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Natalie Sterling wants to be in control. She wants her friends to be loyal. She wants her classmates to elect her student council president. She wants to find the right guy, not the usual jerk her school has to offer. She wants a good reputation, because she believes that will lead to good things.

But life is messy, and it's very hard to be in control of it. Not when ther

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Hardcover, 322 pages
Published September 1st 2010 by Push
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Emily May


In short, this book is about high school, sexuality, girl power, challenging the "slut" idea... to say I wanted to love it would be an understatement. This book gets right down to the issues I am interested in and I appreciate any attempt to remind young men and women that, at the end of the day, most of us just really are that kind regardless of gender or sexual preference. As long as it's done with safety and consent, I don't think teen sex is a bad thing.

And I would love, I repeat love, to g...more
Tatiana
Feb 01, 2011 Tatiana rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Tatiana by: Heather
Shelves: ala-ya-2011, 2011, ya
Ok, after meditating on this story during my yoga class, I am going to knock off a star. The more I think about it, the more it seems to me the message this novel sends is rather wishy-washy.

I appreciate any YA book that explores the subject of female sexuality. And Not That Kind Of Girl conveys the sort-of-feminist message that if a girls has sex, she doesn't automatically become a slut, quite well. I just wish the author didn't choose to deliver this message by making the main female characte...more
Heather
When I picked up Not that kind of Girl, I was expecting light and fluffy. After all, the cover boasts a young, pretty couple in the throes of what looks to be a sweet, affectionate kiss. Naturally, I assumed this book would contain a three star YA romance albeit with some added teenage emotional drama for added conflict. In other words, I was expecting a Dessen novel, but what I got was so much more. While I was anticipating a cutesy romance, I received a wonderful tale about what it means to be...more
Cory
Apr 20, 2011 Cory rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Fans of Sarah Dessen and Elizabeth Scott
Recommended to Cory by: Tatiana
Eh, not bad. Kind of heavy on the messages though. And the cover is misleading. This isn't really heavy on the romance. Thankfully, it focuses more on girl/girl friendships. The first 1/3rd was four-star material. In fact, it reminded me of Saving Francesca. The second half was two-star material. It was very All-American Girl.

I don't agree with a lot of the messages, and only two characters really stood out: Spencer and Natalie. The rest were two-dimensional. Autumn had potential, but the messag...more
Tammara
Mar 25, 2011 Tammara added it
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This is going onto my Favorite Books Ever list. If you know what it's like to be a "good girl" but feel compelled to do something "bad" that, strangely, you don't feel bad for doing (but still feel the need to hide it), then you'll understand and feel a kinship with Natalie.

Natalie has all the good intentions in the world. She wants to be a good friend, she wants to develop her leadership abilities, she wants to concentrate on her academics. She's been doing these things for most of her high sch...more
Ariana
This book was as beautiful as the cover. I loved it!



The cover
I've been waiting to read this book from the moment I first saw the cover. Look at it. Isn't it beautiful? Not only the girl and the boy (they are cute), but that precise moment.

In my opinion this is one of the best moments in life (not as great as for example, holding your baby in your arms for the first time, but anyways you get my point).
It's one of those moments that fill your heart with joy and anticipation and in every cell of...more
Nomes
Not That Kind of Girl is my third Siobhan Vivian book. I've read all her books in order: A Little Friendly Advice was cute but perhaps too lower YA for me (in themes, vibe). I really loved Same Difference ~ it has some aspects that make the book very much my thing ~ an artistic setting (summer art school) and an older YA crush (her college-aged assistant art teacher-y guy) and it's themes are strong but subtly explored.

However, I struggled with her third novel. Not in terms of reading it (read i...more
Susan
Natalie's a humorless pill, the worst kind of feminist stereotype. She's a bad friend; she's also pushy, manipulative, and controlling. She sneaks away to make out with Connor, who actually is a nice guy, but she's ashamed of what she's doing and very judgmental of his motives.

Beyond the issue that Natalie is straight-up unpleasant and the book is from her POV, Vivian's message about girls and sexuality is about as clear as mud and as well rounded as a brick.

