother's sacrifice for the love of her son. It tells you the story of a woman Maryam her childhood, growing up and becoming a woman and eventually getting married. She was raped and abused by her own husband whom I think is a psychopath.
Despite all the sufferings and hardships she has to go through, she is so determined to achieve equality with men.

This is definitely a good read.


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Jean Sasson was born in a small town in Alabama. An avid reader from an early age, she had read all the books in her school library by the time she was 15 years old. She also began her book collection at age 15. When given the chance to travel, Sasson accepted a position at the King Faisal Specialist Hospital and Research Centre in Riyadh, and lived in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia for 12 years. She ...more
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