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Yesterday, I Cried: Celebrating the Lessons of Living and Loving

4.19  ·  Rating Details  ·  2,104 Ratings  ·  133 Reviews
What is the lesson in abuse, neglect, abandonment, rejection?
What is the lesson when you lose someone you really love?
Just what are the lessons of life's hard times?
Bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant has had an amazing and difficult life -- one of great challenges that unmasked her wonderful gifts and led to wisdom gained. In this simple book, she uses her own persona
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ebook, 304 pages
Published September 17th 1999 by Simon & Schuster (first published 1998)
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David Jay
I saw Iyanla speak at the Javits Center in 1999. It was truly a life changing experience, just incredible. I think I started this book the next day and adored it. Re-reading it now nine years later, I realize that Iyanla's lecture was amazing and I think the book, which is good but not amazing, got lumped into the whole experience for me.
This book taught me many things I needed to learn. The lessons are profound. But the book meanders and much of the writing is weak. The whole conceit of Iyanla
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Kendall
Jul 27, 2007 Kendall rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is very real. And Iyanla Vanzant is like the mama every girl needs to tell her what to and what not to do, because she has been there! Yesterday I cried while reading Yesterday I Cried. If you've ever made mistakes in your life, add this to your reading list!
Author-suchalady Blackheart
I loved the original and learned alot from it she told some of my story in this book but she also gave me the courage to write my own story and live my on life and be myself. I pillared off the back of Iyanla Vanzant

I will be re reading the orginal book when i get a hold of it
Baratang
Only GOD could have made Rhonda survive her grandmother's brutality and cruelty. I read details of her abose with difficulty and when I finally learned how old she was when her skin was ripped off her back, I sobbed.
Her step mother was wonderful and I couldn't help but wonder why men would abuse such good women, and why women gave into the emotional and sometimes physical abuse. The characters may have been born and bred in the US, but Africa was still in them. As an African, grandma's religious
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Lana
Feb 04, 2009 Lana rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of the most heart-felt, soul-cleansing, inspiring books I've ever read. I love anything Iyanla writes, but this book is so honest and vulnerable that there aren't enough words to describe the emotions it brought out in me.
Hadesah
Oct 03, 2007 Hadesah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Yes
Shelves: favs
You can undersand a person better once you know their whole story
Crystal
Sep 08, 2012 Crystal rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I like watching Iyanla's talks about life lessons so naturally, I thought I would enjoy her books as well. Not so for this particular one...

First of all, the chapters are all titled "What's the lesson when..." so I assumed this would be more of a self-help book similar to the "life lessons" talks she gives. I soon found that it was more a collection of her life stories that, in the end, didn't seem to answer the chapter-heading question of what the take-away lesson was supposed to be, (other tha
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Riya
This was an amazing book. AMAZING!

I picked it up on a whim while I was browsing around in my local town library.

I saw the name Vanzant on the cover and remembered seeing a lady with this name on one of the Oprah show episodes a year ago. I was curious about this lady so when I found out she was the author of this colorful book, I had to pick it up and read it.

It was good! It was raw and truthful and in your face. The messages in this book are LOUD and you have to be receptive to the lessons ta
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Jennifer
This is a book that has numerous poems in it. I am reviewing the poem, Yesterday, I Cried.

This poem tells about a woman who upon arriving home goes into her bedroom and sits down to have a good cry. It then lists all the reasons that a woman may do this. We cry for things that have happened, for things that have not happened, for people who bring us joy, for people who bring us heartache. It is important to understand that woman cry as a form of therapy. We do not cry because we are sad or hurt.
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Alexis
Apr 30, 2015 Alexis rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Painful and raw... I don't usually read books that stress pain. I saw this book at the bookstore and picked it up because I didn't know that Iyanla wrote books. I put the book down and tried to walk away. I actually picked the book up 3 times. The last time I thought I should support Iyanla by at least buying it. I actually planned on giving this selection to a friend. I couldn't give it away because I started to really want to read it.

Iyanla is very open and honest about things that have happe
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Heather
Jul 21, 2014 Heather rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am a huge fan of Iyanla Vanzant and so I knew a part of her story. In this book she remembers and grieves, feels, and forgives abuses and self abuse she went through before changing her life. I started reading this book with the audiotape version and her childhood stories were so painful I had to turn it off. Child abuse sickens me no matter how necessary it is to the story. I picked up this summer where I left off as she became an adult and really began to love this book. Its inspiring to see ...more
Michelle
Jan 17, 2010 Michelle rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is truly one of THE most important books Ive ever read...it opened me up, shook me out and put me back together again! Its my story, its your story, its her story....everyone can connect with this riveting account of Iyanla's processing of her life. She gets in the tub, cries and remembers...looking to uncover her patterns and to finally break them once and for all! Simply amazing and so very helpful. Please do yourself a favor and read this book. :-)
Senele
Apr 18, 2008 Senele rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: All Women
Recommended to Senele by: Myself!