She skates around the idea that adole...more
Janina
Well. I just flew through Not That Kind of Girl in a couple of hours this afternoon. If you are wondering, yes, I actually would have had other, more important things to do. Such as studying, for example. But after exhausting myself pointlessly on a 6x6 matrix for about an hour, I decided to throw in the towel and reward myself with some quality book time. Which is something the main character here, Natalie, probably would not approve of.

Natalie has big goals in life. She is more intelligent th...more
Kristy
Mar 06, 2011 Kristy rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: high school girls!
This was a little bit too black and white for me, too "this is good and this is bad". The lines were drawn. This is what a good girl is, this is what a bad girl is. This is how it's supposed to be.
Almost too much "Girl Power", feminism for me. It loses a few points for me because it doesn't seem all that realistic and the characters weren't all that likeable.

That being said, I have to give credit to an author who is not promoting teen sex. The bad girl is not the winner. The good girl might no...more
Jen
I've been dying to read "Not That Kind of Girl" for the longest freaking time. I have no idea why it took me so long to actually BUY the book. I am one of those people who actually likes covers with PDA. Not the whole bodice-ripper kind with the castles in the background and hiked up dresses, but the simple, straightforward message: YOUNG LURVE.

And that's precisely what I got with NTKoG. But not without a struggle.

Natalie's character is the girl I wish I could've been in high school. Determine...more
Jessica
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Hmm, what to say what to say...

My main problem with this? I wanted to strangle the protagonist. God, she was so annoying! I mean, I am a woman, I usually know what I want and I think I’m doing fairly well in achieving my goals and I certainly do have self-respect but this feminazi of a heroine really took matters too far for my taste. I just couldn’t relate to her at all. I’m sorry, I don’t mean to offend anybody but I honestly couldn’t care less whether or not...more
Arlene
I’ve had my eye on Not that Kind of Girl for a while and after seeing some favorable reviews by my trusted GR friends, I thought I’d give it try. Great choice! I definitely enjoyed it and breezed right through the book in a few short hours. It’s fun, fast paced and filled with characters that I can relate to and care for quite easily. Lovely!

Natalie Sterling is someone I would have probably befriended while I was in high school. She’s determined, studious, smart, a slight type-A control freak an...more
Flannery
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Priscilla
Surprise, surprise, what do we have here...?

First impressions:
1) Not a cute, lovey dovey romance story at all. A high school experience that's realistic and harsh.
2) Natalie is definitely flawed, definitely annoying, but there's definite growth in her character.
3) I really liked the distinct personalities of the main characters.
4) Fast-paced, but wished there was more in-depth look into the relationship between Natalie and Connor.
5) Focused more on friendships than boys which was refreshing.

Full...more
Michael
Based on the cover art alone, Not That Kind of Girl isn't typical of the type of book I usually read. But as the old saying goes, never judge a book by its cover.

If I'd passed this book because of the cover, I might have missed an intriguing character study and a young adult novel that examines some fairly interesting questions.

Natalie is a very driven young woman. She's on top of her class, wants to be student body president and active in making sure that women aren't judged only for their ext...more
Rosanne
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Lena ♫ ♪
If you've ever been the sarcastic, smart girl who knows boyfriends aren't everything, this is the book for you.

Natalie Sterling is your typical-but-not-so-typical girl who doesn't care what other girls think. She knows who she is, what she wants, what's right and what's wrong. At least she thought she did. After a messy election for student council president, she seems to be spending more and more time with Connor Hughes. You see folks, Connor is the quarterback of the football, and boys are no...more
Rebekah
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Canoeu
I am apparently not the kind of girl who likes this kind of book. har-har.

In all seriousness, this book brings up so many messages that I would hate to see young girls picking up. Feminism is not the feminazi's and it is not being so overtly sexual to be all-powerful. It's about equality and being ok with who you are.

I think the end message of this book does agree with me, but it is completely overshadowed by the feminazism of Natalie and Ms Bee and the overtly sexual Spencer and other Rosstitu...more
Sara Grochowski
I'm not really sure why I waited so long to read one of Siobhan Vivian's novels, but, after NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL, I'll be definitely be reading the rest as soon as possible.


