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Let's Spend the Night Together: Backstage Secrets of Rock Muses and Supergroupies

3.58  ·  Rating Details ·  1,185 Ratings  ·  90 Reviews
This intimate account of 24 legendary groupies reveals what went on behind the closed doors of rock stars from Elvis to Marilyn Manson. Consisting of Pamela Des Barres's revealing interviews with and profiles of other supergroupies, this book offers firsthand glimpses into the backstage world of rock stars and the women who loved them. The groupies--such as Tura Satana, Mi ...more
ebook, 400 pages
Published September 1st 2008 by Chicago Review Press (first published July 1st 2007)
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Sep 24, 2011 Kelly rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: rock music lovers
Shelves: favorites
I somewhat understand other reviewers hating on this book. Yes, the rock culture of the '70s and '80s generally viewed women as consumables like drugs or alcohol. But did you not know and expect that going into this book? How can you fault the writer for portraying the culture as honestly as she could? In my opinion, that honesty is far better than some sort of false feminist empowerment. This sort of cavalier sexual attitude is still pervasive now among average twenty-somethings.

This book, I f
Jan 10, 2012 Natalie rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Self-indulgent book, but that goes hand in hand with recollections of rock groupies. It's sordid, detailing sexual exploits of women sleeping with rock stars and the power they derive from watching bands perform.

The writing was hard to follow. For example, where Des Barres would throw in her own two cents, vs. a groupie's opinions was distracting.

Each chapter is dedicated to her interviewing a groupie. The first few chapters were about older groupies, whom you gather, are in retirement now. So
Sep 06, 2008 Jessica rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
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Another dishy, over-the-top book from proud groupie Des Barres, this time collecting the stories and conquests of other band fans, as well as her own. In one spicy chapter after another, backstage passes our secured, hearts are broken, and everybody sleeps with Iggy Pop.

I learned that groupies overwhelmingly tended to be music-loving outcasts with low self-esteem before finally finding their calling following musicians. They stress that they are not hookers, and that sleeping with rock stars is
Aug 20, 2012 Ellyn rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I've now read all of Des Barres' memoirs, collections, or what have you, and this is the weakest by far. Here you will find recollections both touching and pathetic -- and sometimes quite forlornly graphic -- from super groupies and muses. I would question how relevant many of these subjects really are, but Des Barres mixes the well known muses -- Catherine James, Miss Mercy -- with tawdry, trashy girls who hook up with bands you've never heard of, just for the thrill of proximity.

I read Des Ba
Rev. Nyarkoleptek
I don't know. Maybe I'm not all that interested in tell-all books. Maybe this just wasn't salacious enough for dirty ol' me. But these interviews with groupies young and old just sounded an awful lot like two car salesmen in their 40's reminiscing about the perfect golden football season they lived in high school.

"And then I scored the winning touchdown and the crowd roared and the team screamed our victory to the skies and then Jesus looked down from on high and gave me a big ol' thumbs-up and
Aug 25, 2011 Megan rated it it was amazing
This book is not for someone who does not have an open mind. Let's Spend The Night together follows a slew of groupies, it gets their stories, shows you how they became who they are. Most people assume groupies are sluts, they are out to sleep with the band for fame and fortune, however, groupies originally started out as a muse. Groupies wrote the songs without ever picking up a pen. The songs are written for them by artists who admire them. The original groupies were part of the feminst moveme ...more
Aug 20, 2007 Alice rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: music
This is my first Goodreads review! I felt compelled to review this book to warn people who may be interested. Pamela Des Barres is a really cool woman, she did what she wanted to do and is proud of that fact. Some of the women in "Let's Spend the Night Together" are also doing what they want to do and are able to hold on to their self respect in the process. However, a good many of the women Des Barres interviewed for this book are just sad, self-loathing and promiscuous. I think anyone who deba ...more
I think these women give themselves way too much credit.
This book was barely amusing enough to read the whole thing and I almost quit reading it several times. I will say though that some chapters were way better than others. I think the women got more sad as the chapters went on.
Iowa City Public Library
Lindsey’s headed back to rehab. Paris is lying low. Nicole’s being good for the time being. What to do for celebrity sleaze?

Among the classics of the genre, I’d recommend Hollywood Babylon and its sequel, of course, and Pamela Des Barres groupie tell-all, I’m With the Band. Ms Des Barres has made a career of having slept with Jimmy Page, Keith Moon, Gram Parsons and many, many others all those years ago, and has now released a book of interviews with 24 other groupies.