Oh, I learnt so much! So much that it brought tears to my eyes, joy to my spirit, and faith that life can only get better, and that God indeed loves me. I saw so much of the struggles that I go through, its what is universal. The question is what do you choose to learn? How do you make the most with what has been served to you?
Life changing. I really believe I needed that book at the point I was in my life then. i still read it up today!
Tiffany Cooke
Jun 02, 2012 Tiffany Cooke rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People who like Iyanla Vanzant
Shelves: 2011
I love Iyanla Vanzant, but I did not like this book. It is basically an autobiography, and Iyanla has a very depressing life. Not only is it a depressing read, it is also boring. She is honest with her story, but she tells it in a clinical way. It is strange to read about some horrific events and feel no emotions from Iyanla. If you don't already love her, I don't think you will enjoy this book.
Danielle
Dec 11, 2010 Danielle rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book made me cry, i love Iyanla, fell in love with this book because it was raw and gritty. I couldn't put it down. I tried reading some of her other books after this, but always came back to this one. Because i think it was hugely biographical. this is a must read just for the sheer fact that Iyanla spits words at you which you cant help but react with.
Shalonda Williams
Nov 11, 2009 Shalonda Williams rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone that needs to understand that life has a process
Shelves: inspirations
Reading this book was such a blessed experience. I find that sharing in the process of someones journey is something special indeed. I had moments of reflection. I had moments of inspiration. I had moments of sadness. I had moments of enlightenment. I love this read and would encourage others to share in the experience of reading it.
Karen
Mar 03, 2011 Karen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I first heard the poem Yesterday, I Cried, on the Oprah show which lead me to the book. Iyanla's story captured my attention. I found myself identifying with so much of what she went through in the book. To this day it is still one of the first books that come to mind, when someone ask me what is my favorite book.
Jared Della Rocca
I’m sorry. I just can’t properly review this book. It’s nothing against this book in general, but rather this book at this time. I have now read two or three affirmation/positive thinking/self-help books in a row. And I’m just done. Learning how to look at your past failures and sorrows, accepting them, and moving past them is important, no doubt about it. But the relentless positivity of these books becomes off-putting. In the plus column for this book, at least she recognizes that tears and sa ...more
Darcy Ries
Dec 24, 2008 Darcy Ries rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Very courageous autobiography detailing one woman's struggle through some of life's cruelest assaults. But make no mistake, it's not a downer-- the hope, faith and forgiveness this woman wields is mind-blowing and heart-warming.
Andrea
Dec 12, 2008 Andrea rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Inspiring. This book is about one woman overcoming her experiences as a young person. I admire her capacity for strength and forgiveness. We all could take a lesson from her experience
Alexis
Apr 30, 2015 Alexis rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Painful and raw... I don't usually read books that stress pain. I saw this book at the bookstore and picked it up because I didn't know that Iyanla wrote books. I put the book down and tried to walk away. I actually picked the book up 3 times. The last time I thought I should support Iyanla by at least buying it. I actually planned on giving this selection to a friend. I couldn't give it away because I started to really want to read it.

Iyanla is very open and honest about things that have happe
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Kellie
Jan 17, 2009 Kellie rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
autobiographical, done for authors own personal closure – about empowerment, motivational – a little strange, filled with double standards and admittedly so by author
Diana
Nov 20, 2008 Diana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: An Adventurous Reader
WOW!!! This is a heavy book. I haven't read it in a long time, but I liked it when I was in high school. I don't know if I would like it now.
Shockmesane212
Jul 19, 2009 Shockmesane212 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Autobiographical story about the authors horrible childhood. I loved reading it to the end, she always pulled through, and I admire her strength.
Tishawn Marie
I really enjoyed reading Iyanla's book because I could relate to her and some of her story. I liked how she told it from two different persons wrapped up into one. I definitely can relate between my old self and new self which inspired me to start writing more. Sometimes you may feel like your all alone or something is wrong with you. Why can others breakthrough, but you can't? I was truely blessed by, "Yesterday I Cried."Her lessons were right on point with the chapter titles. I'm a mother with ...more
Kim
"How it all began!" One never truly understands where and why a person is where they are, until one learns and asseses one's background. A very traumatic life, but a brave soul to write it all so frankly!! I don't think I'd have the guts to do the same, despite my own almost-similarly mirrored traumas in this book! Yet, the lesson here is not to be(come) attached to familiar, yet non-productive patterns, but to break free from them and yes, embrace the unknown! When you honestly think about it, ...more
Susan
Dec 16, 2013 Susan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone going through a breakup
Recommended to Susan by: Oprah
Shelves: self-help
This book put a lot of things into prespective when my prespective was skewed by heart-break.
Mikela
Aug 11, 2015 Mikela rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Reading this book was an experience. While reading about the many revelation that Rhonda went through in order to become Iyanla, I had my own relations. My reasoning for reading this book was to really help myself get started on my own healing process and be reborn. I recommend this book to any and everybody, especially to people who feel as though they aren't living to their full potential and they feel like they are stuck. Thanks to Iyanla, this book gave me faith and hope for my future and gr ...more
Suzanne
Dec 11, 2013 Suzanne rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Loved this book - lots of quotes that I marked.

p. 19 "Each tear, regardless of its origin, or its effects, contains a seed of healing."
"Angry tears spill forth from the outside corner of the eye, making them easier to wipe away as they come at unexpected moments and inappropriate times. They create heat and stiffness in the body, because when we are angry, we usually don't know how to express what we fee. We definitely don't want anyone to know when we are angry, because anger is not acceptable
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Leeann
Jun 24, 2015 Leeann rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Iyanla is a wonderful spiritual leader, teacher, and motivator. Learning about her life has helped me to learn about my own and to appreciate how well my youth was.

After reading her book, I decided to try one of the challenges given. "Look at yourself in the mirror and say 'I love you'". Who knew that one little idea would be so hard to complete?

My spirit has grown and begun to heal after reading her book. I look forward to reading the rest of them.
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“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them” 534 likes
“Yesterday, I cried.

I came home, went straight to my room,

sat on the edge of my bed,

kicked off my shoes, unhooked my bra,

and I had myself a good cry.”
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