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Click: The Magic of Instant Connections
by
Ori Brafman (Goodreads Author),
Rom Brafman
You know the feeling. You meet someone new—at a party or at work—and you just hit it off. There is an instant sense of camaraderie.
In a word, you “click.”
From the bestselling authors of Sway, Click is a fascinating psychological investigation of the forces behind what makes us click with certain people, or become fully immersed in whatever activity or situation we’re invol...more
In a word, you “click.”
From the bestselling authors of Sway, Click is a fascinating psychological investigation of the forces behind what makes us click with certain people, or become fully immersed in whatever activity or situation we’re invol...more
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published
June 8th 2010
by Crown Business
(first published January 1st 2010)
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I agree with the previous reviewer that the book is one of many that are churned out based on trusted Gladwell's formula: breezy writing style and personal anecdotes linked to the results of the science experiments.
Obviously, the formula works and I do not object to using it per se, but the lack of depth and novelty in this one is quite disappointing. A few experiments are discussed but there is hardly a discussion on causality and the ambiguity in the interpretation of their results. Neither t...more
Obviously, the formula works and I do not object to using it per se, but the lack of depth and novelty in this one is quite disappointing. A few experiments are discussed but there is hardly a discussion on causality and the ambiguity in the interpretation of their results. Neither t...more
Click was written in the same vein as Malcolm Gladwell's Blink and Outliers. Like Gladwell, the authors assemble empirical evidence to prove our universal capacity for greatness, but they do so with less verve, worse prose, and more cynicism. Their book is part of a growing genre that I consider MBA junk science, the distillation of lite social science into recipes for corporate success.
The authors collect anecdotes about meaningful and successful (and profitable) relationships, and they dissect...more
The authors collect anecdotes about meaningful and successful (and profitable) relationships, and they dissect...more
I picked this up at the airport, because I recognized the Brafman brothers names and because it was a short read, < 200 pages.
Being interested in teams and how to facilitate creating awesome teams, I knew most of what was in this book already. I feel I had lot of takeaway anyway, such as some new nice stories and reading about some more experiments. For sure also deepened my understanding by adding some more views on things and giving me a chance to reflect.
Special likes
- Part about levels of...more
Being interested in teams and how to facilitate creating awesome teams, I knew most of what was in this book already. I feel I had lot of takeaway anyway, such as some new nice stories and reading about some more experiments. For sure also deepened my understanding by adding some more views on things and giving me a chance to reflect.
Special likes
- Part about levels of...more
*Magically clickable*
Have you ever felt that magic when you just instantly click with someone? Although it's hard to find the words and explanations for this intense connection, the brother-author team do a remarkable job in demystifying just what makes us click. It may seem as if clicking (or not) with someone is largely a matter of luck or chance, but it turns out there are factors we can optimize to accelerate the clickage, including vulnerability, proximity, resonance, and place.
And, talk a...more
Have you ever felt that magic when you just instantly click with someone? Although it's hard to find the words and explanations for this intense connection, the brother-author team do a remarkable job in demystifying just what makes us click. It may seem as if clicking (or not) with someone is largely a matter of luck or chance, but it turns out there are factors we can optimize to accelerate the clickage, including vulnerability, proximity, resonance, and place.
And, talk a...more
The ability to connect with so many different people is one part of my job as a librarian that I love. Sometimes, however, those connections are very powerful and extraordinary. You know when you are interacting with the other person that things are just – “clicking”. Whether it is with a total stranger, or a coworker as we work on a project, or a loved one, that sensation of connecting is almost magical. When you are clicking with another person you are able to bounce ideas back and forth witho...more
I very much enjoyed the Brafmans' first book, Sway, which described the irrational forces that guide our daily behaviors. So I was very much looking forward to their latest book, Click, subtitled "The magic of instant connections," and thankfully it didn't disappoint. We've all had those instant connections: love at first sight, a new friend you can talk to as though you've known each other your whole lives, a business connection who takes your game to the next level. The Brafman brothers argue...more
I read about 50 pages of this nonfiction book about why some relationships are easy from the start, because of factors like proximity and pheremones. It reminded me a lot of a Malcolm Gladwell book, combining anecdotes with reports on research, delving into science and psychology, and deliberately structuring and balancing the elements of storytelling and facts to hook the reader. Where Gladwell is successful, the Brafmans fall a bit flat, for me; and I can't quite put my finger on why. I didn't...more
A lot of the reviews I skimmed over said it was written in a style like Gladwell's Blink and Outliers. Never read those. But I can see how some of them wouldn't like the style of Click and see it as soft pseudo-science/pseudo-psychology or something. It's not written in a tough hard-core APA/psychologist style.
