Boys Adrift

Boys Adrift

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Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, American boys are, on average, less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ago. The gender gap in college attendance and graduation rates has widened dramatically. While Emily is working hard at school and getting A’s, her brother Justin is goofing off. He’s more concerned ab

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Published October 1st 2009 by Basic Books (first published February 15th 2005)
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Debbie
Apr 30, 2009 Debbie rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: all parents of boys
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I started reading this book after hearing about it from a mom of a teenage boy. Her son is a good kid: good student, practices his faith, athletic, mannerly, but she saw warning signs of how easily good kids can go astray when they don’t have someone to help guide them. If she was concerned about her son, I figured I ought to be concerned about mine, since I have five, and three of them still have many years before they enter the turbulent teens. Best to be prepared.

It didn’t take like before I...more
Marianneosharp
So, before I forget all that I've learned I need to share. I read this book after Allison told me she was reading it and have now recommended it STRONGLY to many of my friends. It's a pretty quick read and makes you aware of big issues that every parent of boys should educate themselves on. These are a few of the resolutions I've made after having read this book.

First of all, I will be aware that the public school system is "feminized". Sax, the author, says it would help parents and teachers al...more
Michelle


Dr. Sax outlines in detail five factors that he claims are responsible for disengaging boys from school, life, and the real world of striving and achievement and loss. The five factors are 1) the feminization of the public school system, 2) video games, 3) medications for ADHD, 4) endocrine disruptors, and 5) the complex issues surrounding the transition from childhood to adulthood when so many positive role models for boys have been lost.

This was a fascinating book to read even if you don't en...more
Nomi
Sax, an M.D. and PHD in psychology addresses the very real problem of boys and their underachievement. In a well-researched highly readable format Sax makes the case that video games (according to brain scans they can cause promote overaggression adn laziness in certain regions of the brain besides causing the usual disengagement from reality), recent teaching methods (teaching children to read and write too soon-especially boys who lag behind girls in this area anyway-, not enough competitivene...more
Patrick
Absolutely fascinating book on the development of boys in this country, their lack of motivation, and why boys are not becoming men. I highly recommend that any man read this book, especially if he has a son.

As a Christian, the ultimate priority is that our boys learn to be like Christ. This is a secular book that will not teach one how to do that. However, this book looks at many issues that are affecting boys in the church, and addresses those accurately for the most part.
Kat Hardy
Nov 09, 2007 Kat Hardy rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: parents/teachers/educators/therapists who work with boys
This book focuses on the kind of guy who is living in his parents' basement at the age of 30, working part-time for Dominos and perfectly content for life to contine just like that. There are five factors that the author names that contribute to this phenomenon - some of which we can influence and some of which are so pervasive in our culture there's a tough battle to make any change. I really had my eyes opened and I want anyone who works with boys - especially in the schools - to read this boo...more
Maribel
This is the best explanation of the growing phenomenon of "man-boy" I have read. It's alarming what are society is encouraging that creates this serious epidemic of boys that never grow up into men.
Marcus
Wow! If you have a young boy you owe it to them to read this book. I am amazed how much has changed since I grew up in the late 1970' and early 1980's. Author describes how factors such as 1). Changes in school curriculum 2). ADHD medicine 3). Video games 4). lack of male role models & 5). Estrogen products in the environment combine to drive boys to "check out" from the real world and kill their motivation. I certainly would have been diagnosed with Attention Deficeit Disorder if I was grow...more
Ed
A fascinating book that I would recommend to anyone, especially those who are parents to boys or teachers of boys. I read this book partly because I wondered if it could explain my weak motivation. It didn't, but it was fascinating nonetheless and I'm glad that I read it. I have previously entertained worries about the state of men starting in my generation and continuing on, seeing such a stratospheric rise in pornography, video game usage and lack of success and engagement within the education...more
Laura
Quite possibly one of the worst "non fiction " books I've picked up in a long long time. His hypothesis is there are 5 factors driving the lack of ambition in boys. The chapter on ADHD medication made my blood boil. He says meds are one of the five factors yet less than 10% of children are medicated for ADHD? This makes NO SENSE.

