Designated Fat Girl: A Memoir
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Designated Fat Girl: A Memoir

2.83 of 5 stars 2.83  ·  rating details  ·  307 ratings  ·  73 reviews
A brutally honest memoir of life as an obese woman—
the pain, humiliation . . . and hope



Jennifer Joyner was slowly killing herself with food. She didn’t know what to fear more: dying, or knowing that she was causing her own death. She was powerless to stop. She weighed 336 pounds. She had uncontrolled diabetes and high blood pressure. She’d lost jobs and friendships, and he...more
Paperback, 264 pages
Published September 1st 2010 by skirt!
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Vicki
Well, it's honest, that's for sure. And because the book and its author are so honest, you read some things you wish you hadn't about her. Sometimes when I'm going through book review journals for work, I'll add something to my "to-read" list, and forget why I did. This was one of them. I guess I expected a more cohesive book, but mostly, it's a lot of circling in and out of these passages of self-destruction, self-loathing, and mania. Which is good when you look at it from the perspective of wa...more
Bethany Foster
This isn't a memoir, it's a whiny mess.

Seriously. Worst.book.I've.read.in.a.long.time.

I'm not discrediting that Joyner's struggle with obesity was a difficult one. I have no doubt that it was. I'm sure that she's accurately describing the self esteem and confidence issues, the feelings of worthlessness and self hatred...I don't doubt any of that. But geeeezussss stop whining. I don't know what it was, but every single sentence in this book comes across and whiny and self righteous. It was terrib...more
Wendy Wallace
I, too, respected the author for being extremely honest about her experiences. You know how, in your own mind, you think you're doing horrible things to yourself that other people would be shocked to find out? This is one of those books that makes you realize you're not doing too badly when you read about someone who has done much, much worse. For this I am grateful.

My biggest problem with the book is that it was very disorganized. The author jumped from one past experience to another and then r...more
Connie
Jennifer is very frustrating. I don't think I will ever understand how anyone can stuff themselves so full of food in one sitting as she does, as do all the other morbidly obese people who write about their problems. She had absolutely no self-control or even common sense when it came to feeding herself, and I found that rather annoying. She drove herself to the drive-through windows and ordered for two; she snuck food everywhere and hid the wrappers from everyone, thinking no one would notice....more
Molly
This is really hard to read... I don't know how far I will get.
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Okay. The reason that this was so hard to read was not because of her obesity and detailed descriptions of living large; it was because of the intense self-hatred and fat-hating in general. (Well, the rough writing and jumping back and forth in time didn't help, either.) At times, it was like reading a middle-schooler's diary- just ridiculous amounts of self-loathing, berating, and justifications for being what sounds like a fair...more
Pat Edwards
I was disappointed. I think the author believes she delivered a deep, honest memoir. She never once got beneath the surface and obvious beliefs driving her behavior. The only saving grace of the book is she DOES NOT recommend gastric by-pass surgery, even though she herself had it.
Sarah
TRAIN. WRECK. this women is why people hate fat people. she had more problems than being just fat, which she didn't really figure out until the end of the book. hello?!? depression? coping problems? i could see those from the first fucking chapter. but GOD FUCKING FORBID she take PILLS.

she lied to her doctors. she hid food from her family. yes, she was a food addict, but that is an issue COMPLETELY SEPARATE from the fact that she is/was fat. treat the addiction. treat the depression. work on you...more
Suzanne
I think I'm being generous with 2 stars - if I could I'd go with 1.5 stars. I'll say up front that I don't believe in food 'addictions' and I'm not a big advocate of gastric bypass or lap band surgery, so maybe my experience of the book was tainted. I can say that I have struggled with weight issues most of my life and I do sympathize with the author to some degree, and I do give her a lot of credit for her 'brutal' honesty.

All that said, here's what I thought of the book (and I see many others...more
Liza H
Mar 22, 2011 Liza H rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: done
While I think Joyner was brave in writing this, and while I could actually relate to her (to a point), there were parts about this book, and the writing, which annoyed me. The author's frequent useage of the answer-her-own-question method got tiresome ("Do I think everyone who is obese is depressed? No. Do I hope they find help? Yes." etc.) I know a lot of people complain that the entire thing is "too whiny" but since Joyner says at the very beginning that it's a completely honest account of her...more
Carla
Jul 27, 2011 Carla added it
Mrs. Joyner, a local native to my area, bares all in this book. She recounts her struggle w/food addiction and the difficult choice to undergo gastric bypass surgery. She eloquently describes the destructive and vicious cycle of food addiction and the self loathing that accompanies it. She even recounts humiliating and desperate incidents that hit home for those of us that have been there and done that. Through her account the reader realizes that they are not alone and food addiction is a real...more
Michelle
I am saddened by all the negative reviews of this book. The majority of them seem to be from people who just see the author as a fat person who choses to be fat due to a lack of self control, and who does nothing but whine and complain. These reviews are quite obviously from people who do not understand nor accept food addiction. That is really unfortunate. As a person who is an emotional eater, I found this book to be a pretty accurate depiction of a number of things I have suffered with. Peopl...more
C

I found myself skimming. It jumps back and forth in time in such a disorienting, random way that it became frustrating. It felt like unraveling a sweater over and over. And perhaps that's how her journey with her weight and food addiction felt.

Throughout the entire book, I felt like there was much more going on, that she doesn't see or know to address. There's clearly been an accumulation of bullying and humiliation in her life that would scar the heck out of anyone, but it feels like there's so...more
Erin
I liked this book because it provided an entree into a world I'm not familiar with. It was a window into the pain of the morbidly obese. It gave me more empathy, that's for sure.