While reading the book I did wonder how they would cite their sources, because there were no foot- or end-notes. Their style was different; they had a section in the back, a chapter names...more
While reading the book I did wonder how they would cite their sources, because there were no foot- or end-notes. Their style was different; they had a section in the back, a chapter names...more
Have you ever met someone and immediately “clicked” with them? How did that make you feel? Brothers Ori & Rom Brafman describe this as “quick-set intimacy” - and they say we can increase the number of these connections we experience with others. They say there are benefits to “clicking” with people. First, clicking brings about a unique, almost euphoric state, one that we describe as “magical.” Second, it permanently alters the fundamental nature of the relationship. Last and least recognize...more
I wanted to get a book out of the library, but I didn't have anything in particular in mind. I wandered around the shelves hoping that I would know it when I saw it. I was about to give up and then Click!
I love the experience of clicking. I've clicked with all of the people I've had serious relationships with. I tend to think of it in that context, so that was one thing that was interesting to me to learn about in this book--people clicking on a professional level.
Honestly all I wanted from the...more
I love the experience of clicking. I've clicked with all of the people I've had serious relationships with. I tend to think of it in that context, so that was one thing that was interesting to me to learn about in this book--people clicking on a professional level.
Honestly all I wanted from the...more
Though a short book that doesn't bring a whole lot of originality to the table, I was somewhat taken with Click. Yes, some of the anecdotes didn't truly follow and some of the studies and did not seem exactly methodologically sound* but the ideas expressed were worthwhile.
The seven accelerators:
1. Vulnerability ("There's power in vulnerability")
2. Proximity ("A few feet can make a big difference")
3. Resonance ("Resonance begets resonance")
4. Similarity ("Similarity counts; quantity trumps q...more
The seven accelerators:
1. Vulnerability ("There's power in vulnerability")
2. Proximity ("A few feet can make a big difference")
3. Resonance ("Resonance begets resonance")
4. Similarity ("Similarity counts; quantity trumps q...more
This book was purchased as an audio book for a recent road trip. I found it totally fascinating. Rom Brafman and Ori Brafman are back. I did enjoy Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior and was looking forward to learning more about our brains and human behavior. This book focuses on what the thing is that makes two people click - that magical moment when your relationship flows and things just work.
There were great stories and examples about people who clicked - in business, person...more
There were great stories and examples about people who clicked - in business, person...more
The book tries to figure out why and/or how people "click". But something just didn't click. Many people describe this as a Gladwell-like book. Maybe more described a Gladwell-light book. Reading Gladwell, I feel like I'm onto something. Reading Brafman ... I feel like something is just beyond the corner of my eye.
I really do wish they spent more time on the hostage negotiator ... who I felt had the most fascinating story.
I do think the authors missed an important part of clicking .. the person...more
It's an elaborate explanation of a bunch of ideas that can be summarized on a one page diagram. Interesting examples are given to illustrate the points but I almost wish the author took more of a risk and discussed more about how non-high-monitoring individuals can genuinely become more relate-able and clickable. I suppose if one were to follow the "recipe" for what makes people click, then it would work but then how does one go from imitation to being genuine. It would also be nice if it discus...more
copy the conclusion and the notes, also the graphic of the concepts
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Finding Magic
1 (24)
Chapter 2 The Vulnerable Hostage Negotiator and the Click Accelerators
25 (27)
Chapter 3 The Power of Proximity
52 (27)
Chapter 4 When Everything Clicks
79 (24)
Chapter 5 The Seductive Power of Similarity
103 (19)
Chapter 6 Fire, Combat, and Nathan's Living Room: The Role of Place
122 (23)
Chapter 7 Naturals
145 (20)
Chapter 8 Personal Elevation
165 (20)
Conclusion: Bringing It All...more
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Finding Magic
1 (24)
Chapter 2 The Vulnerable Hostage Negotiator and the Click Accelerators
25 (27)
Chapter 3 The Power of Proximity
52 (27)
Chapter 4 When Everything Clicks
79 (24)
Chapter 5 The Seductive Power of Similarity
103 (19)
Chapter 6 Fire, Combat, and Nathan's Living Room: The Role of Place
122 (23)
Chapter 7 Naturals
145 (20)
Chapter 8 Personal Elevation
165 (20)
Conclusion: Bringing It All...more
The author actually sent me a pre-publication copy of this book to read. I had read and reviewed their first book, Sway, and found it fascinating, so one would expect a favorable review of this book as well.