I looked at his footnotes and many are NON peer reviewed links to his own articles. Absolutely zero research to support his theories. Further he mentions the increase in...more
Josh Morris
In Boys Adrift, Leonard Sax seeks to address an undeniable phenomenon in our culture: the widespread lack of motivation and underachievement of young men. What’s really new about the situation, Sax argues, is "the young man isn’t bothered by his situation." Another worrying change is that today’s boys are not motivated to succeed in any area. He argues, it’s not just school, but also career, relationships, or other real-world schemes. They are content to live at home indefinitely, fool around, r...more
Walt
With the name Eddy, perhaps you can imagine why I got interested in being adrift. You know, swirling around, unanchored, etc.

Anyway, I read BOYS ADRIFT recently, after my brother-in-law finished it. He seemed to like it, thought it had direct application.

My boys are grown up and men now. That doesn't necessarily mean they're totally moored, but it does mean the responsibility, even any deleterious consequences to themselves and others therefrom if they're not, has more or less shifted entirely...more
Sanz
Likely the best parenting book I've ever read and a must read for anyone with sons. I highlighted like crazy in this book. The author sites 5 factors that are driving the decline of boys:

1. Video Games: Research on video games suggests that games stimulate a part of the brain called the nucleus accumbens in much the same way that crack cocaine affects the same area. The author also claims that in his experience, boys who are addicted to video games are also more likely to become addicted to porn...more
Ellisa Barr
This was an interesting book I'd recommend to anyone raising a son. Although you might not agree with everything the author says, it will make you think.

Basically, Dr. Sax explains what he thinks are the reasons so many boys are less motivated and apathetic. Other reviewers here give a good list of these so I won't go into them too much. But he says boys are over-medicated, under-physical, affected by chemicals all around us - particularly in plastics, they play too many video games, and there d...more
Jocie
Coed education, video games, ritalin, toxins, no role models- oh my!

Trying to raise young MEN in our current culture? What makes a real man? NOT someone who is still living off of his parents of wife so he can lounge around, it seems most people are in agreement upon that... The IQ of young men has been dropping since the 90's, while 'failure to launch' has doubled. Why?

This book gives a lot of food for thought, and is research-based. I am not convinced about the toxins yet (maybe I don't know w...more
Deanna
This is a good one. It came highly recommended (on TJED muse?-I can't remember now!) and was well worth the read. If you have a boy and you can get it from the library I recommend that you at least skim it.

Many of the ideas presented were not new by any means, but I appreciated the author's style and found myself engrossed in his message and thoughts.

I believe he identified key reasons for the lack-luster male in today's society and he then presented ways to fix the epidemic. I'm not generally...more
Kat
This was recommended by a friend and I thought it was excellent food for thought. The author is both a family physician and a psychologist and has been devoting his life to studying gender differences, etc. His first book "Why Gender Matters" is not in any Library in Lubbock (strangely enough, not even at Tech), and deals with boys and girls. This one obviously deals with boys issues, namely: I. the problems with the US educational system in dealing with boys, II. over diagnoses of ADHD and asso...more
Peter
Many sections of this book were quite interesting. I categorically disagree with Sax's condemnation of video game playing, especially violent ones. I say that as someone who has never been much of a gamer.

I think the problems with video games are closely linked to the problems with general consumerism in American culture. The satisfactions derived are neither hard-earned nor long-lasting. They are a form of mental masturbation that very rarely involves critical thinking. That being said, I don't...more
Gloria
This book, borrowed from the library, was recommended via a GT list-serv. I did breeze through it, fyi.

Found the first half perhaps most interesting, particular the chapter that introduced, or re-introduced to me Nietzsche's notion of "will to power". Also appreciated Sax's detailed discussion (both regarding the etymology and comparison of definitions) regarding the word "know". I do agree with him on that point.

I had to remember that Sax's does embrace, or at least gloss into, an essentialist...more
Rachelterry
Excellent book! Dr. Sax makes a well-documented case for his 5-pronged theory of why modern American boys seem so unmotivated. I found some of his reasons surprising, but after reading his reasoning, they make sense. I was a little skeptical of the phthalates connection, but after doing a little outside research, it seems that he's spot on.

The writing is fluid and conversational, and I like his writing voice because it's fair and measured. My only complaint about this book is that I wish he woul...more
Elevate Difference
Most of the attention Dr. Leonard Sax gets is for his advocacy of single sex education for boys. In his first book, Why Gender Matters: What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences, Sax described the developmental and biological differences between the sexes and how contemporary early education puts boys at a disadvantage. In his follow up, Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men, Sax elab...more
Susan Visser
This is a book that just about everyone should read. I know that every generation has complained about the younger generation since time began, but do we really understand what some of our cultural and environmental changes are doing to the younger generation? I didn't understand till I read this very convincing book.