Natalie Sterling is a typical teen with very rigid views of what's right and wrong. For the most part, her entire high school career has gone according to plan, but his year things start to fall apart. Before she knows what's happening the line between right and wrong has begun to blur and Natalie finding herself slowly vent...more
Nicole
Page 15: "I nodded, even though it felt weird to be discussing things like divorce with Spencer. I was pretty sure our last conversation involved me trying to convince her that Lucky Charms would make a terrible pizza topping." -Natalie

Page 73: "I'd give my left arm for a chance to chat up Connor Hughes. That boy is . . . ungodly hot. He looks like he's been raised on whole milk and fresh blueberry muffins." -Spencer

Page 114: "There were a lot of big projects on the horizon, like the fall flower...more
Steph Su
NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL, Siobhan Vivian’s third novel, succeeds where few other contemporary YAs do: it features a smart, determined, but not always nice or right female protagonist and a strong message of the different definitions of what female empowerment entails.

Natalie is not a straightforwardly sympathetic protagonist. She’s smart and has obviously accomplished much, yes, and her narration is delightful for the “over-read” YA reader: anguished and angsty, determined and stubborn, without bei...more
Erin
This is a story about a girl that has put up walls because some boys are mean. Natalie is basically Miss Perfect. She attends an elite school, where she is only the ninth female president in the history of the school and she has a lot of pressure to act like she is perfect, but she also doesn't want to let anyone in.

She loses her best friend, the one person that she could count on to hang out with her and that is when she finds that she just might be falling in love with a boy she thinks is exa...more
Thebookbutterfly
Before I started Not That Kind Of Girl, I had all kinds of expectations. I was thinking tough, intelligent protagonist on the one-road track to Harvard. I was thinking swoon-y romance with the wrong sort of guy. I was thinking snappy dialogue and the kind of female empowerment that makes my heart swell.

This book...dodged my expectations a bit. Not in a bad way, just in a different way. It didn't have to live up to the standards I'd set for it, I just wanted it an enjoyable contemp. to escape int...more
Jessica
I really enjoyed this book. Natalie is a very strong-minded girl who stands up for what she wants. But what if she isn't sure of what she wants? She's always stayed away from guys because they all seemed like jerks that sleep around and leave the girl. She learned from her friend that guys can't be trusted. Now she's trying to remain focused only on school and be one of the few girls to ever be named student council president.

The campaign turns out to be a hard fight between Natalie and one of...more
Angela
I recognized a lot of my high-school-self in Natalie early on. Focused on friends and school, and feeling none of the boys were "good enough" to waste time on. I just didn't understand the obsession that started pulling my friends away from our sleepovers and clubs and classes.

So I had a lot of sympathy for Natalie from the very beginning, even though I'd like to think that she's way more overbearing than I ever was (I didn't continue to remind my friends of mortifying events that happened years...more
Rose
"Not that Kind of Girl" is a difficult book for me to rate, and I spent some time trying to figure where on the scale I fell about it. The rolling action and dynamic of the characterization was good, that I can't contest. While it's a book that explores the perception of teenage sexuality, specifically female sexuality and how it's perceived, the portrayal seems to have a disconnect.

The premise revolves around Natalie, a young woman who's a "take charge of every situation" girl, but somehow has...more
Valerie
Not That Kind of Girl by Siobhan Vivian

Natalie is a senior and running for student council president. She doesn’t think much of guys. Her best friend was humiliated by one in their freshmen year and Natalie can’t let anyone forget about it. She doesn’t have a boyfriend and doesn’t want one. None of them are good enough for her. Her only friend, Amber, tries to overcome the humiliation thing and wants to be a part of the social things that happen at school but Natalie only wants to pad her colleg...more
Julie
High school can be rough. No matter where you are or what school you go to, gossip is a given. In this book, Vivian delves into the adolescent mind to bring about an all too 'could be real' book about coming of age. The struggle everyone has to be accepted, but feeling the need to stretch budding wings as adults, always comes to pass with scrapes and bruises along the way.

The main character Natalie Sterling is an ideal teenager if you are a teacher or parent. She studies hard and will let nothi...more
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Siobhan Vivian is the author of THE LIST, NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL, SAME DIFFERENCE, and A LITTLE FRIENDLY ADVICE. She also co-wrote BURN FOR BURN, the first novel in a planned trilogy, with her best friend JENNY HAN. She currently lives in Pittsburgh.
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