I love this genre (think Malcolm Gladwell or Freakonomics), and this big was no exception. The research they touched on and stories they told where all about what makes people "click" in relationships, from romantic to business, and the stories and insight are interesting. Some of it is rathe...more
I love this genre (think Malcolm Gladwell or Freakonomics), and this big was no exception. The research they touched on and stories they told where all about what makes people "click" in relationships, from romantic to business, and the stories and insight are interesting. Some of it is rathe...more
I've been thinking a lot lately about friendships and connections in this age of Facebook, Twitter, texting, and email, so I really enjoyed this book. In an odd little coincidence, the two Kelly Hildebrants mentioned in this book, who met and married, were in the news a couple of weeks ago because they've divorced. But it's still interesting that they met (through Facebook) and married. It reminded me of a couple I knew in junior high, male and female Laceys who started dating, and eventually ma...more
It was pretty good; but it didn't go far enough. It doesn't research or give information on how to be the person to make relationships click.
My g/f moved liked Sway. It's a fun pop-psychology book, and "CLick" is of a similar style.
Click moves quickly, and has some great stories about people who have to click quickly - hostage negotiators, high self monitors, college basketball stars, a gregarious art professor.
The book is a primer to interpersonal dynamics. One of my favorite sections was about how the language people use can allow for bonding. Like a hierarchy you can move from phallic, factual, evaluative, gut-level to peak statem...more
Click moves quickly, and has some great stories about people who have to click quickly - hostage negotiators, high self monitors, college basketball stars, a gregarious art professor.
The book is a primer to interpersonal dynamics. One of my favorite sections was about how the language people use can allow for bonding. Like a hierarchy you can move from phallic, factual, evaluative, gut-level to peak statem...more
Surprisingly short, Click is a Gladwell-y book, which I am a known sucker for. It covers the "magical" feeling of really connecting wiyh someone. The first part of the book is about when people are likely to click: vulnerability, proximity, resonance (or "flow"), similarity (quantity, not quality!), and a safe space. The second and shorter part covers the benefits of clicking, which seemed pretty obvious: you're happier and perform better.
The book has interesting real-life examples and studies....more
The book has interesting real-life examples and studies....more
This book could have been much shorter. It did not require as many anecdotes to explain the concept of "clicking." The anecdotes were actually distracting because the authors jumped around between stories while explaining the concepts of clicking. Many times, when I had braced myself for revealing insight behind why two people clicked, the authors would just say, "And do you know why these two people got along so well? Because they clicked." This is definitely a book you should check out from th...more
This book was a quick, fun read. It’s far more anecdotal than scientific, but I think this is what makes it such an engaging read. Even if there IS some science behind why we click with others, it’s far more interesting to hear about others who have “clicked.” What I found the most interesting is that in the middle of reading the book, I went to a grocery store and was buying wine, so I was carded. The clerk said, “Oh, my birthday is two days before yours!” I told her “Cool!” and remembered thin...more
I read this book during travel to visit my daughter in NYC. At first I didn't really like it all that well.... kinda dry. But I liked how they did a review outline at the end of each chapter. This helped me to build on the knowledge as each chapter went by. I'd quickly re-leaf through the chapter and then go to the next. At the end, you had an entire outline to review. This helped the book, pardon the pun, to click. One thing about the book is that it didn't really present much information that...more
Jun 14, 2010
Taka
rated it
2 of 5 stars
·
review of another edition
Shelves:
japan_jul07-aug10,
social-science
Interesting and Disappointing--
The book covers seven "accelerators" that may or may not help you to have what the authors choose to call "the magical moment of clicking with someone." The premise of the book - how people click with each other - is fascinating and its promise - of learning the elements to click - almost irresistible.