The book focuses on unmotivated boys and the reasons behind this very scary trend. Actually, many of the boys affected are now adults and you may know some underachievers, slackers,...more
David
Eye-opening! I read this book because it was one of the few titles that popped up on a library catalog for "underachieving", something I've felt a struggle with most of my life. As it turns out, there are new generations of boys and young men with this growing problem, and a heck of a lot more extreme than my case. Dr. Leonard Sax has presented a compelling case of how changes in education philosophy, irresponsible pediatricians, increasing lack of role models, abuse of video games and environme...more
Kelly
This was not my one of traditional fictional fluffy books. It wasn't at all funny, and at many moments, a down-right downer. That said, it changed the way that I am raising our son. Boys Adrift articulates the growing trend of unmotivated boys who have a "failure to launch" and who are (for lack of a better term) growing emasculated by a culture of gender neutrality. Dr. Sax strikes the right balance of explaining typical gender differences that are leading to this epidemic while holding a stron...more
Leslie North
Wow is all I can say. An eye opener for those raising boys! Even if I had no belief in the "faith" part of the LDS church (which I do wholeheartedly) I am so so so grateful for the programs that are so helpful to boys and men - that this book validates. Boys only stuff like YM and scouts. Men only stuff like the "male" priesthood and the focus on young men going on missions. These are one of the factors listed in this book of why there are so many "failures to launch."

I haven't been offended by...more
Randomweights
Sax attributes the growing epidemic of boys delaying or deferring the transition to adult hood, or (worse) shirking their responsibilities as a man to 5 factors - 1) Current education models/paradigms 2) Video games 3) Misdiagnosis and over prescription of ADD and prescription meds 4) Endocrine disruptors found in environmental toxins 5) Lack of good male role models and devaluation of masculinity. These factors might sound generalistic or simplified, but Sax uses a lot of research and anecdotal...more
Judithlewis
Oct 29, 2007 Judithlewis rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: Parents, teachers, any interested
Really intriguing book, with data to support author's ideas about underachieving boys. While I am not entirely convinced all the way on all his points, there certainly is a lot of common sense in his ideas as well as ideas to consider. He is, in general, a fan of single-sex education (see his previous book) and I am beginning to see more and more how his ideas in both books could apply (my son just entered middle school). Definitely worth a read.
Cathy
Jan 05, 2013 Cathy rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Cathy by: Cherie
I highly recommend this book!! Dr. Sax has some amazing insight which is backed up with plenty of research and personal observations as a research psychologist. Anyone who works with youth, in schools, has boys, or is scratching their head trying to figure out what is going on in America with our youth should read this book. Just so intriguing!

Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, they are less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ag...more
Mmtimes4
Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, they are less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ago. As for young men, it turns out the film Failure to Launch is not far from the truth. Fully one-third of men ages 22-34 are still living at home with their parents-about a 100 percent increase in the past twenty years. Boys nationwide are increasingly dropping out of school; fewer are going to college; and for the first time in American histo...more
Hao Guang
Leonard Sax may not please either the radical constructivists or the radical essentialists, but his assertion, one that underlies everything he says in this book, seems to hold true: that boys and girls are equal, but different. He lays out 5 factors that in his view contribute to the trend of the 'unmotivated male' (the slacker who fails at life or worse): feminization of education, video games, ADHD medication, compounds in plastics, and the lack of appropriate role models. I contend that this...more
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Leonard Sax is an American psychologist and family physician. He is the author of Why Gender Matters (Doubleday, 2005) and of Boys Adrift: the five factors driving the growing epidemic of unmotivated boys and underachieving young men (Basic Books, 2007). He is founder and executive director of the National Association for Single Sex Public Education (www.singlesexschools.org).

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“The destructive effects of video games are not on boys' cognitive abilities or their reaction times, but on there motivation and their connectedness with the real world.” 3 people liked it
“If we fail to provide boys with pro-social models of the transition to adulthood, they may construct their own. In some cases, gang initiation rituals, street racing, and random violence may be the result.” 2 people liked it
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