My primary criticism of the book is that it had no reasonable timeline. The story would have been MUCH improved if it was told cronologically. Instead she broke it up into topic-related chapters, but it made no sense to me. I couldn't follow her ups and downs with weight and had no handle on her journey by the close of...more
Rachele
This is definitely the anti fat positive book. The author has some strong feelings about anyone that thinks 'big is beautiful', that it is a lie and impossible. She is shallow, judgemental and fat phobic. Thumbs way way down. I can't even get into the whole weight loss surgery being a disaster and she still thinks it is God's gift to the fat. Ugh.
Lisa Eirene
I REALLY wanted to like the book. I could really relate to her bad eating habits, the self-loathing and the pain was real but I was disappointed that she "fixed" her problem with surgery. As someone who lost over 100 pounds "the hard way" it's hard for me to really be interested in reading about someone who took the easy way out.
Krysten
This woman portrays herself as the champion for overweight women (and men) but really she's the perfect postergirl for gastric bypass surgery. Her problems are caused by psychological issues related to food and no amount of diet drugs or surgery will keep her thin and healthy unless she first fixes these problems.
Kristy Viggers-mallet
I found this book incredibly real and powerful at points. The first part of the book I felt well written and very accurate in the portrayal of what food addiction feels like, and what the battle is truly about. Most people will have a difficult time understanding this because they've never BEEN there - just as anyone who's never been an alcoholic thinks you just need to "put down the drink". It is so much more complicated than that, and the author portrays the internal struggle of this incredibl...more
Shannon
I appreciate the writer's honesty but mostly I found myself wanting to smack her. Doctors tried to help her and she didn't follow their advice, stopped taking medication, etc. She is bent on self-destruction to the detriment of her husband and kids.
Sadie
While it is an interesting topic and the author is unflinchingly honest, the writing was atrocious. Also, the author seems to have zero insight about herself, something that is sorely needed in a memoir.
Cathy Brennan
what a dreadful little book!
Ellen Keim
First of all, what was with the cover photo? An empty swimming pool? Because she didn't like to be seen in a bathing suit maybe? That didn't bode well for the book.

Actually, I didn't think her writing was bad. What I got tired of, and why I ended up skipping ahead, was how exhaustive her writing was. She seemed to think that the reader had to know every little thing about her life as a fat person in agonizing detail. I kept thinking, "Enough already. When are you going to get to the part where y...more
Rachel
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Janell P
I kept thinking about the tons of Mountain Dew she claimed to drink and the visits to fast food restaurants and excuses for not being able to lose weight. I felt sympathetic and compassion and could relate to the vicious circle of self-sabotage with regard to her food addiction. She doesn't spend much time writing about her gastric bypass surgery and I wanted to read more about her experience. The bit she did write about was mostly negative because she had some complications. Then two months pos...more
SmarterLilac
Woah.

I have so many conflicted reactions to this memoir, the most significant of which is pity for the extremity of suffering Jennifer Joyner went through during her time as a person with morbid obesity. I confess, the reason I picked up this book was because I felt I needed to try to be more sympathetic to the emotional struggles of overweight people, especially women, and even though I've tried to see it 'their way' in the past, I haven't always been very successful at empathizing. I think thi...more
Kate
This is styled as an addiction memoir, where the author recovered from an addiction to binging on junk food, basically. I don't think it goes far enough. In the addiction stories I've read, the author will generally not expect you to excuse or agree with the destructive behavior -- it was the result of an addiction. But this author seems to expect you to back her up. She explains that she couldn't lose weight by cutting out the Mountain Dew because she doesn't like the taste of diet soda. She sa...more
Heather
This shockingly open, honest memoir really struck a cord with me. As someone who has struggled with an eating disorder, I related to a lot of Jennifer's story. I think a lot of people don't realize that food addiction is an eating disorder and often has similar roots as anorexia and bulimia. Just as with those more commonly known disorders, people with binge eating disorder go through elaborate lengths to hide their problem (though are often not as successful due to weight gain), have a lot of s...more
Angie
What an awakening! To live as an obese person on a daily basis is quite a handicap ... something I never realized. On one hand, parts of this book made me ill by the amount of food this woman could choke down at each meal (2 full size pizzas and a drive through hamburger meal ... this was ONE meal). On the other hand, I felt sorry for her because of her addiction to food. Addiction to food is a bit controversial but I thoroughly believe addiction to anything is possible.

My hairdresser in Bremer...more
Laurie
Sure, the author tended to repeat stories. And yes, the book could have been edited and put together a bit better. There was so much back and forth in time that I had difficulty figuring out where we were on the timeline. But I do have to give Jennifer Joyner props for writing so candidly about a personal struggle with food and weight. I'm sure it's hard for anyone to talk about how you're too obese to have sex with your husband or that you have so many fat rolls you start to get yeast infection...more
Kim
Not written well, as many reviewers have pointed out, but many people will find something of themselves, or someone they love, in these pages. It seemed obvious to me that this woman's problems most likely had a food allergen component that was never identified, and that she was probably extremely sensitive to MSG, an excitotoxin that is frequently found in fast food. We may judge her extreme self-hatred as self-indulgent, but the truth of the matter is that our brains do not work well in the ab...more
Allison
It's a frank look at food addiction and how addiction makes her do things she knows are bad for her.
So much self-loathing and self-hatred; painful to read.
Wishful thinking ... "If I could just..."
As my wise friend once said: Any sentence that contains that sentence structure is meaningless. (I've probably got that wrong)
"If she could just..." "If he would just..." "She should just...."
Look, if she could just stop eating she would have. It's obviously not that easy when addicted.
The take-away...more
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