Alas, the authors fail to deliver on both accounts.
They go over 7 factors that are supposedly present when we click with someone, but they unfortunately do not - int...more
The book covers seven "accelerators" that may or may not help you to have what the authors choose to call "the magical moment of clicking with someone." The premise of the book - how people click with each other - is fascinating and its promise - of learning the elements to click - almost irresistible.
Alas, the authors fail to deliver on both accounts.
They go over 7 factors that are supposedly present when we click with someone, but they unfortunately do not - int...more
This nonfiction book examines why and how people connect to each other on a deeper level than incipient friendship. The author explains what research reveals how weathering an emotional time or a trauma together, communicating deep experiences or emotions, making oneself vulnerable, and other qualities or experiences bind us to others in ways we may not even be aware of. The concepts, with engaging examples and explanations make for good reading that provides valuable insights into how humans wo...more
May 29, 2012
Amy Denim
rated it
5 of 5 stars
·
review of another edition
Shelves:
read-by-audio,
romance-research
Wow, just wow. This book should be read by everyone who is interested in people, at all. I wanted the information so I could use it in my characterizations, but it's also brilliant for every other aspect of life where we interact with people. It should be required reading for anyone in business. I can't believe how many great tips and studies the authors presented, and all in a very, lay person kinda way. READ IT (or listen to it in the car, like I did). Then apply it to your everyday life.
This book by the brothers Brafman digs deep into that mysterious experience of instant connection. I appreciated how they grounded their discoveries in practical recommendations; they don't just explain the phenomenon; they tell us how we can use it to our advantage in our personal and professional lives. While a few more concrete examples of people who have proactively implemented their suggestions would have helped, the book is still really interesting and surprisingly practical.
A book that tries to explore why sometimes we 'click' instantly with some other people. The writing style reminds me of Malcolm Gladwells, with interesting anecdotes, which then leads to theories and experiments. It is an easy reading for most people, and quite short in length.
I only give it '3 stars' because there is no ground-breaking insight like 'Blink' or 'Outliers'. Some of the 'click principles' are quite obvious, and serve as a reminder (plus some scientific backing). It is NOT a "bad re...more
I only give it '3 stars' because there is no ground-breaking insight like 'Blink' or 'Outliers'. Some of the 'click principles' are quite obvious, and serve as a reminder (plus some scientific backing). It is NOT a "bad re...more
Aug 21, 2010
Elizabeth
rated it
5 of 5 stars
·
review of another edition
Recommends it for:
business folks
Shelves:
about-my-life
from the library
4 cd's read unabridged from the book
copied all cd's
for Laurie
In swimming pools, the exposure can be to chlorine gas
or to hydrogen chloride and sodium hypochlorite. Incidents
may occur by the emission of chlorine vapors or from
undissolved bubbles of chlorine gas that burst at the pool
surface.4,5 Alternatively, one can be exposed to high concentrations
of sodium hypochlorite dissolved in the water
due to the malfunction of the chlorinating system.6 When
inhaled, chlorine is highly irri...more
4 cd's read unabridged from the book
copied all cd's
for Laurie
In swimming pools, the exposure can be to chlorine gas
or to hydrogen chloride and sodium hypochlorite. Incidents
may occur by the emission of chlorine vapors or from
undissolved bubbles of chlorine gas that burst at the pool
surface.4,5 Alternatively, one can be exposed to high concentrations
of sodium hypochlorite dissolved in the water
due to the malfunction of the chlorinating system.6 When
inhaled, chlorine is highly irri...more
What I like? The flowchart at the end of each chapter summarizing the key points, and the way it is building up and reinforcing the concepts uptill the ending chapter. I also like the "Conclusion: Bringing it all together" chapter which works like succinct explanation for the flowchart. The Notes at the end are also a good source for further exploration as they would point you to the relevant direction of reference to look for in this subject area.
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