What’s here besides sex, dr
Jan 29, 2013 Heather rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: girly-grrrrrl
I was curious to hear about things from a "groupie" perspective of rock and roll since I am such a huge rock music fan (with SUBZERO desire to sleep around with rock stars I might add). Pamela Des Barres is a well known author of books on the subject since back in the day she was a groupie.

I have to say first off that I didn't love the format of this book. Pamela did interviews of various self proclaimed "groupies" making this book an anthology of stories but rather than allow the ladies to tell
Mar 27, 2008 Dawn rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Having previously published her own experiences as a glamorous, gracious companion to rock stars, Pamela Des Barres is the perfect author for this collection of interviews with groupies. A number of the subjects have led full, fascinating lives (Gail Zappa was my favorite). However, despite their protests to the contrary, most of the people in this book are stereotypical groupies. They get an ego boost, and a sense of personal validation from being a "chosen one," even if they're only "chosen" f ...more
I read "I'm With the Band", and I really liked it, mostly because I think Pamela Des Barres is a pretty good writer, and it never seemed like she was out to justify anything. This book, however, just ended up annoying me.

"Let's Spend the Night Together" is a collection of short essays compiled by Des Barres through interviews with numerous groupies. It follows a linear pattern, beginning with Elvis in the 50s and early 60s, through 2007, when it was published. A majority of the groupies intervie
Martine Peacock
Disappointing. Interesting to get some idea of what groupeism actually means to the ones who call themselves real groupies as to opposed to just 'star fuckers'. They say it's all about the music. But half of them I think, nah, you're just some girl who has nothing else in her life and gets self-validation from giving random rock stars I've never heard of blow jobs. Or else, er, don't you think maybe the drink and drugs are playing a part in making you think you're having a profound psychic and s ...more
Jaina Bee
Mar 22, 2010 Jaina Bee rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: rock fans, voyeurs
What did I learn? Oh, my!

I learned that Jimmy Page likes to lecture young girls, Jimi Hendrix was a sweet, fun fellow, Tom Jones is a cad, groupies are ancient at 15, if you're really good, they'll put you in a song, it's very extremely important for girls to be skinny, and Elvis is apparently the best conversationalist in the history of Rock and Roll.

This could be utter trash, however, Pamela Des Barres is a deceptively good writer. There's a dismal overtone that rather depressed me, and I thin
Amy Radovich
As an afficiando of the rock lit genre and a woman, I found this book a little insulting. The author tries to imply that modern day groupies are a far cry from the angelic, awe insipring goddess she and her crew were back in the day. I hate to break it to her, but just because she broke the ground in the era of free love doesn't mean she's any better than the modern day backstage bunnies she seems to want to insult under the guise of making them seem somehow lost in the shuffle.

Her first book wa
This book had some interesting insights that you probably wouldn't find in some of the rock stars biographies. Each chapter is about a different groupie--however, it is very hard to respect these people even though this book tries so hard to justify their actions. Each chapter begins to get more and more repetitive and duller then the one that procedes it, and the same names come up time and time again.
May 23, 2012 Sammy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I felt sad for some of the women in this book, they convinced themselves that they were muses and meant something on an artistic level to the rockstars but to me it just sounds like they were being used by men who despite the great music, they were grade A tools.

I'm all for women and men being able to have as much safe sex as they want but don't dress it up with delusions.
Mar 23, 2014 Shannon rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book bounces me from laughing at her silly, Pollyanna-type attitude to irritated at her lack of an understanding at what she was actually doing to being both impressed, revolted by, slightly envious and annoyed by her entire way of life.
I was born in the mid-70s so my rock gods were the hair bands of the 80s to the grunge of the early 90s. Her Jimmie Page was my Jon Bon Jovi. Her Elvis was my Kurt Cobain. The difference was that I was somewhere in the crowd at the concert and she was blowi
Matti Karjalainen
Pamela Des Barresin "Kuumana bändiin: bändärin tunnustukset" -omaelämäkerta lienee tunnetuin groupie-kulttuuria käsittelevä teos. Se ilmestyi myös pari vuotta sitten suomeksi, mutten kuolemaksenikaan onnistunut lukemaan sitä loppuun: ylisanoja vilisevä kirjoitustyyli toi mieleen pissisvaiheeseen jumittuneen Rita Tainolan, enkä ollut lainkaan vakuuttunut siitä, että Jimmy Pagen kanssa sänkyyn meneminen olisi ollut kulttuurihistoriallisesti merkittävä teko.

