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Caring for Mother: A Daughter's Long Goodbye
"... Owens offers this thought-provoking memoir of her family's nearly seven-year-long ordeal with her mother's illness. Portraying additional struggles with her own and her father's age-related medical issues, she yet drives home the relentlessness of Alzheimer's demands on its sufferer's circle of support. ... Rather than belaboring the losses it entailed, Owens makes ...more
Paperback, 163 pages
Published March 1st 2007 by Westminster John Knox Press
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This is the story of Virginia Owens' ordeal - and there's no other way to put it - of caring for her mother as she declined into Parkinson's and stroke-induced dementia. Over and over I thought, "Yep, that's the way it happened," because our family went through the same thing with my dad. I could also relate to many of Owens' coping mechanisms; for example, when faced with bad stuff she goes into information gathering mode. Owens' doesn't avoid the tough questions that are inevitable when you ...more
A good book at first, a real emotionally good story that makes you want to read more. But the writer suddenly adds fillers half way through that have no need to be in the book. She rambles about psychologically and history, causing me to skim quiet a few paragraphs. When she does go back into her and her mothers interaction and progress, the story of her mother is truly beautiful. Then sadly it abruptly ends, going back on to religious babble. It was overall OK.
I've read this over the last several months, lingering as I process my own experience. This book echo's my experience as a caregiver and encourages me to continue. I'm only a short way down this path, if we can ever know. I appreciate the exploration of what the essential person is when the person we care for no longer recognizes us.
This book is on the 2010 UMW Reading Program list. So far, It's very readable and filled with compassion for our elders. I found that it validates the feelings that I have had regarding my experiences caring for my mother-in-law and helps me to better understand where she's coming from.
I was distracted by the author's constant tense shifts from past/present and decided there wasn't a "literary" reason-just screw-ups....I did learn how much dementia is a part of Parkinson's, but I've read much better caregiver/goodbye books.