"Let's Spend the Night Together: bändärei
I found this an interesting and mostly fun read. Each chapter of the book is devoted to a SuperGroupie - a gal who knew what she wanted, went after it, and succeeded. And in the process inspired her rock heroes to write songs about her.

These particular women interviewed consider themselves freewheeling feminists who were neither victimized nor exploited, but flashes of girls who did experience degradation at the hands of cruel bastards drunk on fame can be seen hovering at the edges of some of
Apr 29, 2009 Amy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
i can't believe i read this totally sexist filthy book and then i couldn't get enough of it. i read half of it with my mouth hanging open - not because of the sex stuff, but because of the characters in the book. i always thought that the groupie excuse of wanting to be closer to the music never worked, because you could just play music. then one of the groupies in the book said that it hurt her hands to play guitar so she just quit. so, ladies, it's not about the music. it's about screwing the ...more
Bookish Jen
Oct 15, 2016 Bookish Jen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Music lovers, fans of Pamela Des Barres, people interested in groupie cultue
Recommended to Bookish by: Already a fan of Pamela Des Barres
“Most of us go to our graves with our music still inside us.”-unknown

Years ago, when I was starry-eyed girl in a vintage frock and a pair of Doc Martens, I picked up a unassuming paperback book. That book was I’m With the Band written by Pamela Des Barres. I completely devoured Ms. Des Barres lusty tales of backstage romance. I couldn’t so much relate to the debauchery and drugs, but I could relate to being consumed by rock music and wanting to be close to the people who created it. Apparently D
Muffy Kroha
Jun 15, 2010 Muffy Kroha rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Trashsters like me
I am dying today because I was up til 4 am reading this- She is a super crappy writer- and you have to be atrocius for me to notice- But the subject is irresistable- Strangely enough my own brother is mentioned in this book in the Cynthia Plaster Caster chapter- Thank god for my sake detail is not included! Alas, best to keep this on the D.L. from the M.O.M.!!!!
Oct 25, 2015 Tiia rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
These chicks are just bragging about who is the most famous shag they had in past years and then they'll go about it's all about music not about sex and famous rock stars. Seriously who do you try to convince yourself or readers. One of the groupies say musicians never grow up, but after reading whole book the same goes for groupies too. They shag everyone who has a instrument or give them access to backstage and they think they are better than other women who had sex with men without instrument ...more
Apr 02, 2011 Melissa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this book! Great tales of women who don't give a crap what anyone else thinks! My own personal opinion on the right and wrong of groupiedom doesn't even matter. I thought it was fun storytelling. These gals are sexually liberated, that is for sure!
Elizabeth Satenstein
SO good. Now I need to read I'm With the Band. I may have read these books out of order, but never the less, this book is super interesting. If you love music and Almost Famous, this is the perfect book for you.
The first half gets 5 stars - the "original" groupies are endlessly fascinating and I love reading about them. Cynthia Plaster Caster is my new favorite; she's a total riot and a true artist and I LOVE that she's currently casting female rock stars' breasts. The second half lost me, though... With the exception of Lexa Vonn and the Plastics (who are/were pretty cool), the newer stories were kind of sad. Like, I never, under any circumstances, need to read about someone fellating Kid Rock, and I ...more
linda sue
Jul 04, 2007 linda sue rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: rock fans
I really liked Ms. Des Barres new book of stories of groupies telling their experiences of everyone from Elvis to Marilyn Manson. The Plastics still suck though.
Dragan Nanic
Feb 07, 2016 Dragan Nanic rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Having wondered why exactly was I reading I'm with the Band: Confessions of a Groupie I decided to answer that question by reading this more juicier follow up. It gives the interview-like accounts of lives and memories of legendary groupies. And it definitely lives up to the promise. There are no long descriptions - journalist style really suits this topic - and the stories put together represent a remarkable insight on both sides of the music world and life on the road. There is a scary amount ...more
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Pamela Des Barres aka Miss Pamela (born Pamela Ann Miller on September 9, 1948) is a former rock and roll groupie, author, and magazine writer.

Des Barres was born in Reseda, California. Her mother was a housewife and her father worked for Anheuser-Busch and occasionally worked as a gold miner. She idolized the Beatles and Elvis Presley as a child, and fantasized about meeting and dating her favori
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